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Been into the Bdsm DomDomme Fetish for about 20 years.

My Interest are as follows HEAVY CBT, ANAL STRETCHING, ORAL TRAINING, QUEENING, STRAP-ON PLAY ( starter 8 and honey you will train up to 14 inches! THICK ) MEN WHO WILL SUCK REAL PENIS!

Im a TransFemdom DomDomme who has been trained in the real world of Bdsm.

If you are serious, honest and willing to prove your worth to me with real life experience ( not alone ) send me a message and lets go from there.

MOTHA KITTY KAT

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1/14/2018 1:10:57 PM
HAPPY 2018! I haven't had time to revamp my profile or do any current journals in awhile. I thought I would share some mental thoughts today. 

I've had so many guys message me about how frustrated they are with this site. Many complain about the FIN Dommes ( no such title, just coke whores ) who have ruined the experience etc. I speak about this in my earlier journals and try my best to give some good information to use. CollarME now known as Collarspace has changed a lot, I agree.  

I still believe there are good people here. Every single person isn't out to get what they can or ruin lives. 

Saying that, Lifestyle Dommes like myself have to deal with the same issues. A lot of men here do the same thing they themselves complain about. Men will say just about ANYTHING just to get your attention and then turn around to be a complete liar and just here for kicks or pass time. I just don't get it anymore. Maybe this whole thing with "Fake Dommes" was to counter the men who also play games, you have to see it from both angles. What's really funny to me tho, being in this lifestyle for 16 years, you know the game when you see it, but these men will SWEAR their serious and BAAM days later it's revealed they weren't. So who are you kidding, yourself or me? :) honestly, it has gotten completely out of hand now. 

Good luck to you all. 
Have a blessed New Year! 

Ms. Ebony 

3/2/2017 7:22:10 AM
Imma make this a quick one. Had a few people doubting me and had to shut down the haters. Been into Kink since I was 19 and have nothing to prove to miserable people however I need folks to know there's nothing fake about this Black Domme Bitch. I'm not a picture Queen and will never be. Carry on. Ms. Ebony The Original

2/12/2017 10:42:17 AM
Got the feeling to type in my journal today. 

It never seems to amaze me anymore the lengths men go on this site to speak with you or try to get under your skin. :-) 

Guys create profiles, allow them to sit a few months, then contact you PRETENDING they've never spoken to you before, when the whole time I can tell it's the same dude that hit me up on another account that I've blocked. It doesn't take a SUPER GENIUS to figure it out. 

I've been on this site ( of course when it was CollarMe ) since 2002. I've had only TWO profiles. This one and the one I had for years. Why do I need to have multiple accounts, when I can do everything I need to do from this one? I'll never EVER understand why people have the need to do this "dated" tactic. 

All it does is say a lot about them and their REAL INTENTIONS with you. You're steady trying to see if the person is going to say the same things, give you the same information or whatever is going on in your head. What's worse is the men who do this are GROWN MEN! Men over the age of 40 playing games online. Pretty sad. ( at least I think so ) 

It's some good men here and women. You can always tell by the things he say even in his first note to you. I've been online since I was 18 and been into Bdsm since I was 19 and I can tell a troll MILES down the hallway. You can't get under my skin, you will not disrupt my good karma and all you are doing is wasting your own precious time. I'm nice to everyone here, so me sending you a kind note isn't a waste of my time, it's just common human decency. 

If you're bitter, cynical and been burned and need revenge, I advise you to find a hobby. You need to find those "Fake Dommes" that need your money to pay her rent payment or drug habits. You're completely wasting your time bringing your ill intentions towards me. 

I feel very sorry for those of you who sit home all day online wasting other people's time. No I don't believe it will end, but some of us know BULLSHIT when we see it. So don't get upset because we call you on it. That's all. :-) 

Life is good here on the UWS of Manhattan. Nothing any troll/flake/liar/game-player/cynical bastard can do to change that. 

God Bless you all! ( even those of you with multiple accounts trying your best to unearth whatever it is you working towards ) <3 

With Love, 

Ms. Ebony 


1/11/2017 9:25:42 AM
While working from home today, I had to come back to my journal and thank all the nice people who sent me private messages about my loss. Your words truly helped me. I mean it! 

It's amazing tho, I'm at peace with my babies passing. Him and I always talked about the universe, the after life, where do your soul go and such and I know my sweet heart is flying high discovering other universes, planets etc. 

