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Attractive, intelligent, fit, educated, successful and well travelled.
I run a company as a CEO in the entertainmenttech industry. My master, whom I loved deeply and with whom I built a company and life with passed away, and after a number of years of mourning, I am ready to start dating in hopes of finding a new life partner. Please do not write me to console me Im fully recovered otherwise I wouldnt be here.
I tried the vanilla life..so didnt work. So Im here. Id rather be alone than with the wrong person. Please read my journal entries before you write to me.
I dont have any issues, and Im a fully functional adult who enjoys a very lovely life. So those of you that think that I have low self-esteem, please dont contact me. Ive met more than my fair share of fake doms who think that this is a means to beat up or abuse women. I am not one of those. Heres a hint--If you love choking, beating, forced analoral, youre basically just a rapist in the guise of a dom.
Earn my respect, youll be on your way to earning my trust, and eventually my love. I am a true sub in that I am equal to or more than you in the world, in intellect, drive, ambition and love of life. I have lead the life that some write books about, and others dream of and I am content within myself. My submission and my kinks are reserved for that one person who has truly mastered himself and has the ability to master me, and with that we can build an empire.
So many fake doms have contacted me and been outed for their stupidity that they complained and suspended my journal.
For those of you with nothing but time on your hands to write to insult me..here is what happens when you do that...your profile is shown around to my friends, you are reported and then you are mocked by complete strangers. You also demonstrate that youre nothing more than an insecure little boy who has to anonymously troll a stranger because they most likely wouldnt give you the time of day in real life.
Attractive, intelligent, fit, educated, successful and well travelled.
I run a company as a CEO in the entertainmenttech industry. My master, whom I loved deeply and with whom I built a company and life with passed away, and after a number of years of mourning, I am ready to start dating in hopes of finding a new life partner. Please do not write me to console me Im fully recovered otherwise I wouldnt be here.
I tried the vanilla life..so didnt work. So Im here. Id rather be alone than with the wrong person. Please read my journal entries before you write to me.
I dont have any issues, and Im a fully functional adult who enjoys a very lovely life. So those of you that think that I have low self-esteem, please dont contact me. Ive met more than my fair share of fake doms who think that this is a means to beat up or abuse women. I am not one of those. Heres a hint--If you love choking, beating, forced analoral, youre basically just a rapist in the guise of a dom.
Earn my respect, youll be on your way to earning my trust, and eventually my love. I am a true sub in that I am equal to or more than you in the world, in intellect, drive, ambition and love of life. I have lead the life that some write books about, and others dream of and I am content within myself. My submission and my kinks are reserved for that one person who has truly mastered himself and has the ability to master me, and with that we can build an empire.
So many fake doms have contacted me and been outed for their stupidity that they complained and suspended my journal.
For those of you with nothing but time on your hands to write to insult me..here is what happens when you do that...your profile is shown around to my friends, you are reported and then you are mocked by complete strangers. You also demonstrate that youre nothing more than an insecure little boy who has to anonymously troll a stranger because they most likely wouldnt give you the time of day in real life.
If you use kik, the 90s called and wants their T-mobile sidekick back. I have zero interest in texting you or messaging, its super simple, if I think there is a connection, Ill give you my number and we have a conversation, if that goes well, then we trade face photos and hen we meet. If things work, they work. If they dont, then good luck. If I say were not a match, be man, deal with your rejection and move on. Calling me names or being nasty, just validates that my instinct to say no was correct.
If you are a person that says they have been doing this for 25 years and are an expert and you arent at least 55, youre a poseur. If you dont know the difference between youre and your, or their and there, seriously, dont write to me. CS deletes punctuation if you use your mobile, or maybe it just hates apostrophes, so Ill not judge too hardly on punctuation, but common grammar errors, please, just move on.
I am not impressed by your title, or your wealth or just how important you think you are, and if you claim to be in the movie business, please, Ive walked in those circles, know lots of people in those spaces and I get the gameso please, spare me the I make movies and Im important ploy. Ill probably laugh at you.
Im impressed by how you handle things when things are sideways, how you treat people, how you approach me, and if you have a certain degree of literacy and wit.
I have zero need to scam anyone, nor do I have the time or energy for thatI have a life. Also, often, I amhave been the only woman in the room, here is what Ive learned...men who claim lots and talk too much without saying anything usually have nothing and ate often useless. The quiet man, who listens, and only speaks when there is truly something to say, thats the man I want to be with, because he has mastery of himself. If you have alcohol issues, you quite honestly cant be a dom, or even anyone I would trust enough to master me..because you dont have power over yourself. I dont have these issuesI know exactly who I am, and what Im about and what Im capable of doing and achieving. Its why Im free in who I am and what my kinks are and why, though I miss being in relationship, Ill be happy to tell you to take a long walk off a short bridge if you behave badly.
