Half a day for a female sub on CM ...

*approx 24 emails in 12 hours
*15 unique users, only three I've had conversations with before, only one I've exchanged more than a handful of emails with and actually looked to hear back from
*2 writers who continue to send another 2 or more messages after being told not interested, including one person who wants measurements
*1 who has written to me several times before and yet sends three messages because it's been more than three months since I've said no.
*2 who say nothing in their profiles or have inactive profiles
*1 request to send naked photos so he can judge more
*8 senders are from another part of the country from what I've said I'm looking for
*6 are at least five years older than what I've specified I'm looking for

I was browsing through recent journals and saw one of those lists like those I see on Facebook all the time, asking me to share 50 or 100 things about me. It was like a lightbulb going off as I realized I could share so much more about myself than I do here.

And so.... 50, for now.

1. Despite my picture, I usually wear glasses. I wear contacts too, but it's easier to see with glasses.
2. I work in journalism, in a fairly local venue.
3. I've known I was kinky since I was a teenager, started exploring BDSM about 10 years ago, seriously seeing myself as a sub about 7 years ago.
4. I'm a Sagitarius.
5. I've lived in Mass., CT., NJ, and Va.
6. All it will take will be a few good dates for me to be committed to pursuing a relationship.
7. I collect dolls.
8. I'm a romantic and very giving to anyone who makes any positive impact on my life.
9. I hate using the web cam because I don't feel like I can relax when it's on.
10. I like to cook and have a cooking blog. It doesn't mean I am a gourmet.
11. I want a Dom who will challenge me, push me out of my comfort zone, but know when to leave me there too.
12. I really am not a fan of driving, especially in strange places. It holds me back a lot.
13. I'm a cat person more than a dog person, but I could learn to love a cute, calm and lovable dog.
14. Oral isn't really my thing, but I know it's part of my role as a sub. Anal I enjoy from time to time. I LOVE having my pussy fucked hard.
15. I'm not big on the outdoor activities and walking is my preferred method of exercise. 
16. I see BDSM on a sliding scale. Same with my role in it. Some days I'm cuddly and sweet and submissive, sometimes I want to be humiliated and objectified. The right man will understand this and learn in time to recognize what I need.
17. I've had some of my poetry published in actual books -- anthologies you've never heard of, but it's something isn't it?
18. I work hard. Some might say I"m a workaholic. I don't think that's the case. I only work 45 hrs, max,  but my hours and dedication to getting it right make it seem otherwise.
19. Movies I'm most likely to quote from? The Muppets
20. I was a virgin until I was 20. A matter of days separated my first kiss and losing my virginity.
21. I cry. Fairly often when something pushes my buttons, when I'm tired, when something spooks me during play. The few who have gotten past initial misgivings learn that a lot of times they don't mean much at all.
22. Most days I dress in slacks or jeans, with a cotton top/t-shirt of some sort. A little dressier for work, casual on the days off. I don't dress so sexy that anyone would turn their head when I walk by. Unless a Dom has dressed me.
23. On a warm day at home, I"m likely to be found poking around in my small garden.
24. Yes, I am a little girl at heart. I can go as young as AB in some situaitons, but there is a shy girl who needs guidance who lurks within me at most times.
25. A few years ago I lost 65 pounds. I have sworn never to weigh more than 135 for as long as I can help it. I have a little tummy pouch, but I generally am small. 
26. I love having my tits tied up and slapped.
27. I don't really drink. Not really a beer or wine girl. Now, feed me a chocolate martini or similar drink, that's another story.
28. A few years ago I fell through a glass door. I do have some scars on my face and neck.
29. I've been told I have a large clit.
30. I've played with plenty of older men, who have taught me a lot, but I want to build a life with someone. And if you're under 25, I will question how much you know about real life and what you're really looking for. Please don't use me for your experiments.
31. Just because I can enjoy the adult baby role doesn't mean I want to live it full time. I'm prepared to accept that my Dom may not have interest in that part of me, but it would be nice if he did.
32. In the summer, Saturday mornings often mean garage sales and hunting for stuff to sell on eBay.
33. After a hard day at work sometimes I do stop to smell the flowers and remember there's more to life than the newsroom.
34. Sometimes I want my Dom to hold me down just so I can fight back and get out the restlessness inside.
35. Yes, I'd like to be collared and married. But not tomorrow. Probably not next year. When the time is right. 
36. I have a huge collection of erotica and some porn magazines. My vibrator has seen me through many a lonely night.
37. I have some joint inflammation tendencies. It rarely prevents much, but it's something to take into consideration with bondage.
38. I'm much more likely to call a Dom by Daddy instead of Sir or Master. But there have been Sirs in my life too.
39. If we go out to dinner, I'm not going to order a salad. I like steak, veal, and foods that are bad for me. And if you order dessert, I'll at least want to share. But I can also do without.
40. I don't take time to respond to Doms who don't take the time to read and understand my profile.
41. I don't know if I want kids. I hate saying that because there's a part of me that can't imagine NOT having them. But I think it's more a reflection of the fact that I won't know until I meet the man I want to have children with.
42. I'm shy. If you haven't figured that out by now.
43. I'm kinda curious about piercings. If you were to collar me, I could imagine a nipple or labial piercing.
44. I've done some pony and puppy play. I kinda like wagging a tail at times.
45. Favorite colors, mostly light pastels ... yellows, light greens, denim blue, and in my clothes, lots of pink.
46. I'm fairly close to my parents. They don't know about this part of me (though they may have some clues) and I don't have any intention of letting them know about it.
47. I am bi, I have played with women, and I've done group scenes. And would do them all again if it was a situation I felt good about.
48. I do have limits, but they're few and I usually say there's very little I wouldn't do for the right person. Nothing illegal, no tattoos, knives, blood, fire, scat, public outright humiliation ... there may be some I can't think of now, but not many. 
49. I don't do drugs and I don't smoke. If you smoke occasionally, I could overlook it at times, but it's not what I want. 
50. Between 34B and 36C.
If you've gotten this far, please reference something I've said when you write to me. I may respond without it, but I'll be much more likely to respond if I know you've done your homework.

I work with words for a living. I can spend 10 minutes debating the proper use and style of one word.

I realize this often puts me in a minority, but it forces me to have some standards when communicating online. I don't expect everyone to be a word geek like me, but I can tell you that if you send me a note, or I look at your profile and there's no punctuation, no capitalization and no attention to detail, I'm not likely to pay much attention in return. I don't care if you use commas in the wrong place, as long as you use them!

And with that, it must be said, those people who put some thought into their profiles, show they have some education and tell me something about themselves are much more likely to grab my attention.