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I do have a sub on here...she has her own profile. her profile on here used to be cupcakekitten666

I have been burned on here and been lead on. So if I contact you and you seek money to relocate you...then no I dont want you.



I am seeking subslave female for long term relationship (lifetime if possible) with some (or lots) BDSM overtones. I am NOT INTERESTED in online BDSM, I want REAL TIME.



I do have a son who lives with me but isnt aware of this aspect of my life.



I am generally an easy-going person, but I have dark side (I have a sadistic need to cause pain to others that I limit to spanking with a belt, whipping with a cane, etc.



I am interested in starting a polyfidelity house



When and if I contact you, I will be polite because you are not my sub or slave (unless you state in your profile otherwise).



Hard limits NO Scat, Underage, beastality, cutting, snuff, CBT, Crossdressing, Strap-Ons, Female Supremacy, Illegal, nothing that would require hospital stay Soft Limits Water Sports (actually does nothing for me, only to humiliate another)







The Dominants Creed

Author unknown

1. Above all else, a Dominant cherishes their submissive in the knowledge that the gift the submissive gives is the greatest gift of all.

2. A Dominant is demanding and takes full advantage of the power they hold, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from such power over another.

3. A Dominant is in control of themselves first and foremost, so that they may control others.

4. As a stern and demanding Dominant, they can cause their submissive to cry real tears As a consummate lover, they will kiss such tears away without stepping out of character.

5. In times of trouble, a Dominant will leave the roles behind and be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two individuals.

6. A Dominant is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality.

7. A Dominant will never ask a submissive to put them before the submissives career or family just to satisfy their own pleasure.

8. To win a submissives mind, body, spirit, soul and love, a Dominant knows they must first win the submissives trust.

9. A Dominant will show their submissive humour, kindness and warmth.

10. A Dominant must always show their submissive that their guidance and tutoring in knowledgeable and deserving of the submissives attention, that the Dominant is a person they can learn from in in whom they can trust their direction.

11. A Dominant is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, they will fight for their submissives honour.

12. A Dominant proves to their submissive that they are someone who can be leaned upon and depended upon.

13. When it comes time to teach their submissive a lesson is obedience, a Dominant is a strong and unyielding teacher.

14. A Dominant will accept no flaw nothing less than perfection from their student.

15. Never does a Dominant use discipline without good reason. When they punish their submissive it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

16. A Dominant is always open to communication and discussion always ready to hear their submissives wants and needs.

17. A Dominant is patient, taking time to learn their submissives limits and knowing that as the submissives trust in them grows, so to will they grow.

18. A Dominant never has to demand ritual behaviour from their submissive. Their submissive responds to them out of the want of pleasing them. Compliance comes from the desire to please, not the fear of punishment.

19. A Dominant understand the fragile nature of mind and body and never violates the trust given to them.

20. A Dominant is secure enough to laugh at themselves and the absurdities of life open-minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow.

21. A Dominants tools are mind, body, spirit, soul and love.

22. A Dominant understands that Eeach partner gains most from pleasuring the Oother. And Bboth of Tthem know that love and trust are the only bonds that truly hold.





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3/4/2023 1:59:14 PM

Well if I don't answer a message you sent, it's because I didn't receive a email notification of it sent.


10/23/2021 10:20:06 AM

I am actually 48


1/8/2018 10:53:34 AM

9 LEVELS OF SUBMISSION
Used with permission from BADKITTEN48
1. THE OUTRIGHT NON-SUBMISSIVE MASOCHIST or KINKY SENSUALIST. Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist's own terms and for the masochist's own direct pleasure (i.e. turned on solely/mainly by one's own bodily sensations rather than by being 'used' to gratify one's partner's sadism) .


2. PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE.
Not into even playing 'slave,' but into other 'submissive' role-playing, e.g. schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, 'forced' transvestism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree.


3. PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE.
Likes to play at being a slave; likes to feel subservient; may in some cases like to feel one is being 'used' to gratify partner's sadism; may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the 'slave's' own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshipers).


4. TRUE SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE.
Really gives up control (only temporarily and within agreed upon limits), but gets her/his main satisfaction from aspects of submission other than serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up responsibility. Doesn't dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seek mainly her/his own direct pleasure (rather than getting one's pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant).


5. TRUE SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE.
Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief 'scenes' and within limits) and gets main satisfaction from serving/being used by dominant, but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. May not be into pain. If so, is turned on by pain indirectly, i.e. enjoys being the object of one's partner's sadism, on which the submissive places very few requirements or restrictions.


6. UNCOMMITTED SHORT-TERM BUT MORE THAN PLAY SEMI-SLAVE.
Really gives up control (usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non erotic as well as fun/erotic services; but only when the 'slave' is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have long-term relationship with one's Mistress, but, either way, the 'slave' has the final say over when she will serve.


7. PART-TIME CONSENSUAL-BUT REAL SLAVE.
Has an ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as the dominants property at all times. Wants to obey and please Dom(me) in all aspects of life-practical/non erotic and fun/erotic. Devotes most of time to other commitments (e.g. job) but Dom(me) has first pick of the slave's free time.