I cried so hard the day I found out he died. I cried even harder the next day, and then it suddenly stopped. I believe he came to me in some form and told me to stop all that DAMN crying. He hated when I called him upset crying. He would always tell a joke or do something kind to make me feel better. He was truly my soulmate, but the physical part wasn't there, but the LOVE FOR HIM WAS! I have yet to meet a man quit like him! ( not saying they aren't out there, I just haven't met them ) 

I know there's good people on this site. I have been lucky to meet many of them. Don't give up because you come across 200 assholes. It's okay. Maybe that 205th person will be someone you will cherish for many years to come. Don't let the bad seeds ruin it for you! I surely don't. I get so many MALE SUBS who claim to be this or that, or they want to do this or that, or bla bla bla bla bla! However, he's telling my girl friend the same exact BULL and all we do is compare notes and hit block! ( no time for foolery ) I'm too old for that. :-) 

Good luck Kinksters! Have fun this lovely year! Meet that special someone and bring them close to your heart! Remember Bdsm/Femdom/Kink etc isn't just about SEX, getting off or FUCKING MONEY. It's so much MUCH MUCHHHHHHHHHHH more then that. Stop watching these fake porn clips believing that's all it's about. NOPE! Those people are being paid to PRETEND they are sub or domme etc. But that's another story. :-) 

Love Hard, Work Hard, Push Hard and having a FREAKING FANTASTIC New Year Dear Friends,

With Love and Extreme Kink

Ms. Ebony
THE ORIGINAL MS. EBONY circa 2002; before everyone used that name! 
Baddest Black Domme in NYC Metro
( better ask somebody ) ;-)

12/31/2016 3:28:19 AM
My heart is broken. 

I've had a amazing end of the year. Seems everything has came together and I truly feel connected to the universe. Life is truly happening for me now......

Yesterday I found out one of my dear friends passed away on Christmas Day. It truly took me by surprise. I wasn't expecting to hear the news at all. I have tears in my eyes now as I type this. My friend is gone. 

It's even more painful to share here because I met him on this very website over 10 years ago. This is why I know personally there are good people out there, on this site. I still have the old email he sent me when we connected on here. He was a kind gentle soul who would do anything he could to make you feel special. We had a physical relationship at first, but it blossomed into something more special then that. He was my TRUE FRIEND and knew who I was deep down. 

I remember when someone started a slam page on this site about me and he saw it. He called ma laughing because he knew that person didn't know who I was because what he typed was lies. He would always know what to say to me to bring joy into my heart. He was never jealous and always encouraged me to enjoy life ( just give him details later lol) My dear friend is now above looking down on me wishing I find happiness. 

This one truly hurts. My heart is broken. My friend baby love is gone. 

RIP My Dear Baby, Thank you for teaching me so much and being there when I first started learning who I was. I SCREAM LOUD MY LOVE, I MISS YOU, I MISS YOU, I MISS YOU!!! We will one day meet again.  <3 <3 <3 

Ms. --------------

12/24/2016 4:12:36 PM
I can not believe it's almost Christmas. Here it is Christmas Eve, I'm home with family and friends feeling amazing. It's been one interesting year. Lot of death the first 6 months of the year, crazy election. But those of us left here to witness this moment are blessed. 

I truly hope anyone who reads this is with those who love them the most. Be around people who truly get you and love you UNCONDITIONALLY! Don't settle or stay in a situation you have to ponder at night thinking "why I'm I here". Everyone deserves that true happiness. 

Merry Christmas to you all. Eat lots and enjoy yourself. <3 <3 

Ms. Ebony 

12/8/2016 4:08:32 PM
I've said it before and I will say it again, Life is truly but a dream. 

I'm only one woman in this world of billions. I've been in Bdsm/Femdom since I was a teen ( 19 ) and have learned a lot. I was trained by my Queen Domme and she taught me well. Yes it took me many years to fine tune my skills, however, when I did finally reached that level of being a TRUE DOMME I knew exactly what turned me on, get me wet and what brought me to this community. 

I refuse to settle for less. I don't care if it take me another year to find that ultimate KING ALPHA MALE ( that just so happens to be a filthy pig whore sub slave bitch behind closed doors ) I will continue my search. I've learned dealing with men ONLINE & REAL TIME, there are guys who are into this to get off and those who are serious about having one Domme they are committed to unless others are discussed to be brought in as spice. 

Most men who claim to be "submissive/slaves" aren't They are guys who enjoy TOPPING FROM BOTTOM and usually choose these low class wanna be Dommes from the hood because they know they can control them. They rather have a coke whore because she needs them ( the sub ) for her next fix. This isn't fiction, only facts. :) 

Most guys hate a woman who is educated, not a fool and have lots of streets smarts. A woman who know the game and know how men try to play "the game" even with a Domme. Real know's real from the door. Another fact. 

