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	Updated December 23, 2019 Please take the time to read My entire profile BEFORE contacting Me. If I can tell you havent read My profile then dont expect a response as I will delete your message. Trust Me, I can tell.... I tend to reply to messages that include worthwhile content, which means I do NOT respond to one liners, fantasy inquiries or to people seeking what is clear to Me to be an online relationship (under the pretense that one day we might meet). What I seek I am seeking a service oriented subslave who resides near enough to Me (within 2 hours) for potential live-in or live near relationship based on power exchange. If you live afar, there isnt much I will engage in, you must be readily available to fly (at your expense) to meet Me for coffee and an interview (this will not include a play experience and you will not be staying at My home). To inquire about serving Me AND becoming part of My Household, tell Me about yourself, your experience, your skills and your availability for an in-person eyeball to eyeball interview. This does not mean you intend to fly to Me to have weekend getaways at My home (I dont host meet-ups). About Me My name is Lady Diana (Not LadyDi2). I am the real thing, a Female Dominant who identifies as a Master, who engages in in-person relationships. I am happily married in a Female Led Relationship and am Head of a Leather Household that values Old Guard, the Masterslave lifestyle, those serving Me whom I hold dear, and My local BDSM community. I am a multi faceted individual, with rather broad interests based more around the lifestyle than the individual fetishes. I consider Myself poly-monogamous, that is I have several people I deeply care for (beyond My primary) but am sexually monogamous with those I am fluid bonded with. My expectations are high for anyone in service to Me, whether they are My slave, pet, or toy. If they wear My collar they are held to a high standard based on Service, Obedience, and Devotion. I practice SSC and RACK, but like to broaden and deepen Oour experience together. My fetishes are many and run deap (but please dont write Me and ask if I am into this or that). While I have many fantasies, I am firmly rooted in reality. I avoid online connections like the plague, reality for Me is you being in My Household, refining your service to Me as your DominantMaster. I am not a Pro-Domme, and I will not support you financially. Being part of My Household requires you be able to financially support yourself and your lifestyle. You must trainable to My ways and be motivated to having your skills developed and perfected. I am not interested in giving you a free ride, nor fulfilling your fantasies. I am very much into service oriented submission, in fact structure and service are key components for Me. I use protocol, etiquette, and rituals to train and perfect ones nature, while maintaining a family atmosphere within the Household. Erotically, I love all aspects of BDSM including bondage, chastity, tease and denial, impact play, discipline, and many other BDSM Arts. My FetLife Profile LovelyLadyDiana lists the majority of My erotic interests, as well as the groups I enjoy following, writings, and more photos reflecting My journey over the last 10 years. You have reached the end of My introduction. If you wish to contact Me (and want a response), then address Me as Lady Diana and state you have read My entire profile. With this stated, I will know you have done your homework. Lady Diana FetLife LovelyLadyDiana PS since this was updated Dec 23 2019 I may not be allowed to respond until the updated profile is approved.

5/23/2017 8:49:09 AM

My thoughts regarding M/s Dynamics

Simply put I have found that the majority of those focused on slavery (not all, but majority) tend to have an unrealistic view of 'slavery'. Often their view is some version of forced sex, extreme beatings, being kept naked, fully supported financially, no vanilla, long term caging, and being forced into another's will (the Master's will). While a lot of that may seem appealing I see it far from reality. The majority of Owners likely have a vanilla life too, and keeping a slave in that state isn't necessarily feasible. A slave kept naked and caged is likely going to have health and medical issues, certainly wouldn't be kept fit for various service, not to mention the Master would be doing a lot of work to care for that 'animal' slave vs the slave actually serving the Master's needs. This view is totally a put off to Me as a Master.

What I admire about one who identifies as a submissive is that they are at least honest about their desire for bottoming in kink, and often a truly submissive natured person (or at least one who enjoys pleasing another) will derive pleasure simply from serving another (ie the Master).

