Thought I'd add some thoughts that broach the breadth of what this life can cover.
it's a complicated process getting someone's attention and then digging deeper to see the connection and if it fits.
Honesty is the best policy - especially in this lifestyle. That said what seems to be useful is getting to know the Dom/Master who expresses interest in you. Any good relationship takes time. And lifestyle D/s M/s is definitely a relationship when it is a 24/7 real life permanent thing.
Personally, once we are past getting your attention there's a lot of "normal" stuff that gets discussed (or should be). The first email or conversation may touch on the idea of owning, collaring or relocating or even a "poly" home and lifestyle. But one hopes there is an exchange of names and a mature, real conversation early on. If you're going to be with someone.. talk about food, background, cooking, gardening, art, music, books, etc. - after all it is life and living together.
I am looking for a kind and caring girl who is also obedient, caring, sweet, lovable, funny, perverted, sexually giving and fun to be with.
That said, there's a long list of bdsm things you should know about and be aware of. You're linking up to another person and there's fetishes and other kink that is a viable part of the life too.
So don't panic when you see a list. It's not a bad way to get your attention. Just remember there's more to it and I realize there is. give it some slack and openess and who knows...you may find something kinda kewl.
if you're looking for an honest Master to can share your life with and ready for long term relationship - here I am - I am artistic and creative - want to have adventures, with you including dancing, dressing you up - sexy, classy and /or vintage attire, curling up with a good book or a good movie with you, cooking with friends, listening to and creating good music - jazz to blues - to rock - to old school .. I have broad tastes - traveling, wine and tequila tastings, playing in the park, the opera, theater, going on nature walks. I am a down to earth person that has human feelings and believes the world should be a good place..
That said, I do have my BDSM side. I get asked my experience on this. here goes:
I use hypnosis to train - High on the list is TPE, leather toys for whippings, ring and other gags, pain (to our tolerance), caging, dildos and buttplugs, dilation, predicament bondage, leashes, posture collars, suspension, breast torture, humiliation, degradation and open expansion of your limits, cock worship, body modification, pussy and anal stretching, squirt as your throat is fucked, lactation a plus, hypnosis in and out of training,
MAYBE
gang bangs, needles Piercings,Hoods, latex, body suit
LESS LIKELY - pony girl
NEVER: NO hospitals, broken bones, death, permanent damage, scat (has bacteria - not healthy)
Now before you freak out, remember I've been at this over 20 years and I've done a lot.
Also to expand on the ever popular "what I do and don't do" list. - here goes:
Am into:
pet play- bondage - rough sex - rape play.
Brainwashing - flogging - shock collars for training - forced milking
role play- pregnancy risk - flogged into submission - Air suspension and whipped , Ass plugs and deep dildo penetration , Cages, cells , Being kept nude for days, being told what to wear , Being on display naked or not,wrists and elbows tied behind my back, arms pulled together so shoulders are straining, leaving mouth, breasts and throat exposed- gags.
Collars
- tattoos branding
- D/s 24/7
- Power exchange, total power exchange
- Risk-aware (accepted) consensual kink
- Consensual non-consent
- Rape role-playing
- Impregnation role-playing
- Lactation
- Abduction role-playing
- Protocols and high protocols
- Elegance and refinement
- Uniforms
- Costumes, dressing-up and cosplay
- Bondage
- Discipline
- Obedience training
- Chastity
- Orgasm control
- Orgasm denial
- Edge-play/edging
- Breath play
- Teasing
- Biting
- Hair play
- Hair pulling
- Scratching
- Marking
- Role-playing in general
- Obsession
- Possession
- Seduction
- Dancing
- Sensual dancing
- Sensual play
- Sensual domination
- Mental domination
- Intellectual domination
- Emotional domination
- Intelligence
- Humour
- Sarcasm
Maybe: gang bangs, swinging,
Don't do:
death, permanent damage, diseases, scat, vomit, guns, bows and arrows,etc.