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I AM NOT, I repeat, NOT looking to or for engaging in any random play with strangers, leaping into the sack, pursuing a hot ticket, wild thing, booty, piece of ass, or other sexually charged anything. Youd be grossly disappointed in my sexual appetite, and likely, I in your intellectual stimulation value, should you try to pursue me for any of the listed activities of disinterest.Why am I here if Im not looking to date? What am I up to? What is my Deal??

I am interested in meeting a person who is well-grounded, interested in intellectual engagement, who has limited need for sexual contact, is capable of being physically helpful in the completion of tasks, routine chores, or simply being a companion to me as I work on projects around the homestead. I get that this is not the normal mode for Ds Sites, or kink in general. Thats ok, you do you, as they say. If however, this sounds somewhat interest, please do read onward.

My significant other and I have an unconventional model for our relationship. There are things I would like in my life that would augment what is present. That leaves the door open, should the just-right person appear.Because what I am looking for is more than dating or play. I dont do hookups, but I do something else. I get more out of connection, intellectual and emotional, than you can possibly imagine. Ive been here since the mid 2000s. I met my partner, my spouseslave here, and appreciate the site immensely. I am NOT going to replace him. I Believe in and live in a Polyamorous model, but under a more closed, fidelity-focused structure. Ask, if you wish to understand more. Currently that is the only relationship I have, though he has a second partner who is a very important part of our lives. Now, Ive been active in the kink community in various s since the turn of this lovely century, and I like staying in touch, seeing whats happening, and browsing the profiles that are here for those who may be of similar mind. I enjoy making friends within my geographical area who are within the kink world but who also enjoy discussing issues of the day, solving problems, engaging in hobbies or creative pursuits, seeking out cultural events, and other things Im sure Ive forgotten. This website is a low-investment method of staying plugged-in in that way. Yes, theres a remote possibility a spark will be struck. But it is extremely slim, and lets just say one liners wont cut the mustard. Go ahead though, impress me. I appreciate intellect and thoughtful conversation more than you might guess. This still leaves the open question, what would I want if someone were indeed to spark my interest? Ok, here goes Service Oriented, Highly Available, A companion (a la Firefly), someone who desires a Dominant ladys influence on their decision making processes, but does not require that to make good decisions, Poly-capable, Nonsexual or primarily non-sexual dynamic, Ok with secondary status. Duties to include part minion, part errand boy, part housekeeper, part cook, part play toy, part traveling assistant at vending events, and part social companion, with other duties as assigned

Selective kik conversations possible

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10/20/2021 11:16:34 AM

Well, for years you couldn't update journals here, and now I see them resurrected!  It looks like generder identities have been updated as well, so huzzah for breathing new life into the old. While I haven't been able to update my profile, I'm hoping this post will stick. I cannot edit my age, profile details etc. So if you want to know the current me, I'm also Morghanxx.


4/19/2018 7:10:58 AM
Losing people makes you think, as well as hurt. I think about how he wasn't even old enough to have to take social security. He had barely retired from working. I think about how funny he was, how his laugh made me smile, how he cared so much for everyone arrive him. But I also think how paper thin his hand felt in mind the last time I saw him, and how the fullness of life had already started withdrawing from his limbs as he lay in the hospital. I will miss him.

4/7/2018 9:48:24 PM
It appears my profile has now suffered the strange corruption bug so many here do, where HTML tags start showing up in the body text. I've done my best to clean it up, but colorful coding is no longer available to me. Bold seems to work, but the rest show as code in clear text when update my profile. So frustrating!

3/22/2018 4:20:22 PM
The vast majority of those in power in this world did not get there through mutual support and nurturing relationships. The power structures of society are not designed by nature to be kind to the less fortunate, the disabled, or the disadvantaged. It is up to those people of conscience and means to make a deliberate choice, to give because they can, to create systems, by design, which serve a greater good. And yes, there will be those who take advantage of those kindnesses, those helping hands. That is part of the price for helping those who truly need it.

It is easy and self-satisfying to claim that all people should raise themselves out of the muck. It is gratifying to the greedy to proclaim a 'gospel of wealth'. But if there is an afterlife, and if we are ever judged by the kindness in our hearts or the generosity of our spirits, then I am confident the 'conventional' path will not take us through any pearly gates.

3/15/2018 7:46:57 PM
Other fetish things.

I thoroughly enjoy some things that are 'fetishes' when I engage in play.

Bondage - including leather restraints, metal restraints locking restraints. Rope is ok, but not a high priority for me.

I enjoy getting reactions, so in that sense I like sensation play. You can investigate a product I make at totemx.com.

However, some things just aren't practical.  And I see a lot of profiles and people contacting me chasing after these ideas.
  • Extended chastity without option for release
    • This gets to be a health hazard and practical difficulty for most men in most occupations before too long. It is theoretically possible, but something I haven't been able to implement for more than a week or so at a time.
  • Seclusion bondage (pulled from society)
    • Not practical!  I have a slave husband who is in service to me at all times, but he still works a job!  To be useful I want him out there in the world doing work, I can't imagine what kind of disaster it would be to have someone caged in a home, unattended, and have an emergency.  The liability would be entirely on the dominant. And then if we set that aside, there's the fact that while that person is thus restrained, they cannot be productive on my behalf. No thanks.
  • Extreme masochism/sadism/damage/castration etc.
    • Refer to above comments on legal liability.  Also, I just am not interested in harming my partner(s).  Ultimately, in theory at least, we are here to be with people we like at the least, and hopefully, develop a long term bond with. So no, I do not engage in play of this kind.

3/14/2018 8:38:09 PM
I want to clarify my position on "Forced Feminization" and "Sissification".
I have no ion to those who wish to play on this side of the fence, but I have a very narrow band within this world which I can enjoy.

In general, I have great distaste for any feminization of a male which is based on the mockery of the female form or which is designed to humiliate the male through application of feminine traits.

So, sissy play is typically right out, as it is almost entirely a humiliation based play style.  Anything mocking dick size, weight, looks in feminine clothing, all out. These are negative statements based on mixing gender stereotypes.

That said, occasionally in fetish space, I will find cross-dressers to be an attractive, desirable, and fun group. I have had at least one in my life who I thoroughly enjoyed taking to the local gay bar and dancing with and teasing all night. It was never, however, about disparagement. It was about how good she looked, while being "her".  And not about a 'guy in a dress', which again sounds like mockery to my ears. I found my friend very sexy and appealing while dressed, and very attractive and handsome as a man.  If you can nail both sides of that coin, without the need to be humiliated or otherwise mocked, then there's a chance it's something I am ok with.

3/14/2018 8:26:29 PM
Service

I really believe that some people, men and women, develop an inner desire or drive to be of service to others. It is an uncommon drive, even in the BDSM lifestyle.  For most, I think BDSM is a set of trappings and decoration for sexual or emotional thrill seeking and fetish fulfillment. To be clear, there's nothing inherently wrong with that. However, the terms "service" and "serving" and "submitting" are often used by this group and act as cover, hiding the rare service oriented individual in their ranks.

For those who are driven to serve, it exhibits itself in a thread that runs through multiple aspects of life. Whether they are driven to be useful to their family, friends, workplace, church, community, or some other connection, their service is proactive. They do not have to be told to help, they seek out opportunities to do so. They do not have to be aggressively corrected, they feel badly when the perceive a failure.

The people with this streak will not need punishment games in BDSM. To offer such superficial play-acting would be frustrating and confusing to them, because they always strive to meet expectations. They are a perfectionist in the pursuit of doing right by their leader, their Dominant.

This motivation cannot be forced on someone. If you must be locked in chastity to achieve it, it is not innate service.  If you require the presence of a fetish item, touch of a body part, or wearing of clothing items, it is not innate. Perhaps you enjoy these things, but if you need them to step into the role, then it is not the primary driver.

