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After a lot of thinking and some serious soul searching, Ive decided this profile is long overdue an update. Im going to leave my old profile at the end. I dont think theres anything wrong about it and maybe it will give some insight into my evolution.

Writing a profile is hard! How does one some up what theyre looking for - for the rest of their life - in a few paragraphs????


Here goes.

Buckle up!

I will hit the big 5-0 later this year. Ive been in and around this lifestyle for close to 15 years now. Sometimes more active than others. Long enough to know that this is real for me. Not some sort of fantasy. Not something I want to check off my list. Its a part of me.

On a daily basis, Im a pretty normal, white collar (I never where a shirt with a white collar actually) kind of guy. Im a well educated software engineer. My profession probably speaks quite a bit to how I think. I tend to be logical and tenacious. Im very good at taking big, insurmountable obstacles and breaking them down into small, manageable things.

I have too many interests to mention. I like mechanical things. I like making things. An evening might find me working with a 3D printer, fixing a motorcycle or building something in the workshop. My most serious endeavor though is probably music. I love most kinds of music. I play several instruments (poorly) and have an embarrassing, ever growing collection of musical gear. I think, at last count, my collection of guitars got somewhere north of 50. Then there are the keyboards and the, well the list goes on. I really, dearly love music and find creating it incredibly therapeutic.

I love to read. Theres not as much time for it as there once was but I can very easily escape into a good book.

I have a weakness for German expressionist painters. If youve ever heard of Franz Marc, you know what I mean.

I live by myself in Southern NJ. I have dogs. Theyre also very important to me. The number varies from time to time. I volunteer for a rescue and am a sucker for hard luck cases. I currently have two and that seems to be the number that works best.

I grew up in the sticks in PA and miss it. While Ive existed in various metropolis for decades, my heart lies in the woods. If it were practice, thats where Id live. Im much more of a mountains guy than a shore guy though I enjoy both.

I had a very mom and apple pie kind of upbringing and I think my values reflect that. Im honest, trustworthy and patriotic. Things like respect and being polite are second nature to me and have nothing to do with domination. I spent much of my adult life in the military. I really like being a knight in shining armor.

Im very hesitant to discuss much related to this lifestyle. Its not that I cant discuss it or that Im not willing. I just find that its often best to feel that out with a partner.

In broad strokes though, Im not the dungeon, slave type. Im much more attracted to dominant woman who are comfortable being dominant in their normal attire. Regardless, its the control taken by a dominant woman that gets to the deepest part of all this.

Id like to find someone who can be a friend and lover as much as anything else. Someone who can be as vulnerable to me as they would like me to be with them. Someone who knows she isnt always right - even if she always gets her way ).

Accountability is really big to me. I really, deeply desire someone who can inspire accountability. Someone who is willing to not try to dictate the minutia of life but take stock of it from time to time and react. I suspect you either understand what Im getting at or you dont.

Along the way to finding the woman I describe, Ive met tons of wonderful people. I know that this site and others like it can be discouraging but I promise you, there are people worth getting to know. I like to think Im one of them. Even if the intention is only to be friends.

I always go away when asked to. No questions asked. Life is too short to be pursue hopeless things.


Prior to August 2019

I consider myself a safe, sane, more or less well adjusted human being. Now it gets hard....I suppose Im a bit of a dichotomy. A mild mannered computer programmer by day and a masochistic, fiercely straight biker by night. I suppose Im a very educated redneck. Im just as happy discussing Shakespeare as I am rebuilding a motor. I find them both to be very therapeutic in their own ways. How many people do you know that double majored in German and Astrophysics and have had a pit pass at a Nascar race?I suppose I am a complex animal and like it that way. I am perfectly comfortable at a down and dirty biker bar or wearing a tuxedo to a special event. I think we all have duality to some degree. I just flaunt it.While I am by no means new to the ds scene, neither am I a lifelong patron. Sites like this have helped me begin to realize who I really am and the journey continues.I spend my days writing code and my nights slowly refurbishing my 100 year old house. As time and money permit, its slowly coming together. Im not one to play the field. Im far more interested in finding a soul mate with whom I will spend the rest of my days in cherished bliss. Im more than happy to get to know anyone though. Theres little I enjoy more than making new friends, even if a relationship is not likely.Drop me a line... )

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2/19/2024 12:46:38 PM

I've tried to update my profile to no avail... 

No real changes but I think it's a bit better description of who I am and what I'm looking for. 

It can be viewed over at that other site for people who enjoy a FETish Life. {#emotions_dlg.wink}

Name there is audubake

 


3/2/2018 12:26:23 PM
So I’m doing a physical therapy appointment. Just looking around the room and thinking about all the kinky was s these devices/machines/pieces of furnitire could be used. I’m guessing I’m not the first person to think about this in this room. No wonder they roll out the paper every time!