Ive listed my job here as a benchmark of who I am and what Ive accomplished to give you an idea of whether we may work or not as a couple. Im not someone who is going to want to be your housekeeper. I have my own housekeeper, why on earth would I want to be one and why would you want to waste my skills, abilities and professional relationships on something so idiotic?
Also, Im a submissive, but I am not your submissive, nor am I prostitute, nor am I a newbie that isg waiting to be selected by you. Nor do I respond to being messaged as if I were. While I have a few bad habits being unattached for so many years, I am highly trained and very skilled and if you eat my respect, trust and love, you will not be disappointed.
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More from the stupid files:
So--ssg--whatever writes me to berate me for posting the inanity I receive. So here it is once and for all--I will out you for being stupid. Why? Because when I out one of you, some of the smarter of your set, choose someone else to contact. It's that simple really.
Many of you fake doms/dommes who send me the things I repost here serve as a warning to the others that I am not the person to contact. When I started doing this, the quality of my encounters on here increased. Also--it's kind of funny/sad just how much we have devolved as a society and that simple things like manners and class are completely gone.
So here we go:
BeLuckqua2 45 year old male from NY - writes:
The true function of D/s is to arouse the ancient feelings of awe and strangeness
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Well, Mr. Moto (that's master of the obvious) . Why you would write to me in the first place begs the question--but then I don't really want to know. The other is that your statement shows just how little you know about kink, D/s. Stop watching porn and step away from your Christian Grey novel.
This one from DarkSeducer in Cer Wyoming, who needs to go back to school and learn to read and work on his comprehension skills. He was writing in response to my comparing the sadist that sent me his dangerous and scary filth to Mengele. Now, I noted that the sender of that particular piece of trash was a liberal, but I did not, really make any other inferences. So this idiot sends me the stupidity below, completely ignoring that at my age, with a classic education in politics - I was correct in stating that fascists come from the extreme left.
Based on the spectrum I was raised with and taught that the extreme left is Fascism and the extreme right being anarchy. This was a private school education in history and politics that gave me this spectrum and I have discovered that this has since been redefined into, and please forgive my vulgarity here - whatever fucked spectrum that seems to meet the ends of whichever news channel you watch. As someone who is in the middle and deeply disturbed by the lack of reason in any conversation regarding public policies, laws, economics or the democratic process - the fact that I have millenials telling me that their feelings are facts and disagreement of those make me a fascist - I have personally decided to read many views, glean what facts I can verify and then operate from there. However, getting back to this old bald idiot--Please, let me assure you-By outing the sadist that, by his writing is someone who is dangerous to a person, and by mocking his liberal politics because of his stupidity, I have inadvertently invited more idiocy. I believe in my other post, there are sadists and masochists and if everyone is playing safe, sane and consensually, I don't really care. Nowhere did I equate politics to ones kinks, other than jokingly. So Enjoy this jackasses's ramblings and feel free to mock him at your leisure. I know I did.
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Pardon me, but a majority of the so called sadists on this site associate with the far right of the political spectrum, and Mengele was, and always will be, associatied with far right wing politics. In Germany, and my ex is from Berlin, the Nazi party of Hitler, as well as the current NeoNazis, are to labeled a right wing political party. A persons political leanings have nothing to do with their like or dislike for sadomasochism. To come on here and try to make claims to the contrary only shows that you are the one who needs some psychological help, and not those writing you. |
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More from the potential serial killer files:
Now I have met a lot of men from India, because of my work in the tech industry--it truly is interesting how they both hate and desire American women and the inferiority complex they seem to have. Even if they are successful. Also the social climbing that they participate in is both repulsive and fascinating. This guy seems to have worked out his anger/inferiority complex. Feel free to harass him.
This guy called cruel destroyer and is from India and 30.
'sadist seeking slave to work owned ltr, tpe ,no rights, no safe words, extreme use, abuse torture, use to lowest level, permanent ownership, if interested reply'
This one from a profile called whore abuser and then 666 - a 60 year old man. So again, based on your profile name, what remotely makes you think that I or any other sub wants to be a whore or abused? But the fact that he wrote me this is just creepy.
hello how are you doing today
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This one from a 36 year old millenial - who's opening salvo is:
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Hi. Does abduction and rape play intrigue you? |
Again, not knocking the kinks--but this is the opening message you send to someone? I understand that you youngsters have not been taught how to communicate well, but sending this to someone as your intro message tells me you're either an idiot or a sociopath. Probably both.
this from a guy identifying himself as a female xploiter around the age of 40.
