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LisanotSure

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For the sake of basic information (and those with short attention s), Im sub not slave (tbd), omnisexual and kinda cute! )



Oh and please dont ask me to chat, it reboots when I try to access chats.



Updated 05-20-17



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Updated my searching for to remove and add some of the categories. This is not to say that I am totally interested in the others, just that these are the categories that most interest me and that I have experience with. Switch and sub categories are marked more for conversation and connection, not that I am changing from submissive myself.



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Okay moved the more transient information to the journal where I feel it belongs, this will be about me and what Im looking for as that is fairly static information.

What I am not looking for is to be anyones whore, slut, booty call, one and done person. (At least until we know one another, then role play is totally acceptable.)



Im trying to be realistic and to be honest dont expect to find everything Im looking for in a dominant partner, but willing to try.



I am not a full time, fully transitioned person at this time. Im working towards that, but I am limited by several restrictions on my freedom. I will figure out work arounds and eventually (no dates in mind) get to that point. My main goal is balance within myself and happiness with my self picture. Yes, I know I have breasts and yes, they do sometimes create questions, but mostly society just doesnt even know how to deal with it or recognize what it might mean. So I skirt the edges of understanding in the vanilla world and make my way the best I can for now.



If you are dominant, respectful and know yourself, that should be enough to get us started. If you are fixated on visual stimulation and badgering me to upload pics or send you a slew of pics, well then that tells me something about you. Ill send upload pics when I feel the need and or the comfort level with this site to do so.




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12/21/2017 11:59:05 AM
Saw this on another profile and it touched me deeply.  Thank you for posting this in your profile!

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A Veteran is someone who at one point in their life wrote a blank check payable to the United States of America (and our allies) for an amount up to and including, their life. That is beyond honor and there are way too many people in this country who no longer remember that fact. Copy and paste this to your journal if you are a Veteran,... know a Veteran, Love a Veteran, or Support the Troops! May God Bless Them All!!

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8/5/2017 1:42:20 PM
   It never ceases to amaze me what people will put in their online profiles. This site is not as bad as some.  I have found phone numbers, addresses, first and last names (granted, these may be revenge / hate profiles) and the list goes on. Photos with car license tags showing, photos with bills laying exposed on the table, clothes strewn around the room in the background, trash the same way... 

   I sometimes don't understand people. You are trying to attract people or at least put your best foot forward. I guess maybe that is the best foot?  Scary.

Ok, going to check my pics to make sure none of the above applies!  >.<



7/21/2017 5:36:40 AM
I think maybe I should to move to Europe.



7/21/2017 5:33:37 AM
I ran across this profile and was touched by the insights and depth of character that this Domme showed through her post and profile.  I contacted her and asked to borrow parts to include in mine.  For the moment, I will include them here, but I am thinking that I may put them on the main portion as few tend to delve into journals (as far as I know).  So OneMoreAttempt  thank you for your profile and thank you for responding to my message. You are one of the good ones!  My words are in green for this post.

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Types of Slaves: 

  • Punishment slave: The primary purpose of this type of slave is to endure punishment for the pleasure of the Owner. This type of slave is often times trained for other activities such as sexual pleasure for the Owner and so on. Yet it must not ever be forgotten that the primary purpose of such a slave is punishment.
  • Pleasure/passion slave: The primary purpose of such a slave is to give pleasure to the Owner. Most often this is in sexual form with the interesting observation that this form of slave has 1 major difference from a punishment slave: A punishment slave is never allowed orgasmic pleasure whereas a pleasure slave is to have orgasmic pleasure (ONLY) for the enjoyment of the Owner. Many people who claim they are sex slaves do not understand the total role of a pleasure slave but are simply slaves to their own desires to not have to do anything in life except be used for sex. A true pleasure slave, like a punishment slave, is a vitally alive and thinking person who knows their basic purpose it to bring pleasure to their Owner.
  • Labor slave: Such a slave exists to work. Punishment is only given when the slave fails. Pleasure is not part of the life of this type of slave. This slave exists to labor for the pleasure of the Owner (be it at home serving as domestic, away for financial sustenance or both).  

