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Does your insurance company know you liked to be choked during sex? |
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She said, "Choke me, baby." So I gave her two Popeyes biscuits without a drink. Ha..stole that. |
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I noticed the fans didn't want to link arms during the National Anthem at NFL games? Not knocking anyone, but the Anthem means you stand and put your hand over your heart. |
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This visit to Lake Oconee is different. Summer had its pleasures, but autumn arrives and changes everything. It’s still summer in a way, but not like it was. Passions of hot summer days at the lake have given way to contemplation with coffee. Things have moved on for us and it’s bittersweet. Memories are for autumn. The sun still shines brightly, but not the same. It’s landing on falling leaves, but that’s not a sad thing. Just the way it is. No more heated moments, we’re calm, slowly swirling wine in fancy glasses and detached from all that. We appreciate what was and what the spring will bring. |
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Lake time coming up today although I'll only be there 2 days. I was hoping a beautiful sub would take me up on my offer of refuge from the hurricane and be in need of an emergency spanking. Kind of like turning on the generator when the power goes out. Emergency back-up...no pun intended. |
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Sincerely, I live near Augusta, GA and if I can offer assistance to those leaving their homes because of Irma, let me know. I have a lake second house at Lake Oconee that can offer refuge. Let me know. |
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Someone asked about protocol, play vs training and aftercare. Here was my answer. There is a blurring of those three segments you mention. Protocols can vary and may change with time. Whatever is working and seems to have a beneficial effect on my relationship with a submissive is fine with me. If it becomes tedious, I may place the rule in abeyance or find a novel one.
Aftercare again varies. It depends on what she responds to. Usually it’s holding and keeping her warm, but not always. It can simply be leaving her alone. All this may or may not lead to sex.
Play and training have a nebulous similarity. All play has an element of training. It can be fun or intense. What is different is punishment. She is not going to like it, but she is going to endure whatever it is because of her psychological focus to please my psychological bent to punish. |
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It's Friday and that makes me smile when I've had a busy week at work. My biggest worry over the weekend is to make sure the sprinklers are working on my newly laid sod. Ha. The weekend is a constant smile with lake life and other people with the same mindset. When I think of retiring, I realize the weekends wouldn't be so special if I were off all the time. But there does come a time....Know what I mean? |
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I'm at Lake Oconee this weekend. I fall into the lake life easily. A cold beer, great restaurants and my boat on the water going fast to anywhere. Many of the restaurants have docks so you can arrive by boat. All this gives people here a different attitude. People are different in a better way when the environment is carefree. |
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A respectful Memorial Day to the fallen who fought for America. |
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Sadness can darken your life like a walk into the deepest old woods where oak trees draped in moss block out the sun and the temperature drops by 20 degrees. I had a friend, someone I had brought along as a submissive, suddenly die a few weeks ago. I say suddenly, but she had a few days left in reality. She emailed me worried that she wasn't going to make it and told me her last thoughts. She had another life that I wasn't part of so the usual hand holding goodbye wasn't possible. In my emotions, I've been sitting in the dark woods for a few weeks. I'll find a path out eventually, but this seems to be a necessary reckoning. |
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Life at Lake Oconee is different and beautiful. It's like living in the islands somewhere. I live on the "little island" and drive onto the big island where the lone big grocery is located...a Publix. Everyone is into the island mood. It's like Jimmy Buffet music is playing everywhere. Unfortunately, I have to leave tonight or early tomorrow. If anyone else lives here, I'd like to hear from them. |
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Lake Oconee? I just bought a summer weekend place at Lake Oconee. It's a beautiful place to play...yeah, that kind of play. |
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This New Years Eve I have a thought. Doms and subs, imagine a flogging that begins before midnight and gradually builds to when the fireworks begin to be heard wherever you are. With perfect timing, the sub would space right before midnight and not come back until next year with her Dom holding her warmly. |
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Those breasts in the top right pic are not anywhere around my hometown as suggested. |
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Rainy day. So I'm going to Lowes to find some delicious toys for a willing sub. |
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Football is such a metaphor for life. Ladies, forgive Dom guys for such interests. Damn, Clemson won, USC won and UGA is battling KY...not the gel. |
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I have this theory that those online on a Friday night are not doing all that well. Not that me being on this Friday night has anything to do with that. Ha. |
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I hope potential subs interested in me also like football....ha, not that is my only requirement. |
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A friend from South Carolina contacts me again and I politely return her query. She goes on and on telling me her problems and I politely listen as I've learned to do. She says she needs me beyond the limitations we previously had. I tell her I'll beat her better. She resists and wants to blame the problems in her life on me. I send her porn email telling her what I'll do to her, she asks me if I'll finger her pussy, too. There's a pattern here, I'm beginning to understand. |
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I read something funny the other day. It said if you want to meet women who want to do whatever it is you want to do with them, you should simply start asking. It said something, unscientifically like one in ten would say, okay. Heh. I think that's what a lot of what goes on here on CS, both ways. Maybe I'm always in the OTHER 90 percent who says something like, "Well tell me more about yourself." |
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Something to think about. LGBT rights are now legally protected and that's great, but what about BDSM rights? Shouldn't relationships where the submissive loves being spanked or whatever be respected? Shouldn't poly families be recognized? |
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Sex and BDSM are debated ad nausea. But to me it's perfectly logical to combine the two elements. As a Dom, I gain pleasure that can be described as sexual when I'm flogging, spanking and so on. When that pleasure is present for the submissive also, it seems sexual play should follow and it would be a mistake not to take advantage of the emotions that have been built.
