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A man of many hats. Is it possible to be both back on the horse and the wagon? Always seeking interesting people for conversation and occasionally a bit more. Position of Muse is presently available for those who might be so inclined and reclined. Do drop a line if you're sufficiently amused by the rantings and ravings. Multi-national man of vagueness. pathlesstaken4.tumblr.com

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3/9/2018 10:28:55 PM
Never underestimate arrogance.

1/9/2018 10:34:31 PM
I'm always wondering where people who just list "Australia" are actually located. Some town so small that it would be identifying? Not wanting to get hassled by locals on the prowl. Or maybe not in Australia at all.

11/7/2017 4:45:29 AM
"refusal may offend" and "can't be bothered" are two phrases which both bother and offend me.

10/7/2017 8:03:41 AM
I decided quickly that committing crimes against grammar was a hard limit for me.
—  Sophie Morgan, Diary of a Submissive

I can respect that sentiment.

5/5/2017 5:17:33 PM
"No one has ever had a fantasy about being tied to a bed and sexually ravished by someone dressed as a liberal"- P. J. O'Rourke, US satirist. Note that in that country liberal is someone who is left wing, rather than in Australia where the Liberal Party is considered right-wing.

4/4/2017 4:01:28 AM
A friend of mine mentioned having worked very hard for some years to "break into" the BDSM scene in a particularly notorious city for that sort of thing. This got me to thinking today, if its a scene that needs to be broken into, rather than a community you find yourself drawn into, perhaps its not the place to be to being with.

3/29/2017 4:54:54 PM
Everyone in Queensland stay safe. The weather is not good.

2/18/2017 3:09:46 PM
When is it radical honesty and when is it being an ungracious asshole inflicting yourself upon others?

1/31/2017 10:56:08 PM
Bad idea of the day: Disney buys the "50 Shades of Grey" franchise. And adds a theme park attraction.

1/28/2017 9:43:01 PM
The USA is working hard on becoming the Republic of Gilead.

7/5/2016 3:07:27 PM
The Brexit is bad. Really bad.

6/14/2016 10:58:48 PM
If you're a guy concerned with "being alpha" you're missing the point.

6/12/2016 7:58:06 AM
Index of how messed up the US healthcare system is: what fraction of the young adult female population would volunteer for a year of contractually regulated domestic/sexual servitude in exchange for full coverage healthcare during that time, I'm guessing this number is higher than anyone would want to admit.

5/12/2016 10:16:59 PM
Ramping up for an extended northern hemisphere tour. Curious how things have changed in the 6 months since I was last out there internationally.

5/4/2016 11:42:36 PM
The thing which ultimately limits any organisation is its ability to recruit, nurture, and deploy talent.

4/17/2016 12:48:27 AM
Good sex is the original collaborative effort.

1/12/2016 12:44:07 PM
Dominance: If you can't control yourself, why should anyone surrender control to you?

12/25/2015 4:44:11 PM
I have a theory. That there exists at all times and all situations "The Right Line." Its the thing you could say that does what you need. Its an elusive, metaphysical creature. Its not just the words, its the tone, the posture, the delivery, the audience. Its the sole focus of the universe at a pivot point. At best, a person might be able to do this once, maybe twice in a lifetime. When they score the undoable deal, when they make a hail Mary long pass at a woman so far out of their league she might as well be in a different galaxy, when its in the clutch, and they manage to pull it together tight and smooth.

12/4/2015 4:53:01 AM
I'm traveling internationally for the first time since Paris. Its not pretty out here. I'm not sure what it is, but its not good. People on edge, bad customer service, poor hotel rooms. All my flights are completely full. Zero traction on the business front. Impressively bad really. Worse than 2007. Its like if we pretend hard enough stuff isn't happening.

11/11/2015 2:02:57 AM
Alright, stop what you're doing and sit down. I have discovered the secret to instant millions. Fruit and muffin baskets. Its amazingly simple. And so easy that anyone could do it. Go to the store. Buy $10 in fruit and muffins. Stick them in a wicker basket, label the thing your "Executive Restoration" special and pay a courier $30 to deliver it. Feeling cheap? Deliver it yourself. Bam! $150 a pop. Just kick back and let the dollars role on in.

10/28/2015 7:56:59 PM
Respect is earned.
Courtesy is given.
And Words can be slippery things when concepts are confused.

9/16/2015 12:31:54 AM
"A knight in shining armour hasn't been through shit. It would show."- totally stealing this line.

9/2/2015 2:47:25 PM
Professionally I'm feeling very replaceable at the moment and it prompts me to wonder...

Is the commodification of women just a more visible sign of the overall commodification of people? Is there now always a superficially "better" option out there for those with resources, as the barriers to search and transition of state continue to be lowered. A better spouse, a better lawyer, a better accountant, a better broker, a better consultant, etc. How much is "no" inhibited in all of these with that threat in the balance. Or is this just a manifestation of the exponentially growing power gradients in some of our lives.



