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Under reconstruction. We have wide ranging interests intellectually. We desire a sub, looking for a lifetime commitment, who actually has an intellect and thoughts. We don't play games. We are here for friends, and like minded people. What I am about as a Master; my woman is mine. Correction and discipline will be applied at my discretion as needed for maintenance, and protection of the relationship. We both like quiet and peaceful times around a fire, watching the stars, camping and interesting conversation. We fish, hunt, garden, and choose to live minimally. It is a Dom's purpose, and drive in life, to look at the abilities and needs of those under him, working to guide and build them from the point where they are when they come into his life, to give them the confidence, security and safety to be the best they can be based on their needs and desires. Not their wants. Sometimes what they want isn't the best for them. We have stepped out of the paradigm: ( "In almost every act of our lives, whether in the sphere of politics or business, in our social conduct or our ethical thinking, we are dominated by the relatively small number of persons [...] who understand the mental processes and social patterns of the masses. It is they who pull the wires that control the public mind, who harness old social forces and contrive new ways to bind and guide the world." Edward Bernays 1928) by the father of propaganda.

We look for someone who knows there is more to life than we have been allowed.
To us many have accepted the common, shallow and plain. The heart is where beauty originates.

We are looking for one who seeks something different.
Those who want a sense of belonging, being a part of something real, with meaning and sustenance.
A desire to learn is a requirement as ignorance is highly irritating to me.
“Universal literacy was supposed to educate the common man to control his environment. Once he could read and write he would have a mind fit to rule. So ran the democratic doctrine. But instead of a mind, universal literacy has given him rubber stamps, rubber stamps inked with advertising slogans, with editorials, with published scientific data, with the trivialities of the tabloids and the platitudes of history, but quite innocent of original thought. Each man's rubber stamps are the duplicates of millions of others, so that when those millions are exposed to the same stimuli, all receive identical imprints. It may seem an exaggeration to say that the American public gets most of its ideas in this wholesale fashion. The mechanism by which ideas are disseminated on a large scale is propaganda, in the broad sense of an organized effort to spread a particular belief or doctrine.”
Edward L. Bernays, Propaganda

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2/24/2018 8:51:32 PM
Why stay in the shallows? An acquaintance once said to me,"he and his woman were getting married. Being I, he was asked "who is marrying whom?" "We shall marry each other,' says he. "Impossible, she either marries thee, or thou doest marry her. Doest thee see marriage is an acceptance of one into another" says I. Says he, "that's too deep." True story! Answers abound. Is the tree married to the earth, or earth to the tree?

2/24/2018 6:38:27 PM
It amazes me how many intelligent and capable people never give enough thought to understand a Dominant, Master or husband Can Not Ever be married! If he is married he Is Not a Dominant, Master or husband. In my 48yrs I have only known 4 who have understood it. One of those being my wife after being shown. Such a lonely world. Such a tragedy words get bandied in cheapened ways sullying such a wonderful state of being.

2/22/2018 3:24:19 PM
First, I'm picky, experiences in life have allowed me to, usually, read the real person behind the words and comments, and we are looking for something specific. With that said; it amazes me there are so few heartfelt profiles here. Having been here a few years now, I have read very few profiles which show femininity. There are few that show genuine care for anything but themselves. There are a some looking for a real relationship, half seem to be phishing profiles. How many women still maintain a truly feminine heart. Edit: for the last year the same profiles have shown up in my searches. I decided to read journals being posted and see multitudes posting whose profiles match search parameters. What is up? Are there that many who list their profiles as hidden?

1/31/2018 8:28:47 PM
What is with CS?
There are many profiles showing up wanting relyfe programming and it started with one. 

Any skilled psychologist will tell you you can't remake some one and change who they are as it claims. 
Face Palm



1/4/2018 10:31:51 PM
As I have gotten time since I created this account I have perused the site, read. Lots of fakes.
What is with those who create so many profiles? 
Why? What benefit do you get out of it?
Then why friend yourself with those profiles?
Then, why do the stupidest thing, and make almost all of those from the same state?

Makes no sense to me.






1/4/2018 10:07:20 PM
Inundated in insipid inanity.

So much more I would like to say.....

7/29/2017 10:30:15 PM
Love this quote.
I Think;
Therefore I don't have
much in common
with a lot of people.


