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Hi my name is matt I have been a slave for 19yrs now. Thank you for stopping by and reading this if interested please contact me. I am a Male Masochist Slave puppy. I also do firefighting volunteer. I met someone on imvu and love her very much.

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6/16/2017 12:24:56 AM
Well pup is finally happy he met the woman of his dreams and the best owner ever she makes puppy very happy..the trust is there and pup is collared and owned by DommeKristine and very happy.

4/3/2017 9:47:08 PM
New entry... pup is very emotional pup. when someone trys to tell pup that he's wrong pup always makes sure that he's correct before ingaging in any fights.. but seems..some people not saying names want to hurt pup and yell at him... that's fine pup just wont come in the lobby no more pup will go to another chatroom where he is welcomed. seems pup isnt welcomed in the lobby when certain people are in there. so pup will either leave that lobby or just go off line. it will take pup a few days to get over this incident tonight.. guess for others they couldnt see that pup was calming down.. or controlling his bi-polar problems.. 

Everyone has there own opion on things. 

oh well pup will just cry and go to bed upset and in tears 

11/9/2010 7:26:21 AM

Why is it that when i meet a Domme / Domina for the first time she said's she likes me. Then we talk on the phone and everything is legit til we talk about moving. Its not my fault that the economy sucks and I can't find a job that's good paying enough to move to another location and start new. Yes i am a loyal submissive and I will travel for the right Domme. I thought for sure that the person im speaking of was the one for me.  I was going to come down and visit but, guessing I can't do that now. I knew if i came back after a year of being online that i would get hurt once again some how.


Any other sub/slaves  feel the same way I do ????


11/1/2010 6:22:44 AM

In Conclusion

The bottom line is to act responsibly. There are many who oppose the scene community and they are not above playing dirty. They will use any misconception about us to reach their ends. Sadly, we sometimes do things to further those misconceptions. It might be fun to lead your submissive through the mall on a leash or have your feet worshiped at the bus stop, but be aware you are non-consensually involving the vanilla public and serving those who would see us put into a hole.


11/1/2010 6:22:13 AM

Types of Play

It is important to note that scene play does not have to involve B and D or S and M. Some Dominant/submissive relationships are purely cerebral. There really is no right or wrong way to play as long as safety isn't ignored. It is well beyond the scope of this document to talk about every type of play or scene but below are some of the basics. Remember, ALL of these topics and the myriad of others that exist should be part of negotiation.

Bondage: As stated above, bondage can be very simple or very elaborate, taking hours to apply. It's relatively easy for an adult to find examples of bondage on the Internet, some practical and some that are strictly fantasy. With practice and experience, the line between fantasy and reality narrows but it is important to realize that for some photos the model was put into the situation as quickly as possible, the picture taken ASAP and the model was then taken out of the situation as quickly as possible.

Discipline: Discipline can be anything, from feather to whip. Discipline can also be mental "stand in that corner and don't move until I tell you worm". As with most things in the scene discipline is relative, ones persons bliss is another persons agony.

Fetishes: It is possible to have a fetish for anything. Common fetishes include foot and shoe fetishes, breast fetishes, articles of clothing, smoking, etc. It is thought that fetishes stem from associating or objectifying something in youth in connection with a sexual thought or act. The association becomes stronger until sexual arousal becomes difficult or impossible without that something present either physically or at least in thought. Brought into a scene, producing that something can make the fetishist absolutely melt.

Role Play: Role play can be teacher and student, police and criminal, priest and nun, virtually anything you can imagine. It can be very serious or light and playful. For some, role play can be a way to act out very deep fantasies and emotions. People can literally become the role for a time. If you know someone is in a role, you should respect it, as you would respect any scene.

