If you want to get my attention, make your first sentence or intro a good one.  Don't ask me how my day is or something lame like that.  You want my attention you need to make your intro a very good one.

And be local.  I really don't care to answer anyone who is not within a 20 mile radius of Indianapolis....UNLESS I KNOW YOU.  In case you moved and we still chat.

Be local!
oh for fuck's sake people.  If you tell me you are interested, that you are LOCAL, and I agree to meet and tell it to  you to arrange it.....friggin' arrange a meeting. It's not rocket science.   Do it in a TIMELY manner. I am not waiting any longer than a week to see you face to face.  
Delay tells me you are in this for the fantasy only and I am not here to cater to your little wank fantasies. Don't waste my time. So get off the gawddamn pot and decide when and where.
geezus

An interesting question has come my way.  I know it has given me pause in trying to formulate an answer.

So, I'll ask you guys that see yourself as submissive.

What is your definition of submissive or submission.  How do you see yourself as a submissive male?

There are times when I wonder if you guys think that BDSM, Mistresses, Domme, slavery are all things where you simply waltz in, she's all dressed in whatever fetish wear you fancy and your day or night will be spent in chains, naked, licking her clit, ass or being pooped or peed on.

Ok, what happens after 2 hrs of this?  What then slave boy?  What the fuck then?  Has reality left you hangin'?  Do you expect to get up, clean up and then plop down for a beer and tv?

You are a slave.  Or supposed to be.  She has things that have to be done.  You aren't going to be able to put your feet up to watch tv....well, actually, I suppose that would be the dynamic that the 2 of you have.  If this is a 'relationship' it is something that is between you.

If you remember from my profile, I said that I am not looking for one, don't want one...don't even think about it.  You might think of it as a 2nd job.....because if you are with me 24/7, then your ass better be out there making some money because the owner traditionally would to their part to maintain shelter and food for the slave....food and shelter the slave sweated over.

When it is put that way, I can't imagine why any of you would even consider being slaves unless .... well, I don't know.  You'd be an unpaid servant.  With me, you'd have shelter, you'd get laid now and then, you'd have to deal with 2 bossy cats that I love more than myself.  You'd do laundry.  You'd cook, clean, take  out garbage, mow (if I have a lawn)....keep my car maintained (going to the dealer).  It would be like marriage but with other men around.

Why would anyone want to actually do this?

Be brave my boy, be brave.  Write to me if you will.   But, don't just say 'hi'. Tell me what and why you want to submit.   I won't hurt you....at least, not until you beg me to. 

I've been hearing of a rumour of sorts.   Seems that it's being said that unless you are bi, you can't be a domme.

WTF?

Since I do not include any sort of sex in my play....none, nada, no, hell no....what I do in my bedroom is no one's business but my own.

Who ever is trying to spread this around is so fulla shit their eyes are brown.    Bah. Can't be a mistress, domme, top, etc unless I'm bi?  Get outta here already.  Idiot.

I have another question.  This one I may phrase badly so do not take it amiss. 

I do not understand why some of you like, even crave humiliation.  I want to understand it better and for that, I need to ask why some of you want or need to be humiliated.  

Its not my kink.  I am a sadist.  I'm not an all purpose domme.   I do what I want and once people get past the bs of the first part of the profile and into the meat of it, you'll see that.   BUT, I get the odd request now and then from someone who will want a sadist and have the humiliation as a sort of side dish.  I always ask them why and sometimes, they are able to tell me, but I want a fuller understanding that comes from those of you who perhaps are not interested in a sadist or live too far away for me to be useful to you.

Why oh why, do some of you want to be humiliated and what form does it take?

I have a confession to make.

While I enjoy inflicting pain, I do not quite understand why some of you want it inflicted on you.   The answers I have gotten from some of those I have asked is that they fear I will lose interest in them if they do not endure it for me.

Endure it on my account?  But why?

I get some of you who write and ask for me to give you pain in one form or another...but not many of you can tell me why.   Some seem confused as to why they want it.

I can spank you, cane you or what have you.   I don't really need a reason for it.   Will have discussed ahead of time limits and such....but what I really want to ask is why.  Why do you want me to do this to you? Why do you need to have someone spank you until tears come or cane you until you bleed or cause you such great pain that you scream and sob...

Why?  It is a complicated word.  I'd love to better understand.

Some take rejection very badly.

That's ok.  It only human to be bothered by it.  Its when one turns spiteful about it that it becomes annoying.  But there is no rational reason to run someone down because you need justify their rejection of your sterling self, to your demands.

I think I make myself very clear.

I don't want to be your wife or girlfriend.  I am not looking for romance.  I may be the only person on here who is not.

I am not going to meet you for a blind date.  By date, I mean dinner or lunch.  I will meet at a place of my chosing in which the only thing I'll want from you is your presence.

I will not talk to you on the phone.  Ever.  You get "a" number from me when we are confirmed for an interview/chat.....and even then, you only get it on the day of the meeting or at least 24 hr before that meeting so that you may call to tell me that you have to cancel the meeting for what ever reason.   I am not interested in chatting with you.  I am not your friend.  If we both agree on meeting for a scene/session/play, then I'll be your Dominant/top.  While being your friend is not an impossiblity, I find that remaining apart keeps the dynamic in focus.    I'll be friendly but not your friend.  That may come in time.

So, does this make me inhumane?  No.  It simply makes me, ME and has worked flawlessly for a lot of years.   It does not make me a flake, fake or flawed.  I do not say I am something I am not.   When I say no, I mean no.   Some times I can be talked out of it, but when talking becomes badgering and then abusive....well, that's it.  It's done....finished, over.

Don't ever call me goddess and  I am not your mistress.  Just call me Ma'am.