5/3/2015 1:18:34 PM: Another post from http://sadisticgames.tumblr.comQuestion: Do you and your girl ever take on average husband wife roles? Like watching movies on the couch, or gardening, or going out for dinner, or is there always an undertone of Dom/sub in everything you two do together?    Answer: Yes, the D/s stuff is perhaps 5% of Our relationship.  This blog just happens to shine a spotlight on it.       

5/3/2015 1:12:30 PM: I absolutely love http://sadisticgames.tumblr.com blog: Question:anonymous asked: In need of answers!! So I'm dating someone who isn't a natural Dom and have been trying to teach him how to be through examples of showing him a my toys, crops, restraints, and explained how they were used. told him my limits, gave him resources for info, and even showed him some of my favorite porn, and he is slowly improving in the bedroom but it doesn't feel natural. What should I do? His answer:“natural Dom” This is getting nearly as bad as the real/fake Dom/sub.  I don’t think ya’all realize how many people this scares away.  “Oh well, I’m not a natural, so why bother?” What you are looking for in your partner is confidence, and confidence comes with time, practice, and trust.  What you want is for him to know your queues, not hesitate, and take control.  That doesn’t just happen and there isn’t any way to rush it.  Trying to do so out of frustration is a good way to make someone throw up their hands and just say “fuck it”.  Everyone has to learn, experience, and become comfortable with those experiences at their own rate.  So keep supplying resources, keep a blog of your fantasies he can follow, keep encouraging him to experiment and learn.  you’re doing great there, but be patient.  There is no such thing as a natural Dom. There are simply more experienced Doms. 

5/3/2015 1:09:30 PM: I follow http://acutelesbian.tumblr.com on TumblrThis young lady has expressed exactly my same fear: acutelesbian: A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover’s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life. Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.

4/26/2015 8:03:28 PM: Another great blog post by http://sadisticgames.tumblr.com/page/2ANAL PLAYQuestion: I have a question about anal play. More specifically prep, how does one go about cleaning the anus? Beyond wiping your ass, obviously.Answer: Well, if you want it clean inside and out, then the best way that I know of is with an enema. If you want to be 99% sure there won’t be any embarrassment, that’s the way to go.  Some people enjoy them, some get off using them as punishment, and some just use them for cleaning, but they are easy enough to get and use.  Hell, there are even some shower attachments made for it now.  http://www.stockroom.com/Universal-Water-Works-System-P3676.aspx

4/26/2015 7:59:34 PM: NEW RULE. If you send me an email that says 'Hi' or is brief or asks a questions without a proper introduction, I simply won’t answer it. I’ll delete it and move on. No more contacting me later and complaining because I will simply make the assumption you are another fake and then I will block you.  The only info I get to work with is the info you give me. I am not wasting anymore of my time trying to communicate with people who obviously aren't serious about finding a partner.