Random Thoughts, Aphorisms
I'll be adding to this as thoughts occur to me.
1. The only rule is there are no rules.
2. Do what works for you and your partner, because nothing else matters.
3. If it's not working for you, it's not working for me.
4. Negotiation, I hear that works for some people.
5. Play rape? Why would I want to "play" at fucking someone who doesn't want to fuck me?
6. BDSM and D&s is about relationships and sex. It's always about sex.
7. BDSM is NOT a competitive sport. The goal is NOT to see how extreme you can be, or how much you can endure. See No. 6, above.
8. Every Dominant should have a list of things he/she just won't do. Mine is quite long, actually.
9. Monogamy is boring.
10. Safe word? You can have one if you want one, but you won't need it.
11. If it's not fun, don't do it!!
12. Trust your instincts, if something doesn't feel right, don't do it!!
13. I'm a simple man, I want to hurt you and fuck you.
14. I have to like you, because we will spend more time talking, than we will playing or fucking.
15. Most men are clueless when it comes to women.
16. Just because you can do it, doesn't mean you should do it.
17. You don't have to be an asshole to be a Dominant.
18. There is no "community," you are on your own, so be careful and act accordingly.
19. The large majority of "photographers"are just guys with cameras trying to get laid.
20. As a corollary to No. 19, I'm interested in YOU, not in taking pretty or pornographic pictures of you.
21. Just because he's black, does NOT mean he has a big cock.
22. Just because it's black and white, does NOT mean it's ART!
23. It's the Dom's fault, it's always the Dom's fault.
24. Every submissive disobeys, pokes, prods, pushes and tests, at least sometimes. They want to make sure you're paying attention and care.
25. Everyone hates lawyers . . . until they need one.
26. You can live your life in fear, or you can live your life!
27. A bad day at the ballpark, is better than a good day almost anywhere else!
28. No sins are regretted, as much as those left uncommitted.
29. Stop worrying about labels for you and for your relationship. Every D&s relationship is different and may not fit into someone else's limited definition or little box. See Nos. 1 and 2, above.
30. It's never wrong to do the right thing.