Clothing: Clothing can make a scene. We've all viewed pictures on the Internet of leather or rubber outfits, corsets and clothing that defy imagination. Clothing can help set the mood or help participants assume a role. Ultimately, though, clothing is but an extension of self. You don't need to spend all kinds of money unless you want to. If you feel sexy in a burlap bag, then you ARE sexy. There is no right or wrong answer


11/1/2010 6:21:44 AM

Aftercare

A scene doesn't necessarily end when the toys are put away. Cuddling and comforting is a great way to wrap things up. Many subs like to be held after a scene. Some people can be very emotional after playing and need to be taken care of. Also it is a good idea to have some snacks and juices and/or caffeinated drinks handy, as well as plenty of water. Aftercare can also be one of the best parts of a scene, many couples/partners talk of a level of intimacy and closeness that they don't get otherwise. After an intense scene people can have various reactions anywhere from several hours to a few days. Subs AND Doms can experience an emotional drop (usually called top or bottom drop) . If you are not a couple/group living together you should keep in touch. Email works but a phone call is better and actually getting together is best. You may not experience a drop, but a follow up call is still a good idea. You will be taking care of an emotional need that can be as strong as the physical need you have already taken care of.

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11/1/2010 6:21:20 AM

Safe Words

One safety technique is the safe word. This is a word the sub can use in scene to either modify the scene or stop it completely. The word should be something that normally won't come up in a scene, something like falwell for instance. No, stop and ouch are obviously poor safe words. Some people use the stop light system; Green meaning more more MORE. Yellow meaning this is getting intense you had better slow down or change what you are doing. Red meaning stop immediately. My particular word is a modifier. If I use it my Dom knows that anything I say after it is to be honored. This works well when you have a problem that doesn't require the scene stop like a cramp or something, but it might not be best in an emergency. Parties will often have a house safe word. Anyone within earshot or safety people (Dungeon Masters

) can respond if they hear the word. If a partner is gagged an alternative safe sign can be used, such as a hand signal, series of noises, or dropping an object held in the hand. Safe words are another item to include in negotiation. If a Dom doesn't honour safe words see Abuse above.


11/1/2010 6:20:57 AM

Negotiation

Negotiation is an important part of a first scene. Basically it means finding out a potential partner's limitations, interests and physical limits. This can be in the form of discussion or written questionnaire

. This may sound pretty boring and sterile but done right it can be a lot of fun and very sensual. Use your imagination, something like "so boy, what's in that filthy little mind of yours?" and go from there. Remember this just isn't the Dom's responsibility, the Sub has to actively participate also. Telling a Dom you have no limits ("anything you wish to do to me master") is sort of like letting a mouse loose in a cheese factory. Negotiation is not the time to be coy, especially on things like the location of your asthma medication or anything else you might need, medically speaking. Your fears ("get away from me with that!!!!") and desires should also be explored. A Dom is not a mind reader, and shouldn't feel the need to play the role of "Big Bad Omnipotent One" either. If you the Dom aren't comfortable doing something say that. A potential submissive partner worthy of the name should appreciate the fact you will say you aren't comfortable with something rather than compromise their safety.


11/1/2010 6:20:10 AM

Safe, Sane and Consensual

This is the anthem of the scene community. You will see debate on what SSC really means, but you will see very little debate on the necessity of these concepts.

SAFE: To start it must be said that nothing is 100% safe, including BDSM.

Safety involves many things. It means knowing your limitations, Dom and Sub alike. It means taking precautions like having safety scissors (EMT shears are good for this, they will cut through almost anything) and having more then one key to anything that locks (as well as having locks that use a common key). It means keeping things clean and using condoms or other barrier protection when needed. It means having some simple first aid items handy, which isn't a bad idea anyway. (I've never needed my first aid kit while playing, but I've needed it twice while cooking dinner) Remember Dom's, you may have paid a zillion for that BDSM toy but a willing partner who gives you the gift of their submission is PRICELESS. As one NLA:CO member puts it "Always leave your play partners recyclable". To see a MUCH more detailed document on safety visit Safer SM Education Project

and read their on-line pamplet

SANE: You will probably see more debate on this word than any other. It means understanding what's possible and what should remain fantasy. That picture or artwork of the beautiful women or that to die for guy may look wonderful as they hang by piano wire tied to their thumbs while being whipped with the whip made of chain saw blades, but that's a fantasy. If you try that you'll soon be featured on the nightly news with a name like the Manhatten Mangler. Seriously, knowing the difference between what must remain a fantasy and what you can actually do is an important step to being a responsible member of our scene community, even if you only play privately. It also means taking the time to learn about that newest thing you want to try, by reading, observing, talking to others, and practicing if needed. Finally, it also means that drugs/alcohol and/or anger and scening don't mix.

