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ArachnidFrost
Male Dominant, 35,  Dumfries, Virginia

 

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 ArachnidFrost

 Dominant Male

 Dumfries 

 Virginia

 5' 11"

 160 lbs

 35

 Caucasian

 01/29/09

 30 minutes

Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female

Single at this time.:)


 


I have extensive experience in dark BDSM fetishes such as breath play and edge play.  I can be very sadistic but only during play or sessions.  I'm very flexible in regards to the interests and fetishes of others and try to accommodate the needs and wants of my partner and I would ask that she do the same with mine. 


 


I am real. I am straight-forward and honest. I make steampunk jewelry and accessories. I'm active in the local BDSM community. I'm a protector in my local community of two submissives, one couple, and a submissive gay friend. I'm on fet under Arachnid. I have references that can vouch for me as being for real and safe in play. If my interests do not mesh with a woman I'm interested in, I become her close friend and protector instead. I'm mature enough to know when things won't work in a relationship, and will tell a person so, rather then just try to make things work. Because of this, the friends I do have are very close and protective of me.  And I am loyal to them, as well.


 


I am looking for a woman who would like a serious long term relationship with the goal of mutual fulfillment that is genuine, caring, loving and accepting.   I'm also looking for a woman who would react positively to me as her Dominant, sometimes her Sadist, as well.  Ideally, we would be willing to do almost anything for one another if at all possible.


 


Because most people are afraid of or don't understand my personal fetishes, I generally look for those who are already into my fetishes or have "no limits" listed in their profiles. I cannot travel due to my lack of a drivers licence due to care giving responsibilities the last 10 years. As of recently I am no longer care giving; and I cannot have someone just move in with me right away, either. I do however want to have someone who is looking to and willing to take the time to build a relationship with me the right way, and to eventually live with me and be my slave girl 24/7.


 


My hard limits are underage people, scat, animals, people who lie or deceive others, and people who are judgmental before they actually get to know you. My search for a relationship does not only include sexual interests but everyday vanilla interests as well.


 


 

Journal Entries:
8/7/2017 5:41:56 PM
So far in the many years I've been on here I have only met 3 people in person from this site . I'm 35 ,will be 36 Dec 2nd of this year and I'm tired of all the bullshit artists and fake ass people on this site. My living situation has totally changed. I'm staying in a temporary situation while I get my life back together and I'm sick and tired of being alone. I'm looking for someone who is real that I find attractive that actually responds to messages and would be willing to meet in person. Why is this so hard? I've been super nice to people and called a fake Domm just because I don't use words like slut,butch,cunt ect when first talking to someone. Being a true gentleman and a Dom does not make me a submissive or a switch. Where the fuck do people learn about this stuff any more? If your not in a active relationship with me I will treat you as an equal and be respectful of you until terms are met and we are behind closed doors. Me being nice to you doesn't make me a sub or a bitch. Second if I message you first then I find you attractive. If you don't bother to read or respond to my messages within 2 to 3 weeks and your on every day then I will assume your a time waster and block you. Thus ends my rant.

5/28/2017 5:05:05 PM
I was being a care giver for someone who was terminally ill for many years. As of 2 months ago My terminal Friend/ adopted Brother Received a transplant  making him no longer terminal. I now have more freedom but I'm still working from home and care giving while hes recovering. What this means is If your local or close to local I have more availability to meet up and hang out. I can finally start having a social life again beyond munches once a month. This also gives me more freedom for meeting and having sessions with non locals who choose to visit me locally. Now all I need to do Is to find the right girl for what I seek.....YAY. 

1/27/2015 7:56:24 PM
After many years here I've come to the conclusion aside from a small handful of people over all, no one reads profiles, responds to half the messages they get, turn out to be fake or just like messing with people, expect to be shake and bake slaves or submissive (want some one to instantly move in with and be taken care of without even meeting in person first or establishing any kind of relationship in advance), Hate men due to idiots on the site, or they just don't click with what I'm looking for and I don't fit what they are looking for.

I still have hope so I'm still here. Maybe people read journal entries better then profiles.:)

5/7/2014 10:55:01 AM

Update... Still no success in finding what I seek . Got My biggest personal issue permanently resolved so I'm now looking at the world in a more positive light . Those of you who know me already know what it was and those who don't it doesn't matter anymore.