5/5/2017 10:15:26 PM
For what should I write a long letter to try and convince one to write to me? Isn't this the opposite of what a Dominant should be, i.e., catering and vying for constant attention?

Doesn't the leader of the pack remain slightly aloof and withdrawn?

A world of such awkward backwardness.

12/4/2016 5:51:14 PM
Is collar space ever going to fix this website?
Can't get anything to hardly work right.

11/24/2016 5:43:47 PM
What's up with collarspace. All likes, loves and dislikes have disappeared and no matter what can't get them to show.

10/16/2016 3:36:55 PM
Profiles: I understand referring to your qualities, and what you seek. But, anyone who believes they are already trained, are simply playing a game with those who have no true idea about the lifestyle or people. If there was training it's only applicable to the previous Master/Dominant. Every M/D is different, will have different requirement and proclivities, therefore you will have to learn all new rules and ways. Does anyone really believe all M/D are going to be exactly alike? Another thing, "had ___ numbers of Masters just recently released and seeking another." Only happens in play. If you truly have had a Master or Dominant you won't walk away so easily. Most who have had a true Owner must be released slowly and often need said Owner's help. If you can walk away so easily I would have questions about your ability to bond. Enough.

10/7/2016 4:34:03 PM
I can understand someone not wanting to put up a real photo. I don't have one here either, but to say you demand honesty and have a photo lineup of a porn model, or a picture stolen from some off the wall newspaper in podunkville.... your profile is immediately hidden from view.

Even if you aren't stating you want honesty by putting up a photo, or many, of some one else it gives the assumption they are looking at you. Dishonesty from the start.

Another; if the majority (or in some cases all) of your lives for and loves are fine dining, travel, coffee shops, shopping, bar hopping, clubbing, movies, theater, opera, raves to name just a few; off my list. 

Do you really think a man with a modicum of self respect is going to want such a headache?  

This is the real world and it gets rough.

As picky as I am I thought to create a profile, on the possibility there would be a more diverse and therefore greater chance of finding a match.

After spending some time reading profiles and checking things out it seems there isn't much to appeal here.

10/3/2016 5:23:12 PM
I have looked this site over, been observing for a little while. Taking a pulse one could say. One thing I have noticed are many subs/slaves demanding honesty because they are real.  

Really? You are a sub or a slave who wants an honest Dom or Master with real pictures on a profile because yours are??? and there are many like this. 

Yet your profile pictures are of porn stars, stolen from news papers, or elsewhere on the internet and you have the audacity to Demand honesty and complain about pseudo-Doms who hit you up?? BAAAhaaaahaha

10/3/2016 4:53:09 PM
I wonder if there were a needle dropped in the haystack. 
Perhaps it's time for an electromagnet.
Undecided

10/1/2016 8:39:08 AM
When there is disagreement one or all parties involved don't understand the issue or are debating a fake issue. Truth is truth, non debatable.

9/28/2016 7:19:29 PM

Life and Existence

 
A short study I placed upon myself today.

We assume we know the difference between living, existing and death? Often others, or ourselves, may have said, "it's just life," "I want to live my life," but just what is life, and  how do we know when we are living or existing? 

So there are no assumptions about the meaning of living and existing let's look at the true meanings of the words etymologically.
live (v.) Old English lifian (Anglian), libban (West Saxon)"to be, be alive, have life; continue in life; to experience," also "to supply oneself with food, procure a means of subsistence; pass life in a specified fashion," Proto-Germanic *liben (source also of Old Norse lifa "to be left; to live; to live on," of fire, "to burn;" Old Frisian libba, German leben, Gothic liban "to live"), from PIE root *leip- "to remain, continue" (source also of Greek liparein"to persist, persevere;

exist (v.)c. 1600, from French exister (17c.), from Latin existere/exsistere "to step out, stand forth, emerge, appear; exist, be" (see existence). "The late appearance of the word is remarkable" [OED]. Related: Existedexisting.

Existence: present participle of Latin existere/exsistere "stand forth, come out, emerge; appear, be visible, come to light; arise, be produced; turn into," and, as a secondary meaning, "exist, be;" from ex- "forth" (see ex-) + sistere "cause to stand

As can be seen live, exist and existence are an action. Experience. Remain. Continue. Emerge. Appear. Step out, Stand forth. Etc.