If on the other hand, you take all the trappings of kink away, and the drive is still there?  Then you might have something. If the Dominant is sick in bed, sweating from the flu, miserable and un-sexy in the worst ways possible, but you still feel the same powerful need to serve in whatever vanilla bean way will keep her comfortable? You might be on the track. That is where it begins.

3/14/2018 8:15:26 PM
I do not participate in speculation or play online. So if you are:soliciting 'new ideas' for your play
  • looking for someone to send fetish pictures to
  • want to send a kinky story
  • like to chat about sexy topics
  • want to kik, skype, etc.
or are otherwise looking to get your mental or physical rocks off?

Then move along. There's nothing to see here.

3/4/2018 5:22:31 PM
Today was an exhausting day of logistical problem solving across several state lines and several hundred miles to ensure someone important had what she needed in a minor crisis. I was told my management skills were legendary and that it seemed impossible to fix the situation. Yet it was fixed. Finding the path is a part of what I do. I find the way forward. Life is hard, but we often let it be harder than necessary or allow things which don't help us to distract from our goals. Let those go. Focus and move forward, find solutions. The momentum is rewarding once you start moving.

3/1/2018 3:32:36 PM
PSA: This is NOT a "pay to play" site, contrary to the belief of a very vulgar individual who emailed me recently. I'm not a service provider and you can't offer me money for activities. Don't ask.

12/15/2016 5:16:23 PM

Relationships take time.

Time is precious, more valuable as I get older, in fact.
To earn my time takes effort.
Most people don’t put in a lot of effort, here or elsewhere online.

 

I am several deviations from the mean in terms of sexuality, attraction, desire, and libido. Don’t bother trying to get me hot ‘n bothered through traditional means. 
Actually, I'd prefer you not try to get me hot 'n bothered at all. If I'm interested in such things, you'll be notified.  Conversation however, is welcome.  Just take care what territory you cover.

I appreciate people of depth, intellect, loyalty, motivation, drive, etc. 

I don't cyber, or do phone sex, or otherwise offer gratification to people I meet through the digital world.  Ick, ugh, bleh, ptooey. No thanks.  Go find someone else to pester if that's your goal. 

For what little time I have to spend here, I seek mind-wise kindred spirits.  Tough ask, I know.


3/20/2015 3:41:06 PM
I could really use a kitchen minion today...

2/7/2015 6:21:17 AM
So many people seem to be looking for casual sex and fetish fulfillment.  Good luck with that!  Have fun!  It's not for me.

I find casual sex boring.  Yep, I said it.  It's dull.  It's mechanical to me, not titillating or exciting. I'd rather go see a movie.

But...

Let me get into your head a bit.  Tell me what makes you tick.  Let me push your buttons.  Let me make you squirm.  IF I can crawl inside your mind and start making the world turn upside down, THEN you'll know I'm having a damned good time.

7/12/2014 5:04:05 PM

Before you post to a group asking for 'someone to teach you all about this' or invite random scary people by announcing you 'know nothing and are a total newb', please read this.

I get this kind of request a LOT, both individually and in groups. Having just posted this in a nearby group, I thought I'd put it out as general writing.

To the person posting wanting a mentor to guide them through the waters of kinky fun, who is sick of being told to go to munches, who doesn't like them, who doesn't feel comfortable in big crowds, who is intimidated by gatherings of people already getting their kink on, who just wants a person of their potential partner demographic to talk to them (sub men approaching top women for example), I get it.

You want one on one time with someone who 'gets it' about the scene. You might have awkward questions or things you'd like to discuss one on one. Because lets face it, it's a little weird that random people are sitting around you during such a discussion. Truthfully, munches aren't the place for those chats anyway. That's later, long after you've talked about the weather and your favorite sports team over Chinese food.

As I was saying, I get it. You want guidance, mentorship, a role model! Yay! But seriously, asking individuals in an established group to take a complete stranger under their wing just isn't realistic.

Here's how I put it to my minion recently...

Imagine I want to be a police officer. So I got to the bar where they all hang out and I start talking with a few about how I really want to be a police officer. I think its right for me, and I'd be good at it! They tell me to got to school for it. But I tell them this takes too long! There are too many people, it's crowded, and intimidating, and I don't understand why you won't just teach me, when I'm right here ready to go. Show me your gun, your badge, your cuffs! I love CUFFS!!!! My intentions are good.. I swear!

The look of disbelief from the officer would be pretty epic. Possibly followed by a breathalyzer test. And it's not just because going to police academy is the way you're supposed to do it. It's because its effective. And it's because their time is valuable. They have earned their uniform. To suggest that you should have the easier route just isn't fair to them, their effort, their time, their worth as people.

Add to this the dimensions of BDSM, and sexuality, and relationships. Now we've also got an undercurrent of expectations potentially present. Is a sub man looking for a femdom to 'learn from'? Is it learning, or is it hoping for a date? The unspoken question hangs in the air nearly constantly. I'm not saying this is your situation, its just the one I personally encounter somewhat regularly as a female top type.

The reality is, folks who've been doing this for a long-ass time, myself included, have invested countless hours in the process. Either through attending munches, or reading, or being introduced by existing friends. We have observed technique at play parties, demos, and fetish flea markets. We have paid our dues, in some cases literally, to get that exposure to the scene and its inhabitants.

The thing we all have in common is that it took TIME.

And patience!

Persevere. Seriously, do! This is a good world you're trying to get into. Just also try to appreciate the time and effort others have put in, in order to get where they are. Honor their efforts and energies, and be respectful. Make your self visible by attending events. Demonstrate your character through your actions. Participate in conversations. If the opportunity arises to volunteer to assist at an event, to set up for someone's house party etc, take that opportunity. Sign up. Pitch in.

When you do these things, people will notice the nature of your personality. And sooner or later, you'll either have learned the things you needed and decided who is your 'style' to gravitate to, or someone will approach you. You'll have the context in which to operate on a kink level, and the resources to tap so you're not just working from cool YouTube videos.

We've all been where you are. I wish you the very best as you navigate the process.


7/9/2014 4:44:27 AM
I have a new interest, thanks to a friend: fire play! Strangely, my minion finds it relaxing.

6/26/2014 12:57:04 PM
That's so much irony in these profiles that scream out that the person is a slut... and yet they want to be owned. The commitment of ownership negates the slut element of promiscuity. At least that's the default, until or unless the owner decides otherwise. Something to think about.

5/9/2014 10:34:23 AM
What is exceptional? Exceptional is beating the odds. It is bucking the trend and charting a course based on integrity, not conformity. Being exceptional doesn't mean being a supermodel or having washboard abs. It isn't making tons of money or being popular. Being exceptional is staying true to a set of high moral and ethical standards in spite of those conventional achievements. Are you exceptional?

4/24/2014 12:56:51 PM
There is no fetish, attribute, or aspect of a person that will interest me so much as seeing the quality of their character. That quality and integrity has the power to make or break any other possibility.

12/20/2013 5:24:28 PM

Many profiles say how bad they poster is, that they need to be punished.  I don't need or even want someone 'naughty'.   Punishment games just aren't my thing.  I'd much rather craft a long term dynamic that runs smoothly, with clear roles, passionate affections, and strong bonds that go beyond play time.


8/30/2013 6:27:57 AM
Well that was disappointing. Look at your motivations and desires. If you're not ready for in person meetings, be honest. It saves so much time for those of us who do this in the real flesh and blood world.

8/12/2013 4:36:11 PM

The roommate ad was old, I have a 'full house' right now.  Thanks to those who read the post!


7/5/2013 8:47:00 PM

Years ago I wrote down what I wanted in a man.  Lo and behold, time went by, and he came to me.  So, knowing that I desire the companionship of a woman in my life as well, I will write what I want in a female partner. 

