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The "Chemistry, Alchemy & MAGIC" Of BDSM

What is the "Chemistry, Alchemy & MAGIC" Of BDSM?

In My mind the answer is quite simple, but also rather elusive.

Chemistry is when two substances interact with each other to form something new. Each substance is transformed via the interaction. This reaction can occur on its own or may require a catalyst. In BDSM this interaction can be that of D/s as well as M/s amongst other things. When O/one finds a partner as I term it 1 + 1 does not equal 2 instead 1 + 1 equals 11. Most would think of this as an additive function, but in BDSM I see it as one that is exponential. Where the sum of the parts is so much greater.

Alchemy is when one can change lead into gold. Once again a transformation that is seldom seen. Yes, today with modern technology it is possible to actually do this transformation, but the cost is prohibitive. In BDSM I see Alchemy as the transformation within the dynamic of where the cost is not prohibitive and the return on the investment is great.

MAGIC is when the sixth sense is involved. For it is that which you can not see, smell, touch, taste or hear. It is that part of the BDSM dynamic that you can ONLY sense. It is the sense from within each O/ones core being.

These are the three elements of BDSM that I always try to obtain.

They are so very elusive and even at times unobtainable. However, when all three elements are present the end result is spectacular and a thing of both beauty and joy for the lucky O/ones.

BDSM, D/s, M/s, Love & Romance

This is something I have been meaning to write for quite sometime. I've discussed this with a few of My F/friends and many have been anxiously awaiting My writing this. To say the least this will indeed be a work in progress...

To Me and My trained eye I see many a "Scene" a term I do NOT like, which is really just Topping and bottoming. There is NO D/s it is ONLY S&M "Play" another term I do NOT like. What do I mean? That's simple: If it is really BDSM and based on either a strong D/s or M/s dynamic it involves much more than just the physical acts of S&M. One of My many motto's is: "Anyone can wield a flogger, but ONLY a few can wield Their mind!" The mental, physical, emotional and psychological connections are an important ingredient, which I often see missing. To Me One must engage the mind. It could be a glance, touch, kiss, inflection of One's voice, the whispering in ones ear...the possibilities are infinite. This is not just when together, but also when apart. What is referred to as the "subtle 24/7" and something I do love and enjoy. It is My way and not for A/all.

D/s and M/s can and should be one of the most loving of relationships. Let's be honest with O/one another W/we all know what it is W/we do...not ONLY is trust a huge factor, but in a true relationship like those in the "vanilla" world respect and communication are also vital. This is also true and even more so in BDSM. Another ingredient to Me is the love and romance. Yes, there can be both in a D/s and M/s relationship. This includes and is not limited to the adoration, devotion and other feelings as well as emotions experienced by both Dom/Master and sub/slave. I should mention and reference that Daddy/baby girl relationships are applicable too. To many the ritual(s) of a collar are with deep meaning and significance as it should be and is to Me. However, to some it is without the significance and what I call and term a "Velcro collar" easy on and easy off.

BDSM when all of the above ingredients are present should be an intimate, electric, and erotic exchange between both Dom/Master, sub/slave and Daddy/baby girl/ Not only can it be seen, felt, tasted, smelled and heard, by those involved, but also those watching and observing. Even in public the subtle 24/7 mode is present and known to O/one another.

Love and romance...if it is a real relationship and not one based upon kinky sex and S&M...both should be present and evolve over the course of time. A logical progression...F/friends first, D/s second, and then M/s. There are many aspects of M/s I do like. However, it is the D/s dynamic that I would say is the major component and foundation. Sometimes I hear the word "dating" in reference to D/s and yet another term I do NOT like. To Me D/s and M/s is NOT dating. It is a journey of both exploration and discovery. An erotic dance of the minds and body.

It is often written and referenced: "Mind, body, heart, soul and spirit", but seldom seen or experienced.

To Be Continued...