"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."
          — Anais Nin

About me: Outwardly, I appear pretty straight laced.  In larger groups, I am wont to be reticent.  One-on-one or small groups, I’m genuinely affable--I truly enjoy learning others’ perspectives, beliefs, and experiences, especially when they differ from my own.  I’m curious, extremely so, like a cat with 1 life left.

 I have a thing for smart girls.

I am sensual, a veritable lover of kink, but I don’t fly my freaky flag in public, but I am more open about it then in the past.  Kink is part of my sexuality.  It satiates something deep inside.  I am kind (at least I think I am).  I enjoy philosophy (I think I have a piece of paper somewhere that says that).  I have a spiritual side (whatever that means). for too long I lived solely in these other parts of me, eschewing this other part in my nature. I doubt I’m alone in that.  I think there is a place where eroticism, sexuality, and spirituality coalesce, and it is in the confluence of these parts that seek harmony. 

I am a feminist.  I see the D/s relationship and feminism as completely complementary. Paradoxically, it seems that a D/s relationship can be more feministic than those traditional patriarchal structures might herald as ‘ideal.’ It’s not submission unless willingly and freely given. 

I enjoy being playful, telling and hearing a dirty joke.  I love watching my date squirm in public as she endeavors to maintain poise.  

 Often I start gently, softly and get rough.  Sometimes it starts rough and stays that way.  With the right person, I enjoy grabbing her unexpectedly, forcing her face down over a piece of furniture, or pinning her against a wall.  Let’s not forget cars—those can be fun too!

 I enjoy a playful smack on the bum.  Sometimes that’s not enough, and a right proper paddling is order—or even a wee bit of a flogging.

Turn-ons? I love seeing a woman embrace her own desires, becoming unhinged from the mores that would otherwise constrain her to move in the proscribed manner she is expected.  I like confidence in a women. A certain amount of frivolity too.  What gets me most, is a top-notch brain filled with the most imaginatively dissolute and twisted thoughts.

Hobbies: photography (I posted some of my pics here), hiking, backpacking, and exploration, film. 

I'm looking to get to know some fun pervy folks, make some friends, possibly exchange some fun messages, explore, maybe take a few erotic photographs, have a good time, and perhaps something more than that.