I will grant you that he was polite, if his grammar and sentence construction a little messy, but review of his profile shows, yet again, that this is a person with some deep seated anger issues against women. Again, not knocking anyone's kinks, but here's the reality, if anyone thinks that it's completely OK to engage in BDSM or whatever kinks without earning someone's trust or respect and then not have feelings then you probably are a sociopath and are potentially dangerous to a sub, especially if your kinks involve physical injury to someone.
but here's the quote:
'thanks for the kind words but being honest i never hard a loving heart. my granny who was my nanny for 8 years suddenly died and to me was like any other day. i barely has emotions. i think im in part sociopath who care very few about emotions or stupid things like love. but i do believe in being fair, in rewards and punishments and in take good care of those who actually serve good and become an important part of what you need in life.'
Pretty chilling - I asked this person to never contact me again, for obvious reasons - but seriously, I have been really clear about what I'm looking for, and yet, I cannot seem to understand why people like this contact me?
Now granted, since I started posting these and outing some of the scary and stupid messages I have received--the frequency of this has decreased greatly. That was my hope when I decided to do it. I do get the occasional person who writes to me to lecture me about my journals and giving me advice on how to live my life, or how to get to konw a person--they seem to miss my humour in my ridicule. I got a message from one Dom who told me how to get to know someone first. My response to that is--Gee, really?
Here's a clue--if you're going to send a person a message, understand that there's a human being at the other side. It's ok to be upfront about your kinks, but have some courtesy and if you're profile or thoughts are anything close to the ones I posted, save yourself the trouble and don't contact me.
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So now a message from the truly disturbed and probably is a serial killer -
This is a 59 year old white man living in Dallas Texas -- but he's willing to 'relocate', his profile states that he lives the way most people want to--but if that's the case, then why is he willing to relocate? Why is he 59 years old and approaching someone who is CLEARLY not into anything he's proposing? My guess is that he doesn't have any power in his real life so this is his outlet--but--oof--what would happen if this guy really flips out and decides to act on some of the garbage he sent me. Anyone missing in his area? --Just saying.
Honestly, what woman/sub/masochist would want to be physically abused on the level that this person is proposing? If you read his profile, it's even more graphic and violent. His profile is that truly simple if you want to read it. Now the kicker--he identifies as a political Liberal. Now--this guy is probably out there marching against the 'fascist' Republicans, but then he wants to behave in privately as bad as Mengele--which to me kind of says something about the extreme left. Note-this is not a comment on my own political leanings, this is an observation about one person's self identified politics, observed behaviour of those that share his political beliefs and a comment on maybe that's something to think about.
Now, I'm not one to comment on anyone's kinks--there's something for everyone as long its safe/sane/consensual, but this guy has some real anger issues and is truly disturbed.
The things outlined in the following email are banned by the US government against use as interrogation methods and if they actually physically happened to a person, would most likely result in that person's death within days because a number of medical reasons. The things this person has outlined here and on his profile are not remotely what a healthy BDSM relationship is about. This is the kind of abuse that has been perpetuated on women, male children in places such as Africa, Bosnia, Latin America, and The Middle East by ISIS, the Iraq Republican Army, Hussein's sons, as well as in Afghanistan by the Taliban, The Russians, and the Japanese to Korean/Chinese POW's and the Nazi's on just about everyone. This is physical and mental torture that is condemned world.
I hope that those of you that check into my Journal from time to time will take a page and understand - again - and I'm repeating myself - Submission is a gift that is earned, it is consensual and it is a not a pass to be physically and mentally abused by a person claiming to be a dom. Those that that think it does should seek professional mental health help and look to get out of the abusive relationship. For those that think submission is a pass to do this to someone - you should be arrested for physical/mental abuse, locked up and never let out.
Exact quotes:
I will not divulge all of the methods I will use on you for fear and shock is two valuable tools I use to break you, but I will give you some examples. BE WARNED: If you are interested, I won’t play text games, yahoo chats or other bullshit! I WILL ONLY SPEAK BY PHONE AND WITH REAL PEOPLE!
My profile tells you about being caged, chained and having your fuck holes ripped wide open. Your ass hole will be fully distended until it looks like that of a red assed m. The large weights attached to your pussy lips will make you walk bow legged like an ape. Because of these weights and hooks you will be forced to pee standing upright so you will piss all over your own feet. You will be bathed with a cold garden hose and flooded will numerous enemas.
You will sleep in your cage or chained down next to my bed because my dog sleeps on the bed and you are less than an animal. If my dog pees on the floor, you will clean it and be punished for my dog’s disobedience.
You will be forced to chant for hours, slogans that demonstrate your sub human position on the food chain. The chants will stick in your mind until you hear them even in your sleep. You will suffer hours and days of repeated audio messages that will destroy your concentration and disturb your ability to sleep. You will be deprived of light, darkness and sleep until you lose all track of time and orientation. One day will be 23 hours long and some nights will last a week.
