I was on the old "CollarMe" Web site for many years, and now, I am back.
I could give all types of B.S. that you would like to hear and what I can do, but this is my philosophy on these matters:
I believe you must design your life and your environment to create an atmosphere of trust to fulfill each others needs.
What a pet/sub/slave can be, the pet/sub/slave MUST BE.
It's not about the EVENTS, but the CONTROL.