CONSENSUAL: This may be the most important concept of all. It's what separates us from the abusers. Everything we do is based on consent. Consenting to play and then negotiating what will happen. Consenting to enter into a Dom/sub relationship. You may be Grand Master Dominant of the Fifth Dragon and she may be first Kajira but the relationship is by consent, and consent once given can also be withdrawn. The ability to do that can be modified by negotiated agreements

, but, if, and when consent is withdrawn, that withdrawal must be honored. If it isn't, see Abuse above.


11/1/2010 6:19:15 AM

What BDSM isn't

BDSM is NOT abuse. An abuser doesn't take the time to learn safe play and an abuser certainly doesn't respect limits. To see the differences between abuse and responsible BDSM go to our

BRAVO page

. There's more to abuse then domestic violence. Not taking NO for an answer, not honoring a safe word, or taking advantage of the unequal power relationship that exists between Dom and Sub are also forms of abuse. Calling yourself a Dominant, Master/Mistress, or Top is NOT an excuse to be an asshole. Calling yourself a Slave, submissive or bottom is not an excuse to lead people on about what you are, or to be the "bell of the ball". It is not an excuse to be a brat.

 



11/1/2010 6:18:31 AM

What is BDSM?

BDSM stands for Bondage and Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. While the terms are somewhat interchangeable, there are some basic definitions. Bondage usually involves some form of restraint combined with some form of sensation play. The restraints can be anything from holding your partners hands to very elaborate forms of immobilization. Stockings, neckties, rope, plastic wrap or just about anything strong enough to wrap around a body part can be used. You don't have to spend lots unless you want to and then the skies the limit. The sensation play can be as simple as a feather or as complicated as a whip or other devices. Once again, you don't have to spend a ton to have some fun. A hair brush doesn't cost a lot but works well in addition to having some classic BDSM connections. Discipline can be the chastisement, in whatever form, that can accompany bondage.

While Discipline and Bondage can go hand in hand, discipline can stand by its self. Discipline can be about Control and obedience without involving any other component of BDSM or it can involve all of them.

Sadism and Masochism take things up another level. Sadists enjoy inflicting torment, Masochists enjoy receiving that torment. Admitting to yourself that you are a Sadist doesn't mean you are ready to work for a South American Dictatorship just as admitting you're are a Masochist doesn't mean you want to end up as a guest of that dictatorship. When we talk about Sadists and Masochists we are talking about people who honor and use safe words, respect and know limits and understand boundaries. There is good pain and bad pain. Bad pain might be the dentist hitting a nerve. An example of good pain is the magical glow that spreads through your body when you play with some one who really knows how to use a whip.

You will also hear terms like Master/Mistress and slave. DOMinant and SUBimissive, Top and Bottom.. These are terms that are more about roles and relationships then about play and are beyond the scope of this abbreviated SM 101. Suffice it to say many of the terms are used interchangeably but can and do describe real roles and relationships. For the rest of this article we will use Dom and Sub. If you don't feel those terms fit you, feel free to substitute one of the others.


11/1/2010 6:17:45 AM

Am I Normal?

Short answer, yes. While parts of society tell us there are only a couple of right ways to go about sexual expression, the fact you found this page shows you know it isn't true. Sexual expression between consenting adults becomes unhealthy when it's repressed. You can point to many causes of divorce or couples falling apart, but many of them boil down to lack of communication. A need existed and wasn't conveyed to the other partner. That need doesn't have to be a BDSM need, of course, but if the scene world teaches us anything, it's communicate, communicate, communicate. Also, go easy on yourself. Like a lot of things, you will make mistakes, everybody does. The reason to learn is so little mistakes don't become big ones.