You will both be punished and rewarded with pain until all that matters to you is the next abuse until you fear it yet desire it. I will drive you insane until all you recognize, all you know and all you desire is suffering and sexual violations. You already know the degrading sexual usages you will be subjected to until your body is fully destroyed; tits scared, holes torn and flopping open, etc.
You will constantly degrade yourself in front of men, women and groups in public and private.
Water boarding, burning wax and ice, the wooden pony, horse whips and hitching straps, dog dishes, shock collar and much more.
You will spend hours hung in stress positions forced to repeat over and over responses to commands. Here is an example and your first responses to learn. I will tell you to repeat these verbatim. LEARN THEM NOW!
These are my requirements for your behavior.
- A. Do not wear panties.
- B. Do not sit with your knees together. Your sex must always be available.
- C. Do not cross your arms or hide your breasts.
- D. Do not pull away or shield yourself. Your protection is now my kingdom and so is the severity of your abuse.
- E. Never look into the face of those who use you. Keep your eyes lowered and fixed between their legs.
You will repeat these responses verbatim – LEARN THEM!
Question: What is the 30 second rule?
Response: When you say “Show me your ass” I have 30 second to get completely naked, bend over and spread my ass wide.
Question: What are you here for?
Response: “To get my pussy, my ass and my mouth filled with cum.”
Question: What are you?
Response: “I’m your whore Sir.”
Question: Why are you shaved?
Response: “Because whores don’t have hair.”
Question: What are these men going to do to you?
Response: “Fuck me rough and hurt me.”
Question: Why are you whipped?
Response: “Because you enjoy my pain.”
Command: Offer your ass.
(Bent over spread)
Response: “Please Sir, would you like to abuse my |
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So, more from the stupid message box--
This one from a millenial supposed bisexual 'domme' who has two profiles, on posing as a 23 year old and the other as a 36 year old--both with badly photoshopped bodies. The 36 year old sent me this first communication:
(1) Chief Executive Officer (2) The Big Cheese (3) The person in charge of a company who has no other qualifications but thinks he or she does. (4) See also: asshole, idiot, pain in the ass, obstacle, bottleneck, waste, or worthless. My response to this was that she demonstrates the truly cunt like behaviour (please forgive the language, as there really isn't a classier term for this abhorrence of nastiness) that women do to one another because they are jealous of another woman's success. My other public response to this, is, perhaps if you were a little more focused on actually working, instead of trying to land someone to financially take care of you through your back or your knees, you wouldn't feel the need to send such nastiness to another female. What is truly interesting is that after I blocked this Miss Jeans (but spelled differently), she logged back in as the 23 yo from San Francisco --with a name for that city in Australia with the Opera House only misspelled to send the message back to me. For which, I question--what is the point? So onto the next idiot who happened to write to me--62 year old--way too old for me, as I have zero desire to be a caretaker in my later years and actually want to find someone close to my age so I can let gravity happen to us together--profile name DD...think the rest of the name after the low budget movie house run by the other pig of a Weinstein brother (wait until people start coming forward about him). I politely stated that I wasn't interested due to his age. His response to me was the following: Your rejecting me cus I am 62.................. LOL it is far easier to find a 20 year old as I often do...and women your age to are too jaded,,,,,. so you miss out....I others words fuck off.....LOLSo, a polite response to this person resulted in being told I am jaded and that he can get a 20 year old...well, that's obvious, but the reality is she's working you for cash, and if you wanted a 20 year old, you wouldn't have approached me. Jaded is word that means hard--bored and lacking enthusiasm. That is hardly the case. If I were jaded, I wouldn't be posting on here. Because I am selective and I am clear in what I am seeking, I'm hardly jaded. Nor, as a submissive am I going to diminish myself to make you feel better about yourself. If you're a true dom, you would never say that to anyone that rejected you, and you'd hardly insult someone so rudely if they were polite and respectful to you. Feel free to ridicule this person anytime. There were a few other stupid messages that I received this week but these are the highlights. Enjoy their stupidity at your leisure. |
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So I received this a few days ago:
You have a chip on your shoulder and your hypergamy won't let you get past anything but an occasional fling. You should forget this life if you are looking for a long term partner. You'd do better finding some rich dude in your peer group. |
This coming from a millenial who is 150 lbs overweight, living in Florida. Which, I'm sure those of you who are intelligent and understand that Florida is a cesspool of humanity and would be better off if it were wiped off the map--ever notice how all the really fucked up shit that humans do to each other happens in Florida? Here's another interesting fact--the largest FBI office is located in Florida. Why? Because every single idiot who does something dumb, moves to Florida. However, I digress..