I love power exchange, I love protocol and rituals, and I derive much pleasure when the lifestyle attempts for 24/7; with realistic adjustments in vanilla environments. For this reason I lean toward M/s over D/s. I DISlike having to enforce to get another to bend to My desire, having to force repeated discipline to train someone to step in line with My will; in general I don't have the desire, energy, motivation, or ability to derive pleasure from 'force' in a power exchange agreement. I must state however, there are times discipline, force, punishment are necessary. There are times I prefer being served naked. There are times I think a cage has value. But I do not share the view that 24/7 means those extremes are extreme all the time - far from it.

In My view, a slave should strive to put the Master's will, desire, pleasure above their own selfish desires (a selfless slave to some degree). This is ultimately what I seek in a slave. If I'm simply playing with another kinkster, this quality might be a temporary and play power exchange, but in ongoing service this is more of an expectation than a goal. Some I realize will have a problem with that last statement "expectation vs goal". I expect service, obedience and devotion and I expect My will to be accommodated. The degree to which I have to work to get that depends a lot on the actual nature of the slave, not My ability to 'keep them in line'. Challenging times are expected and must be dealt with no doubt, but an ongoing nature becomes a battle that I choose not to engage in as a Master. Why? As I get older I realize I enjoy a kinky lifestyle, and the friends I've built in the community. I only have so much energy for that, and if My slave(s) have that same motivation we can work together in a harness to make more 'fun stuff' happen. The counter of that is forcing another to My will, in which case My energy is drained, and My motivation falls away. It's that simple. Honestly, I've seen a rare few occasions where forcing My will has actually been 'erotic or enjoyable' to the slave, even if force was once a 'fantasy' of the slave. More than likely that state grows old for both fast, leading to a dissolved agreement.

In closing, if you are a kinkster and simply want to 'play' - be honest and don't say you're a slave. If you're a strong willed individual that wants to be forced to My will, don't even bother approaching Me, that's not My cup of tea (I am far from a lazy person). If you understand slavery in the fashion I show preference to, then I welcome conversation about that lifestyle and what unfolds from there - who knows.

5/20/2017 11:26:11 PM

I must say I'm really unimpressed with the approach of the majority of people on this site. Very tacky. Some of the messages I get belong in a book called "Bad Approaches".

5/25/2011 8:15:23 PM

The true strength of a slave is not measured by its compliance to being shackled and put in a cage that becomes a fortress of solitude, but its willingness to submit its very heart and very soul.

The wonder of being a slave isn't that we serve when it suits us, but rather that we serve always.

5/18/2011 8:02:56 AM

When She bekons you, follow Her,
though Her ways are hard and steep.
And when Her wings enfold you,
yield to Her,
though Her hidden sword may wound you.
And when She speaks to you,
believe in Her,
though Her voice may shatter your dreams
as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as She crowns you,
so shall She crucify you.
Even as She is for your growth,
so is She for your pruning.
Even as She ascends to your height
and caresses your tenderest branches,
so shall She descend to your roots
and shake them.
Like sheaves of corn She gathers you into Herself.
She threshes you to make you naked.
She sifts you to free you from your husks.
She grinds you to whiteness.
She kneads you until you are pliant;
and then She assigns you to Her sacred fire,
that you may become sacred bread for Her sacred feast.
All these things shall She do unto you
that you may know the secrets of your heart,
and in that knowledge become a fragment of HER heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only
Her peace and Her pleasure,
then it's better for you that you
cover your nakedness and pass out of Her threshing floor,
into a seasonless world where you shall laugh,
but not all of your laughter,
and weep, but not all of your tears.

-Gibran

4/13/2011 11:23:23 AM

One has to wonder if the female 'slaves' on this site are for real. I would have to say they are either posers, or it is obvious why they are unowned.

7/15/2009 12:13:26 AM

Life is a journey, we can take it together as soulmates... and get beyond the constant search. This journey starts with honesty and committment... may you find what you seek and be true to Her first and self second.