Every time I take a peek at my inbox my first thought as I peruse the messages has become,

"Oh what a tangled web we weave/When first we practice to deceive"

And, no, I'm not interested in your OnlyFans.

I find it odd that some want no information at all, just get together and fuck.  And others explore, discuss, and when it comes down to a meetup they're too insulated by the computer to reach out in the real world.

Well, this test was obvious... I Scored as a Sadist

Sadist 100%

Dominant 96%

Experimental93%

Exhibitionist / Voyeur 89%

Switch 3%

Bondage 32%

Degradation 29%

Submissive 1%

Vanilla 14%

Masochist 4%

Have been thinking about this one for awhile...  The interesting mixture of dispassionate action mixed with the need for people to connect.  

Beginning with someone new (to you, anyway) is necessarily impersonal.  Oh, the two know of each other, have emailed, chatted, texted..  But they don't know each other yet.  They DO know their desires..  One to Dominate, the other to submit.  

And the first "meeting" is impersonal.  The Dominant evaluating, the submissive scared.  And that "personal" connection isn't made.  Even if they go back and have full on kinky sex, it's impersonal.  The Dominant testing, probing, evaluating, judging.  The submissive scared but wanting so much more.  And the Dominant not going full out because "the connection", although growing, isn't complete yet.  And forward movement without perfect knowledge is foolhardy.  

What does a "new" submissive/slave need to know?  That the first several, and maybe many, meetings will be impersonal at first.  Even clinical at times.  The Dominant evaluating and teaching, experimenting, testing.  And the submissive yearning for a closer connection that just isn't instantaneous.  

So submissives run away thinking they've been used...  The Dominant yearning for more and more but refuses to go farther at any single time than what they feel safe with.

A role reversal that leaves many...   lonely.

New submissives have thousands of little self-imposed boundaries. They don't even know why they have most of them.  When they reach a boundry they stop without understanding why they want to stop.  They exist as mere fractions of the person they could be because they limit themselves with no thought as to why.  They believe they are lesser people because they limit themselves.  And what a much more wonderful person they would be if they could learn to be themselves and to truly enjoy life as the submissive that they truly are.

Submissives attracted to BDSM think they're inferior, are sexually stunted, generally dislike themselves and build up a fantasy that they want to live but do nothing about it because they limit themselves with their self-imposed boundries.  It's not about fun and sex.  It's about setting a submissive free to achieve their full potential with confidence and assurance while allowing and enabling them to remain the submissive that excites them (and that they truly are).

Breaking through a submissives primal sexual barriers teaches them that all lesser barriers can be destroyed. It is about reaching the primitive parts of the mind and changing it at a fundamental level. In the future when you reach a point where you say, 'I can't do that, ' the primitive part of your brain will think back to that episode and say, 'I can do it if I have to.' It isn't much of a step to teach the primitive part of the brain to finally drop the 'have to' part of that.

Having one of those days..  Yes, one of THOSE days.  Where my true nature is boiling like hot oil and the first sub/slave in my path would be forcefully taken by storm til they're an incoherent puddle of orgasmic goo.

But I'm nothing if not under self control..