This little gem's name is reminiscent of the Pulp Fiction character who gets killed by Bruce Willis and the last line of the movie about Zed with the number 7 after it, only like some of the hillbilly Floridians I met he can't seem to spell dead properly--but he does get some points for using an SAT word. Obviously he gets his idea of BDSM from that movie, and has no clue about what a real relationship entails. Even in a TPE relationship (and no, I'm not talking about the Gorean bullshit that some of you on here advocate), true intimacy and love comes from recognizing your partner's abilities and weaknesses both the Dom's and the sub. That means there isn't any hypergamy involved, nor is there a chip on my shoulder because I'm not going to converse with the likes of you. Maybe if you put down the fried cheetos for a minute and took a walk now an again, and demonstrated that you actually knew how to have a conversation in real life, then perhaps you wouldn't have to send this bullshit to someone who would, based on your profile, your location, your screen name would never approach you and never date you.
Now--onto another millenial that sent me the following opening one liner--'Would you get breast implants?' This brainiac took his name from a 70's detective tv show starring James Garner. Obviously he lives on the beach somewhere in California. Now back to his opening salvo--seriously? You don't know me, you've seen my body photo, I'm in shape, and take care of myself, and your first question to me, after reading my profile is to ask me to butcher my body to suit your fantasy, with zero regard for my health or physical well being. I mean, I do live in LA, and breast implants are ubiquitous, as are models and actresses. Of which, I am neither, nor have I ever tried to be. Now, I do everything I can to fight gravity and aging, but committing to a major potentially life threatening surgery with a complete stranger is not something I or any other sane person would do in a first time communication. Anyone that would, I hope you would have psychologically tested first.
Finally there was one other millenial idiot that reached out to me whose message I deleted because I was tired and it so stupid that it wasn't worth mentioning, but since I'm on a roll--he slammed me because I stated that I was attractive and that by saying so, I'm insecure. Again, millenial--no, having confidence in and an understanding of your physical attributes without being insecure or minimizing them to make others feel better isn't insecure, it's called being confident. However, it's not just a personal opinion. Am I a model? NO. Have I modeled? Yes--I was asked to. Do I have random strangers in LA come up to me and compliment me? Yes--is it often? No, because I'm over 25 and I live in the land of pretty people. When I leave LA do men flirt with me, that I find it disconcerting because I'm so used to being ignored in LA, absolutely--I have had to do a double take and apologize because I didn't realize they were talking to me. Does this make me insecure, no, I'm grounded, I like who I am, I take care of myself and I honestly don't give a fuck who finds me attractive or not. When my Master dressed me, it was because of how he wanted to see me, and because I'd rather be barefoot in a pair of cargo pants and a t-shirt. Do I dress up to go out--yes, because it reminds me of him and I feel good about the way I look, mainly because he taught me how to dress. Now, I have to do work drag for business, but I'm not where I am in my career because of my looks, I'm where I am because I have an immense brain and I'm good at what I do.
The person with whom I settle again, if I ever do, will find me attractive as I will him, because that's how it works. He will dress me as he wants, and personally I can't wait for that because, I truly hate shopping. Mutual attraction, similar values, similar kinks, honesty and trust. Does complete strangers yelling at me or denigrating me because they don't like the way I look bother me? Not particularly, why? Because they're strangers and they could be crazy people and most likely are--because they chose to troll a complete stranger on the internet. Now, millenial, I know you're trying to get some sort of validation that mommy and daddy aren't giving you anymore or that you've figured out that the world doesn't revolve around you, but trolling me isn't going to fix that. It's just going to provide amusement for the rest of us.
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So..it seems today is the day that random people have decided to write to me and call me vile names. One such person touting his love of Asian slaves—so much so he states his prowess as a master (you can figure out the name from those clues) proceeded to tout the typical racial stereotype of Asian women being naturally submissive. Hmmm..I speak Mandarin and Japanese Fluently. I read and write both at a 1st or 2nd grade school level, well to be honest first grade. I have lived in both countries and spent time in Korea, Philippines and Thailand. That means I have spent enough time to be mistaken for native in my behaviour and my dialect.
Dear white guy who thinks Asian women are naturally submissive. You are not only a stupid man, but you are also a prime example of the kind of idiocy and racism that exists today by your stated racial stereotyping. Your proclivities, the fact that you live in Nevada and other things in your profile indicate you are one of those men who uses BDSM as a way to beat up women. The women with whom you state are the type of stereotype you seek to find are probably those you know you can prey on because they are the most vulnerable by their economic or immigration status. Any other American raised Asian girl is just dating you to piss off her parents and perhaps put off graduate school before she dumps your broke ass and goes on to a successful career. As for your other nasty comments about my marriage and the death of my husband/Master, they were just, frankly, completely uncalled for—I understand that you are extremely limited in self esteem, intellect and manners, but there was zero reason for you to write to me at all. I’m Hispanic dipshit. That’s not Asian, and I would never approach you. But seeing as you decided to inflict yourself on me so rudely, here is my response with seeing as how you sent me your vicious trash and then blocked me. Maybe you’re having a bad day—maybe you’re tired of jerking off because no one will date you because of your inane profile. I don’t know, but assaulting complete strangers is borderline crazy. I wonder if you might be one of those people up on a roof someday, or you might be one step away from jail. Either way—complete strangers are laughing at you.