 

While it may seem strange to be excited by the elements of BSDM, there are factors that explain those feelings. Distance runners frequently talk about "runners high". This feeling comes when they push themselves. The cause of the feeling is due to a release of chemicals in the brain called endorphins. These chemicals cause a feeling of euphoria and well being that can be very powerful. Exercise, orgasm, even certain foods can cause this release, in some people, so can BDSM play . After intense (intense being relative to the individual) play many people talk about a sense of well being and contentment and some people are absolutely loopy from the intense endorphin rush.

The fact that you have taken the time to find the NLA:CO web page should be an indication that your are exploring a need and desire more information. You may find after exploration that your needs lie else where and that's fine, but if the scene community is where your heart lies....welcome.


12/14/2009 2:21:57 PM
Today was the best day of my life. My Mistress came and saw slut today and on web cam in front of Ms.Willow and friends slut wore a dress and stockings and panties and kneeled before his Mistress as then slut got collared. slut pleased his Mistress today and took her to go play pool and meet some of his friends.

Once we go to the pool hall, slut started to open the door's for his Mistress and kissed her a few times and got to hold her in public and be close to her and was able to spend time with her.
This weekend were getting together again and Mistress and slut are going to go meet slut's new Uncle and Aunt. Possibly play some more pool and go check out a new fire station for slut to run calls at.  Well anyways slut is ready and willing to earn the right to do things now with and for his Mistress DommeofDesire. Sincerely ,
slutpuppy rex.

12/2/2009 5:57:24 AM
".}{..}{... Welcome to The`Brothel! Stop In & Chat With Our Girls. ...}{..}{."  my first experience to this room i came into the room checking it out and found myself a very cute girl named rebecwhore she explained to me how i could play with her. Now, i only got 30 min session with her but it was the best 30mins of my life with MIstress that actually played with me and got me to cumm hard and some ppl don't even do that . If you want to meet rebecwhore go to the Brothel chat room.

My second time with rebecwhore was incredeble. She knew what i was seeking as a slut and told me to kneel in front of her and to wank myself while i deep throated her strappy , then she maded me cum on her boots and  i licked it off and cleaned her boots, she pushed me onto my back told me to grab my ankles and i did she eased her strappy into me and made me her bitch. i told her that  i was a slut and cum eater she was then happy.  she told me to write 2 full columns before coming back near her so this is what a good sub does. Thank you  Mistress Rebecca for my time with you.  Hope to see you again. 

11/24/2009 8:37:28 AM

Chat Rooms:

When entering a chat room do not advertising your age, sex, location, role, last bowel movement, etc. A simple "hello, everyone" will go over much better, as well as save you from undesired heckling. Feel free to begin a conversation. Ask if there is any special topic chat in progress (or something else that portrays intelligence). There are some rooms and message boards that are cliquish, do not take it personally if you are ignored the first time or two that you enter. Be polite and genuine. Soon you will get responses from individuals who value such qualities.

Do not shorten screen names when addressing someone for the first time. Use the complete name and ask the person what they prefer to be called.

If you are in a BDsM chat room, do not address Dominants as Master, Mistress, Daddy, slave, boy, girl, or other titles of authority/control if you do not own or belong to that individual.

It is not necessary to address Dominants as Sir or Ma'am (Madam) but if you feel the desire to do so, ask the person how s/he prefers to be addressed. There are many female Dominants that go by the honorific of Sir and a few males that like Ma'am… never guess!


11/24/2009 8:36:51 AM
Online Etiquette

The follow list of appropriate behaviors for online interaction is updated often. It is in no way complete but will be in time, feel free to email with additions or check back for more tips.

Emails and Instant Messages:

Instant Messages are an internet doorway into personal space. Do not send a person an Instant Message without asking permission via an email or chat room request, never as permission to Instant Message in an instant message. If the request is denied, don't get an attitude, state that your IM's are open should s/he have time to chat at a later time. Most people will be taken aback by such a graceful acceptance of their denial and allow the IM to occur, good manners are impressive

