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Unable to upload a pic. This site has gone downhill. Pic available on that other site Fet Life
* Me
*Christian
*Littlemiddlepetsub
*Respectful
*100 me
*Trustworthy
*Craves safety
*Quirky
*Mild-Moderate Gamer
*Dog and Cat Owner
*Silly
*Honest-but shy
*Caring
*Eats too much-but working on it
*child-like in a lot of ways, but able to live and make adult decisions in life
* You
*Male
*Christian
*Employed (I have a job-you need one too)
*Dominant (no switches)
*1950sMale led-natural order
*Taken-in-HandDomestic Discipline
*Conservative-ish
*Monogamous
*Straight
*Safe
*Loving
*Honest
* Hard limits (I wont do these things)
- no poly
- no inserting things into my Masters orifices
- no switch men
- no Latex-I am allergic.
- No kids.
- No poop play
- No abusive stuff like a black eye or punching me.
- No sexually related activities that will affect my job during hours of work
- No blockage of my mouth from breathing (no tape over my mouth, my nose gets stopped up and I dont want to die)
- Nothing medically unsafe
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How to gain control
I was recently asked by someone how a person who meets someone online is able to gain control of that person. I gave it some thought and decided to share my personal opinion of how to gain control of a submissive female who isn't already a well seasoned slave, without them even knowing.
You-the Dominant, would start by getting to know her, the human, the person with feelings before delving too deep into the sexual. You would maybe skim the sexual topics at a 2:1 or 3:1 ratio of vanilla to sexual. 2 questions about their personal life to 1 question about how they found this lifestyle. Then 2 questions about their answers that allow you to learn what makes them tick with 1 about their likes about this lifestyle. What's important to them as a person? Make the sexual general so she doesn't feel pressured like she is a just another notch on your bed.
Many women are hesitant and have been burned by the fakes on this site. So, showing interest means you pay attention and care, which is unlike 90% on this site.
I would also think that you would ask questions/give advice about habits relating to the things she complains about towards herself, such as... "I'm sleepy every morning." Your response would be something like, 'How about you go to bed at 9:45, instead of 10. We can talk around that time, and I'll make sure you go to sleep then'. You're showing you care, giving her advice that makes sense, and she is learning from you which puts you in a leader/teacher role.
I'd expect that you would delve into her likes and dislikes in both vanilla and lifestyle, making minor suggestions that would put new ideas into her head. You would slowly introduce things that she dislikes but that you like, putting them in a new light that makes her think that she should and does like them too.
An example-Dominant likes breast bondage, she doesn't, but she loves bruising on her buttocks. The dominant would slowly tell her how sexy bruises are; occasionally mentioning breast bruises, maybe even show a picture now and then. She then begins to like the thought of breast bruising and knows how they become bruised and soon she craves the bruises. Once she craves the bruises she will be begging for breast play.
I would think that a dominant would make corrections sometimes, in order to remind her of her place/role as submissive, even when it's something small. Like spelling errors, forgetting to say Sir, or forgetting to capitalize Daddy; Various things that let her know you're paying attention, and that you're an intelligent man. It allows her to place you on a pedestal as someone smarter than she, which makes her want to follow you and seek your counsel vs doing things without asking for advice.
Throw in some "oh wow I love how you messaged me when you left the other day, it was so thoughtful of you to keep me in the loop. I worry for your safety when I don't hear from you in a while. She will then start to think of ways to keep you in the loop such as messaging before leaving and when arriving home. Soon you'll know her every move.
Talk to her about her spending, her eating, her partying. Make subtle suggestions that lets her know you are paying attention, and still in a leader role.
A woman wants love, attention, and safety, while a man wants respect and honor. If a woman is given love and shown concern for her safety, she will be eager to please.
It's not rocket science; it's all about patience and knowing what you submissive craves and wants, then helping her to know your wants and turning your wants into what she wants. It's time consuming, but imagine the feeling of controlling a beautiful woman that craves nothing but pleasing you. |
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As a slave, I have a cup. I will give to my Master from that cup, give to my family and friends from that cup, give to work, church, give to pets even. It's up to the Master to fill that cup back up with love, respect, and for me-vanilla conversation and mental dialogue.
Otherwise a slave will be drained and not be able to continue to give.
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In every scene or experience a girl loses one to two layers of wall that she put up to protect herself from the world. It's that wall that we put up because of fake Masters, ex boyfriends, societal expectations, ways of keeping ourselves safe from mental discourse.
It's up to the Master to get into her mind, when she's at her most vulnerable and build her up to the best girl she can be.