Since I'm 34 and not the young 23 year old young Domme trying to find my way in the scene, I will not play games with men who say one thing and do another. I purposely hand men rope just so they will hang themselves. I plant seeds just to allow them to grow. My motto with men, TIME WILL TELL/ because it always does. :) 

I feel sorry for them young fake coke whores from BK or Queens allowing these married men to Top them from bottom. They need those men badly and the men know it. Nah, I'll pass on that. I'm the ORIGINAL MS. EBONY and trust me, I don't give a fuck is a guy is a BILLIONAIRE no man will ever top me. PERIOD! :) 
This Domme Boss Bitch come from a good family, highly educated and just so happens to be a vanilla woman by day and a FREAK BY NIGHT! So what you can or can't do for me is a non factor. 

Disclosure: I'm not upset, mad or in a mood. It's my personal journal and I needed to say a few things so men in the future will know how to step up to me in this life or the next. 

Have a blessed day CS! 

Ms. Ebony 
Baddest Black Domme Bitch on the UWS of Manhattan 

Didn't know? Ask your co-worker. ;) 

11/24/2016 11:19:29 PM
Another nice Thanksgiving with family and friends. Great food, good conversation and love. 
I hope everyone enjoyed themselves and were around those that love them the most. 
Always smile and be happy, life is short, live yours to be best of your ability! 

Ms. Ebony 

4/21/2016 11:48:28 AM
Well we've lost another Iconic Musician. Prince Rogers Nelson aka Prince has died at the age of 57. 
Such a talent who transcended all races.  
May he rest in peace. 

Prince we will miss you. But your music lives on. <3


Bowie, now Prince, 2016 FUCK YOU!!!! 
 

3/17/2016 3:10:02 AM
Good Thursday Morning! 

Happy St. Patrick's Day to all the Irishmen/Women. :-) 
And to anyone else who celebrates it! 

Make sure you put a little green in your attire today!

Kisses, 

Ms. Ebony 
 

2/14/2016 5:23:04 AM
Happy Valentine's Day Beautiful Kinksters! 

I truly hope you are enjoying your day thus far. Make sure you spend it with someone who appreciates you for you and love you UNCONDITIONALLY! ( don't settle ) 

Also, make sure you add a lil Bdsm spice into your fun play tonight! :-) Try something new and open your mind to endless possibilities. That extra spice will keep the relationship fresh and fun. 

Side note: I want to thank all the Subs who've messaged me this year about my journal entries. You guys are truly awesome. I'm happy that in some way it helped give you faith that there are still good people in this Bdsm community. Every time I get a note about my entries, I just smile to myself. My Queen Domme  (who trained me many moons ago in Femdom/Bdsm )  would be proud! Kisses to you all. 

Have a wonderful day! <3 <3 <3 

Ms. Ebony 

1/11/2016 5:31:31 AM
Such a true Legend has passed. He was "sorta" before my time on this earth, but growing up my dad would play his music a lot and that's how I started to love his art.  

There would be no Madonna, GaGa, Beyonce etc, if this man wouldn't have broken down the doors for being DIFFERENT and making it mainstream. 

RIP David Bowie, you truly will be  missed. <3 

1/3/2016 3:07:49 PM

1/2/2016 1:49:29 PM
HAPPY NEW YEAR COLLARSPACE! 

I truly hope y'all brought the New Year in with those who love you the most and allow you to be yourself around them. 

First, I want to thank all the people who sent me messages thanking me for my Journal Entries. It truly brings joy to my heart that I've helped you somehow on your journey in Bdsm. 

I've been into this Fetish since I was 19. I've learned a lot and I'm still learning. I truly believe that Bdsm/Femdom is MORE then what a submissive can do for you financially or gift wise. It breaks my heart that over the last 5 years these fake Dommes have came into this lifestyle looking for a quick buck. It also saddens me that a lot of these men play right into it. As I said before, to stop this, MEN ALSO have to take charge and stop feeding into their hands.

The problem with men, they are so stuck on Beauty and Youth. These young girls ( WHO AREN'T DOMMES ) know this.  As I said before, SUPPLY AND DEMAND! If you don't know what that means, please I beg you, google it and you will then understand. 

