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*** CS is being a pain again. No ability to add or edit journals, and punctuation getting stripped out of messages. Feel free to message me here or on FetLife under the same handle***
Im single, monogamous, and curious. Im also private, resistant to group-think, and happy in my life. Im kinky, but thats subordinate to so many other things that itll never be the thing I seek out in community. I prefer my kink one-on-one with the right person, never the right group. Outside of all of this, Im well-educated, funny, introspective. I spend time reading, enjoy photography and exploring new places, and learning to cook. Im a music junkie, a pet owner, and Im dying to travel more. Im laid back, enjoy exploring the city with my camera, and dont need a lot to have a good time. So Im looking for like-minded people, and Ill see what happens from there.
Im looking for friends, possible long-term monogamous playmates, and general surprises. In a partner or playmate, Im drawn to intelligent listeners, clever conversationalists, and questioners. I like and respect questions, though that does mean that you must also respect my answer and be prepared to answer mine.
Ive had subs and slaves before, and I believe that its a relationship that requires time to create. Im a sensualist, not a sadist, and I increasingly look for a balance of service and sexual submission. I dont assume youre going to call me Master or Sir in a matter of e-mails - and Id worry a little bit if you were inclined to. There are responsibilities on both sides, and I take mine very seriously. I ask a lot of those around me because I expect a lot of myself. I particularly enjoy the training and exploration of things through the use of rules, discipline, mental bondage, and hypnosis.
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For most people there is a word. A single word.
A word that starts you falling, letting go. A word that soothes you and reminds you what you are. What you need. What you're made for.
A word that makes you helpless. A word you crave.
If you listen, if you take a deep breath, if you sit still, you can almost hear it.
What is your word?
Tell me, and feel yourself dropping. Falling. Just as you need.
Tell me and perhaps I'll help you fall further Just as you are made for. |
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Funny that the journa feature should come back just as I'm finding myself wanting to experiment just a bit more than I've been able to with helping somoene into trance. There's something thrilling everytime I help someone settle their thoughts and slip down, so relaxed, into that other space.
It's hard to resist.
So why should we? |
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Your effort and focus are all that you have to show for yourself; that is how you can get me to want to be in your head, to master you.
Effort and focus are where it starts if you truly want this. |
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Not certain if the site is being wonky or if someone is actually requesting a video chat, but that's not going to happen unless we've already been talking and we've just agreed to try that out. |
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Audio journals never seem to upload properly for me anymore. A shame, as I had an idea I wanted to try out.
I'll just have to see if there's another, better way. Or if someone interesting volunteers to try it. |
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Just had a great conversation with my former slave. It gives me some hope about all these things. |
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Friend requests sent without us having actually talked will be rejected automatically.
And if you're trying to spark my interest from more than 20 or so miles away, expect that some early conversation will be about what you're willing to do in order to relocate. |
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I'm always drawn to those who are curious and who struggle with their curiosity.? People so often realize what they want - what they need and what they are - only to try to deny it.
To try to ignore it or push it to the side.? You can try to pretend.? And when they do, that desire only grows.? Only becomes more consuming.? It only fuels your passion and thrill all the more.? It insists and slips in.?
It can be a sensation.? A voice.? A loss of control.?? Obedience.
Struggle with it.? Try to deny it.? Hope you can ignore it. ?
You can't.
It won't be denied.?
You can't resist it.?
You need it.?
You feel it.?
You know that.? Tell me.
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I've been using the cellphone app Kik as a way to start off-CM conversations. If you're interested in talking to me long term, downloading it is a good way to plan ahead in hopes I decide I want to talk to you off of CollarSpace. |
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Just saw this - http://hystericalliterature.com/
- and I know exactly what I'd have you read in her place. And how.
And of course, I'm curious what you'd read for this and why. Would it be something that moved you? Something that was previously unrelated to this? What words would catch in your throat? What words would set you off? |
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The effort put into communicating - the attentiveness, the follow-through, and the necessary work to be open and engaging - are the best gauge of compatibility I've found. |
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"...It is not the ghost, it is not
the one who once stopped
at your window.
I knock down the door,:
I enter all your life:
I come to live in your soul:
you can not cope with me.
You must open door to door,
you must obey me,
you must open your eyes
so that I may search in them,
you must see how I walk
with heavy steps
along all the roads
that, blind, were waiting for me..."
- from "The Question" by Pablo Neruda |
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And now I've added an audio greeting. I'm intrigued by the audio journal feature and might explore using it if it seems like it draws the interest of people I might actually get involved with.
Let me know if you use them or listen to them. |
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Added a couple of heavily photoshopped images that have been sticking in my subconscious. Enjoy! |
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Starting to plan my summer trip - if you're in another country, and you catch me checking your profile, it is because I'm thinking of visiting and am trying to get some sense of the place rather than thinking about kinky adventures - thinking about a good trip rather than a good time, if that makes sense. |
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Very irritating that returns don't seem to translate here. I'm turning into a grammar-nazi, and it frustrates me when I can't actually model the standards I'm setting. |
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It's strange, the lack of imagination I keep stumbling across. Stranger than the influx of people who switch daily from dominant to submissive and back again.
It's safe to say that if you don't have much imagination, we're not going to work. If you imagine there is only way for a Dominant to be - whether it is the way your last dominant was or the way you saw it in a movie or read it in a book - we won't work. I prefer to evolve in a relationship, to find new ways for my dominance to express themselves.
And that's what I'm hoping to find as I look here.
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Yes, I know I don't have a picture up.
I'm about to start my new job - the one I moved here for - and I
thought it might be best to play it safe for awhile. I'm willing to
share them once a little trust has been earned. So think of that lack
of a picture as a little reward you can work up to.
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The part that I miss is the training: helping someone become a better version of themselves than they can be on their own, to focus what they are and what they want to be.
I find myself missing those discussions about why this lifestyle matters, about how one comes to it, about what dominance and submission might mean to both people involved. I miss finding those boundaries - getting to understand someone and finding the best ways to push them. I love that moment when obedience becomes a pleasure in and of itself.
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To be clear: I put a lot of effort into communications here. And I put even more thought into what I expect from a submissive or a slave. My inclination is to discipline and psychological techniques, but as I'm getting to know someone, I craft the rules and expectations to both please me and suit their talents and needs.
I don't expect - and in fact, don't trust - immediate submission. But I do place high value on the ability to convey one's desire and capability for submission in even the simplest of tasks. Certainly, I look for it when someone communicates with me.
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| Age: 43 |
| Newark,
Delaware |
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