BDSM provides a framework for individuals to engage in a consensual power exchange.  One person is usually the more submissive partner, while the other is more dominant.  The key word here is "consent"; it is all about giving and taking power in an empowered way.

I believe that the following apply to both Dom and sub.

• Thou shalt respect yourself

• Thou shalt respect each other

• Thou shalt respect others who know, and don’t know, who you are to each other

• Thou shalt keep no secrets from each other

• Thou shalt be the best thou can be for each other

• All thou dost, shall be with each other’s consent

• Thou shalt respect each other’s boundaries

• Thou shalt do no harm