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This is what I feel the need to say to all the men and women who complain about other people on this site.
Say you went to a bar and met someone, had a few drinks, and thought it was fun. You decide to go on another date, maybe even a few more, but at some point you realize they aren't what you want or vise versa. Would you write an angry letter to them? Would you scream out into the world about how they weren't how they seemed, they misrepresented themselves, they're fake? Or would you most likely tell a friend something along those lines and start again?
We live in a world full of single people looking for the kind of love they see on tv every day. Even with the sheer number of single people its a daunting task to find a good person who your actually compatible with on a long term basis. Now narrow that field of potential options down by at least 90% to include your taste for kink.
Its not impossible, but your judging someone by looks and a quick first impression. Add in that they are given time to consider and reword responses to what they want to say instead of an instinctive answer. Most people write much better than they react to in person. In writing you can allow your poetic nature, and bits of your fantasy life, to truly express itself. Parts of your personality that just aren't allowed to surface in real time conversations can be explored from the safety of your home and security of a computer screen.
Also many people disappear from places like this for long periods of time, or are just uncomfortable with ending things. Good conversation is not a binding contract. It is just like any other relationship, and can be ended any time, even if not in a mature manner.
I'm not defending those that lead others on for fun, or in hopes of gifts or money. I'm just asking those that go on and on about how people aren't real because things didn't work out for them to stop being so angry with everyone. From others points of view it could make sense, and you don't always know the full story. |