2/11/2018 1:46:05 AM
Massiv e car accident tonight. No one hurt but my beloved van is gone :( I loved that van. If I give a Domme a name and a number, could you..... No, just kidding. But god I loved that van and now find myself on roller skates for the time being - and I don’t know how to skate. No good can come from this. 

10/25/2017 10:41:45 AM
I found this in another member’s profile. I certainly couldn’t hav out it any better. 

A Veteran is someone who at one point in their life wrote a blank check payable to the United States of America (and our allies) for an amount up to and including, their life. That is beyond honor and there are way too many people in this country who no longer remember that fact. Copy and paste this to your journal if you are a Veteran,... know a Veteran, Love a Veteran, or Support the Troops! May God Bless Them All!!

5/9/2017 11:36:21 AM
Again, I need to thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers. I have now officially been diagnosed as a type 1 diabetic. This is good and bad news. No one wants to learn that they have type 1 diabetes but this explains why most of the treatment I've received over the last 20 years didn't work. I'm now in my second week with an insulin pump and so far, the numbers are encouraging. Getting used to having this thing attached all the time has been a little difficult but it's coming. 

Thanks to each and every one of you who have sent such kind, thoughtful messages!

1/6/2015 3:28:03 PM
I'm finally, more or less, back to normal! I can't begin to thank all of you for your kind thoughts during this miserable time. It truly made the past few weeks pass more quickly and comfortably than it would have otherwise. Happy New Year to you all. May 2015 bring nothing but your fondest dreams!

12/25/2014 2:31:58 PM
Merry Christmas to all my special friends here! As many of you know, I've been in bed with pneumonia so please forgive any slow responses. We'll get through this! Again, Merry Christmas to you all and a happy new year!

11/12/2014 5:07:06 PM
Today, I received a really thoughtful and pleasant message here. It wasn't a come on. It wasn't a scam. It was just someone that took the time to tell me that I seem like a decent and interesting person. What a treat. 

From time to time, I've sent messages to users that aren't a match for me. Too far away, too much difference in age, whatever the case may be - always with the intent of just trying to brighten their day a bit. 

A few times I've actually gotten nasty responses. I guess many jaded people believe that there is always an angle - even when none is there. I get it.

So, send someone a message. It doesn't have to mean anything more than a pleasant hello. It just strikes me how much I appreciated receiving that message and I bet someone out there would love to receive one from you.

6/18/2014 12:20:29 PM
I don't make entries here often. Mostly because I have no evidence that they're ever read. I guess when I do write something, it's because I use it as a way of organizing my thoughts about something. Recently, someone here introduced me to a new term and I can't stop thinking about it. Sapiosexuality. The Urban Dictionary defines it as: "One who finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature." I think this concept has given me insight into this lifestyle that I lacked and I can finally answer a couple of questions that I've always harbored. First, let me clarify what that term means to me a bit. Intelligence is not an easily definable thing and it means different things to different people. Haven't we all known highly educated people that couldn't think their way out of a paper bag? I think a better definition may use the word 'wisdom' instead of 'intelligence' there is a clear distinction between being smart and being wise. Having not heard of the saphiosexual concept, much less the term, I really hadn't given this much thought, but I've also clearly expressed this all my life. I am attracted to wisdom for more than any other thing. But I think it's always been important to me in he this lifestyle as well as outside it And it all comes down to one more word - Respect! I have never been the kind if submissive guy who will offer himself to any girl who happens to be interested. I know that the number of other submissive men and relative shortage of dominant women means that my philosophy leaves me alone as often as not, but this isn't really a choice. I have never been willing to submit to a woman that I don't respect. And now I know at least part of why. I do equate respect with wisdom to a large extent. There are many other factors but I find following the Instructions of someone I find, well, not wise, very difficult. I have always known that I can be a bit of an intellectual snob. But that's not really what I'm getting at here. A partner doesn't have to be a Rhodes Scholar to earn my respect and I don't expect to for us to be reading poetry to one another. It's much more complex than that. Having grown up in the sticks, I can tell you that I know farmers with a 3rd grade education that are far more wise than other people I know with PHDs. I guess this is why well written profiles really do get to me and if you noticed that I've viewed yours more than once, it's probably well a written example. Doesn't need to be long to be well written. Doesn't need to be provocative or explicit. It just needs to show me that the person behind the profile is someone that I believe I could respect. Should you confuse the words 'dominant' and 'dominate' there's a really good chance I'm not going to respond to you. Sorry a pet peeve. Something that I see here all the damned time! You may think you're a 'dominate woman' but in fact you're just an uneducated one.