8/29/2015 9:07:35 PM
I'm rather curious as to the mentality behind the following. Have a pleasant discourse via email and chat with someone, and then the next day find yourself blocked. Now a conversation that went poorly, this I can understand. But from one which was going rather well is a bit confusing. C'est la vie.

8/29/2015 2:42:24 PM
I've been following the Ashley Madison thing with a fair amount of amusement. Estimates that there were somewhere between 1,000 to 5,000 actual women on a site with 38 million users is funny. With those odds you'd be better off knocking on random doors in the suburbs asking if whomever answered was interested in a fling. On the other hand, signing up with your bosses email address? Pure brilliance!

8/14/2015 4:02:39 PM
A few more thoughts from the road. Business travel is not leisure travel. There is money involved here. If there is a sales meeting at 10am, its not ok to schedule 6am flights that day and hope that things work out ok. Sitting in a cubical in Corporate Travel half a world away the timeline looks perfectly fine, and so much more efficient. In practice this is false economy when two members of the team are stuck in traffic from the airport, one isn't even in the state, and the two which are on site are haggard from being out late with clients in the previous city. Yeah, CT just saved a bunch on hotels and airfare. Loosing the bid? Again? Somebody else is at fault, because we're just doing our job here. There needs to be a framed picture of the late King Pyrrhus of Epirus on every accountant's desk.


7/31/2015 2:03:41 AM
It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good hotel room must be in want of a compatible companion for the evening. It is a truth less conveniently acknowledged that the higher the quality of the hotel room the less time he will have to enjoy it and any other temporary occupants.

6/3/2015 4:39:21 AM
Dear Dude at the next Table over in this high end Asian Fusion Restaurant,


I was out with my colleagues and a client last night. You were sitting next to us being a shoulder to cry on for a very attractive female friend from college/high school. Let me break the depressing news for you: you have absolutely zero chance with her. She's pretty. She comes from a well off family. She's needy. She's shallow and "works" in publishing. She talks loudly and was 90% of the conversation. She's in her late twenties and is seriously displeased that her less attractive/smart/engaging/talented friends have landed fantastic husbands and she's relatively recently single as her most recent prospect failed to continue thrilling her and playing out the romance fantasy she's been refining since age six. You are not in this fantasy.

The adjectives she uses to describe those trophies her friends snagged are entirely different than those she uses to describe what she likes about you. You're not just in the friend zone, you're part of the background geography of her life. When you could get a word in edge wise your personal sales pitch was weak and unfocused. After you left we considered putting together a pool to buy you a gym membership and a suit. She had a suit fetish a mile long and you're ignoring it. First thing she noticed about the most recent guy she broke up with. Her friends men. And you were missing it. She's practically screaming it at the top of her lungs and you're not hearing. It was like sitting next to a train wreck that could have been avoided by nudging a pin a bit further in.

Ask out the short tech support writer you met last week or that friendly HR rep and get on with your life. This girl will be even more steamed when she gets the wedding invitation from you in 9 months.

PLT

5/1/2015 3:18:50 PM
Always impressed how a quickly a conversation can head downhill when a controversial topic is brushed upon. If you're offended enough to [Block] me and not bother to say why there really isn't much more than can be done.

3/2/2015 8:07:41 PM
White & Gold dress vs. Blue & Black dress. Either way its a moot point once its been removed.

2/5/2015 5:54:35 AM
By the time you see his red underwear at eye level its too late to consider any other alternatives.

1/31/2015 5:48:44 PM
Being a Dom is about Taking....
....Taking Responsibility.

12/9/2014 4:14:05 AM
A good Dom will melt your safe word. The right Dom can make it evaporate.

10/11/2014 6:31:53 PM
A suit is a potent symbol of power. Black tie takes that and adds nitro.

9/26/2014 6:09:01 AM
Bows on a woman implies that there will be unwrapping later.

9/21/2014 5:05:11 AM
Why did no one tell me about Terry Pratchett? Pure brilliance.

9/13/2014 1:51:15 PM
Good formal wear prompts its removal on mutually favourable terms.

8/25/2014 2:36:16 PM
Compound interest is the most powerful force in the universe.

8/18/2014 8:48:47 PM
Odd thought for the day: Dutch auction style slave auction.

Clarification: A Dutch auction works in reverse of a normal auction. Instead of the price being bid up, the auctioneer starts at a high price and descends until there is a bidder willing to pay that price. Sometimes called a clock auction if they're using a mechanical clock to count down the price. The method is generally very fast and changes the tension of the bidding.