From these definitions; it can be seen if we go through our days and aren't present in the moment we do none of these, therefore life is living us, and we are quite literally, at it's mercy. We are simply passive, owned entities (things) being ridden by existence. If, or when, one becomes owned by life they will only know the bitterness to which life directs them.
Instead of riding and directing our life we have turned over the reins to...... Employer. Traffic. Worry. Hurry. Fear!! all these and many others keep our focus on everything but the moment. How many always hurry from one place to another. If one does they will be so busy trying to 'get there' they have just missed much time of a finite life.

Too often we push, Employer, Traffic, Worry, Hurry, Fear,  to stand forth before us, giving it life and existence, in so doing negating our lives, autonomy, and become owned thereby. When we have done thusly we then have a leaving* of life and existence. *(Leave: to let remain or have remaining behind after going, disappearing,ceasing, etc)

If we want life to be our own we must stand forth, arise, and experience life to live or  have an existence. The only other options are a leaving then death.

When we are cognizant, and alive we know a day comes which comes to all and choose to have an existence, to live by fully, richly, joyously and appreciatively stepping forward to savor the sweetness of what life offers us daily.

However, when one has taken a leaving this idea of death has no reckoning, for it is overridden by fears of what may be; hurry, to get where one wants, missing all in between; Worry, of what would others think and only know and taste the bitterness of what existence and life direct its puppets towards.
  
I have often wondered if there is an allegory being laced within zombie movies. They have become so proliferate. Walking dead wanting to eat the brains of  the living so the living will no longer think.  I believe there to be truth in this for when one who doesn't think is confronted with the truth; and are unable to escape the teller; they will attack in an attempt to force the teller into conformity with their way of thinking

When any let fear, worry or hurry take control they have ostracized (to banish," literally) themselves from being able to live a life and create an existence, literally an emergence into living. 

To live life means to emerge into, stand forth to claim what is there to experience.

“If we are not ashamed to think it, we should not be ashamed to say it.” 
― Marcus Tullius Cicero



“For whoever is joined with all the living, there is hope; surely a live dog is better than a dead lion. For the living know they will die; but the dead do not know anything, nor have they any longer a reward, for their memory is forgotten. Indeed their love, their hate and their zeal have already perished, and they will no longer have a share in all that is done under the sun.” 

© 2016 restful1/surjourner


9/28/2016 5:22:59 PM
“If we are not ashamed to think it, we should not be ashamed to say it.” 
― Marcus Tullius Cicero


9/27/2016 7:10:11 PM
It's understandable, this being a "dating" site, some one would want to put their specific kinks on. However, Hopefully, you are a summation of more than those. Being a sub or slave entails much more than sex and serving, such is a part of you, but it isn't, nor will it be, all of you. Who you are, and your mind, is what will get, and keep an intelligent mans attention.

9/24/2016 2:20:57 PM
I understand this is a 'dating' site, but when all lists of, Lives For, Loves, etc are all about spending money what is the purpose. Really? Such will only attract dregs.

9/23/2016 7:04:08 AM
Whether female or male, looking for awareness and intelligence, at the least an interest.

Who knows the difference between schooling and educating, School/Education? 

Anyone?

9/21/2016 6:34:16 PM
Love her form of writing, reasoning and the fact she is aware:

http://www.gbt.org/text/sayers.html

First paragraph:
"That I, whose experience of teaching is extremely limited, should presume to discuss education is a matter, surely, that calls for no apology. It is a kind of behavior to which the present climate of opinion is wholly favorable. Bishops air their opinions about economics; biologists, about metaphysics; inorganic chemists, about theology; the most irrelevant people are appointed to highly technical ministries; and plain, blunt men write to the papers to say that Epstein and Picasso do not know how to draw. Up to a certain point, and provided the criticisms are made with a reasonable modesty, these activities are commendable. Too much specialization is not a good thing. There is also one excellent reason why the veriest amateur may feel entitled to have an opinion about education. For if we are not all professional teachers, we have all, at some time or another, been taught. Even if we learnt nothing--perhaps in particular if we learnt nothing--our contribution to the discussion may have a potential value."

Where have all such thinkers gone?

9/20/2016 8:04:50 PM
Nietzsche, wrote of overman, superman (Übermench), philosophers seldom consider he had read the bible and his speech of Übermench agrees with that of Tanach, as well as much native American understanding. "Man is a rope, tied between beast and overman--a rope over an abyss..What is great in man is that he is a bridge and not an end: what can be loved in man is that he is an overture and a going under..." 

