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I used to be known as hetaera. I have changed my name to Onida, but collarme doesn't allow the change. SLRN# 606-741-724. This is my registered number from the Slave Register website. If you are looking for information on O/p or Authority exchange relationships, it's a great place to begin your search. There are a many message boards there worthy of contributing to. Onida is a Native American name which means "The One searched for" or "Long awaited". I have chosen this name for myself as I have arrived at a place and time in my life I have long waited for. I am new, again. I am wiser, free from guilt of society's or individuals expectations of me and happy to be alone, whether or not The One I search for arrives or not. I will remain in service to the present moment and to friends and family until, and if ever he chooses to arrive. Of course, I hope He will. I've been a part time Los Angeles scene-er for 3 years or so. During that time I've had very little experience with surrender, service and authority exchange, though I find them compelling. I have been in a relationship which has given me a deeper understanding of my needs and desires and why I have made the choices I have, and I am grateful for it. It has been a long and rocky road, with many revisitations. For anyone wondering, "Oh sure, here they go again" No. That relationship has finally run it's course, with no chance of return, as my trust was regularly betrayed. As far as public scene experience goes, I have extremely limited experience. What happens privately is much more important to me... but getting out amongst friends is most welcome, now. I value and need people in my life who are honest with themselves, with me, and with what their limits and desires are whether we are friends, lovers or playpartners. The journey and where it leads doesn't matter to me as much as the consistent integrity, and intent of personal responsibility with which you walk your path. Looking back on my past, I don't see a Dominant who routinely requires an open or swinger type of relationship as the primary focus of "service" to Him as being compatible with me. I consider myself Monoga-esque... I'm looking for a quality connection filled with electric chemistry, truth, fun and transparency, with secondary connections being a blessing, not a requirement. Intensity and passion are gifts to be respected and cherished, grown to their full potential by slaying the ego and facing one's fears. It is not for momentary conquest or for the weak and those unfamiliar with their own soul. I am slave, not submissive. There is nothing submissive about me, except for my skills of taking care of my friends, clients and family, and my sexuality. That does not mean I am loud or gregarious. In fact I prefer nuanced subtly, grace and a respectful attitude in public and private and the confidence that infers. Nor am I a bottom, or masochist. I am honest, intelligent, empathic, artistic, fiercely loyal, loving and intense when I feel that connection - that connection. Otherwise, I may seem aloof... though I don't mean to be to you, it's actually I'm a bit shy on the inside. I'm a pretty good hairdresser, should the need arise. If you are a Master who seeks Authority exchange and wishes to inspire service in me, Please be one who chooses to inspire service through example. An example in how you live your own life, how you treat others around you and how you treat animals are telling signs of the kind of person you are. For those who are new, or new again - For those who would truly be an Owner I offer this from the book "Slavecraft" A note from a grateful slave One searching for the ecstasy of consensual slavery can learn a lot from what has been written here. my hope is that it will be enough to help those with this unusual vocation find their way home. i can promise that it will be a remarkable journey, whatever the outcome. Sad to say, there are some who call themselves "Master" who are undeserving of the label. Some in need of an emotional hiding place will shield themselves behind the "Master" label. Lift the shield and one can often find those who shun real intimacy, self-disclosure, commitments of any sort, responsibility, honesty, their own vulnerability, self-knowledge, and yet, nevertheless, fear abandonment. One in search of a Master (or a slave for that matter) is certain to encounter such people, and the challenge will be to discern the pretenders from the authentic. It is not enough for Masters to thrive on control; They must also crave responsibility and approach ownership with integrity, honor, honesty, common sense, and balance. There is no place in ownership for consuming rage, narcissism, viciousness, or other childish behavior. Ownership is for grown-ups. It is vital that those of you on the slave journey gather enough information to distinguish the real ones from the pretenders, because your errors risk wasted time at the very least, and literal destruction at worst. Worthy Masters are at least as rare as worthy slaves. Until you are confident about your selection of a Master, you absolutely must retain responsible stewardship of your life. Remember that until you hand yourself over completely, the prime directive must be: PROTECT THE PROPERTY.... always! a grateful slave, 1997 SlaveCraft Roadmaps for Consensual Erotic Servitude: Principles, Skills, and Tools by a grateful slave I hope to find this kindred spirit, an owner understands the passage above. An Owner who longs for a deep, quality exchange filled with personal accountability and a realistic, solid foundation where we may launch ourselves into fun and play. A life with purpose and fantasy, lived in the present moment. I believe it will be a more profound way to serve and something worth waiting for, I hope to someday find that path. Love to all ~ Onida Respectful people may contact me on Yahoo messinger. hairdoctor90277 http://.com/users/142103