She should be or appear younger than I am.  It’s a semi maternal dominance thing.  I like the feeling that I’m the tutor and guide to a younger woman.  She can be thin and athletic or curvy and padded with hips to grab onto.  Image isn’t measured by size in my eyes, but in how you wear your self-image.  Do you take care of what you have? Do you clean up well and dress appropriate to your body type?  Then don’t worry if you’re a size two, twelve, or twenty. 

A few nots are worth mentioning.  No man haters.  Its just not going to work out.  I’m not looking for someone on the bleeding edge of kink.  My fetishes are power exchange, and love.  Put the two together and there is tremendous potential. If your focus is on physical fetish fulfillment, extreme body modification, long term confinement, or any bathroom play, we’re probably not compatible.

No dependents.  I have a cat, if I wanted children, I’d have them.  Be functional as you are, recognizing you can be even better (happier) with a Dominant.

No STD's, I've stayed clean thus far through testing and caution, and encourage others to do the same.

I want a girl who knows she could survive on her own, but chooses a D/s dynamic.  I want to build something to last, not a one night stand or occasional play thing.  Poly friendly is a must.  You don’t need to like men or be with mine, but you do need to accept his existence and support our existing relationship.

The girl I want isn’t in this to get ‘fixed’ by someone else, though she might know she does better at self-improvement with the support of a powerful woman.  She’s not sex crazed, but does love physical intimacy.  Quality, not quantity.  Quiet nights at home are as valuable as a road trip to the Fetish Flea.

Discretion is a must.  I am successful, and plan on being even more so.  That requires a certain level of separation of church and state between work and home.  My male partner is my ‘public’ relationship and will remain so.  Events, both kink and scifi offer some flexibility in public displays of affection. 

She should be self-aware and able to discuss her needs, desires, and issues; as well as being capable of working to improve areas of weakness.  I see to make every partner in my life better than when they came to me.  In turn I hope to be a better person because of them.

I seek the girl who will become part of the dance of Dominance and submission, that amazing, peaceful, graceful dynamic that comes of great chemistry and power exchange.

 


6/25/2013 8:03:25 AM
I am disenchanted by the competitive, vulgar focus of most kink social sites. I prefer to develop deeper ties first, then play in the sexual realm after creating solid foundations.

4/6/2013 5:32:04 AM
It is not the leather or chain which makes the slave. Neither force nor coercion builds the foundation of power. It is the perfect blending of desire and devotion; service and passion, which together builds something greater. When the match is right, I have no need to demand, only ask.

3/16/2013 6:43:14 AM

Why I don't believe in the 'worthless slave'.

 

I see so many men online who beg for a Dominant to come into their lives and sweep them off their feet. They wish to be rescued from a lonely life, given a definition of what they should be, without having to develop or define their sense of self. These are the profiles with “I have no limits, tell me what you want to be and I’ll do anything” prominently displayed. Sometimes these show as “Pathetic worthless nothing looking for Mistress to own him”.

 

 

Granted, for some guys these phrases are just expressions of a fetish. Yet for many, it is an expression of a lonely lost soul, uncertain what they need or desire. So the easy solution is to let someone else determine it all. Being lonely is not sufficient reason to seek a D/s relationship. Asking a stranger to define your world without knowing what that will mean to you is a step off the cliff. It might give you a temporary escape, but the sense of flying is only a short trip from a sudden stop at ground level.

 

What’s the fix? Know thyself.

 

Seriously, why is that so terrible? Are you afraid of what you might find there? Time to start looking. If you don’t do the looking now, it will happen later, when you don’t expect it. After you’ve signed up for your fate with that Domme of your dreams, you’ll wake up and realize you did have desires of your own. You did have opinions, needs, wants. But it’s too late, because you signed up when you were lonely, and sad, and afraid. At that point, you’ll have to leave the ill-fitting circumstances you’ve chosen. And where does that leave things? Back to the beginning.

 

This is why I don’t want someone who self identifies as ‘a pathetic worm’ or ‘useless’ or ‘just needs someone to tell him what to do’. I want someone useful, in whatever way that may be. Even if he is uncertain what he can offer, he knows he can offer something more than a lump of quivering flesh. He believes he has value. That at least is a beginning.


3/11/2013 11:12:04 AM
Know thyself, and allall else may follow.

2/22/2013 3:18:47 PM

I don't pretend to be the biggest badass in the kink world.  That would make it a competition, which it isn't.  For me it's a framework for really amazing relationships based on D/s power dynamics.  How wonderful that this is even a choice in the place where I live!  If you live in a place where you have the choice, and you want to pursue it, do it.  Don't spend all your life looking in from the window.  Step up.  Take a chance.  Send the email.  Attend an event.  Life really is too short to miss out. 


2/14/2013 6:33:24 AM
If you can enhance the wonder of my existing dynamic... If you embrace poly in its more fidelitous forms... If you love without jealousy and give without keeping score, then you might be what I'm looking for.

2/17/2012 7:32:25 PM

Are you a slave who has fantasies, or a slave to your fantasies?


1/4/2012 6:17:02 PM

Roommate wanted, 110 sq ft room, all utilities, even high speed internet included.

 

Strictly platonic, no house-fuckery or cross pollination, just a good old fashioned room for rent.  On the other hand, at least you don't have to worry about explaining your lifestyle to the landlord.  If interested, email me.


10/24/2010 5:37:42 PM

The full moon brings out some serious nutters.


9/24/2010 4:17:53 AM
I'm happily dating someone but sadly he is not kinky. The good part is that being poly keeps us both happy. So I continue to look for a sub man who is ok with poly and ready for a LTR.

9/12/2010 7:26:47 AM
Pretty soon I'll be flying to San Antonio for a visit with family.  If you're down there and think we might click, get in touch.  Just bear in mind I'm not looking for play sessions, but to open the door to something more substantial. 

8/24/2010 9:58:28 AM
And once again, my claw paws have a bit o' a bargain day http://myworld.ebay.com/totemxcreations

7/12/2010 9:33:40 AM
I'd like to find people interested in seeing plays or chamber music performances. I haven't gone in ages.

7/6/2010 2:35:23 PM
I'll be in Texas in October... Right now it feels like Texas is in Maine!

7/3/2010 10:53:03 AM
Real live person with ordinary life seeks other real live people.

6/28/2010 5:59:17 PM
I've been doing at least six miles a week walk/run and other workouts throughout the week.  A friend gave me a neck rub recently and we both noticed the brick like density of my shoulders... awesome stuff!

6/26/2010 9:57:49 AM
Love and D/s are not mutually exclusive.

6/26/2010 9:34:42 AM
Running with a forearm brace is kind of annoying.  The wrist doesn't bend (duh) when one goes to smack the incoming tiger flies.  However, running from the bugs is good motivation.  I took a few minutes off my 3 mile time this morning as a result!

6/24/2010 2:42:58 PM

I saw the doc today and confirmed I have inflamed the ligaments at the base of my thumb on my main flogger hand. I get to wear a restrictive brace, take anti-inflamatories and ice it frequently. Fun eh? Makes for damned slow typing.

How did I do it? Flogging. Forgot to mention that detail at the doc's office though :)


6/20/2010 5:59:25 AM
I'm on a mission in life.  I think we all need some kind of driving force or goal to keep us on track...  I am on a path of self improvement and also in service to my community.  What is your mission?

6/13/2010 8:56:22 AM
From Deb Talan's Ithaka:

when they'll all say they love you they love you it's true
'cause you come from the land of forever night and you rode on through
and you packed your empty satchels full of their dreams
do they love who you are or what you do?
you may never know

5/30/2010 8:21:56 AM
I've been busy busy busy, but that's how I like to be.  Between work, self employment, hobbies, and my kink social calendar, I barely have a day off. The irony perhaps is how fast I want to fill the 'off days' that I do have!

If you're not a social animal, we probably won't get along.  I love to be out and about, going to play parties, running workshops, or whatever else I can dig into. 