Do not ever send an Instant Message, email, or private chat invitation a collared or committed submissive. Address the person's Dominant with your request to speak with the individual in a respectful manner via email. If the Dominant denies your request, thank Him or Her gracefully and respect the decision. In the offline world of D/s submissives can address other submissives without the permission of the Dominant, if the submissive is not in role or involved in a scene. However, I have found that online Dominants tend to control the personal online interactions of their submissives in regards to conversations with persons of any role. **Side-note to online Dominants: should you receive a request from a dominant or submissive to contact your submissive, be tasteful in your response. A request can be denied without feelings being hurt. Take it as a compliment to yourself and the submissive, thank the person for following proper channels**

Sending pictures in emails should be done only if the person has requested one or has agreed to allow you to send one. Do not send obscene or naked pictures without asking the person if they would like to view it. Personally, if a nude photo is sent to me without consent it negates any opportunity for discussion with me the person may have had.

Few people read emails that are from persons they do not know. If you send an email to someone and it gets deleted, do not take it personally… if you send someone an email and get a rude response, take it personally and learn from it. Email is another doorway into personal space, treat it as such.

Do not send emails that are of a D/s nature to individuals you are not in that type of relationship with. No submissive likes to be told to get on their knees in person or in email by someone not in a position of control to them, nor does a Dom/me want someone to beg to serve them that they do not have a connection with.


11/24/2009 8:35:38 AM

The Good, The Bad, and The Internet

I have been frequenting online BDsM chat rooms for many years. During that time I have gone from being an advocate of online BDsM to the totally opposite end of the continuum due to disgust from the mockery made of D/s by people who still believe the Beauty Series to be real. For a while I stepped back out of the cyber dungeons wiping My hands of the fakes and wannabes ... then, I realized that if all the real BDsM practitioners sign off there will never be any hope of regaining the educational value online can have for the people who only have this medium in which to play.

So what caused My journey to disillusionment with online? The things that come out of people's mouths seem to get more ignorant as the years go by. Some of the activities discussed would be harmful, to say the least, if ever attempted realtime. There was even a decapitation scene done online ... everyone knows a submissive would be useless without a head, what would hold the collar in place? Online misinformation is freely given and freely accepted. Activities such as cutting and branding are talked about like it is something every Top with a knife or piece of wire can do! Reality check, there is no such thing as a Dominant who knows how to do every form of play or a submissive who has had everything you can think of done to them.

People online do not freely express their novice status as easily as people do in real life. Is it fear of shattering their delusion of importance? Anyone can kneel or spout demands online, those cyber acts do not prove anything or provide status. When all you have to do is write a script, you can do or be whatever you want but in the real world you have to prove yourself to gain recognition. It is all a facade ... a fantasy lived out in two-dimensional form that does nothing but echo the lack of knowledge of those who live in the cyber vortex. So, why waste the time of exploring BDsM in a make-believe realm? Because there are still a few real Mentors, Dominants, submissives, guides, and websites that provide a true-to-life learning experience for those lucky enough to find them. How do you distinguish between who is truthful and who is talking trash? Unless you have basic knowledge about BDsM you will have a very difficult time telling the two apart. Future writings will be aimed at helping you to learn the difference.


11/24/2009 8:34:59 AM
Online Dominance, Submission, and Sadomasochism


If your chosen medium for exploring BDsM is the Internet the chances are at one time or another you will be drawn into the world of message boards, chat rooms, and online D/s… being as you are at this site, you already have begun experiencing the latter. Like any other culture, the online BDsM community has its own protocols and 'ethics' that it follows. These rules of conduct are in addition to, not in place of, basic social skills and graces.

Just as in day to day life, online has many personalities and not all are going to click (unless it is the ignore button in the chat room). When communicating solely with words misunderstanding are bound to happen. Tones are assumed, intent misconstrued, egos get wounded and cyber emotions run rampant. It is easy to say online is not real but for the people who use it to socialize on a regular basis it is truly real. Feelings form, bonds grow, lives are touched ... for the good and bad. Following basic rules of online conduct blended with proper social skills will not assure your success in the online realm of BDsM but it will help in preventing your failing in it.


11/24/2009 8:26:48 AM
Is there a code of conduct in BDSM?

Yes! (SSC) Safe, Sane, and Consensual or it is abuse!