8. FULL-TIME LIVE IN CONSENSUAL SLAVE.
Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/himself as existing solely for the Dom(me)'s pleasure/well being. Slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave's position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially if the slave is male. Within the S/M world, a full time 'slave' arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude carefully, with more awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.


9. CONSENSUAL TOTAL SLAVE WITH NO LIMITS.
A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn't exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the 'consent' is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn't fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you aren't really a slave unless you're willing to do absolutely anything for your Dom(me), with no limits at all. I've met a few people who claimed to be no-limit slaves, but in all cases I have reason to doubt the claim Slavery. In consensual slavery a person gives themselves over to the control of another as completely as is humanly possible. This means not only a high degree of obedience, but that there is actually a chattel property context to the relationship. I refer not to a legal relationship, of course, but to a mutual understanding of ownership and property status that arises between the parties. While both slaves and submissives are often fondly referred to as 'property', in the sense of consensual slavery the slave becomes literally (by mutual agreement) the property of the Owner. It is not unheard of for slaves to be sold by an Owner and to go willingly to their 'The submissive decides how much authority she will cede to another, how much control she will bow to, and what aspects of her life she will surrender to the dominant's command.' Slavery differs in this regard: these decisions are not made by the slave, but by the Owner for the slave, after the general commitment to obedience is in place.


10/19/2017 11:31:16 AM
44 years I came into the world

7/8/2017 12:10:02 PM
Wow, I have been on here since 2011...in about 8 days, it will be my 6 year anniversary of being a member 

5/6/2017 8:31:21 PM
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
86% Master/Mistress
86% Dominant
84% Degrader
80% Owner
74% Daddy/Mommy
71% Rigger
70% Experimentalist
69% Non-monogamist
68% Sadist
68% Ageplayer
67% Exhibitionist
66% Primal (Hunter)
45% Voyeur
29% Vanilla
0% Switch

7/13/2015 9:59:57 AM

Written by familiaris

7/13/2015 6:53:40 AM: I'm going to help you guys out, here's some easy steps to get women/submissives to reply. I'm putting these up because I've seen a lot of of guys complaining about the fakes on the site. Now, I'm sure there are quite a few, but mostly people sign up for these sites because they genuinely want to find someone they'd work well with. Even the dirtiest slave looking for complete dehumanization still needs to know that their future master is going to at least look out for their basic health and human needs ya know? These are of course only guidelines, you don't have to follow them. But if you're having trouble getting replies, maybe you should look this over. Consider these:

1. Talk to them like people. Before they are subs, or slaves, they are human beings.

2. Get to know them a bit, don't lead with your kinks, I know it seems weird being a kink site, but trust me. Get to know them a bit first. They can see what you're into on your profile. Once you get to know each other a bit, then you can start talking about kinks, meetings, commitments etc. Remember if you're going to be a Dom/Master your sub/slave needs to trust you.

3. Don't demand a picture in the first few messages if they don't have them up. Some people have been stalked, others, until they find their Dom/Master have to keep up the appearances of their vanilla life and can't put up pictures.

4. Try not to shit on them for not being into what you're into. If your kinks don't match up, look for other people. Shaming someone into doing things they're not comfortable with isn't going to make them like you more, it's going to make them block you.

5. Make sure to tell them about yourself, don't just demand they tell you things about them. Trust is earned and being open about your own life can help to build trust, and a desire to meet.

6. Fill out your fucking profile. It's the easiest way for someone to get a sense about you. Adding a single sentence doesn't count. Be honest about what you want, and are looking for.

7. If you are talking about kinks, try to remember that your slave/submissives are human beings and still have human needs. For example, long term confinement can lead to blood clots and death. Constant covering in latex, rubber, or leather can cause sores and infections. I cannot tell you how many messages I've gotten telling me about their desires that clearly show no understanding of human biology. Subs/slaves looking for long term confinement, and latex, leather, etc. they want these things but also understand they need to be able to get up and work out, move around to insure proper blood flow, and need to be able to take off whatever they're wearing and properly bathe. We're not going to sign on with a sub/master that's going to put us in situations that will result in our deaths in a few weeks.

8. Stop sending messages that sound like you already own us. Especially if we're looking for TPE. Until we make a commitment, we are free people, and should be treated as such. We are not items being ordered off a menu. We're people looking for someone we can trust with our lives.

9. Don't disregard people's hard limits if they say they're subs. Even if they're slaves, you should still have basic respect for them. If you message someone saying you're going to ignore their hard limits they're not going to reply to you.So many people are telling me how much they like this entry, if you feel this fits how you feel, feel free to copy/paste it to your own journal.


7/11/2015 7:13:50 PM
I like to ask questions...why you ask, well because if I was a mind reader, I wouldn't be on here would I.

I ask questions that interest me and I ask question that test the limits. plus it keeps you guessing what I might do to you ;D

5/16/2014 5:01:12 PM

Things that fascinate me

women biting their lip 

Looking into the eyes of a woman sucking my dick

woman's ass and tits (caressing and stroking)

watching a woman's tits move as I fuck their pussy

Talking to woman who connect to on many levels 


1/17/2012 5:04:57 PM
"Why does everybody say grow some balls when they want you to toughen up? Balls are delicate n soft n fragile! They should say grow a vagina, now that can take a serious pounding!!" 
-Betty White

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 Age: 22
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