Worst Date Ever:
First of all, I think this trend of internet dating (both vanilla and kink) where you meet first, maybe for coffee or a drink, before deciding to go out is horrible. If you can’t commit to an hour and a meal based on my profile then why are you talking to me at all? You are not worth my time. I am not a gold digger (and if I were one, a meal isn't going to cut it anyway, lol) but I deserve some basic respect as a woman and I am just old fashioned enough that I think the guy should buy the first time. It doesn’t have to be a fancy or expensive but it should not be McDonald’s either.
Anyway, I agree to meet this possible new Dom. He asked me to wear something revealing. I dress pretty conservatively and don't really have any public clothes that are revealing (private is different, lol) but he insists. So, I grab a fancy bra and a sheer overlay top. Then put on my jacket and swear I won't take it off all night.
Strike 1 – We are making plans and he says, let’s just meet for a drink first. I hate that but I go along with it. After all, I don’t want to marry the guy.
Strike 2 – He asks about local places as he is coming up from Denver and doesn't know the area. I tell him that I don’t drink but there are a dozen restaurants with nice bars within a few block of my house. He comes back with a bar a few miles away that I have never heard of. I look it up and it is a little out of the way dive bar. Not really first date territory but I think he is testing my obedience and say sure. He ignored the fact that I don’t usually drink which I could live with. I have had men take me to bars before, but usually a restaurant bar where we can talk quietly in a corner. I have even had Master take me to a strip club before but never felt neglected at all. And if I am comfortable with the guy, I might actually have a drink.
Strike 3 – I show up and he is hunched over his phone playing a game. I walk up and say his name and hello. He looks up, says hi, and goes back to his game. As he is playing he says he can’t stop at the moment or he will lose his score. I order a diet coke from the bartender and wait.
Strike 3 – One of the guys playing pool shouts over that it is his turn. He shuts off his phone (I guess pool rates higher than wooing a possible new sub) and says he entered a tournament while waiting for me, despite me actually being 5 minutes early. Sigh I guess we are going to be here for a while. But it is a dead night with only a few people and low music so not too bad.
Strike 4 - I still have my jacket on and at one point while playing he asks me to unzip it to show him what I am wearing. I pull the zipper down enough to show him and he laughs and says that he just meant a low cut shirt and that I went overboard. I zip back up as he heads back to play pool.
Strike 5 – The pool tournament gets over an hour or so later but he only played twice so we had quite a bit of time to talk in between and he never got his phone back out. I start thinking, I like this guy despite the bad start, he must have been testing me. We get along until he mentions movies. I tell him I am a big movie buff but mostly sci-fi. He asks if I have ever seen his two favorite moves which I have not. He then tells me that I am not a movie buff if I have never watched them. He asks about music and I mention I prefer listening to audio books. He snorts at that. I do tell him that I like songs rather than genres and show him my favorite playlist of about 50 songs. He starts to pick it apart and mentions that his playlist is hundreds of songs. I actually have about 6000+ songs in my library, but decide it's not worth mentioning.
Strike 6 – We keep talking as the bar fills up and a live DJ shows up. It is Sat night after all. I think that we will be leaving now since it is hard to talk over the loud music. Plus a drunk decides this guy is his new best friend and starts talking to him from his other side. Since I can’t hear what they are saying, I just keep smiling and looking around. He turns to me and says he is going outside to smoke. I ask dumbly, “oh, you are a smoker?” We had talked about limits and I mentioned my asthma earlier in the day. But again, I am not marrying the guy so don’t protest. He goes outside and I stare at the muted TV.
Strike 7 – He comes back in and says “You look bored” No shit, Sherlock. I am thinking we will leave now to go someplace quiet to talk, maybe my place. But then he orders another drink…and another…and another. Finally I tell him that I have to go. I am supposed to pick up my kid at 10 and it is a little early but I have had enough. He pays the bill, I am sure my single diet coke in 3 hours was a hard hit on his wallet, and he walks me out to the car. He hugs me and kisses me and gives me a slap on the ass which I don't want or appreciate after being neglected and criticized all night.
Strike 8 – I get my kid home and am putting her to bed when he texts me that once I get her to bed, he will come over. I think, “Oh, yeah?” I don’t invite strange men over to my place with her there, not even with her asleep. Only very, very trusted and long term play partners. I tell him that I don’t think we were on the same page and it wasn’t going to work.
Strike 9 – he comes back with “We can at least play once and get wild” Not only no but No-fucking-way-in-hell no.
What the fuck is wrong with you, dude? Even for a vanilla date that would have gone down as a bad one.