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shy switch looking less for a fling then something more real. domination is less to me about following orders then it is about the deep connection that can be had between two people when trusts enough to give themselves over completely. the mental aspects of bdsm are far more important to me then most but as a result it takes more time for me to be comfortable with others. despite being more reserved i end up taking a far more dominant role more often then not so subs need not worry. a curious dominatrix though may want to approach with caution. i have a bad habit of flipping dominants into submissives after spending too much time together. apart from that im not really sure what to put here. if you have questions stop by and ask, im always happy to talk to people through messages anyway. and if i reach out to you...well...



good luck







PSA



As most who view my profile will be women sadly this will not go out to the general public but i will leave both sides on here in case any enterprising people want to copy and paste to others.



This message is intended to help explain how subtle shifts in wording may explain why people keep thinking you are something you are not based solely on a few wording differences.



If you are a woman and your name contains the word Miss or Ms men can and will assume you are dominant or at least switch. This is because in bdsm the term miss and by proxy ms are used as contractions of the word mistress. Putting I am not a dominant in your profile sometimes helps but most men who arent taking the time to even notice the color of your name is pink and not red wont read it.



The words dominant mistress and goddess are not interchangeable. For female subs it also means that a dominant and a master are not always the same either. generally speaking a person who identifies as a mastermistress or godgoddess is looking more for a slave then a sub. That is to say, blind loyalty and total obediance. A dominant of either sec may also want that but is also more likely to want a sub whic leads me to my next point.



The term sub and slave are not interchangeable. A sub is someone who willingly submits and has a back and forth relationship with a dominant. A slave is property and has little to no free will after being taken. If you have the word slave in your name but identify as a sub this will help explain all the messages you get from people trying to just fuck you like you are worthless. To a mastermistress, a slave wants to be made to feel worthless.



These rules are by no means iron clad and many people will have different interpretations but these are considered basic guidelines for general population in my opinion anyway.



Hope it helps.



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another update..i suppose it was due. for those of you still here down at the bottom..welcome.



what i seek is moving. hard to tell where it will land. dominants here seem to play mostly on the defensive..sorting through messages from others..but i follow a different tact. if andominant wishes to talk the offer remains open..as does the warning..but i implore you..ive no interest in financial domination. tributes to me seem counterintuitive to the process. but to each their own i suppose..



you are careful. you move in such a way that it makes it hard to see you. you watch from the shadows but also come quickly to those close when they need you. you know how people work and it makes you think you stand apart from them...not alone but..segregated..different...



empathy and sympathy are two wildly dofferent things..and you know the difference from personal experience..



you are looking for something different because you are different..



if all you wanted was someone normal...youve taken anwrong turn sadly but im sure i can point you in the right direction..



for those still here...watch your step. be ever mindful and above all else...



dont stray from the path after dark..




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Kimbelly4030
 
 Age: 19
 Philadelphia, Pennsylvania