His discussion of the overman coincides with indigenous philosophy of mans' nature; two wolves, the bad being the beast, the good being overman, while we ourselves are stuck in the middle until we make the choose; andMartin Heidegger's, "In one's concern with what one has taken hold of, whether with, for, or against, the Other, there is constant care as to the way one differs from them, whether that difference is merely one that is to be evened out, whether one's own Dasein has lagged behind the Others and wants to catch up in relationship to them, or whether one's Dasein already has some priority over them and sets out to keep them suppressed. The care about this distance between them is disturbing to Being-with-one-another, though this disturbance is one that is hidden from it." 

9/20/2016 6:21:57 PM

A poet said to Fadl al-Sha’irah:
They said, “You love a girl too young.”

I said, “The best mount is unridden, unyoked;
What a difference between a pearl that’s drilled and strung

and one that’s still unpoked!”


Fadl responded:

"Riding is no pleasure till

the mount’s been broken to your will.

And pearls are useless to their owners

until they’re drilled and strung."




9/19/2016 7:05:42 PM
I have been told I am intimidating, especially intellectually. I challenge, question and make one question tightly held beliefs. Such is the purpose of a Dom, and any one who cares about others. Giving a true understanding and acceptance of themselves and the world.  

As one who has, observed, studied, critiqued,  human nature and psych, from a very early stage in life............

We are interested in some one tangible, in the original meaning, preferably female, a special asset to be cherished today, yet also concede such may not be found here.



9/19/2016 2:30:36 PM
Ancient Kemetic and Egyptian traditions: ignorance is evil, it is the essence of evil to ignore truth.  Ignorance is Death.

A tree is embedded, joined, immersed into the earth, receiving its sustenance, guidance, and light, of the sun, at earths will. The tree is married, the earth is there!

The earth is embedded, joined, and enmeshed with the sun, not the sun to the earth. The earth is married, the sun is there!



9/19/2016 10:06:52 AM
What is so hard about understanding it is an impossiblity for two people to marry, only one is actually being or getting married??😒 Everyone knows the truth subconsciously, which is the reason for such dissonance, and relationship failure.

9/18/2016 12:24:03 AM
Life has brought me many experiences some would say are impossible, or would never believe, unless they were there. These experiences have allowed me to see the world from a perspective outside of many erroneously postulated cultural conclusions. 

Experience and knowledge has led to an isolated and segmented connection with peoplekind, for I have yet to find anyone who can relate or discuss all things except my woman. One understanding can be discussed with one person, another knowledge or understanding with another person. Almost all, except a good sub, has only increased my cynicism. Sealed



8/27/2016 11:08:39 PM
Knowing there are those who hold different morals than I is to be expected, because few devote themselves to "Stand in the road, and take heed, and ask for the tracks of old, where is the best way, and go forward there, and you will find rest for your souls."

What is disturbing is an entitled mentality permeating an upper echelon trickling down to their slaves.

Who goes around, even in jest, and demands someone turn over to them what rightfully belongs to, or is claimed by another? Should I go up to a stranger out of the blue, and demand they give me their house?

Such deplorable manners. Did give me a good laugh. 






8/26/2016 11:25:50 PM
As a Dom we are to look out for the safety, health, and well being of our submissive.

A question to all the Doms who have submissive, especially male subs; Orgasm denial in a session is understandable, but to deny days and weeks on end is detrimental to the physical health of the sub later in life. Is this something not well known or just not considered?

8/25/2016 9:40:07 PM
I am sure some one has addressed this before: A sub and a slave are two totally different things.

A sub can be a no limit sub. A sub can be owned as well as a slave can be owned.

For the sake of brevity:  A sub is subservient to: A slave places themselves underneath.

A slave is there for the Master and is an object (although a good Master will base decisions on what his slave needs)!

A Master/Dom is there for what is best for both himself and the sub. What most today consider a good sub was simply a good wife 100 years ago.

Undecided



8/24/2016 7:15:56 PM
I have perused many profiles trying to get a feel for this site.

Sometimes accidentally looking at profiles several times by mistake, or comparing wording to others.

I have come to the conclusion roughly 1/3 are fake; too many profiles have the exact wording, but different preferences, some even from other countries.

Really??

If you are real use your own words as hard as it may be. Just be yourself.

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GiddyRabbit
 
 Age: 26
 Bourgongne, France