So catch a clue—sending me vile profanity laced messages about me being fucked up because I don’t conform to your stupidity is not my problem. It’s yours and you can avoid being outed for said stupidity by ignoring me and moving on to someone that fits in your box. My submission makes me better at what I do in my work. It frees me to be the best partner to my master in a long term relationship and it allows me to financially and emotionally benefit the man that earns my submission, through earning my respect, my trust and love. It’s not something to be taken, it is given.
Now, onto the Jenny person, whom, I guess is a partner or friend of some other idiot I rightly sussed out wasn’t a match for me. You are another example of what is wrong with
women in society today, the only way we can feel good about ourselves is to rip someone down. If someone sends me a random non-sequitur or one liner, or some other rant and diatribe that has nothing to do remotely with what I have clearly stated are my preferences or I review your profile and I see that you love stuff that I don't, then I know we are not a match. If you’re stating you’re in a poly relationship or a couple, we are not a match. If you send me something that calls me a bitch/cunt in a first email, we’re not a match. If you write something you think is funny—which is what this fake millenial domina who is looking for a sugar daddy is referencing—some rando sent me something obviously where I didn’t get the humour and I told the man we weren’t a match. We are not a match. I don’t need to explain myself. Being submissive does not mean I am a doormat. Being my age means I’ve worked out for the most part who I am and what I’m about and I truly don’t give a fuck what anybody thinks. But here’s an observation, most of you aren’t half as clever, goodlooking or great as you think you are. So maybe if you want to meet someone like myself—a reasonable, rational person that is a human being and is neither insecure or arrogant about anything, you should start there. When I approach someone, I approach them with courtesy, and when I state we aren’t a match, I’m polite about it.
Unless you act like an idiot, which, a lot of you are, then because you have behaved so, I will denigrate you and block you in hopes of ensuring the next person you approach after me won’t be assaulted in such a manner. But having your millenial sugar baby send me a nasty message is just sad. It shows you dont really have what it takes to truly be a master. Because a true dominant and a real man, is neither threatened by me, my success, or being rejected by me. He understands that he is human and he certainly doesn’t need or have his girlfriend stick up for him and attack a complete stranger for telling someone they are not a match.
Now please, people who have no other life, or are mentally disturbed, or are don‘t match what I’m looking for. Please don’t write to me. I will out you on here and then I will share your stupidity with my friends in real life so they can see that I’m not being picky. Because the people who care about me want me to be happy, and want me to move on. My ad on here shows them I have moved on and they stop trying to set me up with people and they now get laugh at how idiotic a majority of you truly are.
Do you really want to have strangers laugh at you? Its probably not the reaction you were seeking when you sent me your garbage. But that’s truly the result you’re achieving. So maybe you want to think about that before you send something to me that demonstrates your stupidity. |
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It's said that a man who has a thousand horses says very little, and a man who has no horses says far too much and none of it of value. There seems to be a lot of you with no horses on here.
How to tell if you're a real Dom:
Your screenname isn't stupid and contains names like Master/Slut/MustObey or other stupid tripe.
You don't have a dick pick as your main profile picture.
When you are politely and courteously rejected you don't respond to me with cursing/vulgarity or calling me or anyone else names.
You don't try to psychoanalyze me (or any other sub for that matter).
You are secure enough that you know if you fit what I'm seeking. Meaning that you're age appropriate and in relatively good shape.
You actually know how to start a conversation with a message that contains more than 'hi.'
You actually read a person's profile/journal before approaching them.
You have a profile that talks a bit more about you and not just how great a 'Dom' you are.
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Because a few of you insist on sending me a vulgarity over and over, and blocking just results in you creating a new profile. I am now no longer answering any messages that are not within my age/range specifications. I had filtered you, and reviewed you and responded politely, but now some of you have become incredibly rude.
So, in the future, if you wish to correspond with me, do make sure you have your age correct, or your messages will go unanswered and ignored. |
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If I, or any sub for that matter, says they're not interested. Please don't be one of THOSE 'doms' that then thinks it is OK for you to write to us at a later date to say "Hi."
When you write back to a sub, or any woman that has already rejected you, most often you are proving her instinct to reject you as completely and totally right. Particularly when the person, in their rejection is polite. Being submissive doesn't mean that we don't know what we're looking for and for those of us who have ourselves together, when we say no, we mean it.