Similar to the military. It takes the flogging, crying, sceening to strip a slave down, to bring her back to her natural raw, non-politically correct mindset. Then the Master works on her and builds her up and makes her what HE needs her to be and makes her an amazing slave and better member of society.
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I have 3 BIG dogs and 2 cats.
We are a package deal. If you want me, you must accept and take them also. (The dogs are female- no I'm not into k9) |
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Different??
We all like to think we are somehow different from others. We all like to think somehow something about us makes us distinguishable from others.
What makes a Dom 'unique' on this site?
1 Conversation
2. Kindness
3. Not asking for pictures within 2 conversations
4. The knowledge that if you control the mind, the body will follow regardless of what is asked
5. Get to know if a personality will match yours-we are all going to get old and have to carry on a conversation at some point; if we can't get along outside of the bedroom what's the point?
That's what makes someone different. Asking for pics, talking about sex, trying to cyber or phone sex before knowing me is not different.
Be unique, control the mind, the body will naturally come along |
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How is it that someone can tell someone they want long term with them, and not even be willing to tell their name or talk about vanilla life?
In our 40's and 50's we can't have sex 24/7. What will we talk about if we don't even know each other? How can we know each other if we only talk about sex?
Maybe it's because I treat CS as a dating site.... |
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Before my sleeping area...she stopped. I stood behind her.
She stood very still, facing the couch, at its foot. She was a bond-maid. She was property. She was owned.
‘Force me,” she whispered. Bond-maids know they are chattel, and relish being treated as such. Deep in the belly, too, of every female is a desire, more ancient than the caves, to be forced to yield to the ruthless domination of a magnificent, uncompromising male, a master; deep within them they all wish to submit, vulnerably and completely. Nude to such a beast. This is completely clear in their fantasies; Earth culture, of course, gives little scope to these blood needs of the beauties of our human race; accordingly, these needs, frustrated, tend to express themselves in neurosis, hysteria and hostility.
Technology and social structures, following their own dynamics, integral to their development and expansion, have left behind the pitiful, rational animals who are their builders and their victims.
We have built our own cage, and defend it against those who would shatter its locks.....Marauders of Gor, by John Norman |
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I get a kick out of it, when you talk to someone who defines themself as a Dom or Master but their interests are 'queening, cuckhold, and strap-ons'. Then you confront them and they disappear or you see them later listed as a switch or sub.
Dear men, trust me, you are not the only ones being played on this site. Don't give up the good fight, there are real people here, just keep wading through this site, you will find your soul mate, when it's the right time.
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A quote from the book "Hunters of Gor," written by John Norman...
How starved must be the lonely ... women of the forests, so gross is their hostility, so fierce their hatred, and yet need, of men. They twisted, screaming now, clawing at the moons. I would scarcely have guessed at the primitive hungers evident in each movement of those barbaric, feline bodies. They would be masters of men. Proud, magnificent creatures. And yet by biology, by their beauty, by their aroused inwardness, could not, in fact, own but only, in their true fulfillment, belong, be taken, be conquered. It was little wonder such proud, fine women hated men, to whom nature had destined them.
Woman is the natural love prey of men. She is natural quarry. She is complete only when caught, only when brought to the joy of her capture and conquest. It was not strange that the proud, intelligent women of the forest, and elsewhere, chose war with men, rather than admit the meaning of his strength and swiftness, the meaning of their own weakness and beauty. Set a woman to run down a man and she cannot do so. Set a man to run down a woman and he will be successful. Nature has not destined her to escape him. It has destined her to be his capture and love.
I smiled to myself at those who regarded the needs of women as inferior to those of men. The woman ... has an imperative, enormous need. It is as great as that of the male, I expected, perhaps greater, for she is less satiable, and the tissues of her womanhood are widely spread, and intricate and deep. Her entire body, is seems, is alive to feeling, and yielding and touching, is a need. Her beauty is she, and its meaning, from the turn of an ankle to the delicacy of her deft, sweet fingers, from the turn of a calf to her belly and the beauties of her breasts, to those of her shoulders and throat and the marvelousness of her head and hair, is a need.
How tragic it is, I thought, that such incredible human beings should be so belittled, frustrated and abused. I do not refer to the cruelties of Gorean slavery, which celebrate women and, in their rude fashion, often uncompromisingly, force the helpless, total surrender she yearns in the heart of her to give, but the subtler, crueler slaveries of Earth, pretending to respect her and then, by education and acculturation, depriving her not only of status and independence, but of love.