5/6/2010 3:58:12 PM

Vanilla Twist

Date: Sunday, May 16, 2010
time: 04:00 PM to 06:00 PM
where: Forest Ave Portland
address: Exact Address given with RSVP  map

cost: $5 Donation
dress code: Street Attire, Casual, no fetish

Vanilla Twist is all about bringing the mysteries of kink to light for you in a fun space. Here we can all talk frankly, explore concepts, build toys, and observe the experienced folks we all wonder about. And it all happens without having to go to a play party or convention two states away!

The first Vanilla Twist event will be a short social meet and greet, followed by a Presentation on Etiquette. We will be running this startup event twice to accommodate the most people and schedules.

  • The first date will be Sunday May 16th from 4-6pm and the second on Sunday May 23rd from 4-6pm.
  • Both will be held on outer Forest Ave in Portland.
  • Send an email to RSVP and receive the address and full directions.

We will provide light snacks and ask a $5 donation at the door. If you’re a starving artist, please join us anyway! We will be looking for help with setup and take down of the space. Your volunteer time is appreciated!

More on the topic: What is Etiquette?

We want to all have fun but it’s hard to do if you don’t know the rules. Rules sound boring? This isn’t your parent’s etiquette!. We don’t care if you mix wool and polyester, or if you wear white after Labor Day. We DO care about helping you navigate the maze of terminology, rules, and expectations in the kinky world.

Here are some examples:

  • Can I talk to a Dominant or submissive at a public event?
  • How can I tell who is Dominant or submissive?
  • What are the unwritten rules of play parties?
  • How do I get involved without jumping in head first?
  • I want to try that new toy, how do I get my hands on one?
  • Where do you find kinky people

Come join us to get help answer these and lots of other questions. Bring your own questions and your curiosity. See you there!


4/4/2010 2:51:53 PM
Happy, happy, happy.  And not because everything is easy, but because it is doing what it should.

3/15/2010 4:26:40 PM
Quite busy, just browsing right now. 

3/13/2010 8:54:10 AM
I have a 'paw second' to auction off.  The fur I used was shorter than I consider acceptable, so here's a crack at a discounted glove.
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=290413245823


1/31/2010 7:57:45 AM
Www.TotemX.com is up and running at long last.  Thanks goes to the fabulous Rhyss for helping make that happen!

12/26/2009 7:33:56 PM
Just because I want something other than what you offer, does not make me a wanna-be.  It makes me, me.  

12/15/2009 5:35:24 PM
I have a week of vacation the last week of the year, and now set plans.  Does anyone know of a kink event that week in the New England region?

10/31/2009 3:23:58 PM
Someone contacted me on this site today to tell me I was being the arrogant person that I was complaining about in my prior journal.  This person also blocked me before I could even respond to their email.

If I said that there was no use at all for personals sites, that the one true way was (insert random site or event here) or was in some other way closing off possibilities, then ok that would be a pretty arrogant, closed-minded way of doing things.  All I'm saying is that this is not the one true and only way to find the lifestyle.  If this environment does not work for you, if you're frustrated with it, go into the real world!  There's people out there who love this stuff and will be happy to share it with you *without expectations*.  I think thats something we all need when starting out. 

10/24/2009 8:58:19 PM

Being Dominant does not mean being domineering.  It does not require a bad attitude.  In fact, a pleasant demeanor will do better.  Being Dominant may include being strong, decisive, having leadership skills, and a willingness to take action in your kink relationships.  This has translated time and time again in "Femdom" profiles as bitter, negative, nasty, bitchy, selfish drivel. That is the stuff of a single subset of the kink fetish world. A very narrow subset.

Just as being American has translated by many into being arrogant, selfish, and rude, being Dominant has somehow become about being well... arrogant, selfish, and rude.  Self confidence is fine, arrogance is not.  Taking care of your needs is grand, being selfish at others' expense is not. And of course rude behavior is no substitute for leadership.  He (or she) who speaks loudest does not necessarily speak the wisest words. 

 

Sure, for some men, the idea of being called a weak, useless worm is somehow gratifying. Perhaps they feel a need to be put-in-place, to be reduced from their socially encouraged high horse.  I do not however see a healthy balanced relationship growing out of that kind of destructive message. 

This combination of confused traits and negative messages leads to a lack of substantial conversations and connections. It is why I spend little time on personals sites – many denizens there are shallow, and contact with them is disappointing. So if you happen to read this far, go looking farther afield. Don’t short change yourself by thinking that personals sites are where the Scene can be found. The real people that carry this beyond their fantasies do exist, and they have more to discuss than the latest toy or demeaning task.


4/7/2009 4:02:18 PM

I recently found a new source for rabbit fur and an even sharper claw style for my bunny fur gloves. So I have the traditional curvy V shape and a more pointed claw available. If you're interested in ordering one, please email me any time.


3/31/2009 5:04:39 PM
I'm trying to pair up a thirtysomething gay male friend of mine. Who knew there were so few eligible gay men in Maine!

2/27/2009 6:20:52 PM
I got power back on Wednesday, finally!  It was more than enough without.  So I'll be at Sportsman's Mardi Gras bash, and I'll even be freshly bathed with HOT water! *grin*

2/24/2009 6:20:37 PM
No power since 2/22, no internet at home. So I'm borrowing wifi to update this.  I can't wait to get power back.  In the meantime, if I don't reply, don't take it personally.

2/15/2009 6:01:19 PM
You like a strong woman, a woman who has power in her walk, in her attitude.  You like it when she pushes your buttons, your boundaries, your comfort.  That little bit of discomfort makes being around her fun, even intoxicating.  You like to make smart assed comments, to see what she'll do.  But you  back off for your own good when she goes to shut you down with that look.

I like a man who can give and take, laugh with me and work with me, crank the heat up or down.  Yes, the buck stops here, the final power is mine, but in the meantime, lets spar!

2/15/2009 5:31:48 PM
This weekend at the Flea was a much needed venture.  I had a blast, with lots of familiar faces and friends.  Thanks to all of you that helped me have a great time! 



2/11/2009 6:07:40 PM
No one can afford too look at the world with a vision that is static, unchanging.  If you forever live in the past and present, never looking to the future, you yourself stagnate.  The past instructs, the present provides opportunity, the future allows vision.  Dwell only briefly on the past to understand its lessons.  Decide for yourself what your future should be, and take action in the present, every day, to make it more than a dream alone.  

Have you learned?  Are you taking action?  If there is action, there is change, and therefore growth.  Do not allow the darker thoughts to override you.  Take one more step, no matter how small, and you are still on the path.


2/8/2009 5:24:29 AM
Once in a while someone vanishes off the site/net.  In this case blyeeyedslve

.   I didn't have solid plans with him so its not a personal issue, but if anyone knows where he went poof to, I'd love to know. There's a shortage of us kinksters active in Maine, we can't afford to lose 'em :)

2/1/2009 1:57:11 PM
My score has gone up, Domme 2, chest cold 1, and I stagger to victory!

1/26/2009 5:10:08 PM
Chest cold vs Dominatrix.  Chest cold 1, Domme 0.


Round two begins at 6am!

1/17/2009 7:39:05 PM
I've been at the gym almost daily since mid to late December.  I'm noticing a difference in clothing fit and my body's condition.  I'm thrilled!  Strange how that works :)

1/17/2009 6:45:44 PM
Your honesty and honor are two of your greatest assets in life.

1/10/2009 5:39:25 PM
TNG Wants you!  Submissive men (ages 18-35) actively wanted to participate in munches, socials, and play parties.  Yes, thats right, actively sought, wanted, and missed by the lovely ladies of TNG!  Inquire within...

1/2/2009 7:17:46 PM
Anita Blake-like-woman seeks her equivalent Damian/Nathaniel/Jean Claude for dark eros and Democratic Dictatorship.  No experience necessary, good attitude a must.

12/10/2008 4:39:17 PM
When someone says "I will do my best not to waste your time." the statement is usually true.

When someone says "I am not wasting your time." the statement is usually false.