If you meet someone on this site or wherever in Bdsm and first thing you have to do is give them something just to chat, RUN FOREST RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNN! >>>>> Block that person and MOVE ON! Don't even entertain the thought! Don't play with them, don't say yes I will , just to see where it goes, JUST GO! Those people aren't serious. Give me a break! Also, I know REAL PRO-DOMMES, trust me, they aren't using CollarSpace to build their clientele.  Because they don't have to. 

I truly hope that everyone who reads this have a great 2016. I hope you find what you seek in this life and find someone who loves you for you! There's someone out there for us all. Good luck on your journey and let's all have some KINKY FUN! :-) 

Ms. Ebony 



12/30/2014 6:45:56 PM
It was brought to my attention many times by people I've spoke with on here that they are a group of women ( Pretending to be Domme's ) snapping pics of guys doing things they ask just to use against them on some Blackmail Scheme. This information saddens me because I know for a FACT Real Domme's don't act this way. I for the life of me will never understand why these FAKES have chosen Bdsm/Kink as their way to ruin people and break up happy homes. ( for the sake of a freaking BUCK ) If I ever come across any of these people I will personally turn them in to NYPD or the FBI to be traced and prosecuted. I've been into this LifeStyle for a very long time and the stories I hear are just out of this world!

Guys I'm going to give you some advice and hopefully for your sake you will use it going forward. 

1) If you meet a woman on here who says she's a Domme, however she's under 25, Odds are she's not a real Domme. It takes years to earn your wings, trust me, BEEN THERE DONE THAT! 
2) If the Domme you meet tells you, only way you can speak with her is to send her some money, Instantly hit the Block/Ignore Button. Stop ENTERTAINING this mess! 
3) If she says it's a website she is on, bla bla meet her there, join, Apply #2 FAST! 
4) If she can't have a real conversation with you WITHOUT all the demands and calling you names and treating you as she own you an you just started a conversation with her 5 mins before, Odds are ( sorry to tell you ) She's not a REAL DOMME! Again APPLY #2! 
5) Guys stop looking for that fantasy girl. She's not real. If you are a true Kinkster, you want someone you can click and grow with. Not some instant over night pipe dream. 

I'm sorry some of you have been done so dirty by some of the people here. But this site was created for people in the Lifestyle of Bdsm/Fetish/Kink. Over the years folks have taken advantage and made this place a complete MADHOUSE! 

Happy New Years to you all. Make 2015 one of the best years ever in your life. 

Love, Peace and Forever Happiness for you all, 

Ms. Ebony 


 

12/2/2014 2:09:03 PM
I've got to say this. I feel really sorry for some of you Subs. A lot of you have been done so dirty and wrong by these new Domme's and it seems your pain has poured on to the one's who are LifeStyle types. 

But it's mostly your own fault. If you men wouldn't be so stuck on youth and beauty, these girls wouldn't be here. They know exactly what makes you tick and use it against you. Stop being so shallow and learn that Bdsm is more then just about sex or a hot session. 

I've been told by many that these girls are doing everything they can to scare the living sh** out of you, so you can then do whatever it is they ask. These girls aren't real Domme's, they are girls sitting in a room acting to get you to support their habits! 
Again, when will some of you learn! If you stop acting on how you dick feel, trust me you wouldn't be so bitter or cynical with everyone you come past on here. 

If someone tells you to meet them on a website or you have to pay for some site, you should instantly HIT IGNORE/BLOCK! But you guys are just so shallow, your mind is fooled and then you are pissed afterwards. 

This site use to be about the Lifestyle, now it's just majority coke whores and shallow men. 

So I blame you both! It's simple economics, SUPPLY AND DEMAND! 
Stop the freaking demand, the supply will run it's course! 

Ms. Ebony 

3/14/2014 3:20:31 AM

Good Morning Lovers, 

 

When will this winter go away? We shall see in the coming weeks I guess. 

 

Life is really truly a big experience. We all learn from the mistakes, situations and lessons put right in front of us. Being a Domme isn't as easy as most people claim it is. I speak to a LOT of Sub/Slaves who complain about all the FINDOMMES on this site, however, has any ever stopped to look at all the men who also play games? 

 

It seems I have a target on my chest for subs who are just into this for the "kink" of it all. I have plainly stated on my profile and in messages that i am a LifeStyle Domme. I seek a boi I can have a REAL RELATIONSHIP with, however I always seem to meet guys who just want to do sessions, meet at certain times and want to do things on their need when they are just horny. Why are men built this way? I understand that men are visual and think about sex constantly, but what can I say in my profile that points out this isn't what I personally seek? ( guess reading is fundamental )

 

I've been blessed to meet some great guys ( seemingly in the beginning ), however it never turns out that way. Also 99% of the guys who are under the age of 30 always turn out to be guys who are just into the KINK side of Bdsm/Femdom. They are more concerned about getting themselves off, how many Dommes they can get attention from and just being PETTY LIARS!  Which isn't a issue, hey, we all lie about things at some point, but what is it I got to say for them to understand KINK isn't the part of Bdsm that is the most important to me? 