 

In case its not clear in my profile (since I've been asked more then once) I do want a full time tpe sub or slave girl (and yes I do know the differences between sub and slave) how ever It will take a lot of effort to get it to happen should I find someone or they find me. Breath play fetish , interest or tolerance is a must. Its my primary fetish and yes I know its a dangerous fetish and I have no intentions of harming anyone threw stupidity.  I use as many safety precautions as possible unless its a "no limit " slave girl who doesn't want them. We all know there is no such thing as a no limit slave girl but I do know what they mean when they call themselves that.

 

Now for the unpleasantnesses. It seems every real person on the site has to do this and I really hate to but here goes... If you....have bitch,slut,racist terms,discriminatory terms of any kind in your profile in reference to a female, slave or not I will block you or hide your profile. If you have a obvious teen porn site picture as a profile pic I will block you. If you are dead set against any age bracket even as people to chat with I will block you. If you ask to be relocated or for money I will block you. I show respect to everyone when I talk to them. If I am not shown respect in kind then I will block you. If you put an email address at the bottom of you profile i wont even read your profile and I will block you. If you make a profile and its not filled out after 3 weeks from your join date I will block you. If you put god bless or bible verses in your profile or in a message to me then I will block you. This is a adult bdsm dating site for finding people of mutual interests, friends, play dates, Place to learn from others with more experience in adult lifestyles, not a fucking church. I will block you.

 

Ok I'm done ranting for now. Good luck to all and happy hunting.


7/4/2013 7:28:28 AM

BDSM and Slave /Master CONTRACT of learning
Internet training
Dom shall teach sub/slave about proper educate concerning what she wears in private at the discretion of her master versus whats normally acceptable in puplic , How to properly address masters, doms, Mistresses for when she accepts one. How to properly go about conversing with them in a fashion that keeps her safe and protected from abusive predators who pose as doms, masters, and mistresses. About fetishes and what they are and entail.Safety measures and precautions concerning play such as safe words, special equipment and how to use it for specific fetishes ect. How she is to care for her master/dom/Mistress during and after a session. (All true doms,masters and mistresses regardless of relationship type know to do and practice submissive/slave after care which generally entails hydration, food, checking to insure they are ok and not still in shock or there happy place as in there but not there. this should be a common practice with everyone but unfortunately is often forgotten or ignored.)(doms are people too and sometimes will need after care from their subs.)

Before the contract below goes into effect the following things are required..
1. picture of you in front of your collarme profile page to verify your picture is you.
2. a snap shot or scanned id of some kind that verifies you are of legal age. Anything with your picture and birth date will do but black out or cover your home address. Only show your picture and birth date. That would be sufficient verification of your age to you meet in person at which time your id will be checked again and It protects you from having to much info online that could possibly put you in harms way. If your Id isn't you or you faked one online and your real id states your underage you are in violation of the law and the contract. your would be teacher will walk away and you came to them for nothing. exchanging information online is legal with in reason but anything physical in person or a dom asking for your pictures when your a minor is illegal. Show ID.
Read over but do not fill out the contract below unless you want a particular teacher to train you in person at your expense.


In person classes or sessions form
This contract dated _______ is the complete and entire agreement between the signatories. I _________________, being of sound mind and body, hereinafter referred to as "Dom" and _______________ , being of sound mind and body, hereinafter referred to as "sub"("slave"). The terms of this agreement will begin on____/___/____ will remain in effect for a period of six months unless there are special circumstances such as the dom or student have work obligations or live long distances away that prevent frequent sessions with in the allotted time to complete the lessons required or requested. This contract shall also become null and void immediately upon request of the involved party following any material breach of the contract. Should the involved party agree to continue with the contract following any material breach, the broken clause shall still remain in effect for the remaining terms of the contract.