11/23/2008 4:56:27 AM
Most of my journal posts are on these days.  I'm really impressed by the quality of the conversations and the not-a-meat-market vibe.  CM has been pretty good to me, but I dig the sense of community over at FL.

10/23/2008 5:38:05 PM
Is there anything so beautiful as the willing, freely given submission of one human being to another's will?  When I see surrender in the face of my submissive, a joy fills me that compares to no other.  

10/17/2008 6:00:18 PM
Sweet luscious fruit hanging low and ripe 
Is somehow better for the bruising  
Taut pale canvas of the body’s skin  
Glows in color, pain, and movement 
I am the madman to outward eyes 
And you my precious muse  

10/15/2008 5:51:06 PM
I had the pleasure of time with a very nice subbie today. He helped me clean the sunroom of my house and will be helping out in a few days again. And he is apparently a masochist.  

10/4/2008 5:08:53 AM
As I have continued to go to drag shows, I'm getting more of an understanding of why queens can be *hot* and a 'crossdresser' turns me off.

A lot of it is in the confidence.  Even if a drag queen's body isn't perfectly female, she carries herself with a presence, poise, and conviction that declares "This is me, I am female, I am sexy".  It is that self confidence that conveys way more appeal than even an average bio-girl who is a wallflower.  Though admittedly, I really like bio-girls too!

So while my stance remains that I have no desire to 'humilliate' a man by 'forcing him' to crossdress, I can and do find certain men in women's clothing hot, as long as they have the confidence (and admittedly most of the looks) to pull it off.



9/15/2008 6:51:05 PM
Long week, long weekend, long day.  Are we having fun yet?

9/3/2008 3:14:07 PM
When will I learn I'm not twenty any more?  I had a great weekend but am now totally wiped out.  Between hormones and stomach woozies I think I'm toast.

8/22/2008 5:40:42 PM
Old friends are moving far away in the next few weeks.  I suspect I'm going to have some new spaces in my social calendar :(

8/17/2008 6:14:35 PM
Are you a submissive in Maine who would like to learn about the scene? Do you want a teaching play session but can't afford a prodomme?  I am in need of some work around the home, handyman type work.  I may *stress may* be willing to exchange my time for yours if you are able to do the things I can't do around here myself.  Email me privately for details. 

I should stress also that this is an absolutely non sexual offering.  Platonic *only* and masochists welcome.

8/17/2008 6:18:50 AM
Emails from individuals with absolutely no profile are now filtered to hit my bulk mail folder.  

8/12/2008 3:42:21 PM
I was having a great conversation this morning with someone of the user ID "slappedsilly" only to come home this evening and find that "you cannot respond to this email because the account no longer exists".  I am incredibly disappointed, as the conversation seemed genuine, and enjoyable.  Is it possible the owner of said account is still out there reading this?  IF so, an explanation would be most welcome.

~Morghan

8/10/2008 4:59:24 AM
Being a slave does not exempt you from the basic expectations of human society. Even as a slave, even in 24/7, you must still be able to hold a conversation, make decisions, and be responsible for your actions.  The greatest difference is that you are accountable first and foremost to your owner or Master, and then to society at large.  It is just a difference in chain of command.  Why would I ever want under my power a person incapable of basic functioning?  I want to be proud of what is mine, and never making excuses for it/him/her.

8/9/2008 6:09:00 AM
A question to the general sub male populace.  Do you feel that you avoid socializing with other submissive men? If so, why? If not, why do many non sub males perceive it to be so?

7/24/2008 3:31:52 PM
A quote from someone who knows me online.  I found it poignant.   "...there is a depth to you that can be quite intimidating... I mean, i appreciate it but I can see how it would not be kosher for all those folks out there chasing an idea rather than a reality"

7/23/2008 5:49:50 PM
In order to free ourselves up more and pursue our needs, pup and I have split up. 

So my status is more completely single than it has been in a long while, and while I am looking,  I am looking for a life partner, not a play partner.

7/7/2008 5:23:13 PM
I've been asked why I don't post a photo of my face.  I have a job that is important to me, and while it is unlikley I'd actually be fired for participation in the lifestyle, I feel discretion is the better part of valor in this area.  So if you would like a photo of my face, then after we talk a bit I'll gladly send one. 

6/29/2008 11:27:07 AM
TNG Folks alert!  There is a party on July 5th!  IF you haven't RSVP'd through the list, please email me here.  See you there!

6/19/2008 5:51:38 PM
Fair warning, this is stream of consciousness stuff left over from Free Spirit Gathering and the energy there.

-----------   Dark and rich, full of flavor, intuition, magick...

Strong, dominant, yet not domineering.

Spiritual, yet not a zealot.

Passionate, driven, but short of obsessive in most things. 

Step down into the Underworld for a time, and when you re-emerge into the world of the everyday you will see with new eyes, refreshed and free.

6/2/2008 4:32:10 PM
Have you spent a lot of time thinking about the condition of the economy and fuel prices? I sure have. I think about the fact that when I call my oil company I can't even get through to a person because they are so overwhelmed with calls. I worry about how we'll make ends meet this winter with my two roomates busting tail just like me. But I plant my garden (and they do too) and we raise our own chickens and ducks and rabbits, and we try to be energy conscious in our habits.

How does this relate to the lifestyle? I think of the older ways of life, when an entire category of people were kept at home, working to maintain a household and home. Now don't get me wrong, I've no desire to be a stay at home anything. But there are people who do! I think D/s and M/s, while not directly related, can be a great way to cope with these challenges in the context of a larger relationship. If someone wants to be a domestic let them! Granted, this is a personal relationship, not a business I'm talking about.  Most people aren't wealthy, and hells, if we were we wouldn't be stressing over making ends meet.  The domestic in question can't expect to have lots of luxury goods and spending cash, but for some this may be a very fulfilling life.


In the interest of disclosure, I've *always* wanted a submissive who was also a domestic. So this isn't entirely new thought.  But in current times, it seems even more attractive than usual, and would be beneficial for all in more than a D/s or romantic context.

6/1/2008 12:02:58 PM
Only one week till I get to go to FSG - Free Spirit Gathering out in Maryland!  Huzzah! 

If you happen to be going, let me know, it'd be great to meet up!

5/30/2008 4:22:10 PM
A great friend brought me a present tonight as we were hanging out with cool people.  Knowing that I "like to see people squirm" he couldn't resist buying an electric fly swatter for me!  So now I have this delightfully EVIL electric fly swatter and all I need is a willing victim!

5/27/2008 5:22:15 PM
I have learned something about the way I perceive men in the cross-dressing category.  I don't much care for 'forced' femme or 'sissification', primarily because it mocks the female form or uses it to humilliate.   I did find myself surprised hwoever at the lovely Drag Queens at a recent show, and also a friend of mine looked exceptionally good in drag!  So I've learned something new about myself and my attraction factors.

5/24/2008 7:40:53 PM
You know that phrase "Work Hard, Play Hard"?  I realize I'm getting to that phase in life.  I work 40 hours, plus work around the house and land nearly every day after work and most weekend days. And its not all gardening and flower-picking :)  But I like it, it keeps me active, healthy, and happy.

5/15/2008 5:34:54 PM
I don't have a cam or microphone, and I don't really want one.  If I hotlist you, its because something in your profile interests me.  But please, don't go into chat expecting cyber play.  I've got a hefty porn collection for when the mood strikes, no need for net flirting.  *sigh* Ahh well, those of you interested in real people, do get in touch.

5/11/2008 10:50:09 AM
Last night I had the pleasure of attending a wonderful play party hosted by local friends.  Thank you guys, you know who you are! 


4/20/2008 8:24:22 AM
Wow this economy is for the birds!  Specifically I'm thinking for vultures and other scavengers.  Seriously hard work is about the only way to get through phases like this, and it wears you down a bit.  I guess you could say I'm tired, like a lot of folks right now.