 

Hey, we all love sex, we all love to get off, bla bla, however, for me, I seek a sub I can have a REAL CONNECTION with. I want someone I can trust, someone that can trust me and we both grow together. Being in a D/s relationship is the most important thing to me.  If I wanted to be a PRO DOMME, I could be! I have the knowledge the look and hell I'M SIMPLY THE BADDEST BITCH ON THIS WEBSITE! (<< a funny there ) :-)

 

 

However, that isn't what I seek and I need these young subs and SOME older married subs to understand that! I am not that Domme. If you want a Domme to deal with you on your time or this is all about getting you a good NUT, you might want to go down the hall and see all the lovely Pro Dommes on this site. Trust me, it's one , two, heck three that would love to do things how you want, get you off and tell you to place your coins on the counter and be out! 

 

"Life is just a Dream" ------Beyonce 

 

Enjoy your day Lovers, 

 

Ms. Ebony 

 


12/30/2013 3:23:17 PM

These last few days have been so eye opening for me. On Christmas I found out that someone had it out for me on CollarMe. At first, I won't lie, I was scared of what someone special ( the person that counts in my life ) would think about the profile. But then, I thought to myself, why does it matter? People are going to believe what they choose to believe and life will go on. I already know who set up the profile and I'm truly happy they did so. The troll want to make it look as though they are helping the next person, however, when something is shared one sided, you are only getting your own justification out of it. :-) You aren't trying to help anyone, you are only trying to share your miserable bad vibes about life, WITH THE WORLD! HA! Good Luck with that suga. 

 

I will not be ran off, and I will not hold my head down because of a spoiled brat that's main focus in life is to TROLL OTHERS! The same person who complains about all the "PRO" Dommes on this website. HA! But you want to TRASH a real LifeStyle Domme? HA! 

It's now gotten comical to me.

 

TO ANYONE who reads this, PLZZZ, I beg of you, BELIEVE what my hater is saying. Go with your gut and "Believe everything that is put on the internet", PLZZZZ DO! Because truth is, MY TRUE CORE BABIES, Know me, Know what I am about and will not stray because of a PUNK TROLL SPOILED BRAT! 

 

Ms. Ebony, the real BADDEST BITCH ON COLLARME! ( Believe it ) 

 

" I woke up like this, I woke up like this"   -Beyonce-

 


12/28/2013 10:38:52 AM

So many people have been mailing me and IM'ing me about this profile that was created, and I truly think it's funny. I already know EXACTLY who it is, and who done it. He isn't man enough to come to me because he know's what it is. ;) ... One thing I learned about life is, people will always believe what they want to believe or not. In the age of the internet, it's easy for people to make up stuff and put it out there. Life will still progress. Loyalty is something that is tested in situations like this, and it helps weed out those who aren't. So I say to the miserable guy who thinks I don't know who he is, THANKS! You did me a favor dear. You aren't going to run me off. You wanna play a game? Then lets play. Or be a man and come from behind your laptop/phone/computer. Doubt it! 

 

Being miserable has turned into a hobby. Sad but so true.

 

Ms. 


12/25/2013 5:51:39 AM

Merry Christmas Everyone. Seems I created a "hater" ( I use that term lightly ) here on CM. :-) I knew it was bound to happen. What tickles me about this website is, You have so MANY guys complaining about how they are so many Domme's requesting money, etc. But then again, they are still complaining about Domme's who have her OWN rules. NOT ONE GUY from here can say I've asked them for ANYTHING monetary, but then you go and create a WHOLE profile complaining about me and my requirements? HA! Simply amazing, however it's funny because I have little "christmas  helpers", that will always text or IM me letting me know what these other MISERABLE subs are doing to discredit someone else. I've been a Domme for 12 years now, and sure I have rules, and if anyone don't want to go by my rules, they aren't forced or made to do anything! I get that they are people who are cynical, horrible lives and just plain bored, but this is a site created for ADULTS RIGHT? Obviously some men are just true boys deep down. You'll enjoy your Holiday. Stay happy, blessed and forever loved by that special someone. Kisses....

 

Ms. 


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