5/24/2014 4:31:39 AM
A little something for your favourite submissive with an underused English degree. The letter game is an introductory control game. I use a classic hetro-normative template for my deion, though you may obviously adapt as befits your situation and sexual flavour preferences. Like many good things its based in part an old Simpson's TV episode, though bonus points for anyone who can identify other groups who might want to cultivate such a skill. The game suitable for public play. It could probably be played in a parlour with your parents present. Who knew? The sub relinquishes the use of words containing a specific letter for a duration. Now for easy play this might be a "Q" or a "X" or maybe a "Z." The more ambitious will have it be a vowel and the truly serious can only be satisfied with excluding "E." The particular duration is up to the Dom. It could be anywhere from 5 minutes, remainder of the conversation, the rest of the day, or until formally released from her obligation. Now the hard part is both the sub not saying words with the letter in it and the Dom being aware of any infractions. Now some may find it tedious, and some my find it mindblowingly difficult. Its not a game for everyone. It focuses the mind on exactly what is being said. How hard do you listen to someone? Really listen to exactly what they're saying. The Dom is exerting his control over the sub. She can feel the restriction. It binds her words. She still is who she is, but there is something else there. His presence colours her expression. Likewise the sub should be able to feel his vigilance. His attention to her. His focus on her. On her words. Did she slip? Think think think. Homophones can add an even more intensive twist. And for all the world it can look just like two people chatting away.

2/14/2014 10:05:16 PM

As we're coming off of St. Valentines day, allow me to provide a tutorial for future reference of what not to do on this day. Do not go out on a blind date. First date with someone you know, or at least want to know better? Hey swing for the fences. If it works out your granddaughters will gush as they tell their friends the story on the holographic trans-dimensional mytwitterfaceblr platform. Second date? Thats a pretty solid move there. I repeat, do Not go out on a blind date. Your date may be vulnerable to becoming fixated on her ideas of what is supposed to happen instead of allowing things to take their natural course. Sometimes in nature things aren't meant to be and they die a brutal but mericfully quick death.

 

If the date's not going well, perhaps you got off on the wrong foot. Listening to a diatribe about the tastelessness of spirits and how cultured people appreciate wine gets a bit awkward when the bartender delivers your precisely mixed drink. Be up-front and honest about the fact that a long slew of paired "I'd never" to the other parties "Of course I always"'s does not bode well. Finding out you've donated to opposite political party candidates doesn't help either. At this point one might bid good evening and halt at the entrée. Persevering may sound gallant, but its a fine line between brave and stupid in the cold light of day.

 

Tomorrow is always another day. And another day not being with the wrong person, that is a good day too.

 


1/30/2014 11:25:17 AM

When properly done, a Dom can create a bubble of control in which a sub is able to realise a different sort of freedom.


1/8/2014 4:56:02 AM

The Red Ribbon is an approach I've developed for engaging with submissives. It can be used in the context of everything from a fleeting NSA encounter to an ongoing high fidelity relationship. While not as obvious as a collar, its innocuousness also allows it to be used in otherwise vanilla settings. The essences is that her touching the ribbon signals a combination of consent and submission. In the context of a scene it allows a broader range of expression then safe words for stop and caution. In the context of a first meeting it allows her to ease in to the opportunity.

 

The ribbon itself can be a rather inexpensive item. Generally a dollar or two from a craft or fabric store for 30 cm of 13 mm wide. It needs to be long enough to pass unobtrusively as a bookmark, braided into her hair, or tied around the wrist. I generally use it as a bookmark. Books make for great casual conversation starters in a first meeting. Freakonomics and Guns, Germs, and Steel being two favourites of mine. The red ribbon also allows for a wide range of plausible deniability as well as graceful disengagement if the situation isn’t to her liking.

 

With encouragement I'll write more on the matter.


12/23/2013 9:52:18 PM

A very merry Christmas to all, and to all a good night.


11/24/2013 3:14:16 AM

Nicest compliment I've recieved this week "You introduced me to my favourite vice."


11/15/2013 1:44:15 PM

I've seen profiles expressing interest in BBC or big black cock. I have to wonder what site all the medium sized multiracial cock fans are at.


10/20/2013 6:16:50 AM

Not an original of mine, but I'll retell it anyway.

 

Go to your kitchen and take out a dinner plate. Smash it into the floor. Watch it shatter into pieces. Some big sharp scary chunks, other bits of powder sprinkled everywhere. Now say you're sorry. Anything happening? Didn't think so.  Plate still broken? Yup. Floor still a mess? Yup.

 

Apologise deeply and profusely. Express your regret. Promise it won't ever happen again. Plate still broken? Yup. Go to the drawer, get some super-glue. Pick up all the big pieces. Work really hard at glueing them back together. Is your plate now a plate? Maybe. Does it have holes and gaps and jagged edges? Definitely. Is it stronger for having been broken? Definitely not. Is it permanently scarred. Yup.