We may reject you because you are too old. Personally, I don't want to be a widow again, so unless you are in fantastic shape and have the body of someone half your age, and no genetic signs of dementia, alzheimers, etc. if you're more than 10 years older than me, then I'm probably going to say NO. I take immaculate care of myself and when I meet people they think I'm way younger than I am. (Sunscreen, it's a good thing).
We may reject you because you are too young. I'm so tired of millenials who are half my age, or even 10 years younger than I telling me that they have been with women my age or older and that those women submitted to them. To which my response..of course, those women are probably broken and have a lot of psychological issues. Yes, you're young, and you're pretty to look at, but in life experience, intellect and emotional maturity, because you are a male, you are still a child, and most of you, unless you've had a similar childhood to mine, where you were out on the street at 15, having started having any kind of maturity until you're around 38.
Personally I need a man that is not only my equal but more than I am--as I am a submissive. You need to earn my respect first, then my trust and ultimately my love. That takes a lot of time, it doesn't happen overnight and it's certainly not going to happen over a few emails/chats. For me, I'm not going to engage in any kind of stuff until I've known you and spent time with you for at least 3 months. (Yes, there will be kissing, maybe some vanilla sex to kick the tires, lots of conversations, and building of trust/intimacy, but to submit to someone after a couple of dates, doesn't make any sense to me, and seems kind of risky and stupid. Especially after some of the graphic awful serial killer things that I've seen some of you write, or in reading some of your screen names).
Hence, just because you might be financially successful because you struck it big with some investor money, or mommy and daddy paid your bills until you got your career going, you are way too young for me. (maybe when I'm in my 80's and I'm still single and you're in your late 50's that difference may be Ok because by then you're a man).
Then there is the cultural communications difference. Ranging from the use of 'u' instead of 'you', texting instead of conversation, the temper tantrums being thrown because you don't get your way, the fact your parents are your best friend and you might be living at home, the idea that you are 'special' (sorry I was out of the office when that memo went out) and that your feelings supplant facts.
Very rarely does 20 years difference work out. There are conversations that can't be had, shared cultural experiences, and then life learning and growth together.
Not to mention, both in older and younger men, the reality that gravity is a thing.That means aesthetically, if you're over 60, then things are dropping to your knees and it's not that attractive. For men under 45, gravity affects me too. That means, everything is starting to sag, no matter how much I work out. It's not unreasonable for me to want to find someone close enough to my age where we can enjoy our lifestyle and the effects of gravity aren't nearly as noticeable to us as we're going through it together.
So truly, please stop with the awful justification behaviour and the further stupidity of insulting me because I or any other sub has told you they're not interested. If you want a broken attention whore, then OK..maybe some subs want you to chase them. But I'm betting that most of us aren't and we don't want you to chase us. We want to find the one who actually gets us, and shows up and that our kinks match and our limits that we want to explore are overlapped and that all of the vanilla stuff works as well.
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Ok..well it seems my previous journal entry didn't weed everyone out, but it did cut down on some of the stupidity.
However, for the record. I'm recovered from my loss and my grief. I stated it, simply to inform you of where I'm at emotionally. Please, no more I'm sorry emails. I don't need it. You didn't kill him, so there is zero reason for you to apologise for my loss. Unless you gave him cancer..in that case..well, you should be sorry.
Now...here's a way to again, self select out and save us both some time and a clogged email box.
--If you're sending me some random picture or artistic pinterest grab rather than a simple face photo, yeah..we're not going to be a match. Save us both some time and don't write.
--if collarspace/your iphone/computer doesn't let you upload your picture..call tech support, change your browser. Or figure it out.
--if you are a sub or a switch or poly--don't write me at all. Why would you waste your time?(Rhetorical)
--If you send me a face photo--I will respond in kind, even if I'm not attracted. I believe in Quid Pro Quo.
--If I tell you I'm not attracted, please don't respond and tout how handsome others think you are--that just shows me you're vain and insecure. Some men find me attractive, others don't, and frankly I don't care. My worth isn't measured by what anyone thinks of me, nor do I need to sell myself to anyone on what others think of. I like who I am in the mirror. Beyond that..who cares. Now, that doesn't mean I don't appreciate a compliment and I'm always polite, and mean things hurt my feelings too, but I take time to consider the source and if you're insulting me after I rejected you--you might want to consider how that reads. But please..don't use a compliment as an opener to talk to me. Nothing rings more stupid then..'hey, you're sexy, wanna chat.'
--No chat requests or friend requests. I don't have the time. If we like the look of one another after an intelligent exchange and trading of photos if you don't have them already posted, we'll move straight to a phone conversation--if that goes well, then we will arrange to meet.