Safe meaning precautions are taken and the risks of permanent injury are minimized. Nothing is 100% safe, but all efforts are made to eliminate any potential risks.

Sane meaning one is of healthy mind to be able to choose this for themselves without coercion.

Consensual meaning it is willingly agreed to by both parties.

(Note: some have different views of what (SSC) Safe, Sane & Consensual is, and some only believe in the consensual rule.)


11/24/2009 8:22:32 AM
Dominants: You have a responsibility to learn everything you can to minimize potential risks to your partner. If you don’t know CPR and you are doing breath play on a submissive then that is “reckless endangerment” and you CAN be criminally charged if that sub suffers permanent or fatal damages from your actions. Anything and everything you do as a dominant can be held against you in a court of law. Don’t play with someone unless you know they are of healthy mind and body and make sure limits are respected and NO means NO.  If a sub says NO then they have removed the consent and anything you do after that crosses over into the gray area of abuse. If a sub likes to use the word no because it adds excitement then negotiate another safe word.  Just keep in mind anything you do you are responsible for and you may be held accountable for.

11/24/2009 8:19:57 AM
Submissives: Just because someone says they are dominant – doesn’t automatically mean they have integrity (or experience) or even are dominant… it only means that they are calling themselves “Dominant” (a self-given title of little to no value if not backed up by your hard earned respect) many enjoy the fantasy world and may actually be only role playing or looking for easy sex or they could be naturally be a bitch without ever understanding the difference between a dictator and a dominant.  Or they could very well be all that they claim they are but you won’t know this till you get to know them… be aware of this because you are going to potentially put your life in their hands if you play with them. Only YOU can keep yourself safe by deciding what/who you are willing to submit to and what/who you aren’t. It is so tempting to give in to that first dominant (it’s exciting) but take it slow. You don’t have to do anything. And anyone who says “you are not a true sub unless….” is full of shit (run away). A true submissive is someone who is true to themselves; they do not act foolishly or compromise their safety by submitting lightly. This can be serious stuff with potential damaging or life threatening ramifications. Be wise.

11/24/2009 8:13:21 AM

I was skimming through lists of rules for consensual slavery. I may write about some of them later. I thought I’d try dashing out my own list.

My list ignores distinctions like whether the role is submissive or slavish. Lifestyle, intermittent or for play partners. I tried to concentrate it into what might be called core values. Or my sense of what is common to the full spectrum of D/s relationships.

I’m not claiming that my list is definitive (indeed I tried to keep it open ended). As physicists say it is a thought experiment.

Written in a F/m framework only because all of the others weren’t. Limited to ten rules by design. Order is arbitrary.

Your quibbles, additions are as always invited.

  1. A slave must be honest from the moment he begins communicating with a Domme. Never lie about relationships, experience level or anything else.
  2. A slave will seek to understand want he wants and needs and to know the difference between the two.
  3. A slave needs to realize some fantasies will never be more than just that. And that some of his fetishes may not strike a responsive chord within her.
  4. A slave has a duty to act as an intelligent human being.
  5. A slave repays a Domme’s attention with respect, humility and obedience. This is inherent in the nature of the relationship.
  6. A slave always communicates his feelings as clearly as possible.
  7. If the slave feels that his needs aren’t being met he will confess that respectfully without seeming to make demands.
  8. A slave will watch to see if his Domme is tired or not feeling well and focus on her comfort, not on having a session.
  9. A slave should never think of a Domme as a torture and humiliation machine. That is objectifying her.
  10. A slave will remember that D/s is a relationship between people. He will strive to never forget that the Domme is a human being. That regardless of the power relationship thoughtless behavior on his part can inflict emotional hurt on the other person.

Civility, honesty and honor sum it up.


11/13/2009 7:10:28 PM
rex has found his Mistress hopefully will be with her r/t until then he will work hard on earning a spot in r/t with her. My Mistress's name is Mistress Red Willow. She is most beautiful and Best Mistress that rex has found on CM. Please come say hi to me and My Mistress in the Mistress room. I love my Mistress. Thank you Mistress Willow for taking me on and making me give my body and soul to you. It feels great knowing your the best at you do and rex is with you.

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