 

The moral of this story is simple. If you read something on the internet about destroying your dinnerware as some larger analogy for life, don't do it. Well, unless you're one of those shops that specialise in selling replacement plates, then go nuts, you guys are making a fortune.

 

That is all.


10/10/2013 12:06:31 AM

Apparently mildly risqué banter on this now qualifies as a psychiatric disorder. Who knew? On the plus side it appears that the anti-spam annoyances on the journal entry editor is gone.


8/17/2013 4:23:32 PM

doppelgänger- a ghostly counterpart of a living person (Merriam-Webster)

 

Its a good Scando-germanic word. Like the name of a premium ice cream or a heavy metal band from a dank frozen post-industrial wasteland. Its a bit more unsettling when one passes you on the sidewalk in broad daylight. Inertia alone propelled me past her, a blank look completely void of recognition in her face. Another lumbering tree trunk of an Australian shading her red hair and fair features from the sun for a second as she breezed by on this warm sub-tropical winter's day. I've been under a lot of stress lately and the whole incident could have merely been a quirk of some overloaded neurones.

 

Long ago in a galaxy far far away.... She was the shirt-tail friend of a passing acquaintance. Floating out past the periphery of my social circle at the time in the zone of two and a half degrees of separation. Our worlds collided abruptly. We were both young. She was younger. I was an inexperienced Dom and we didn't know what we doing, other than that we were playing with fire and it was fun. The relationship made up for its brevity with intensity. Misunderstandings, unfortunate coincidences, and unstated assumptions from confused contexts all ended up with a terse torpedoing of our time together. 

 

Reports of her trickle in from time to time. Last I knew she was where she always was, safely ensconced half a world away. No connections and no reason to be down under.


8/9/2013 12:36:25 AM

Writing presents us with a paradox. Do we report the physical sequence of events, such as  "Julie moved her arm down" or do we emote and attempt to evoke an emotional response. The former has us ticking away like a cuckoo clock or a player piano. The latter sets us adrift on oceans of raw want, crashed over with cascades of confusion or brilliantly unfocused passion. At worst we may find ourselves staring at Proust's Madeleines, watching them disintegrate as they never have nor never will while memories are evoked without conscious cause.

 

All thats left to do is hobble along and let our minor and major muses light the way.


7/19/2013 8:39:05 PM

Thoughts on an undisclosed emerging economy: Wearing a couple years income in haute couture can't cover up the fact the women in your family has gone from undernourished to anorexic in less than a generation.


7/14/2013 4:41:45 AM

I was recently overseas and happened to be passing a down escalator at a train station. A young woman wearing a short skirt was descending and I noticed her knees had been tattooed. I thought it a rather curious location for such a marking, given her otherwise relatively understated attire. There were two words inscribed, one on each knee. "Never" and "Again."

 

I don't know what this woman's past contained. At a certain level I don't really care. That being said I was impressed with her fortitude.

 


7/14/2013 4:03:06 AM

Before one can think of themselves as a Dominant, one must be able to recognise and submit to that which is greater than oneself.

 

Before one can think of themselves as a submissive, one must be able to achieve some measure of Domination over themselves.

 

An appreciation for this distinction does not diminish the fundmental dichotomy, but allows one to more fully realise their role.

 

As for switches, well it could go either way for them.


5/29/2013 11:52:09 PM

When engaging in intellectual discourse across these modern day internets allow me to make the following suggestion. It might be best to consider acquiring some thickness of skin and not instantly blocking those whose ideas are not congruent with your own. Send messages asking questions and then blocking a person could be considered in particularly bad taste.

 

Sarcasm, whit, and irony are often poorly communicated in text. 

 

That is all.


5/20/2013 2:31:06 AM

What was your first submission like? Was it a warm slide into a comforting embrace? A sudden catch in the back of your throat, as if a bit of you had slipped out and been caught away with the wind. Was it a deliberate intellectual activity? A realisation half way through that you're someplace unexpected and different and unconventional (at least in the early 21st century western tradition) and that the tradeoffs are rather in your favour. Did you feel your tension and anxiety and nervousness and hesitation melt out into a puddle of surrender at his feet?


4/15/2013 3:46:43 AM

Definition of a bad economy: When sex chat rooms and message boards are filled with discussions about long-term unemployment.


3/30/2013 8:20:04 PM

This whole verification string thing is very annoying.


3/15/2013 5:10:02 PM

Having nothing to say is something more expressive than venting ones spleen. On the other hand, a gentleman knows when to shush his lady with a finger across her lips, and when something thicker is more suitable.


2/24/2013 3:11:56 AM

Some of my more entertaining posts have been struck by the [Report Entry] monster. Apparently well reasoned criticism is unacceptable. At the very least a bit of notification would have been courteous.