7/17/2013 11:45:15 PM

It's come to my attention that another user here has created a disparaging profile about me. The nickname is Geebake2 and I invite you to take a look. I suppose I could defend myself and explain why she's wrong and yada yada yada. Instead, I'll just laugh it off. Anyone that lets their opinion of me be affected by anonymous attacks probably speaks more to themselves than to me. 

 

Signed,

 

The Real geebake


2/4/2013 3:55:27 PM

My take on CM profiles. 

 

I look at a lot of profiles. I read them and genuinely try to understand them - and hopefully use that understanding to determine if I should contact someone or not. 

 

CM makes this a bit more difficult than some other sites because things aren't 'ranked' or 'graded'. it's up to each member to decide if a potential partner is a match. This is of course complicated by how a member fills out (or doesn't) what can be filled out. I can't tell you how many profiles I come across with a stunning picture that may suggest something and then find out the the profile behind it is blank. In such situations, I choose not to make contact because I can't really say that I know anything about that person. 

 

Why do I write this? Well a couple of reasons. As I said, I read a lot of profiles. In fact, I've probably read yours. I regularly get messages asking why I would view a profile that clearly is not a match. Well. I often can't tell that before I view the profile. And even if I know going in that there's no potential match, I may find something that piques my interest. I believe I can learn something from everyone, whether we're a match or not. 

 

I also write this because others don't seem to adhere to my philosophy. I receive message after message from totally inappropriate matches. I understand that the 18 year old submissive from Zimbabwe is contacting me for nefarious purposes, but I don't understand the messages from local, clearly inappropriate matches. My profile states pretty clearly where I stand in this lifestyle - I think. Perhaps I'm wrong. I always thought it wasn't really necessary to be too specific about what I seek, but perhaps I need to lay things out a bit more clearly. I will never be a Dom. It's just not in me. If you're young enough to be my child, it's just plain weird. Though I must confess that I have much more flexibility in the other direction. 

 

Please don't misinterpret what I write here. I love hearing from anyone. I send messages all the time telling people things that I admire about their profiles without suggesting anything further. I just don't get all the message from apparently real people that ask me to be what I clearly am not. 


3/10/2010 10:14:55 AM
An interesting commonality I see here:

I bet I've gotten a dozen messages, pointing me to a different (and unnamed) fetish site. This is usually accompanied by the words "It's not such a meat market".

Am I the only one who likes the fact that this is a meat market? I don't mean that I want to meet a bunch of silly, toad-esque morons but I do actually want to meet people. Even if there's no intention of any kind of relationship, it sure it nice to make new friends. Especially ones I can have conversations with that I can't with my vanilla friends.

I've made some tremendous friends here. I can't say that I've met Mistress Perfect yet, but I know she's here somewhere. But the people I have met have been wonderful and I treasure CM for bringing them into my life.

So quit all the bashing! Besides if it's such a miserable meat market, why do you stick around?

3/9/2010 11:44:54 AM
Some people that I really like, admire, respect, lust after. I'll leave it to you to guess which for each person.

Glittergirl
Thomas Sowell (and while I'm at it Walter Williams)
Julia
Myrna Loy
Tycho Brahe
Alvin York
Elizabeth Hurley
Calvin Coolidge
Jeff 'Skunk' Baxter
Shirley Temple
Andrew Wiles
George Washington
Archimdes
James Madison
Exene Cervenka
Patti Rothberg
Stephen Hawking

Just some insight into me. I intend to keep updating this. Check back for additions.

3/9/2010 10:57:18 AM
My first healthy rant for a while.

I've found several journals here to be quite interesting. But can I make one suggestion? This isn't twitter. If you really want me to stay subscribed to your journal, how about less than 20 posts a day. I don't need to know that you just went to get your mail. I thought I spent too much time on line! Some people have me beat by a mile.

3/9/2010 9:47:13 AM
I can finally report to the world that I'm healthy! This really was the mother of all colds! I guess it's tempting to think it was swine flu or something but if it was it was giant, wild warthog flu or something. Glad to have it behind me and thanks to all who sent their best wishes.

Now come on Spring!

2/19/2010 7:21:55 AM
I haven't disappeared. I promise! I've been fighting the mother of all colds. I've hardly been out of bed for a week and a half - except to go to work. Can't waste those sick days on being sick :)

1/25/2010 12:34:05 PM
Sigh. If you're first email to me makes mention of my being a worthless turd, we're probably not a good match.

What happened to romance?