4/4/2008 6:39:40 PM
My submissive, my puppyslave, is a very hard working boy.  He doesn't complain or fuss, he doesn't backtalk or misbehave.  He just does a huge number of good, productive things in his daily life and still thinks of and serves his Master.  He is a *very* good puppy.

3/1/2008 6:21:20 PM
Who wills,
Can,
Who tries,
Does,
Who loves,
Lives.

2/25/2008 4:40:12 PM
I'd love to find a girl/woman who is emotionally stable, clear-headed, but who desires help in exploring a sexually liberated personal life.  The 'catch' (if there is one), is that I'm not a one night stand type.  But girl, if you're willing to be a little patient, I'm willing to help blow your mind...

1/24/2008 5:06:58 PM
Fantastic!  I just saw the best new phrase of the year.  In response to rude or inappropriate emails, the use of a reply "bitch-o-gram" telling off the offender.  In the words of a certain beer ad, Brilliant!

1/21/2008 4:58:21 PM
I've decided to create a Y! group for human pets.  Heres the intro information, email me if you're interested.

This group was created to fill a gap in the BDSM scene. I have seen many Pony play groups and events, but not much for the miscellaneous ‘human pet’ category of folks. Ponies are outdoor pets, and usually working animals. Our focus is on the indoor pets, the cuddly creatures that snuggle up on the bed or spend time in your lap. They might even sleep in a cage by the bed, but they are undoubtedly a part of the indoor household. This is not meant to be exclusionary, but to really give a space to the HIP (Human Indoor Pet.)

 

So, if you are human puppy, kitten, guard dog, mouse, ferret, etcetera, this is the place for you! We are pansexual, poly, and Master/slave friendly. Come on in, give us an introduction to your animal self or tell us about your human pet. 

 

**Important: This group does not condone or promote actual animals in play! You must be dealing with a HUMAN, consenting pet.**




1/15/2008 5:14:56 PM
I had a fantastic time at the Fetish Flea this past weekend. Unfortunately it was far too short a weekend.  The vendors were many, the toys were neat, the food was fantastic... theres just no shortage of coolness at the Fetish Flea.

1/3/2008 5:24:43 PM
I do NOT want to see pictures of your nakedness.  It does not matter to me, it does not make a person more desirable, it only focuses on the body rather than the person.  If you have a body shot as your photo on the site, I understand that.  But once we get into discussion you should provide a face oriented photo.  Focus on conversation, getting to know the person, and matters of substance.  When people are ready to get naked together, hopefully the rest of the compatibility is already established.  Then one's opinion of the physical is informed by their opinion of the intellectual.  And thats a much better way to go about it. 

11/8/2007 3:33:45 PM
Are you a puppy or do you enjoy puppy play?  Are you experienced in this aspect of the lifestyle?  If so, I'd like to hear from you to 'swap notes.'  Thanks!

10/27/2007 7:16:49 PM
I know someone who is seeking.  He's seeking dedication.  Do you seek dedication from a man?  Are you ready but tired of looking through generic profiles?  This one comes with a reference.  So if you're ready for him, let me know.  I'll help introduce you.

10/17/2007 3:38:20 PM
TNG Maine is alive and kicking.  We have had munches, a party, and plan much much more.  Get in touch if you'd like to join this bunch of 18-35'ers in Maine to talk about the lifestyle and meet folks in your age range.  We also have a weekly online chat on Wednesday nights, just inquire within.

9/22/2007 4:27:37 AM
Some people have wanted to know what the scoop is on legal practice of bdsm in Maine. For that reason I'm copying an email clip that was researched by a local  BDSM community leader.    


Title 17-A: MAINE CRIMINAL CODE
Part 1: GENERAL PRINCIPLES
Chapter 5: DEFENSES AND AFFIRMATIVE DEFENSES; JUSTIFICATION

§109. Consent

1. It is a defense that, when a defendant engages in conduct which
would otherwise constitute a crime against the person or property of
another, such other consented to the conduct and an element of the crime is
negated as a result of such consent.[1981, c. 324, § 27 (new).]

2. When conduct is a crime because it causes or threatens bodily
injury, consent to such conduct or to the infliction of such injury is a
defense only if:

A. Neither the injury inflicted nor the injury threatened was such as to
endanger life or to cause serious bodily injury; [1981, c. 324, § 27 (new).]

~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~

Here is the definition of Serious Bodily Injury:

Title 17-A: MAINE CRIMINAL CODE
Part 1: GENERAL PRINCIPLES
Chapter 1: PRELIMINARY

§2. Definitions

As used in this code, unless a different meaning is plainly required,
the following words and variants thereof have the following meanings. [1975,
c. 499, §1 (new).]

23. "Serious bodily injury" means a bodily injury which creates a
substantial risk of death or which causes serious, permanent disfigurement
or loss or substantial impairment of the function of any bodily member or
organ, or extended convalescence necessary for recovery of physical
health.[1975, c. 740, §11 (amd).]

9/5/2007 5:17:25 PM
Three weeks without puppy is TOO DAMNED MANY.  Thank you, we now return you to your regularly scheduled Wednesday.

8/9/2007 5:34:27 PM
Quite a few folks have expressed interest in my rabbit gloves.  I'm making them to order, and having a lot of fun doing it.  Let me know if you decide you'd like one.

7/29/2007 6:37:03 PM
August 12th has been picked by the local TNG list of Southern Maine for the first munch.  We will be holding this munch at an eatery in Lewiston/Auburn Maine.  If you are interested, please get in touch and I will make sure you have directions etc as we finalize plans.

Thanks!

7/1/2007 6:18:45 PM
I'm presently 'recruiting' for a local real life under 35 social group.  Primary means of contact is online discussion, but there may be real life meetings in the future.  Drop me a note if interested.

5/7/2007 8:01:12 PM
It was pointed out that a long time ago I posted about training a canine puppy. These days I'm training a human one. And I'm the happiest I've been in a while. Cute and obedient. What a combo.

5/4/2007 6:38:37 PM
The gardens are tilled and I have my first sunburn.  Yippie.  Life is pretty good!

4/5/2007 7:09:02 AM
We have a foot of snow on the ground, and more flakes falling.  You've got to love New England springtime.

3/25/2007 5:15:13 PM
Friends of mine are dealing every day with the impact of war on their lives.  I wish there were more I could do for them than some supportive words and commentary.

3/19/2007 5:43:49 PM
Some days, my drive, my dominance, my desire takes on a life of its own. It is a hunger.  The question is:  Are you food?

3/19/2007 5:28:03 PM
Love your passions, your darkness, your deviance.  Sink into them like your favorite flannel sheets or a luxurious bath.  Never be ashamed of who you are and what fulfills you.

3/4/2007 6:14:39 PM
I like hospital corners on my bed linens.  I like being called Miss but never mistress.  Earthy scents and dark colors dominate my chosen environment.  Just some insights for those who read this.

3/2/2007 4:23:35 AM
I am somewhat flexible in my tastes in men, however if you are more than 15 years older than I am, I will not consider a realtionship.    Thank you.

2/26/2007 5:12:58 AM
Whether to sink into the short lived hedonism of play, of whips and chains and excitement, or to abstain and pursue that elusive depth and breadth of personal connection, that blend where a look is enough, and words slip away...

Ultimately the answer is yes, one must have both the physical and psychological stimulation.  But to balance the two effectively, without losing perspective, that I think is the real challenge.

2/16/2007 5:28:57 AM
Where oh where is that little foot boy, oh where oh where can he be?  With his hair cut short and his **ck cut long, oh where oh where can he be!

1/21/2007 11:08:39 AM
Reliability. Integrity.

Rare Birds or Lost Arts?

Isn't it amazing how difficult it can be to stay in touch.  In this day and age of instantaneous communication, we have no excuse.  The most common one I do hear is "I was afraid to tell you X because I didn't know how you'd react" or "I was afraid you wouldn't like my answer".  Trust me, communication is better!

