Somebody said, Cathy? oh she? she is just a slave.
I wake up in the morning and one of my first thought is about her. I usually touch her face and nibble on her ears. She moans and smile comes to her face. She mumbles that she loves me. I grumbles the I love her. she turns and cuddles against me and go back to sleep. I lay there for few more minutes and admire her in her sleep. Then I nudge her again. She stretches like a cat, her curvy body makes the room look bright. She makes my day just being there. Yes, she is just a slave.

 I go to the bathroom. She already have my clothes laid out on the bed. We get ready for the day. She lays out my vitamins, herbs and whoknowswhat. She has a full glass of water next to my medicines. Yes, she is just a slave.

We usually go out for breakfast. I make sure she eats even when she says that she is not hungry. But once food is there, she eats it all. We talke about things. We make our schedules for the day. We discuss matters which need to be discussed. I give her list of things to do for the day. She reminds me of things which I tell her to remind me. Yes, she is just a slave.

We go out in the corral and let the animals out. I feed Bumble, my dog. She fusses around the corral and talk constantly. She is always excited about this part of the day. Her mind goes "ninety to nothin', " this time of the day. The mornings are crisps and air is clear. The sun is bright. The trees move with the wind and grasses do their stationary dance with early morning breeze. The day is better because of her in it. Yes, she is just a slave.

When she prepares breakfast at home, she sets my plate. She put food in it. She slathers jam on the toast, make my coffee with the right amount of cream and sugar. Then she stirs my cup the way she has been doing it for a long time. She sets the cup in front of me. Then she fixes her plate. I say few words before we start. Then we enjoy our breakfast. Food tastes delicious and life feels good because of her. Yes, she is just a slave.

In those moments when patience is not on my side and I am in a hurry and she is not understanding me, she absorbs the words and gestures. She wants to say things but she does not. She asks permission to give me additional information. Sometimes I grant it and sometimes I decline. Either way, she is by my side. Things settles down and they look clearer and better. She is the reason for them. Yes, she is just a slave.

We do our ritual in the morning, the simple ritual of collar. She kneels in front of me. I clasp the collar around her neck. I put my hands on her shoulder and close my eyes. Then I put my hand on top of her head as a gesture of protection and love. The world stands still for us in those moments. Then I raise her up and we embrace and kiss and hold each other tight. These are the moments when I ask and obtain consent for this day and for the night to follow and to the next morning when cycle repeats itself. There are no words spoken. Just our spirits and souls. Yes, she is just a slave.
I make sure she has plenty of sleep. I check if she eats enough. I do my best to calms her worries and concerns. She is the most treasured person in my life. Yes, she is just a slave.

I seek her advice. I ask for her opinion. I value her thoughts. I treasure her input. She is my rock. She is my center. She is my catharsis. She is my anchor. I am her master and she is mine. This "just a slave" enriches my life, my body, my mind, my spirit and my soul.

Reposted  from Bruzzi87. 

I hope this helps sub/slaves from those who prey on our lifestyle.

(HNG = Horny Net Geeks)

          The Acid Test!

Test #1: When in doubt, throw it out! Don't waste your time with people that make you feel uncomfortable. Even if the guy was a real Dom, if his personality makes you feel uncomfortable, he's not going to be fun to play with.

Test #2: "You'd better call me Sir!" is the mating call of a HNG or control freak. Real Doms don't have to ask for titles, we earn them. Most real Doms will say things like "Please, call me Mike..."

Test #3: "I want you to take my collar before you play with me." This is another common demand of fakes, most often made by control freaks. They have to isolate you from other people and their advice, and sometimes a little ole "cyber-collar" is just the thing! Cyber-collars are worth less than the leather required to make one.

Test #4: If you get an Instant Message that says something like "On your knees you [slave, slut, bitch, whore, etc.]" This person is an HNG. Use some common sense here. Why waste time with somebody that's not even polite? There's a time and a place for these endearing terms, and it isn't online!

Test #5: "I don't have to answer that question!" or "It's not proper etiquette for you to ask a Master that." These are examples of some the dangerous lies that control freaks and snerts use. This is the Acid test I personally think is the most important! A Dom had better be ready to at least try and answer every question you have, and honestly at that! It's literally your ass that's on the line! Never forget this!