2/14/2013 1:56:04 AM

Epic valentines day fail.


11/7/2012 10:29:23 PM

I feel the need to address a topic which is close at hand. It threatens to corrupt our very society. Its prevalence is insidious, touching all strata of society. A simple and effective disciplinary tool has become a gateway drug to greater perversions. Like chewing gum and candy cigarettes I speak of Spanking. This firm behavioural rebuke, once ubiquitous to childhood looses its veneer of innocence as Birthday spankings breech firmly into the double digits. Repeated viewing of Monty Python's Holy Grail let slip the darker shadows which follow the cry of a "A spanking! A spanking!" The flirtatious taunt of "What are you going to do, spank me?" may lead to a member of ones preferred gender over bended knee re-assesing their priorities and preferences as the impact from a blow kindles something unexpected.

 

A firm hand to the back of the neck. Sharp sudden blows. The impulse may come from behind but it can reverberate throughout, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally. I prefer delivery a tempo to keep her guessing. Others may rely on the sturdy assurance of regularly paced strokes. Fully clothed, skirt up, panties twisted about the knees. Stylistic differences to suit the situation, both present and intended. Such are the joys of an excellent opening gambit.


9/26/2012 2:10:39 PM

A few thoughts on sodomy and the submissive. The selection of sodomy, as with any activity and particularly those of a sexual nature, is ultimately a submissive-centric decision. What will this do to her and is it ultimately a mutually desired outcome.

 

While I do enjoy a dramatic entry through the backdoor, like Steppenwolf's Magic Theatre its not for everyone. For some its a profoundly moving and deeply submissive experience to be taken in the rear. This could be with a finger (human or certain select vegetables that will make you shiver upon entering the produce aisle), beads, a plug, or a fully functioning phallus. Sodomy in a submissive context is particularly potent if it has only occurred within a BDSM framework, though I'm sure there is an intellectual argument that the one is implicitly inclusive of the other.

 

In other cases its just profoundly uncomfortable, psychologically untenable, or physically implausible. Now for a maso or a limit pusher the first two could constitute green fields of play. In other cases the rose-bud can be the "self destruct" button on trust. Push things there and watch the relationship blow up with cause.

 


9/22/2012 6:54:05 PM

Was recently amused by a particular quote from Sex & the city regarding fellatio. "maybe you're on your knees, but you got him by the balls." I thought it nicely encapsulates the ambiguity in the D/s nature of giving head to a man. 


9/10/2012 2:41:33 PM

What is the nature of a submissive limits? I recently saw an amusing cartoon purporting the "feminist" one shade of grey (http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ma2hnoVgNh1rxw6pxo1_500.jpg). While some limits are most often inviolate (kids, pets, housework) it would be foolish to conclude that limits don't have the potential to evolve with time and experience. To this end what is a Dom's responsibility regarding changing limits, either intentionally pushing soft aversions or conversely shying away from particular activities. This can be complicated by a submissive's lack of experience (everyone does it!), eagerness to please, concern she may be supplanted by a more accommodating partner, or need to feed a humiliation/masochistic dynamic. Consider a submissive who despises semen: hating the taste, the texture, the socio-political connotations, but craves abject humiliation. Fellatio followed by a facial could be a pushed limit, or just what she needed. As with most cases, it depends on the situation.


6/26/2012 8:53:39 PM

What is the best verb to describe the motion of an attractive, well dressed woman in a skirt and high heels attempting to achieve her best speed to destination on foot while she attempt to equilibrate risk between the twin perils of tardiness and a catastrophic gravitational interaction?

 

Candidates include scamper, scoot, scurry, hasten, bustle, whisk, flutter, fuss, or career.

 

Appropriateness may also depend on location, destination, and consequences. Regardless, watching her this morning was adorable to the sadist in me and a nice little bonus on the day.

 

PLT


6/3/2012 9:08:21 PM

Something about international travel rouses me. Perhaps its the combination of anonymity, forced conformity, and arbitrary association that breeds potential. Potential for what is another matter entirely though. Potential for boredom, tedium, excitement, terror, intrigue, excursions into the forbidden. Its like mixing in more random on life and setting it to frappe.

 

Of course such over romanticisation could just me my rationalising away a generally unpleasant situation.


5/25/2012 3:16:58 AM

What constitutes extraordinary? Where does exceptional come from and what superlatives does it come home to after a hard of tearing the universe a new awesome or three. How do we identify it? How do we nurture it? Do we respectfully abide by its need for space, or come gushing with probing questions and the Spanish Inquisition. Python having ruined the last bit because now everyone expects the Spanish Inquisition. Walking down the street in Tokyo only to be ambushed by a few cross toting padres? If they've got British accents thats no longer exceptional, its use by date has come and gone like last years dairy products, vintage cheddar excepted. 

