Ten Commandments of Ownershi

1. I confirm that I am my master's slave.

2. I give my master the right to have power over me.

3. I recognize my servitude is not an actual slavery. My master does not (At least in a legal sense) own me. I am my master's willing slave.

4. Once I am not willing, my master no longer has power on me.

5. I will not abuse that, and neither will my master. Therefore, if my Master orders me to do something I do not want to do, then I will not threaten to leave my master. And also, on Master's end, if Master wants me to do something that I seriously can not bring myself to do, Master has no right to make me.

6. I confirm that we have a relationship.

7. If one person isn't having a good time in the relationship, the relationship is useless, and almost obscene. So therefore, my master must give and take, and I must give and take. My master gives me the pleasure of being a slave, and takes the pleasure of being a master. I take the pleasure of being a slave, and my master takes the pleasure of being a master. Just because my master is in a position of dominance, and I am in submission doesn't mean that my master can make me do something that I don't get pleasure out of in BDSM, or at least without making up for it.

8. I respect that on a legal, moral, philisophical, religious, platonic, and all levels that are not sexual, we are equals. Only in the time we have agreed on am I not equal to my master, and this is because I have let myself be small and my master has let become big. This is what makes the relationship equal.

9. I promise that I will not let being a slave ruin my self-confidence, and I hope that my master will not let Master's dominance inflate my master's self esteem.

10. I admit that if my master does not like this relationship anymore, or if I do not like this relationship anymore, I confirm the normal right to either end the relationship, or end the BDSM part of the relationship.

2: Never underestimate the healing power of a cuddle

3: He/She is more fragile than you think, fuck him/her hard but love him/her tenderly

4: Be patient. Until you enter into a relationship with a submissive, you have no more right to order them around than anyone else. Give your bottom time to get to know you and like what you are.

5: Be Humble. You may be Gods gift to the world, but no one needs to hear it or wants to hear it. You will have ample opportunities to show how good are.....and plenty of opportunities to make a fool of yourself.

6: Be Open. Although the top is classically considered to be the teacher in D/s and SM, you can always learn from your bottom, no matter how inexperienced. Be willing to learn from other Dominants who may have a totally different perspective from yours.

7: Communicate. You are responsible for finding out basic, essential information about the people you play with, such as experience, limits, likes and dislikes, and health information. Clearly spell out roles, rules, limits and contracts. Do not take for granted that your bottom instinctively knows ground rules.

8: Be Honest. If you lack experience in an area that your bottom would like to experiment with, be honest about it. Your partner has a right to know that. Be honest with yourself and take your submissive only to those levels at which you are completely in control of the situation. Safety should always be the first concern, taking priority over how hot a particular scene is.

9: Be realistic. End the scene with the bottom wanting more, not wishing there had been less. Remember that power, control, and sensitivity are the keys, not just the intensity of the situation.

10: Be Healthy. Like any strenuous activity, SM requires that it's participants be in top physical and emotional health. Many factors, including the amount you sleep, your eating habits, and your alcohol and drug intake affect your performance and endurance during a scene. If you don't want to accept the responsibilities, you shouldn't be playing the game.

11: Aftercare. No matter how hard or how softly you played. Remember the aftercare of your submissive.

12: Understand that your sub or bottom needs attention. Make them feel wanted and desired.

Things I Need from You as my submissive
I need you to feel safe. I need you to let go of your wants and desires, and know that I will to do what is best for you, when you give up control.

I need your trust. I don't expect you to give it blindly – I expect to earn it. But without trust, you cannot surrender. Without surrender, you cannot grow.

I need you to feel secure. I need you to know that I'm not going to break your self-image without making sure that I build it back up stronger than before.

I need you to accept comfort. Sometimes you may crumble. I will be there to pick up the pieces, and to pet you as we continue on.

I need you to tell me about your weaknesses or brokenness. If you have triggers or fears, I need to know about them, to avoid them, or help you dispose of them.

I need your honesty. As our relationship grows, I need to know where your mind is going.

I need you to expect consistency. You are going to get the same reactions, expectations, and boundaries today that you got yesterday, or a year before.

I need you to accept gentleness. Sometimes I'm a sadist, and I do that quite well, but at the end of the day it is often more important to me to cover you in tender kisses, or run my hands gently across your soft skin.

I need you to relinquish control. I need you to give it up willingly, and to allow me to coax it away from you when you can't. Giving up control is a voluntary choice: Ultimately, you will either make that choice, or you won't.

I need you to accept praise. In order to accept praise, you must first accept that you are worthy of receiving it. It is my job to provide praise when you deserve it. It is your job to to believe it.

I need you to accept complements. If your self-image causes you to argue and evade when I tell you that you are beautiful, then you are simply negating the statements of someone who likes you enough to find you so, so that you can wallow in the fact that no one is found beautiful by everyone.

I need you to let go of your inhibitions. They are holding you back from understanding your true self, and holding you back from your submission. It's time to embrace sex as the dirty, sweaty, sticky thing that it is. I can lead you to freedom and experiences you've never imagined ...but I can't carry you there kicking and screaming.

I need you to need to learn and grow. Education, learning, and the ability to think clearly are very important to me. Learning never stops. If you don't believe this, we're not going to get along for long.

I need you to to accept being challenged. I do not expect to have a relationship with a passive person, I expect to have a relationship with a strong assertive person. I need you to stand toe to toe with me, because I expect you to be stronger after you interact with me, than before you met me.

I need you to surrender. Though I will lead you, I will never force you. I need you to come along willingly... or not go at all.