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I am a creative man. Expression and knowing who I am have always been an important part of me. How can you live your life if you havent understood who you are under the surface? Light sides as well as dark.I am a perfectionist. If I do something, I do it all out. If something is important one should give it all, not do it reluctantly. Halfhearted actions never give any good results one way or another, and feel like a waist of time. So I spend time on what I care about and let other things be just other things for other people. But even though I tend to expect good results, I know that one does not reach that goal without practice, will and dedication. So those are values I cherish.Even though I am a serious person, humor is important to me, and being able to relax. But that does not change my mentality or accepting someone trying to joke themselves out of a serious situation.

I can philosophize over big questions and small matters. I think a lot and like to have a plan and an answer for everything. One can never have to much knowledge. I put quality over quantity, but its still important for me to meet new people and try new things.

Bdsm is a part of my life, and it was even before I knew what it was. I did things my way with no regard to what the norm was or what others thought of me, so those around me had to respect me for who I was if they wanted to be around me. I care a lot for those close to me and like to know who people are deep down. And watch over them and let then know Im there for them, always. A relationship with openness and trust, so they know I will always be honest, even though that can feel to direct and rude. But to me, its more rude and hurtful to lie and give a nice answer, instead of telling them how I see things and what I think can be done about it.

To me, bdsm isnt just a sex thing, its a part of who I am and what I do. Its not about fun games in bed, but about finding who you are deep inside and share everything you find in the darkness with another person. Knowing them so well that you can see what they think. That they trust you and know that being obedient will let them reach longer than if they were on there own, cause they will have guidance and a path to follow, that will make sure they grow. Having that dynamic, that makes even the strictest relationship personal and close. Its not about fantasy, its about making it reality. Achieving goals, becoming more than you are and having structure and discipline while unleashing yourself bit by bit. Its about daring to be yourself, embracing who that is and live free.

I am not a friend collector, so dont send me a friend request if we dont have spoken. But I enjoy talking so feel free to send a message about anything, as long as you stay respectful.