--If you are too far away..that can work, but bear in mind, I've got a company to turn around so my workload is busy, I have limited time to travel. LA is nice, I give great hotel recommendations.
--Please don't try to impress me with your list of material wealth. I make my own money and foot my bills. Am I rich? No..thank you 2008 and medical bills for my partners death. Do I do alright? Yes. Does it matter? Money is nice because it buys time and comfort while doing things. It buys time to indulge in our relationship pursuits because we have time to linger with one another. But does it make me desperate to meet you? NO!
Here is what I care about:
--Do our kinks match up in the likes/loves category? If you love canes/crops--and it's my hard limit..we're most likely going to be a match. Could some of those limits be eased? with trust and patience after a few years..probably after we have shown each other we love each other and everyone is properly educated. But why would you deny yourself that? Find your simpatico, or enough overlap where there's space for everyone to be happy.
--Your age. Don't write to me as a 38 year old and tell me you have 20 years experience. You still have 38 years life experience and its probably a quarter of what my 48 years have been. If you're pushing 60, unless you're in incredibly shape and mentally attractive/mature/and want an equal, don't write me. I don't care how successful you are--you're retired you want/need someone young desperate and willing to put up with you and do whatever you say. That isn't me.
--If your first message to me is intelligent, then I'll review your profile--if, after review, I say we're not a match. Take my assessment and move on. Don't argue your case. That shows me you're weak and insecure, and validates my gut instinct.
--I am polite in all of my responses unless you send me something completely idiotic. In which place, because I have dry/sarcastic sense of humour and occasionally can't pass up a good quip, I reserve the right to decimate you for your stupidity. (I know--I should take the higher road, and as my dear friend says, I should "leave the stupid people alone."--but I can't help it sometimes--I'm human).
--Be HWP. I am. I work myself hard to be so. Now I have lapses..like I have at the moment where that 10lbs plus or minus is hard to keep off..but I'm still getting my new work routine down and that's impacted my workouts. If you're overweight, or your a total gym rat who lives at the gym, we're not going to be a match. I'm healthy, you be so too. I'm healthy in that I do the things I like to do, and my partner used exercise as a form of punishment. But seriously--all you hardcore runners/bikers--no one is chasing you and you aren't going to win the Tour. Life is about balance.
--I accept that I may end up alone--and I'm OK with that, I've been very blessed in my relationships, but please, just because I rejected you, it's no need for you to be nasty. All you've done is proven that my decision was correct.
--My rejection of you is reflection of how you have presented yourself to me. I'm respectful and sincere in my decision. I'm very good at this having honed my skills in the vanilla dating world before coming on here.
--A lot of you send me a kudos email for my career, or you give me advice on how to handle this, or recommend I go to a munch or fetlife..I'm not here for your validation or advice, been there, done that..not remotely interested--not a lot of quality people at munches and fetlife is just..ick--and most the of the time, though I know you don't mean it, it comes off as arrogant and condescending. I like myself, I wouldn't be where I am or accomplished what I've done, if I needed a man's validation. I'm not submissive because I have daddy issues or whatever some of the other damage other people have that they're exercising through acting out. I'm submissive because giving up control over myself to a man I respect, love and trust, gives me a laser edge focus to be a better executive, a better friend, and a better person over all. It allows me a safe place to work on my faults with the support of one who knows all of me and accepts all of me, just as I accept him and we help each other grow. Plus I really hate shopping, dressing, planning dates, vacations, events. That doesn't mean I won't have preferences, but I'd rather be about taking care of you, and letting you have control over all those things in my life that isn't about my career or work. I run an excellent house and my housekeepers are carefully selected.
I may be wrong..take the time and show me, don't tout your resume to me, or your wealth, that's just showing me you're shallow and need to be with a gold-digger psycho damaged sub. There are plenty on here..as well as Eastern European/Nigerian girls who will be more than happy to take your money and give you little in return.
Thank you again, and again, if you're offended..my apologies, you can ignore me, in fact, it's preferable.
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So..I'm beginning to wonder what in my profile says I'm remotely interested in:
--receiving badly written unsolicited porn
--dick pics
--condescending messages about my 'journey'
--mansplaining emails about the meaning of a D/s, Kink, BDSM relationships
--men telling me that they want to beat the crap out of me with canes
--anything that says I need or want to be 'molded' into a cumslut, or otherwise trained
--wanting to be degraded or humiliated
--anyone with a profile picture that is stolen from pinterest or instagram with inane messages written on it
--being incorrectly psychoanalysed by a 'dom' who can't take rejection
--racist insults
--being contacted by anyone under the age of 45
--that I'm looking for anything other than a 360 degree relationship
--anything that says I want to carry on a conversation by message
--anything that says I am interested in an online friendship or phone sex. |
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| Age: 20 |
| Las Vegas,
Nevada |
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