DOM/Master

Dom shall be responsible for keeping sub/slave safe at all times during sessions in regards to permanent damage ,unwanted harm from others sharing the sessions, and death should any practices,fetishes or interests be dangerous in that fashion(edge play,asphixia ,noose erotica,extreme bondage,ect) .
Dom will not allow or make sub/slave scene with any minors, animals, people they don't like, or people that are known in the community for mistreating subs/slaves at any time.
Dom will do everything within His power to train, educate, instruct, shape and mold sub into best sub/slave possible.
Dom will receive pleasure from the activities outlined in clause above.
Dom shall teach sub/slave about proper educate concerning what she wears in private at the discretion of her master versus whats normally acceptable in public , How to properly address masters, doms, Mistresses for when she accepts one. How to properly go about conversing with them in a fashion that keeps her safe and protected from abusive predators who pose as doms, masters, and mistresses. Safety measures and precautions concerning play such as safe words, special equipment and how to use it for specific fetishes ect. How she is to care for her master/dom/Mistress during and after a session. (All true doms,masters and mistresses regardless of relationship type know to do and practice submissive/slave after care which generally entails hydration, food, checking to insure they are ok and not still in shock or there happy place as in there but not there. this should be a common practice with everyone but unfortunately is often forgotten or ignored.)(doms are people too and sometimes will need after care from their subs.)
Dom will address issues such as preexisting health matters, triggers(both subs and doms have triggers. A trigger is something that sets of a uncontrollable negative reaction that stems from a child hood fear,rape,abuse at some point in their life before they got into bdsm or it could be just something random that they will spaze out over bringing a session to a complete halt)so that both parties are on the same page and hard limits are not broken. These things will also be up to the sub to inform her chosen dom/master/Mistress about upon accepting one.
Dom shall read sub/slave's journal on a regular basis and agrees to not punish sub/slave for anything posted therein for classes/sessions
Dom shall respect and honor the invocation of the safe word by sub/slave.
Dom will stretch sub/slave's limits to help sub/slave grow in the life and position.
Dom will respect all hard limits of sub/slave as follows - no minors, no animals
Dom shall look for female partner(s) for Dom and/or sub/slave to scene with if chooses to for the subs experience providing the sub wants that kind of xp. 
Dom agrees to work with sub/slave on any new interests that sub/slave discovers. If the Dom is unfamiliar with the particular new interest he is to research it himself as the teacher and then refer the student/sub to an better experienced dom for that interest so that both the main teacher and the sub/student learn something new. (Being a Dom/master/Mistress doesn't automatically mean you know everything. Nor is there shame in admitting that you don't know something. This lifestyle is a constant learning process for everyone.)
Dom shall inform sub/slave the reason for any punishment. Periodically during the punishment Dom will remind sub/slave the reason for the punishment although that can come from the sub/slave in the form of "Why are you being punished?" with an appropriate response from the sub/slave.
Whereas Dom believes that family is important Dom will not keep sub/slave from staying in touch with their family and will not unreasonably withhold trips for sub/slave to visit their family.
Should the Dom allow the sub/slave to scene with anyone the Dom shall be present during the entire scene in order to assure that the sub/slave is unharmed and not forced to do anything on sub/slaves hard limit list.
SUB/SLAVE

Sub/slave agrees to maintain body by regular bathing and all other routine body care (e.g. brushing teeth, etc.).
Sub/slave shall maintain clean shaved genitalia, legs and arm pits at all times, unless instructed otherwise by Dom. 
Sub/slave agrees to study BDSM on a daily basis, including but not limited to, searching the INTERNET, reading books, attending BDSM munches and/or other BDSM activities..
Sub/slave shall journal weekly including but not limited to - thoughts, concerns, what was learned and possible new interests to explore.
Sub/slave shall bring and show honor and respect to Dom at all times.
Sub/slave shall sit at the right foot of the Dom, whenever Dom is sitting, whenever and wherever feasible during sessions.
Sub/slave is not to wear any clothing unless necessary during sessions.
Sub/slave shall make themselves available for use by Dom in anyway Dom desires at anytime Dom desires whenever feasible, within the terms of this contract. (being a student/sub thats not owned but taking sessions to learn is not required to have intercourse with the teacher/dom. That is at the discretion of the student/sub not the dom)
Sub/slave shall not orgasm without permission from Dom If the rule above has been established as ok.
Sub/slave shall not invoke the safe word unless absolutely necessary.
Sub/slave agrees to look for and find female partner(s) for Dom and/or sub to scene with if she wants that kind of xp and training during a session.
If Dom and sub/slave are present at an event and sub witnesses something they desire to experience Dom will not unreasonably withhold permission of sub/slave to participate.
Sub/slave shall count each stroke when being punished by flogging, caning, etc. and also must thank Dom following each stroke.
These terms are mutually agreed to by the affixing of the respective signatures below.

________________________ ___/__/___ ______________________ ___/___/____
(Dom's signature) (date) (sub/slave signature) (date)



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