 

Not that these little musing are terribly productive, but sometimes one just needs to express themselves.


4/27/2012 5:14:44 AM

Fashion designers, please hand over the keys to beige. You have abused this non colour past the bounds of decency. The beige heel invasion needs to stop. Right now. There are other colours. Practically everything else has a colour. Hell, even white looks more strikingly distinctive then the mottled cream slurry currently being vomited out of shoe factories from the Philippines to Italy and inflicted upon us by fashionistas everywhere.

 

Hang out with some five year olds that have access to crayons. Go for a walk in those north american spring gardens. See many beige flowers? I didn't think so. This is not a problem limited to one segment of the socio-economic spectrum. I have seen the beige shoe plague at the $20 and at $2000 price point. They looked the same. Wearing beige high heels is sending a confusion message. I have fond memories of the mid 90's just like everyone else. Dressing like a generic business computer from that era isn't going to do it for me... or probably anyone that isn't colourblind. Here are some hints: Black goes with everything. Red says something in particular, and we all know what that something is. White says you're looking forward to the honeymoon. Purple says your inner queen is marching to the beat of her own drum core.

 

That is all.


4/24/2012 3:56:03 AM

So I've been thinking about protocols and safety, both in general and the specific context of this site's brand of extracurricular activity. These things are really only as effective as the people implementing them, and that in the end is their greatest limitation. If a protocol is outside of ones capacity, following it isn't going to necessarily work, and it might lead to a false sense of confidence. "Oh, I don't have to worry, we have a protocol for that." On the other hand, rigorously adhering to an inappropriate protocol is just as bad.

 

Perhaps I just overanalyse and should instead focus on those who need to be debauched.


4/17/2012 3:35:35 PM

Have to share this quip regarding a particularly attractive TV presenter "She gives great talking head"


4/15/2012 3:45:25 AM

Is feeling under-stimulated physically and intellectually.


1/21/2012 7:38:41 PM

Horology is the study of time...discuss the likelihood this word was coined in a 17th century English brothel.


1/21/2012 11:59:30 AM

Dear Women of a Particularly Rainy North American Coastal City,

 

My hats off to you and the defiant stand your miniskirts are taking against the inclement weather. Such brazen displays of cosmopolitan fashion, oft paired with a thick wooly coat warm my hard and quicken my loins. When my labours finish with the departing sun I shall endeavour to patronise one of the finer drinking establishments and perchance upon conversation and more. I find myself habitating near a "Cuban" neighbourhood notorious for those of a broad spectrum of preferences, while my own tend more towards the straight and narrow.

 

-PLT

Too much traveling.


12/30/2011 1:14:51 PM

Considering how naughty to be for new years. Santa's got 300 some odd days to forget...


12/28/2011 5:32:42 AM

I have to wonder if the "WARNING: Any Institutions" disclaimer about using your profile was actually introduced by an institution as a tracking technique. Its not like anyone's got viable enforcement capabilities on this statement, particularly on a post-facto basis.


12/24/2011 5:50:00 PM

If you indulge in a sip or two of something intoxicating this holiday season please respect your companions and don't overdo it.


12/24/2011 4:48:09 AM

I have to wonder why one of my business magazines is now coming in a plain white envelope. While I'll admit the subject matter can be very exploitative at times, the graphics are rarely explicit.


12/16/2011 3:20:02 PM

Sometimes success is light and sweet. Other times it is meaty and savoury. Success, however served, is always satisfying.


12/13/2011 8:44:19 AM

At times like these my ego wonders if a select few rules were specifically crafted for no other logical reason than to infuriate me. <rant off>


12/12/2011 2:29:50 AM

Dear New Secretary at an Associated Organisation,

 

I see Old Secretary has retired, her encyclopaedic knowledge of that organisation and deep reserves of political capital acquired from decades of favour trading now wandering the paths of the grey nomads. Old Secretary was not the most attractive of individuals, you on the other hand are very perky. This would be where points in your favour ceased increasing. You are mean. You are incompetent. You fail in several vital aspects of your nominal job. On an hourly basis you must be making way more than your boss. Getting paid for a full days worth of work when you come in at 10, leave for morning tea at 10:30, resume work at 11, leave for a two hour lunch break at noon, afternoon tea from 2:30 to 3 before buggering out around 4pm. Thats about 3 hours per day. I'm extrapolating a bit here based on when the office seams to be inexplicably closed and/or the phones aren't answered. I certainly hope you either have quality blackmail material and/or are sleeping with your boss, because I'm not sure what else might explain your continuing employment beyond rampant nepotism or HR outsourcing support staff from a narcissist outpatient facility.