12/26/2006 10:11:33 AM
As much as I care for him, it seems this isn't going to work.  I'm looking again, slowly, carefully.  What works for a fling won't do for long term, so be clear as to what you want when you contact me. 

12/13/2006 5:29:50 PM
I'm giving an old lover a chance.  Cross your fingers for me.

10/20/2006 9:25:03 AM
Ladies and Gentlemen, please check your profiles for accuracy.  Someone contacted me, with good intention, but an error on his age.  The difference of eight years was significant for me.  Also if you're not in the right age bracket, people who may be interested *cannot find you*.  So, check your age, scene role, etc and make sure its all correct. 
  And with that I return you now to your regular surfing.

10/7/2006 9:08:46 AM
For me this is not exploration or first time thrill seeking.  This is what I know I like.  Are you certain of your place?  Competence and confidence lend credibility.  

10/2/2006 6:58:36 PM
Honor.  Integrity.  Accountability.  Credibility.  Trust.

10/2/2006 6:57:44 PM
As a general rule, it is exceptionally rude to pass someone's contact information out without first obtaining their consent.

9/30/2006 1:52:12 PM
I'll be heading to NYC the weekend of Friday the 13th to spend time with a friend, whee! So if you're around and want to get in touch, drop me an email.  After that I travel in November to the Las Vegas and Laughlin areas.

9/21/2006 5:09:54 AM
I look around my house and think to myself... I sure wish I had a houseboy (or girl)!

8/29/2006 2:06:32 PM
I've thought about offering training sessions, but it's a fine line.  I have no desire to become a full prodomme, it doesn't resonate with me.  I don't want to indulge fantasies, I want to train those who are seeking a path to submission.  I don't want to be your outlet, but perhaps your mentor. 

Unfortunately in the online world, most men who contact me are not looking for anything so erudite as pure training and self betterment.

8/27/2006 5:36:24 PM
I am sweet and kind, loving and loyal.  I am also opinionated and strong, aggressive and stern.           

Trust comes when it is earned.  Forgiveness is given only after amends are made.             

I work hard to live my life with Honor and Integrity.  I ask you do the same in your interactions with me.

8/25/2006 7:06:57 AM
To make a proclamation that I would no longer initiate contact but wait for the boys here to do so would be foolish.  I know myself, I will contact some.  That said, I'd also like to invite any of you who view my profile and think 'oh she'll email if she likes me' to get off your cyber-duff and email me.  Dominants shouldn't have to always be the first one to make a move, IMO.

8/24/2006 10:16:27 AM
Over six months have passed since my ankle break. It has healed well and I'm making plans for a trip to the Boston Fetish Fleamarket come January. I'm also working on keeping my feet on the ground!       

As I look out my window to see the dragonflies zipping by it feels strange to plan for the dead of winter. But there it is. Bright sun and green grass give way to dim light and crystal beauty.

1/22/2006 2:51:24 PM
D/s Orientation is fundamentally separate from sexual orientation.   In other words, you can be gay and be dominant or submissive, straight and dominant or submissive, bisexual and dominant or submissive, etcetera. 

Being submissive isn't about changing your orientation.  If you have a limit of no men, thats it, a limit.  IF you want someone to push you past your limits thats a whole different discussion, but dont' confuse them.

1/21/2006 6:27:35 AM
Its been about a week since my fall.  I've had work done on the ankle to hold things together and am in a cast for at least a month.  

1/15/2006 4:59:21 PM
I broke my ankle today while walking the dog. Its the same one I had worked on over a year ago. Needless to say, this sucks.



1/12/2006 6:55:52 PM
Why is it that I get so many emails that simply say "hello Morghan" or "hello" or "hi Morghan?" 

Only by the farthest stretches of technicality can these be considered even one sentence emails.  Sometimes I say "Something on  your mind?" to prompt more discussion.  Other times I just delete them.

If you want a thoughtful response, write a thoughtful email, or at least a couple of sentences.  I'd really appreciate it anyway. Thanks.

1/7/2006 10:09:38 PM
I may be going to a fetish club night in late January.  Two problems present themselves: My budget is limited and I lack a local date.  Of course the third factor could be considered to be motivation.  We shall see...


1/6/2006 11:53:45 AM
Perfect scores last term, yay for me.  Going into the next one I'm contending with moving, training my new dog (who's got some real issues) and organizing my stuff. 

Sometimes looking out at the snow and thinking of all this 'stuff' I can't help but have a darker mood.

12/19/2005 7:34:01 PM
I got a new dog today, a canine not a human one.  He's settling well... after barfing in my car on the way home. oh well.

12/12/2005 5:33:16 PM
While my grades are still excellent going into finals, I'm beginning to think that the money I spent on one particular class would have been better spent on shoes or a corset.  *sigh* 

12/9/2005 4:38:54 AM
Two weeks (less really) of classes remaining... The countdown begins.

10/25/2005 8:47:32 AM
An FYI for those who would like to contact me.  There are a few things which do nothing for me.  I might indulge my sub's fantasies in these areas on a rare occasion, but I don't enjoy them for their own sake.  These include: sissification/forced fem, infantalism, and furries. 

I do have a list of dislikes and limits, but those are pretty conventional.

10/20/2005 7:18:53 PM
If there are any people (any gender, persuasion, orientation) under 35 here who'd like a meet and greet/social/munch in the L/A area, please get in touch with me.  Thanks!

10/5/2005 6:44:13 PM
My favorites list is getting very long... There are so many people on this site I'd like to meet, to get to know in the real world.  It would be perfect if I could rent out a palatial retreat somewhere, and have a CM meet and greet.  Imagine a staff of volunteer slaves serving drinks in a grand ballroom filled with people in fetish attire.  I'd have dungeons to play in and service demonstrations.  Just another fantasy running around my mind.

9/30/2005 10:03:51 AM
Oh so busy!  Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday BOOKED, every week...

But I've got a positive outlook.

Today at work a guy came in in a wheelchair. He's probably in his 40's, has some kind of debilitating condition, can only really use one hand, etc.  But he's got the best attitude in the world!  It's a great day as he measures it.   I'm going to try using the same measuring stick.   Life is good!

9/8/2005 6:04:49 PM
As of this week I'm back in college to finish out my business degree.  Several chapters of reading are due by next class.  It *will* be worthwhile though, I'm tired of not having that official peice of paper.

I am still looking to meet someone, though my time is limited these days, and do have at least one good prospect in mind who gets some of my time when schedules allow. So be prepared for things to go slowly if you contact me.

8/9/2005 7:07:55 PM
I have been stood up for the first time in my re-approach to the scene.  Its so sad that a person can't be bothered to make  a simple phone call to save me the time and aggravation of waiting around. 

7/27/2005 4:29:56 AM
Getting back in the saddle, I've rejoined my local lists. (having realized I'd accidentally left one of them entirely) and am planning to attend some local social events.  See you there!

7/22/2005 5:26:39 PM
If you have no profile, don't expect me to respond.

7/20/2005 10:05:39 AM
Well the boy wants to pursue someone else. So we're done.  I guess I'll delete that comment about missing him, he was already gone in spirit.

7/14/2005 4:40:26 AM
Just for kicks I picked up a copy of "Different Loving" which was reccomended by a friend of mine. I  am really enjoying the academic style of the book, but look forward to more of the case study sections.



7/9/2005 3:16:48 AM
The CM chat requests don't appear to work for me.  Sorry folks.

7/4/2005 7:14:33 AM
How amusing, the user of this site responsible for that vitriolic outburst in my last journal entry no longer has an active profile on the site.  Whether he chose to deactivate it or someone did it for him I don't know.  Either way its clear they've done us all a favor.  

6/30/2005 9:42:32 AM
I tried to send a compliment and invite discussion with someone.  Here is what I received in return:
          
"Faker tart parasite bitch! My profile clearly stated if you were not interested in my ownership then dont contact me. You cant read you goddam imbecile. get your information online not from me you idle loafer."  