Also, she highly recommends reading this: http://www.enslavement.org.uk/soyouwant Disregarding the pronouns, it gives a view of the type of relationship without the fantasy sugarcoat that seems so prevalent for many here.


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Great stuff!!  Thank you for letting me borrow your words!

6/30/2017 12:14:42 PM
Oops, wait a second, tis time to breath again... 
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It sounds funny, but that and standing are two things that I am reminded of several times a day. It's almost a game now that I am used to it. I try to anticipate standing time and stand before the reminder goes off.  Breathing on the other hand had become a favorite of mine, taking 1 minute to just stop, relax and breath slowly, no matter what I am doing is so very relaxing and just makes me feel good. 

So, now that I have forgotten about what this entry was going to be about, lol I will close with this. 

   Always take a moment here and there to just "be". Notice the things around you. "See" where you are and what you are surrounded by, feel the environment. 

xo




4/2/2017 6:16:57 AM
   I just had a run in with one of those people that always think they are right, no matter what. It is frustrating to deal with them. There is always an excuse or explanation about why they are right. It is almost comical.  Now this was not in a BDSM sense at all, but in everyday vanilla life.  In scene, then yes of course we go along and those are the rules. But in everyday life, vanilla life, ugh.

   I have argued and tried to show these people my side of the story for years, always frustrated at my inability to reason with them.  This year, I am trying a new tactic. Breathing. When it occurs, I just breathe.  I let it wash over me and through me, not letting it stay and touch me. I let it go, calmly breathe and feel myself roll through it.  So far, it is working.  I am eager to see how long it lasts though. 

xo


2/27/2017 5:23:06 AM
I am sorry but it just cracks me up when people complain about those that do not fill out their profiles and then do not do so themselves.

"I will get back to this later"  -  Really?  When and why wait?
"Interests do not show so here are mine"  -  There is a button to click... shows it all.
"No one reads these anyway"  -  True, most do not, but some (those worthy) do.

Just gets me. I guess those are the ones we need to avoid anyway. So, the joke is on them I guess. 

Anyway, rant over for today (so far, gawd it is only 8:23).

xo

2/26/2017 4:10:05 AM
 It is amazing how quickly time goes by.  I have not updated this profile in forever!  

Recently back on CS, have been having a hard time getting on the site over the past year, off and on, so I go away for a bit.  Back now and it seems to be working smoothly for the most part. Ready to renew online friendships and communications as well as find new ones.  Please do not hesitate to message me if you see something that you like or intrigues you. 

I look forward to enjoying this run and see how long the site stays up!

xo

10/22/2015 5:50:52 AM
I feel a rant coming on!  

   You can always tell when the retail holiday season is approaching. Not just the signs and displays, the inundation of mailers, those as well, but drivers start getting crazy.  It happens every year and gets worse the further into the holidays one gets.  Cutting off, not paying attention, driving slow in the passing lane, parking like a moron!  I had someone park so close to me that I was forced to climb in the passenger side as there was literally just inches from their vehicle to mine. (They had a ton of space on their drivers side being over the line into my space.)  I just do not get it. I tend to park at the far end of parking lots just to avoid these kinds of things.

   Ah well, on the plus side, this is also the time of year that many people start thinking about others.  Helping those who need it and giving a hand when we are able to do so.  I guess it balances out the lunacy of deteriorating driving skills!  

   I witness random acts of kindness all the time, but more so this time of year.  So definitely keep that up everyone and well done for doing so! It revives faith in the human spirit to see it and to pick my own random acts as chance permits.




10/18/2015 2:40:28 PM
  • They steal your pictures and block you. 
  • You are not what they are looking for, yet they contacted you and said they read your profile, but they are not interested after talking for a week and they block you.
  • They demand obedience after one message and when you ask for time to get to know the person, you guessed it, they block you (after insulting you of course).

I am just laughing because it is so what the internet is becoming. Maybe it has been all along, but there you go.  I would love to start a list, but that seems so wrong to do.  In any event, just a vent... 