 

All in all I shouldn't be too worried, your predecessor effectively did the lion's share of your boss's job for years. I somehow doubt I'll have to interact with either of you fairly shortly.

 

 

Incompetence is best served tepid.


12/10/2011 9:42:27 PM

One of the things about BDSM that I find most satisfying is the sense of self discovery. To come away from an experience with a greater feeling of knowing who you are, what you want, and what you are capable of. As a Dom I have the rare privilege of introducing new things, concepts, and ideas to a sub with my own timing. This can be as simple as an unexpected repurposing of a vegetable (she'll never be able to walk through the produce isle again without blushing at the thought) to something as profound as realising that they are in fact a submissive.


11/26/2011 5:58:31 PM

Dear USA,

 

Please stop being coy and cut to the chase. We all know how this budget crisis, occupy wall street, super-duper recession thing is going to end. Europe knew how to hand this sort of situation back in the day, but they also seem to have lost their way. Let the 1% do as they please, confiscate some fraction of their assets, and give them proper titles acknowledging the ambient immunity from reality that they already possess. Perhaps have a clause requiring that a select subset be followed around by camera crews for the general enjoyment of those unable to comprehend the written word. Its not like the situation would change all that much from what you've got now.

 

Consider it a gift.

That is all.

 

Path Less Taken


11/3/2011 5:48:27 AM

Never underestimate how flattering the little black dress can be.


10/28/2011 9:43:05 PM

Dear Women of Australia,

 

Next week will be an event in Melbourne involving some sort of horse race which will be used as an excuse for many to dress up and get drunk before noon on a weekday. In your closet is a dress with a horrifically oversized flower sewn on it. This may be a surprisingly tasteful little number, if a recent visit to a Georgia O'Keeffe exhibit at the art museum hadn't rendered the designers brain into mush. The whole woman/flower thing isn't subtle anymore. Its a little played out. You could be a little more blatant, but that might involve a hemline somewhere around your belly button.

 

Now, please proceed with drunken debauchery. I'll be free a couple minutes after 3 on Tuesday. That is all.


9/23/2011 7:09:57 AM

The other weekend I visited upon an older couple of my acquaintance who happened to be in town. Said couple if unawares, to the best of my knowledge, of my various interests and inclinations whose details do not typically constitute polite dinnertime conversation. Prior to dinner we were walking the grounds of a particular upmarket resort as a gentleman and his very well heeled date were arriving. The wife commented to myself and her husband that the extremity in pitch of the young lady's footwear baffled her. In specific what would motivate the young woman to such a selection. While notably styling, they were certainly well within the standards of decency the establishment prided itself on. I declined at the time to speculate as to exactly what messages she might be broadcasting regarding her inclinations. Though an additional 10 cm tends to change ones perspectives.


9/8/2011 6:34:19 AM

If you're going to build a fake profile, don't claim you're 18 and use pictures of a woman who is closer to thirty. It highlights your immaturity.


9/3/2011 10:28:08 PM

The key to being a gentleman is to know when to stop being a gentleman.


8/1/2011 3:01:55 AM

Some victories are to be trumpeted from the hills. Others are to be savoured silently. I've survived today, so I'm ok, with a touch of either and neither.


7/22/2011 5:45:31 AM

Hello Bottle. I hear you calling. You know the rules, there are two of them. Rule one is Friday. Rule two is two and only two. Measured out before and then you go back to your shelf. I could have more. I might want more. But more might lead to much more. And much more could be too much. I know my family history. I know my father and my uncle went searching for much more and you were only to happy to help them along on the road to mediocrity. I am not them. I am in control. And that is why you are back on the shelf. And one of the two is down the drain.


7/8/2011 3:17:55 PM

New jobsite. The women here trend towards wearing knee high leather boots in a nominally business environment. I once proposed a theory that to understand a woman all you needed to do was understand her shoe closet... but how far does that extend to boots?


6/12/2011 3:41:14 PM

Perhaps a touch of that famed southern comfort would sooth my savage beast.


5/20/2011 2:19:59 PM

I see you. Lurking there in the June travel schedule. My old nemesis. Thwarter of trans-contential connections, voracious consumer of checked luggage, black hole of turbine spare parts, you are the secessionist state airport from hell. All my prestige, the snooty cards in my wallet that let me mock mere mortals trapped in endless security lines as I skip ahead in a dozen hubs across that nation, they mean nothing to you, do nothing to motivate you. But I am ready this time. I've been training. Got my liquids under 100 ml each and in a one quart stupid plastic ziploc baggie specifically blessed and vetted by the TSA. WTF is a quart other than two pints. Now that I've got my quart I'm going to need two pints. And then I will be ready for North American Air Travel Mortal Combat.


5/14/2011 5:47:12 AM

Perhaps an interesting statistical fluke, but I've been getting a fair number of Dommes viewing my profile. Hi Dommes. 


