“Soft Sadism”
[written by Seductive Quill]
As a gentleman, I believe it is improper to harm a woman. So personally, I am not interested in corporal sadism that causes physical pain. Plus, part of my desire of a woman stems from my admiration from her natural, beautiful body, so it would be a contradiction to give her any marks, bruises, or scars to blemish the natural canvas. (Spanking can be used as punishment, albeit rarely.)
I do however delight in the practice of what I call “Soft Sadism”. At times I will initiate a treatment or activity for my submissive that may be unpleasant to endure but does not create much physical pain nor any permanent marks. Acts such as: denying pleasures, orgasm control, humiliation, and the like. She might not enjoy it as it happens, but she won’t deny she loved it in hindsight.
[FYI: the term “Pet” refers to my human submissive, not any animal. Second, I currently have no “Pet” of my own to subject to these treatments; they are describing “if/when” situations, not current practices.]
Orgasm Control:
Sometimes, the best form of punishment is not direct action, but denial of pleasure. To ensure my Pets obedience, I occasionally use the aid of chastity belts. No matter how defiant a Pet may be, she’ll quiet down and comply more readily after going a few weeks without any sex or masturbation. I’ve known many a girl to have withdrawals after a couple days without orgasm, so I know more than a week to be quite effective, (not to mention how powerful she’ll climax once she’s rewarded!).
However, orgasm denial is not all about punishment. On the flip side, I also find much pleasure on pleasuring my Pet nearly to the point of orgasm, but not taking her over. This could be done in many ways: perhaps the easiest being to keep her spread out on a bed then thoroughly and continuously as she wiggles and squirms underneath my touch. I occasionally like to test her stamina by timing the sessions and increasing the time between orgasms. (Is 5 minutes long?)
Another method is the use of remote vibrators: clitoral, vaginal, or anal. I like the cordless eggs the best, perhaps because they are discreet, waterproof, and can be “worn” without panties. (For those unfamiliar, I’m referring to a vibrating bullet, physically the size of a chicken egg, which can be inserted in a woman’s vagina, and operated by remote as much as 50 feet away.) I may have her wear the toy and give her a “buzz” randomly during a date, or during certain triggers – like every time we kiss, or anytime “Master” is said during the movie “Star Wars”. Or, if were shopping and she ventured too far from my side, I’d give her a buzz to call her back. Plus it’s fun just to leave it on, and keep it buzzing for hours at a time while we continue our date. Each of the three varieties – clitoral, vaginal, anal – have their benefits and drawbacks in any situation, but it’s fun give her all three, and just play around with her “buttons”.
Humiliation:
If I were to humiliate my Pet, I would not demean or abuse her, nor would I do anything to put her or myself in trouble. Any act of humiliation would be for our mutual benefit and only slightly embarrassing.
One such manner would be to exhibit my lovely for my visual admiration. For example, I might have my Pet strip naked and continue with a “normal” dinner and movie – all within the privacy of my house. Being nude in your lover’s presence may not necessarily be embarrassing, but being forced into such casual nudity, while your lover is clothed, may reinforce your awareness of your naked form. I would not expect her to sit provocatively or explicitly expose herself to me, but maintain a proper and casual atmosphere, yet not allowing her to hide herself. An act of humility and pride: this would allow me to visually admire her like a work of art while she shows of her body. I know how to look at a woman and not stare at her parts – maintaining a conversation between souls, not bodies. Depending on the intimacy of the relationship, I might deny my Pet covering (i.e. clothing) for much of her day, but still would have dates set aside just to admire her beauty in her natural state.
Then, there might be times when a guest would come over when my Pet happened to be nude. Depending on who the guest may be, I would keep my Pet naked, and allow the guest to also admire her form. If this were to happen, the guest would be someone we both knew and trusted; someone I’d knew who could respect my Pet despite any clothing she may or may not have. This would allow me to show of my Pet as the prize she is and for her to bask in the glory. Whether my girl behaved as my servant or as my house-pet, she would not be physically or emotionally abused by myself or the guest. I’d likely just sit her on my lap, or at my feet, and caress her while the business with the guest is concluded. Occasionally, I might allow the guest to pet my girl as well, to show off my prize pet.