10/13/2015 5:22:32 AM
As I'm sure some of you will say "Duh!"  I've decided to put it out there anyway. 

Fantasy

   Fantasy is something that excites us, something that is maybe dirty or extreme.  But, I've come to realize that some fantasies are just that and should stay that way.  Making fantasies come true is a power that some have to give, but the question is should you allow that person to help you make it true.  The answer, not always.  

   Found out first hand recently and while it was painful and a bit debilitating, I wouldn't take it back.  It was a vital lesson to learn (again) and one that hopefully won't need to be repeated again.

So, please be careful when you are working with your fantasies.  Be cognizant of the potential for pain and disappointment in the attempt or success of making them real.

xo
 

10/12/2015 2:07:43 AM
Hypnosis, yes I'm interested. Tried an online experiment, kinda sorta worked I think, but maybe not. Might have just been me wanting it to work. I didn't quack like a duck or anything, but compulsions set, didn't really hold beyond a day or so. I guess there needs to be ongoing reinforcement. That would make sense to me. We'll see, I want to give it a go again, but I think maybe in person is the way to go. Thank you so much for indulging my curiosity and everything we talked about. Our thoughts are in sync with the way things should be and I appreciate your time. You know who you are... Thank you again xo

10/8/2015 3:23:02 AM
Time for the cage again!  I love wearing my cage, it's like a caress all day long. (Well except when it pinches) But these are the prices we pay.  I decided to go ahead and add another pic to the list in the cage that I adore so much!  Go check it out and tell me what you think.

10/1/2015 6:08:30 AM
Some days you feel all is going well.  

Others, nothing goes right. 

Take the time to enjoy the days when all is going well or at least seems to be going well. These are the days you want to remember and rejoice in, bank these times for when it's not so good. It's hard right?  The bad days always seem to out weigh the good.  

But think about this, if you don't notice the good when it's there and make note of it, you won't remember it in a strong memory later. The bad days you always remember well, because they're bad.  So the seem to come more often and last longer.  

I'm here to tell you that's not the case and once you start recognizing the good days as special, you'll have stronger memories which will offset the bad ones, thus showing you the true balance of life.  The good usually matches or outshines the bad.

Think about it, try it. Then get back to me with Your results.

9/27/2015 11:21:28 AM
We tie ourselves down with so many ropes, bindings and chains, mostly mental but no less real for that, that it is amazing that we can move at all when we wish it.  Some are of our own making, others we allow to be placed upon us by the expectations of society and the vanilla world around us, none of them are good.  While we feel the definite need and comfort some of these provide, I have to wonder if they truly allow happiness or just the illusion of such. 

I have tried, as I am sure most have, to remove these on my own with limited success.  My respect and regard  for those who have been completely successful has no bounds.

Think on this when you approach someone, Dom(me) or sub(slave) or any in between and know that we each have our own battles that we are fighting with differing levels of success.  I salute anyone that is engaged in the struggle and know that even acknowledging those chains is victory!  Removal is just the reward for hard and dedicated work.



9/23/2015 12:55:41 AM
So far I must say that I've seen both of the extremes that I read about in others journals and profiles.  The picture collectors and the sincere.  I've had a couple of nice conversations via email and am currently having quite a nice discussion with a gentleman that is quite interesting.  Thank you all for making contact and taking the time to send me a note.

For those that have not gotten a response or have had their messages deleted unread, respect and intelligence, actually writing a message rather than a innuendo or sexual comment goes a long way to starting communication.  Save the extremely explicit and the demanding statements until after we've connected and you'll get a much better response to them.

9/23/2015 12:40:39 AM

Lots of emails :) and chat requests -.-  I'll respond to all those that I receive that are of substance.  One liners will probably be ignored unless your profile is interesting.

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So wow, my first week here and being semi flooded with messages with only one picture and nothing really in my profile.  I don't know if that bodes well for the sight or not.  I've had quite a few decent messages that I've replied to already and well we'll see where it goes.  I have, however not replied to all of you and if that's the case, You should read above again... 

 

 


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 Age: 23
 Long beach, California