The Gorean slave girl, if nothing else, is commonly no stranger to love. She is not permitted to be. She is at man’s beck and call and, accordingly, willingly or not, will be taught love. If necessary she will learn it under the whip, writhing in chains.
The Gorean slave girl, in my opinion, is the most desirable of women. What man, I wonder, fully aroused, does not wish to own his woman. What woman, I wonder, fully aroused, helpless, is not, in fact, in the arms of her lover, owned.
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Why oh why does CS have so many technical issues?? It works on one device, but not others :-( |
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If you are a switch or sub, please don't label yourself as a Dom or Master.
Too many "Dom/Master types" have pushed me to spank them or top them or dominate them. I do not Top, spank, or dominate. I shut down, run away, cry, cower, and mentally check out when forced into or faced with having to step into a Domme role.
Say what you are and mean what you say. |
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I find it ironic that men who are 'single' only chat during 9-5 business hours, and not on weekends.
Hmmmm wonder what's waiting at home to keep them too busy to message for the next 5 hours of their day and all Saturday and Sunday...??? |
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Call me crazy, but submission is no more of a gift than dominance. submission needs dominance to exist, and vice versa. Either you are the type to serve or the type to control, it is what lies at your core. I show basic respect all people, male and female alike. I submit naturally to those who show real dominance, not those who either want to be dominant, or think they are dominant, but are actually a switch or submissive in their actions.
I crave to be dominated, controlled, taken in hand and shown my place with both love and discipline. Please don't give me sweet fairy tale lines with a fifty shades of grey twist. I want real 24/7 lifestyle, until then I will happily remain single and await the arrival of my true counterpart, be it male or female. |
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Erotica I've written is on poiznuz.webs.com If you are visiting that site from your phone, you will need to scroll to the bottom and change it to the 'classic' view.
New stories have been added, and I am looking for more topics to write about, please email any suggestions, except underage-that is my hardest of hard limits. Others are possible to write about if they make sense. |
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To my real Master Daddy Right....
Where are you??? I am willing to kiss a few frogs (wannabe Doms) until I find you, but these guys can't even carry on a conversation about non-lifestyle/bedroom topics; and they wanna see pics of my body parts, constantly. It's getting repetitive, tiresome, and very annoying.
I know you're out there, and I'm trying to be patient, but Lordy mercy.... |
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Everyone likes to pride themselves at being 'unique', however everyone goes straight to cyber talk. Know what is unique?? Gettin to know a person and who they are before you try to get into their virtual pants...just a random thought at 12:45 in the morning. |
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I have a profile on efiltef dot com with this same name. They have more groups and lists and pictures. Feel free to look me up there (it is free also) because its more detailed than here. |
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The following is my 'into' and 'curious about' from my efiltef (backwards) acct; same name as here. Seems like they are more in detailed there. _________ Into: "good girl" (receiving), 1950s household, anal (receiving), anal sex (receiving), anime, art erotica, ass play (receiving), attention, auralism (everything to do with it), bbw bondage (receiving), bdsm, blindfolds (wearing), blow jobs (giving), body worship (giving), bondage (receiving), breast bondage (receiving), breast spanking (receiving), breasts, bruises (receiving), butt plugs (wearing), candle wax (receiving), caning (receiving), caressing, chocolate (everything to do with it), clit pumping (receiving), clit spanking (receiving), cock worship (giving), cocksucking (giving), collar and lead/leash (wearing), collars (wearing), control (receiving), corporal punishment (receiving), corsets (wearing), crawling (everything to do with it), crops (receiving), crying (receiving), cuddles (everything to do with it), cum (everything to do with it), cunnilingus (everything to do with it), d/s (everything to do with it), daddy/girl (everything to do with it), depilation/shaving (everything to do with it), dildos (receiving), doctor/nurse play (everything to do with it), domination (receiving), erotic literature (everything to do with it), erotic photography (watching), female ejaculation (everything to do with it), fingering (receiving), fingernails (receiving), fire play (receiving), flirting (everything to do with it), flogging (receiving), food play (everything to do with it), fur (everything to do with it), gags (wearing), glass dildos (receiving), gor (everything to do with it), hair (everything to do with it), hair pulling (receiving), hairbrush spanking (receiving), hentai (watching), humor (everything to do with it), ice cubes (receiving), intelligence, internal enslavement (receiving), kissing (everything to do with it), knot dildos (receiving), leather (everything to do with it), leaving marks, light bondage (giving), lingerie (wearing), male authority (receiving), master/slave (everything to do with it), masturbation (everything to do with it), mental bondage (receiving), metal (everything to do with it), monogamy (everything to do with it), multiple orgasms (receiving), music (everything to do with it), necks (everything to do with it), nipples (everything to do with it), nudity, oral sex (everything to do with it), paddling (receiving), pain (receiving), play punishment (receiving), play rape, porn (watching), power exchange (everything to do with it), protocol, psycholagny (receiving), remote-control devices (receiving), restraints (receiving), rituals (everything to do with it), sapiosexuality, saran wrap (receiving), scent (everything to do with it), seduction, sensation play (everything to do with it), sensual domination, sensual play, sensualism, sex (everything to do with it), slave tattoos (wearing), slavery (everything to do with it), sleep (receiving), sluts (everything to do with it), snuggling (everything to do with it), spanking (giving), speech restriction (receiving), squirting (everything to do with it), submission (giving), subspace (receiving), swallowing (everything to do with it), swords, taboo (everything to do with it), talking dirty (everything to do with it), tattoos (everything to do with it), tears (wearing), teasing, tickling (receiving), tit fucking (receiving), tit slapping (receiving), toes and feet, tongue sucking (everything to do with it), touching (everything to do with it), toys (receiving), unusually shaped dildos (everything to do with it), vibrators (receiving), voyeurism (watching), wax (receiving), writing erotica (everything to do with it). _____________ Curious about: 24/7, abduction play (receiving), age play, anal hooks (receiving), asphyxiaphilia, ball gags (wearing), bare bottom spanking (receiving), bare handed spanking (receiving), bathroom use control (receiving), begging (giving), behavior modification (receiving), being kept in the cage with the dog (receiving), bellydancing, belt spanking (receiving), bisexuality (everything to do with it), biting (receiving), blushing (wearing), branding (receiving), breast/nipple torture (receiving), breastfeeding (everything to do with it), breath play (receiving), caging/confinement (receiving), catheters (receiving), choking (receiving), cling film (receiving), clit torture (receiving), consensual nonconsent (receiving), cornertime (receiving), covert bondage (wearing), cunt torture (receiving), cutting (receiving), dacryphilia (receiving), daddy daughter roleplay (everything to do with it), damsels in distress (everything to do with it), deep throating (giving), defilement, diapers (wearing), discipline (receiving), dollification, dogs (everything to do with it), double penetration (receiving), douching (receiving), duct tape (receiving), e-stim (receiving), electrical play (receiving), electrotorture (receiving), emotional masochism (receiving), encasement fetish (receiving), enemas (receiving), energy play, erotic hypnosis, exhibitionism (everything to do with it), exposing your most taboo and secret desires (receiving), eye contact restrictions (receiving), face fucking (receiving), face sitting/smothering (receiving), face slapping (receiving), fear (receiving), female humiliation (receiving), figging (receiving), fire flogging (giving), fisting (receiving), flashing (giving), foot massage (everything to do with it), foot worship (giving), fucking machines (receiving), gagging/choked by cock (receiving), golden showers, gorean slave positions (everything to do with it), grooming, gun play, handcuffs (wearing), human toilet (receiving), humiliation (receiving), hypnosis, interrogation (receiving), kidnapping roleplay (receiving), knife play, knives, lactation, masochism (receiving), medical play (everything to do with it), medireceiving), nyotaimori (everything to do with it), orgasm control (receiving), orgasm denial (receiving), otk spanking (receiving), outdoor bondage (receiving), outdoor sex (everything to do with it), petplay (everything to do with it), pinching (receiving), play piercing, pony play (everything to do with it), predator/prey (receiving), predicament bondage (receiving), public play (everything to do with it), puppy play (everything to do with it), pussy pumping (receiving), rimming (giving), rough sex (receiving), sadism (receiving), sadomasochism (everything to do with it), satin, scarf bondage (receiving), scratching (receiving), sensory deprivation (receiving), sexual slavery (receiving), shackles, silk, slapping (receiving), slave bells (wearing), sleepy sex (receiving), smothering (receiving), sounds (receiving), speculums (receiving), spitting (receiving), spreader bars (wearing), tearing off clothing (receiving), tens unit (receiving), total power exchange (everything to do with it), transformation, triple penetration (receiving), urethral fucking (receiving), urethral sounds (receiving), vacuum pumping (receiving), velvet, victorian lifestyles, violet wand (receiving), voice play (everything to do with it), wartenberg pinwheels (receiving), water torture (receiving), waterbondage (receiving), watersports (receiving), wolfplay (everything to do with it). |
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| Age: 33 |
| Erie,
Pennsylvania |
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