(However, there may be times where the guest came to be a playmate for my Pet, at which, I’d allow more interaction between the two. Perhaps, if it were just an introductory meeting, I’d insist on the playmate stripping as well, and continue a casual meeting, despite both girls being naked.)
Rarely, I might be inspired to exhibit my Pet to the public. My favorite way to end a date is to have my Pet undress in the car, and then proceed to go for a romantic walk through a park. In all likeness, she’d wear a long coat over her naked body, but keep it open as we walk. (The cool, fresh air would be very good for her soft skin.) Yet, I might also be the gentleman and hold her coat for her, so that she saunters by my side in all her naked glory. To avoid legal problems, the romantic stroll would occur after dark in a quiet park without and audience, but if we crossed paths with another romantic couple, no harm done. One similar fantasy of mine is to have my Pet covered with body-paint but nothing else, so that strangers would not notice her nudity at first.
The exhibition may also continue with a stop into the neighborhood porn shop or gas station. My Pet would wear her coat, but occasionally allow the front to open to reveal her nudity. It would be fun to watch my Pet buy a paper which she hold strategically over her breasts.
Depending on the temperament of my Pet, I also enjoy teasing her about sexual acts while in public. She may have a head full of naughty fantasies in her head, but it may embarrass her to no end if she were to admit them and blemish her “good girl” image. So having my “innocent”, little Pet walk up to the counter in a porn shop and ask the cashier about a sex toy would be utter torture. Especially if my Pet was bi-curious, I’d have her flirt or discuss scandalously sexy things with strange women. She may even turn red if I talked to the girl at the porn shop and emphasized a toy was for my Pet’s delight. Plus there’s the fact that the earlier described activities of using chastity belts or remote vibes are embarrassing in public. No girl wants to show her sexual arousal or sexual frustration to strangers, especially if her master is standing there beside her with his finger on the button to her climax.
Other titillating Tortures:
I think one of the finest forms of torture for anyone of any age is tickling. How better to attack my beloved Pet than to titillate her every nerve with light, rapid finger strokes on her every inch of skin. Oddly, I found that areas of heightened tickle-sensitivity are also areas of erotic sensitivity. So attacking her flesh and randomly switch from erotic stimulation to tickling sensation puts her in a tizzy like no other. Not to mention, how wet it makes her, but far more energized. I love pleasing my Pet – by sexual means, romantic means, or by humorous means – what ever it takes to make her smile. Holding her down with my hands, while my long hair cascades over her sensitive skin may be the quiet teasing used to segue into a romantic mood, while a viscous attack would lead to a frenzied quickie.
Another method to tantalize her senses is to remove one or two. As it’s well known, removing one sense heightens the sensitivity of others, or atleast the awareness. Sometimes I like to undress my Pet and leave her blindfolded in a room. I may leave her alone for a few minutes or a couple hours, if she’s good she’ll be patient… yet, quite eager for my return. I may tease her with passionate kisses, or soft nibbles, or a touch of ice, or tickling feather, or sensuous lick. She won’t know what will happen, what body part will be affected, or when it will occur. I may maintain a pattern, keep a theme, or be completely random. If her moans or whimpers become too loud, I may have to giver her a toy to suck on.
I love to see her squirm under my touch; I love to see how wet she gets. I may cover her ears to add to the sensory deprivation, but not often. In stead I like to utilize my gift for stories and dictate my intentions. More than once I led a girl to orgasm before I licked my lips.
[I am by no means a normal dominant, nor am I solely unique. I am what I am: this essay just articulates a part of me. I know “soft sadism” isn’t enough for some submissives, and for others, perhaps too much. I am confident I will find a “Pet” suited for me, to which I will be well suited for her. I am a lover, a writer, and a Master – this essay is to show how devious I can be.]
-SQ-