1/22/2010 11:41:14 AM
If you think this is funny, we probably think a lot a like.

http://www.c4vct.com/kym/humor/sithlord.htm

1/22/2010 9:23:41 AM
Just to clear up a very commonly asked question. No, I have zero tattoos. I have no problem with anyone else who might, just not my thing.

Perhaps I fear the permanence. I just haven't come across anything that I know I will feel the same way about the rest of my life.

The funny thing is that I have a lot of friends who one might call outlaw bikers. Many are tattooed from head to toe and none of them have ever given me any grief for my undecorated skin. It seems to be people who don't have them that seem to think that I 'should.' A bit odd actually.

Again, I have no issues with what anyone else does with their body (for the most part ;). I just think my body is about right the way it is :)



1/20/2010 10:14:35 AM
Yay!!!!!!!!!!!

1/18/2010 2:06:24 PM
OK, so here's a message, typical of those I receive a dozen of a day:

"whtas(sic) going on I read your profile and you seem like someone i'd(sic) like to dom(sic)!!"

In fact, it is one of them.

Here's the problem. These ladies don't seem to have looked at my profile.

Oh and then there's the fact that we seem to have NOTHING in common and you live in a different country.

Submissive <> stupid. Well not always anyway.

Could it be that the thing in my pants you're interested in is my wallet? Couldn't you at least open my profile for a nanosecond to make me think you really looked? You know, kind of that proverbial reach around?



1/15/2010 7:55:43 AM
I should also add that I have no indication whatsoever than anyone has ever read a word that I've written here. If you do, by all means drop me a line. Let me know that

A) I'm a bonehead that just doesn't get it
B) I might be on to something
C) Finally someone gets it!
D)______________________________

1/15/2010 7:53:48 AM
I think I've read every single profile that I think could even remotely be a match. If you're reading this, I've probably read yours.

Some of the themes I come across, over and over again, are actually getting to be funny to me.

"Be sure to read my WHOLE profile before you contact me."

I do understand this. I get that there are toads and trolls everywhere that blast messages out to anyone and everyone.

But I have to admit that I question the effectiveness of this stipulation. I mean, if the jackass' problem is that he's not reading your profile, he's not going to read that part of it either. Or am I missing something?

Be assured. If I contact you, I have read your profile, your journal and any posts you've made in forums. Not trying to stalk anyone, just trying to make sure I know you as well as I can before I contact you.

Next

"I'm only looking for a 'Real' submissive.

Again, I get that the toads make it hard on all of us who do try to be do things the right way. But, is there really a 'real' submissive? Or are there submissives that aren't really 'real'?

I generally take this to mean that the Domme is looking for someone who is not just 'kinky'. They're looking for a sub who is willing to be submissive outside of 'scenes' but I'm not sure that this comment is the most effective way to express this.  But who am I to assume that I know what they're talking about?

I just think this is a funny line and I see it over and over again.

Next

"No game players or bullshitters"

Another favorite. Closely related to the previous example. I'm sure these Dommes are expressing their desire that people don't contact them frivolously and waste their time. I get it.

I just think that any sub dumb enough to do it is dumb enough to ignore your warnings to not do it. And to the trolls out there, it may even seem like a dare.

So anyway. Just pointing out a little of what my research has yielded. Don't be offended by my comments and I'm not recommending you remove these things from your profile. In fact, many of we 'real' submissives :) that really make genuine efforts to be respectful and follow instructions do try to read between the lines and understand what Dommes mean - not necessarily what they write.

I am saying though that you should probably consider the effectiveness of them.



1/12/2010 12:50:53 PM
Sigh.....

It seems that some women don't read profiles or journals either.

1/12/2010 10:40:19 AM
I feel the need to make something clear. I'm not looking for a pro. I realize that there are many wonderful pro Dommes here and that they have every reason to think that this is a good place to do marketing. Please don't contact me with offers of your services. I have nothing but respect for you, but it doesn't help me get into the emotional space I hope to get to.

To me (just me, I don't mean everyone, calm down) going to a pro and asking for what I want is diametrically opposite to what I want! Isn't submission about it NOT being about what I want?

I suppose the 'physical' needs might be met in this respect, but that's but a small part of what I seek.

So I wish you all the best. I truly do. I'm just not seeking your services and getting email after email after email after email (you get the idea) with a sales pitch is tedious.

A final note. If you're in a different time zone or on a different continent, I'd probably love to email, chat, get to know you. But a one line message like "I'm looking for a slave" is probably counterproductive and makes me think you're working an angle of some sort.

I thought it was pee brained men that were supposed to be the knuckleheads that sent pointless messages on sites like this. It's not just us!

geebake


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