Test #6: "It's my way or the highway!" or words to that effect, are the mating cry of the common control freak. Doms can have limits too, but it's your limits that count FIRST. Don't let any would-be "Dom" tell you differently. Don't let any of the wannabe subs tell you differently either. Where Male Dom/fem sub play is concerned, it's always lady's choice!

Test #7: Don't bother with online collars. Don't make decisions about a prospective partner based on his online play style. It's a very simple test if you think about it: Would a real-life Dominant waste much time on cyber sex and cyber domination? Please take my word for it; The answer is no. Forget it, once you've done the real thing, cyber is just too damn dull.

Test #8: Ask your prospect if he's ever made any mistakes during a scene. If he says "no," run for your life! If he says, "very rarely," at least be suspicious. Everyone makes mistakes, even if they are experienced and skilled. Sometimes submissives have limits they don't even know about, and even the most careful and skilled Dom in the world will trip over these occasionally. Remember, according to our good friends of the Christian faith, the last perfect guy to walk this planet got nailed to a tree for his trouble. So expect competence, but not miracles.

Test #9: "I'm a [bank president, captain of industry, combat photographer, self-made millionaire... yadda yadda yadda.]" Wouldn't it be nice to meet a rich Dom too? Sure it would! But use some common sense. How many captains of industry have hours to spend in an AOL chat room? Also, think about this personality profile; If this super successful, always-in-control person is really into BDSM, he's likely a submissive! Worse yet, it could very likely mean he is a control freak. I have met a lot of submissives that fit this ambitious profile, but not one Dom yet!

Test #10: "I'm 33 years old, and I've been a Master for 15 years." Gimme a break! What are the odds? When you ask about a Dom's level of experience (and it's a good idea to do so) remember to do the math as well. 18-year-old boys don't care about the intricacies of BDSM; they want to get laid. Trust me on this one Ladies, I was an 18-year-old boy once! I personally believe that people do become what they are (be it gay, straight, Dom or sub) very early in life, but it takes maturity and training to be a Master. What are the odds a person became a Master when they were still using Clearasil?

Test #11: Ask for references! Especially if he claims to be "very experienced." Talk to the references on the phone. Lots of HNGs have female screen-names set up to act as "references" for them! I notice that a lot of newbies seem to have trouble with this concept. Which is understandable since in the vanilla world it's considered rude to talk to a guy's ex-girlfriend. However, in the BDSM scene it's the opposite; experienced Dominants should accept and accommodate this kind of request gladly.

Test #12: "I have three real-life collared slaves right now, but you can't talk to them." OK, when you consider the ratio and all, this sounds possible. What makes this an acid test failed (and failed miserably at that) is the last part. I have met couples (and even triads) that really were looking for an extra person to add to the mix. This is not uncommon at all in the scene. But these couples were looking together. If a "Dom" has anyone already collared to them, you probably ought to talk to her first!

Test #13: "I don't need safewords." Well of course he doesn't! If he said this he's likely a snert and therefore he's never really been in a scene! Of course he might be a predator too, and then he wouldn't need safewords either. Need I say more?

Test #14: "My slaves trust me to set their limits for them." If you hear a "Dom" say this it's most likely because these slaves only exist in his mind. Or worse still, his "slave" is simply the victim of spousal abuse. Even so-called TPE (Total Power Exchange) and other sorts of 24/7 (i.e. full time) BDSM relationships should involve careful and thorough negotiation.

Test #15: "I'm married, my wife can't know about us" If I have to explain this one to you, you've got problems. I have played with many married submissives in my time, but only with the express permission (and more often than not, participation) of their husbands. Safe BDSM requires complete honesty. You can't build a good scene on lies. There are plenty of people that will be willing to tell you differently; but please note, they will all turn out to be adulterers (and hence, liars) themselves.

Test #16: Insert your own Acid Test here: You will learn much from your mistakes and missteps. If you form an online contact with a "Dom" that falls through, analyze why it fell through. Don't make the same mistakes twice if you can help it.

I've decided to start a journal in the hope that perhaps someone, some where may gain insight and knowledge they need to live a better life.

I will start with the basics:

The fact that truth, perspective and perception are all derived from information we gather in our lives as individuals. Who we are is the sum of our experiences plus our natural given attributes and the choices we make for ourselves.

Do you know who you are?