There are no simple lives, and no simple people; and most of the time, most of us are uncomfortable acknowledging the veneer of our civilized lives as such. I seek a woman who is not merely curious, but craves to be lost . . . who desires to be bound, controlled, spanked and taken. I seek intimacy within the context of complete sexual and psychic surrender. It does not matter if you have no experience; however, if you do, I will take full advantage of this fact.

I seek a special person, who specifically desires a deeply Dom/sub relationship, and can enjoy and accept that I am looking for you as a confident expression of who I am, not out of unhappiness, or a sense of internal lacking that I hope you will fill. That said, there is an intense bond between a Dominant and submissive who have exchanged mutual trust. This is above and beyond marriage, or any other convention for which society has come up with.

To surrender takes courage. It is an act of immense power and vulnerability that can only be achieved by virtue of deep trust. It is the antithesis of violence and rape. It is a vehicle for powerful catharsis and serves as a source of balance for psycho-sexual expression in our own lives: It is a beautiful and sacred thing, of the earth and our darkest places. Its aesthetic is dark; but, in its sincere form, the exchange between Dominant and submissive is an interplay of sexual power, rooted in the light - that the vehicle for this experience is bondage and temporary pain only serves to increase its desperate urgency, and is not to be confused with suffering: it is an affirmation of my need to control, to Dominate, and a celebration of your need to submit . . . a symbiosis.

Tell me something about yourself. One's sexual power over another exists by virtue of the tacit consent of the one being overpowered. You need make no protestations, denials or qualifications to me. I also understand that you are neither a whore, nor necessarily outwardly slutty, but while I may know what you are NOT, I would know know something of what you are...Please do not ask me for more photos without providing your own; I will just assume you are man pretending to be a woman. Photos don't tell much anyway, much more can be learned over a cup of coffee or a glass of wine. I am in no hurry; I am not interested in having sex with you this Friday, or next week, or just once anonymously. I wish to seduce and enthrall . . .

I look forward to hearing from you