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I am a 62 year old Dom who has been in the lifestyle for over 35 years. I am not searching for a submissive or a slave. I am available for advice or mentoring if you feel the need. I am empathetic and know the strength of the needs that drive a submissive .
I am offering some advice on making your search safer and more successful.
1. Maintain some mystery in your photos to attract the right kind of Dom. A spread shot is not good advertising just as a cock shot is bad for prospective Doms. Eye pictures and silhouettes are best. Also, an eye photo while a sub is in pain or pleasure is extremely provocative to a better type of Master.
2. Always put a key word somewhere in your text and request it in the header messages to you. This will show that it was read and eliminate a lot of players.
3. As far as Ive seen ,the main difference between a submissive and a slave is amount of control. A submissive has control of various degrees of limits while a slaves limits are the Masters to decide. Either way, a good Master will keep the ss safe and not push over the edge.
4. Discipline versus punishment. I feel that discipline should be used for training and to break down walls(create closeness). Pain and pleasure are both part of discipline . These are also useful for quieting the voices inside a subslave and creating a feeling of inner peace. Using punishment, in My opinion, is a failure on the Doms part to instill the necessary desire to please, Doms lack of attention, setting a task too hard for the level of training or poor communication. In a vibrant Bdsm relationship, punishment should never be used. It can damage a relationship more easily than fix it. A loving subslave never wants to disappoint which makes punishment negative re-enforcement instead of the positive re-enforcement of loving discipline.
5. Take your time. If you feel that you are special and you want that special Dom, take your time. The Dom for you will wait and take the necessary time to know you. Your sub desires only make up a part of the total package. If the person you are talking to wont wait, do you think he will take the time to train you slowly and properly? This is a great safety step for you.
6. Ive noticed that very little is said about compliments. A good Dom will always make sure that His subslave knows how special she is, how beautiful she is, and how much she pleases Him. This is critical in most relationships. As a sub, look for this when you are starting a closer relationship. This can even be discovered on the net or over the phone. These compliments can be about anything at all,
7. Remember that the closeness in this type of relationship is extreme. You will feel naked inside as well. A great Master will work to know you completely and to help you clean out baggage. When you look inside, you will feel His presence and approval. This is another reason why you have to be careful and take your time before submitting. Another trait of a caring Master is that he starts by undressing your mind , then your heart, and finally your body. Then you will feel truly owned.
8. When you are writing your profile, dont put in a lot of negatives. Keep it positive about yourself and your desires. Putting in things you hate or won t accept just gives players a better chance to play you. Putting things in like do not call me a slut or talk down to me are just making it harder for you to judge the Dom. You wouldnt want a Dom who says or does things you dont like so dont include Cliff Notes on how to play you.
8. There seems to be about three major types of Doms. The first wants to break a sub down by making them feel worthless. He tells them that they are nothing....The second works by fear. He will make a sub afraid to not submit.This overruns a sub... The third type will express his wants and let the sub ease herself into them by needing to please her Master. He doesnt coerce.
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| Age: 44 |
| Denison,
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