Having said that, I've also met a few women who only wanted to be spanked. I give them what they wanted and probably a little extra if I knew sex wasn't going to follow. Ha. |
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Happy Independence Day everyone!!! |
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I don't claim to be the world's expert on flogging and a super Dom, but I'll give you my view of the process. It's a gradual build-up, keeping a rhythmic pattern and not striking too much in one place. Left, right, high, low...whatever rhythm you find is comfortable for you. I usually become very erect as I do this and I'm feeling the emotions as much as the submissive.
Gradually build the intensity with harder and faster strikes. Keep this up for a while as her butt becomes redder and redder and she fights to stay still. What's happening medically is catecholamines are being released in a fight or flight response. As things build and if the catecholamines stay high, the parasympathetic nervous system becomes active and a counter vagal response begins. Her skin becomes cooler. She enters an altered state of consciousness...spacing... and all is well with the world. Keep her there for a while and then hold her close to warm her as she comes out of it. She will be grateful. |
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It's super hot in Georgia and I've watched a movie from home over the weekend. I came across "Original Sin" with Antonio Banderas and Angelina Jolie. Jolie plays a sexy and unusual match for Banderas with a definite masochistic bent. It is a passionate, dark movie with lots of Jolie nudity...thankfully. The plot is almost surrealistic, but the movie is not about plot, it's about emotions, sex and domination-submission. When they are watching a stage play of a woman in shackles being used by a devilish figure she becomes so excited she goes backstage to meet the devil. Jolie is in some ways an evil antagonist, but in other ways helpless to her submissive desires and dominant men in her life. |
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I've been to BDSM clubs a few times. I went to one in Atlanta with a submissive friend to attend a party and it was a pretty amazing place. It was fun, sexy, powerful and reassuring in that there were many like us. We enjoyed ourselves immensely. But these days the internet seems to offer so much more. It's a giant sifter to find what you want. You end up in private meetings which is actually the goal of going to clubs if we are honest. |
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I see where I have a new friend in Arizona. Ha...it's only 2,000 miles on I-20. |
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One of these days, I swear I'm going to write a book. I keep an open mind about kink, but some things I get myself into leave me going, "whew." A Dom guy is usually thought of as a responsible person who is non judgmental and will help women fulfill their fantasies safely.
Sure, that's part of it, but don't assume we're turned on by EVERYTHING. Personally, when I play I want D/s play with an attractive woman or whatever way she wants to describe the encounter and sex. When I get into those with obvious quirks, I have to play like I'm Dr. Phil...and then I tell them they are perfectly normal submissives, spank them hard and fuck their brains out. Ha. |
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A thunderstorm came today and it stopped everything in my mind. Not much else mattered compared to the storm. It was powerful and built slowly with occasional thunderous booms that shook everything. The lightning came causing fear, but with an attraction to look at the same time. After a while it blew over and everything felt cool. The sun came back although it seemed completely out of place. My area needs aftercare like a spaced submissive. |
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I've been reading these profiles so much, I'm getting where I remember them out to the 250 mile radius. Ha, ha. But, I was trying to decide what makes submissives so attractive to me. I think it's the trust. It may take a while to develop or it may be an instantaneous bond. To have a woman tell me she is mine to use and she trusts me not to hurt her, makes her beautiful as the sunset over the lake as you cool your feet on the sand and watch gulls that have traveled all the way from the sea flying with the orange glow of the setting sun reflecting on them. |
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