I was shocked, frankly.  If those of us who are part of this lifestyle in all its variations cannot have a civil exchange, why bother to come here to a 'community' site?  I offer respectful interaction to submissives AND slaves as well as dominants I speak with.  It is amazing how many sumbissives and slaves cannot seem to offer the same.

6/28/2005 8:07:15 PM
Life isn't exaclty a bowl of cherries, but it could be much worse.  My relationship has hit a stumbling block and gotten back up, for which I'm grateful.

5/29/2005 7:43:08 AM
I couldn't be happier!  Life is good.

3/27/2005 9:48:17 AM
Things have turned around in my search and I'm happily working on a submissive a short distance from me. I will be focusing on him for a while, thank you all for your interest!

3/5/2005 3:35:18 PM
The reactions of the boy in the previous post are best described as 'backpedalling.'  A frustrating situation, no matter what his reasons.  I've also had a noshow for another date, this one with good reason, an ill family member.  So as my frustration level increases, my ability to give each prospective submissive appropriate attetnion suffers.  SO, if you are interested and you find me less than my normal charming self, that is why.  I had considered taking myself out of the hunt for a bit, but will reserve judgement on that for now.

2/28/2005 7:11:32 AM
I am pleased as punch today with the boy I recently met.  Huzzah!  Heres to hoping all goes well.

2/17/2005 5:51:57 AM
Cranky today...

A Domme with PMS is not a pretty picture.

2/9/2005 5:13:20 PM
Remarkably average, yet exceptional woman.

2/8/2005 5:32:54 PM
I would like to reiterate that I am NOT a prodomme. I do not want your money, only your focus, loyalty, and talents.   I DO have a website.  You are welcome to the URL on request.

1/24/2005 7:49:41 PM
I would like to post something positive here, but find that difficult. One of the household cats died last week.  He was very old and passed peacefully among loved ones.  My family dog had to be put down yesterday. She was eleven years old. 

Interpersonal problems abound, and those who present themselves inaccuartely online continue to fall by the wayside.

12/28/2004 6:00:21 AM
I will be in Las Vegas and Arizona for the last two weeks of January. If you've been dying to meet me and live out that way, get in touch.

12/9/2004 6:17:20 PM
Its been a while since I posted about the sub I met. Unfortunately she's got her own baggage to work on so she's off to do that. Her idea, not mine.  I would have been happy to help her through the tough stuff.  But, such as it is, that has come and gone and it is once again time to look.  My focus is on long term, for those interested.  Please keep that in mind.

11/13/2004 10:14:19 PM
I'm a very happy woman tonight.  I met a lovely subpet today.    We spent from noon till 10:30pm together.  Yay!

10/30/2004 10:19:32 AM
I've noticed a disturbing trend.   When a submissive approaches me, they may be all sweetness and protocol. They can even be just polite.  But if I decide I'm not interested, suddenly I'm not what I seem, I'm deceiving them, or some kind of fake?  Their demeanor goes from polite to accusatory, from friend to judge, who is going to tell 'everyone' about me.  Sometimes, I'm just not interested.  Thats how it goes.  I get my share of rejection too, beleive me.  Maybe I'm too fat for you, maybe you're too old for me.  Thems the breaks.  Accept defeat and move on.  On top of that, we all make mistakes, we all have our shortcomings.  Sometimes those mistakes are enough to put a stop to communication between two parties.  Let it go at that.  It was probably not meant to be.  I do my best not to harbor ill will to those on this site who I disagree with.  I hope those who correspond with me will do the same.

10/29/2004 8:51:02 PM
There is one very simple task I assign to any new boy who wishes to receive my attention and training in preparation for real time interaction.  I require an online journal.  This is not negotiable.  Please be aware of that should you request my attention.

10/22/2004 9:24:25 PM
Sometimes I see a profile here with a photo or description that is so touching it makes my heart skip a beat.  The one who I complimented knows how impressed I was by his profile.  I hope he and his Lady are happy always.  I also hope one day to be the Owner of so lovely a slaveboy.   I have a couple boys still in the running, but am always happy to talk to more.

10/11/2004 10:16:16 AM

He is back in touch with an explanation.  I will accept it now, for this time.  In the future, I am not sure.  Communication means everything. 

We all make mistakes, myself included.  This journal has invited comment from an individual because I was out of touch.  If I drop contact, check in.  I will give you a reason if I do not wish to talk to you. If I have forgotten to respond (I get emails every day) then I will go back and look and let you know my thoughts.

10/2/2004 7:38:50 PM
I am pleased to say I have a very small number of quality slaves under serious consideration.  Only one is very close by, but it is my hope that distance will not prevent the right things from happening.

9/26/2004 8:23:06 PM
Gentlemen, I see so many male slave profiles on this site with one line introductions.  Unless you are capable of distilling the meaning of life into that one sentence, I would suggest a longer, more descriptive profile.


9/18/2004 4:45:07 PM

I have really enjoyed reading about cuckolding and chastity recently.  Chastity must be one of the greatest ideas conceived of for use on a male slave.  I'd be happy to chat about Chastity and its application with anyone interested.


9/4/2004 9:46:39 AM
Well my move back to Maine is complete.  And I'm without a submissive.  Its just bad timing I suppose.  But now I'm looking around and there are a LOT less sub males in Maine than there were in Mass.  and those profiles that are here, for the most part are blank.  Blah. They shouldn't be able to leave them blank like that, its useless.

8/4/2004 4:48:34 PM
As a general rule I will not respond to one liner emails or to emails from people who are too far from what I am seeking.  Give me a reason to want to talk - and understand that its nothing personal, but I get a lot of contacts and have to be selective about where I spend my time.

6/3/2004 6:25:35 PM
I have decided to start using the collarme.com IM system. Feel free to say hi.

5/4/2004 4:05:07 PM
I'm now happily involved with a lovely young man and a mutual girlfriend.  For those who want to chat, welcome. But I have little energy for more.

1/6/2004 5:19:26 PM
Pet Peeve - People who email me begging for a slave interview who are twenty years or more older than I am.  They are told no, then criticize me for my criteria!  As if that would give them a second chance. Oh, and for bonus points they spell my name wrong.  Disrespectful and nasty.


1/1/2004 7:23:08 PM
If you want to be a slave, this section is for you.

Expect to be given an education in my sensibilities, my politics, my philosophy.  This will mean book reading, email list reading, social events, etc. 

Expect to be kept at arm's length until you have earned my trust. 
Expect to relocate.




11/8/2003 6:17:29 AM
For some reason, there seems to be this idea out there that non-white subs/slaves are less desirable. I'd like to set the record straight on this count. I ADORE people of different races. Whether Asian,African, mixed race, whatever. I generally find these people to be exotic and beautiful. So, if I hear one more guy say "Oh but is it ok that I'm Asian?" I think I'll have to scream.

11/7/2003 9:56:53 AM
On a side note to explain my other relationship options... If you are local or semi local to me, and are attractive and within ten years of my age, we might get along even if you are not a perfect fit in my original ad. I am poly, and so can have lovers who might not be my perfect One Primary. So, thats all for now

11/6/2003 4:25:44 PM
Now I've gotten a basic idea for how this journal works. So I will use it for some ongoing thoughts regarding the lifestyle. My search isn't about love alone. Nor is it about practicality alone, but a blend. The man or woman who kneels to my collar some day will have to impress me. They will have to be intelligent, witty, thoughtful, and obedient. I need someone to help further the goals I have set in life. These are not 'ordinary' goals. As you get to know me, you will see this. I cannot do it alone. I must have support, the support of an obedient, submissive partner. This one will serve me, but will also receive my guidance and shelter when life is more challenging. I am in the end, a caring dominant.

11/4/2003 7:33:38 PM
A journal is a novel idea. I wonder how many others are using this...

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SydneyMs
 
 Age: 26
 Albany, New York