4/25/2011 9:40:05 PM

A very well thought out commentary on ways for submissives to keep themselves safe. While I don't concur with with all the content, it certainly serves as a fine starting point.

http://www.withinreality.com/acidtest.html


4/14/2011 1:20:34 AM

When does a place become an actual place and cease to be one of the spaces in-between? Certainly at a moment of crisis passengers on a plane become an indelible cohort, but what bridges the gap? Communication, shared purpose, impending doom? How would the man next to me cope with ever seat in front of us being ripped asunder? Would it be any different if it were the rows behind us? The realisation that briefly we shared space on the raggedy edge. Thank you for flying Path Less Taken Airlines.


3/22/2011 2:02:37 PM

Contemplates the consequences of discovering people from my vanilla persona on this site. Would I abuse such information for my own entertainment? Maybe. But perhaps only if they were very specifically "asking for it."


3/18/2011 10:50:57 PM

San Francisco is a very peculiar town. Whenever I visit, I typically get chatted up about three or four times by what I'm pretty sure are gentlemen of the homosexual persuasion. This hasn't ever happened to me in any other city around the globe that I've visited. I make note of it specifically because its not occurring at Castro or Church St. stations, where such things might be expected. The conversations are always about 5 minutes long and have this odd awkwardly faltering quality at their end. I've considered asking if they were cruising, but it seams a bit uncouth since I'm not in the market.

 


3/9/2011 2:13:16 AM

Just read this and it tickled me.

"Treaties, you see, are like girls and roses; they last while they last."-Charles de Gaulle.

 

 


3/6/2011 1:14:19 AM

Victory is sweet. The crunchy tang of ground teeth snatched from the jaws of defeat adds a delicious extract spicy specialness.


3/3/2011 3:14:44 AM

The rain has started again. Wonder how long it will last. Minutes, hours, days,weeks?


2/26/2011 10:40:12 PM

A few words about ladies in heels. Let me cut to the chase and say I'm a fan. Its carnal. Its classical. They epitomise the contradictions inherent in a modern woman. She must be at once be strong and supple. Commanding while remaining accessibly feminine. Are they a pedestal upon which a trophy is placed or an advantaged perch from which to soar? Certainly they convey and undercurrent of submission while simultaneously shoring up her stature.


2/3/2011 3:37:06 AM

Failure is how you know life is not a fantasy.


1/28/2011 1:37:07 AM

When a sub says she's "up for anything" how should a Dom respond? Scare her witless with hypotheticals. Tie her up and then put the scare her? Just grin and enjoy oneself? Realise she almost certainly has no comprehension of what she is saying and proceed with caution?


1/21/2011 4:27:29 PM

Talking about being classy indicates whatever is being discussed probably isn't.


1/17/2011 1:46:27 PM

Care and comfort to all who have been affected by the massive flooding in Australia. Condolences to the loved ones of those who will not see February.


12/28/2010 3:37:57 PM

Has been thinking a bit about how Doms and Dommes come to be. This has been prompted by several subs describing the general "Dom Drought." The route for a submissive to be "trained/guided/mentored" by a Dom is pretty straightforward (pardon the pun). The depth and breadth of submission hopefully being fairly adjustable and adaptable, depending on the situation. The education of a Dom is much more haphazard. For myself it manifested out of traits which were already part of my "public persona" and general temperament, supplemented with self study and occasional leading discussions. I'm inclined to those behaviours so its a natural fit. Still I wonder about gaps in my "education" and weak spots in my capabilities.


12/28/2010 3:05:13 AM

Which came first, the dominance or the submission?


12/16/2010 11:20:54 PM
With all the news lately regarding the alleged Wikileaks swedish rape incidents I've been considering the problem of quantifying consent. At the one extreme is Antioch College ladders of constant affirmation for escalating intimacy. On the other is the hard digital stop of a voiced safe word or dropping of a cue item like a handkerchief or pingpong ball. Somewhere in the grey lurks a thornier problem. Almost every relationship has dimensions outside the sexual scene, and disentangling the two is typically impossible. How true is the consent if adverse consequences may be hanging in the balance? A little something nice if she goes along a bit further than she might prefer. Jewellery, a new car, tropical get-away, more attention could be forthcoming. On the other hand, dinner with the in-laws, longer hours at work, or deferred home improvement projects might pop up from her unexpected reluctance. It many not even been conscious on his part. In a relationship between subordinate and supervisor this slippery slope becomes rather steep. Command Rape in the military is probably the most extreme example, with lives hanging in the balance. What to do about all this I'm not really certain. Words and their meanings can constrain us into a fail sense of certainty. How much of a Yes is actually Yes? And how little of a Yes should be accepted as such. As a Dom I feel this is my responsibility, and it gnaws at me to be sure.

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