I've thought a while about what to write here. I’ve decided the best thing to do is answer those first questions we all ask when we message someone on an app post the initial “hello.”

Question 1) What are you looking for? 

The short answer is that I’m hoping for a long term relationship with someone who’s kinks overlap my own. 

The longer answer requires in-depth conversations, time getting to know each other, compromise and negotiation. While it’s tempting to describe a fantasy idealized version of a relationship, fantasy isn’t reality. Also, every relationship, but especially one involving kink, is a series of trial, error, and reevaluation. I could say I want to serve my Dom a drink every evening and let him enjoy it while I lick his boots. While that is a hot scene and one I’d gladly participate in, to say I want to do that every night would be unrealistic for a variety of reasons.

Question 2) What are you into?

Boot Worship

Nipple Play

Bondage 

Pits

E-stim (on the less intense side)

Edging

Sucking cock

Kissing

Open to more depending on my partner 

Question 3) What are your limits?

The things that shouldn’t need mentioning (animals, kids, scat etc)

Women, playing with married men, blood, permanent marks or damage, extreme pain, breath play, metal restraints on my wrists (ask me about it if you’re curious) 

About me outside of kink:

I’m a choral director and occasional organist. I primarily work for a church but teach some as well. I love coffee but don’t drink much of it anymore. I love the movies/movie theater. I enjoy cooking but hate cleaning the kitchen afterwards so I don’t cook as often as I should. I have three large dogs and two parrots.