Updated June 1, 2023. Still check in on this profile and email regularly but unless I have an important change to make, this will probably be the last update for a while due to the long delays in getting a profile approved. For the most up-to-date info, send me a msg.
36 years old, turning 37 in September. Never married, no kids, 5ft 9 and 175 lbs with no tattoos (though I have some I am considering at some point) or piercings.
Moved to Florida in 2019 and am currently a homeowner in Orlando-Celebration area so I dont think Im going anywhere for a while. Lived in PA most of my life but have lived outside of SEPA in TX, CA, NJ and now FL for most of the last 13 years.
By day, Im a Network and Systems Engineer. By night, though I have a pilots license and can fly, Im still just me. No super hero alter-ego, sad but true. I do have a kinky side though (hence why Im here) and I am constantly exploring my interests both inside and out of the kink community. It seems I may never find all of my interests, kinky or not, as the list seems to continue growing.
Outside of kink, my interests include IT, movies, flying, skydiving, scubadiving, sailing, pool, traveling, rock climbing and plenty of other activities. Pick something and chances are if I dont already know enough about it to have a conversation, Id be interested in learning more.
Its also somewhat of a life-gooal to eventually be semi-nomadic for an indefinite period of time, either travelling the country in a converted bus or van or sailing the globe in a deep-water live-aboard sailboat, maybe both. If that sounds like your type of adventure lets talk.
Ive been into kink for over half my life now but despite the long time period, I still consider myself somewhat of a novice, experienced enough to know better but inexeperienced enough that a lot of things are still new to me. The difference between having 10 years experience and having 1 year of experience 10 times of which Im in the later group and Im out of practice to boot. Many of my kink interests (most listed in my profile) remain unexplored either due to a lack of kink partners or partners without that particular interest.
I dont consider any of my kinks to be big, must-have deal breakers and with the exception of my listed hard-limits, Im probably open to exploring beyond my current list so dont be afraid to contact me if you see something that you know you dont like or if Im missing something you know you want. While I do tend to be more sensual and playful than sadistic, I do have some darker kinks too so just be upfront about it and know that while I might have interest in exploring it, it may take some time to build up to it, especially with new partners wanting to explore the heavier-darker side of things. In addition to my kink list provided, my bdsmtest (below) is a fair representation of many of the things I like from a psychological perspective.
Top Results from bdsmtest.org (Advanced ver, taken June 1, 2023)
97 Degrader
94 Rigger
92 Owner
90 Daddy-Mommy
87 Dominant
86 Master-Mistress
84 Exprimentalist
84 Brat Tamer
79 Rope Bunny
78 Switch
77 Pet
75 Brat
73 Sadist
All other categories are under 70.
Primarily here looking for a sub or slave though I am open to taking on other s-types (little, pet, brat, etc - fwiw, as noted above, the BDSMtest says Im more aligned with an owner or daddy than a master or dom) dependent on the specifics of what the s-type wants and needs.
Im looking for something serious and long-term hopefully leading to all the vanilla-life milestones we judge relationships by (e.g. marriage and kids). I see my ideal dynamic as being something resembling 24-7 by which I mean these are not necessarily roles we slip in and out of just for a scene or behind closed doors but while kink play may not necessarily be strictly confined to the bedroom, its not something we would do all the time either. I have no desire to regularly micromanage clothing, diet and make EVERY decision for my sub and my ideal partner will have thoughts, opinions and the ability to express those opinions at any time. It see it consisting more of a general deference to the dominants decisions (very traditional 1950s or european style with a male head of house) and the possibility of some light kink and-or power-exchange activities to be inserted at any time.
While I generally consider myself more dominant and score higher in these categories, I am open to continuing to explore my switch side within the Ds dynamic with the right partner.
I am also open to being contacted by anyone for any reason whether it be to have a kink buddy or friend, vanilla buddy or friend, mentor or mentee, play partner, serious relationship, etc. I will however note I am heterosexual and not interested in male play partners.
While I think this covers a good bit about me and what I like-dislike, there are a few kinks that there just werent good options for either on CS or BDSMtest that Id like to call out as they are about as close as I get to a must-have deal breakers.
- I put exhibitionism and public play on my dislike list because I dont really like exposing myself or my partner in public but I DO LOVE stealing intimate private moments in public when no one is around or looking. Be it a hand under clothes, a grope of the butt or breasts, an order to remove undergarments while at the table, etc. Possibly a more daring sex act of some type with the right amount of privacy. I like how it reinforces the sense of ownership knowing that I can do or make you do what I want where I want. The social taboo and risk of exposure also adds some excitement.
- While I DONT act in an overtly primal way, I do find myself capitvated by some baser primal urges and the cross-section with being in public. For example, I love marking my subs, at least temporarily, in some way. A collar is the most visible (subtle day collars are ok) but there are several other methods less visible (hidden or partially hidden hickies and other marks or bruises) or even invisible to everyone else (watersports, scenting, going out after sex without cleaning up, etc). Basically my primal urges are something like a dog marking his territory and again feed into #1 and the feeling of ownership.
- Last, I consider myself mostly-monogamous personally. I have little interest in having multiple partners and I dont want my partner to have other male partners. That being said, I do like to encourage my partners to find a female partner to explore any bi-tendencies they might have or want to explore. I would be uncomfortable with my partner having more than that 1 additional female partner though. I would normally expect that relationship to be kept mostly separate. I would want to meet my partners partner, hopefully be on friendly terms with them and be able to participate in some joint social activities but an intimate relationship with them is not something I would personally seek out or require of my parnter and to whatever extent that you want to have one-on-one time or keep that relationship separate is fine. I am still a red-blooded male however, so if my partner and her partner decided they wanted to share me for some play or otherwise have a true 3-way relationship, I wouldnt be against it on principals alone though again I wouldnt be the one to initiate and there would be much more discussion around such an arrangement before it happened.
If any of this long rambling profile is of interest to you, feel free to message me and if not, then I wish you the best of luck in finding whatever it is you are looking for.
