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I've been an active Dom (tall 6'5) for over 20 years. I lead a poly lifestyle and have a long time live-in female partner for over 10 years. Poly the entire time. We're seeking a bi female that wants to be in a BDSM home. I'm not looking for anything short term. I'm seeking a relationship and not a fling. Totally new or experienced, I'm open to both. Adding a switch or a Dom female to the family isn't out of the question. That would certainly add an interesting dynamic :-) My passion is bondage, especially suspension. I also love many other types of play such as flogging, spanking, exhibition, humilation, orgasm control and several other things. I've been active in the local and regional BDSM community. I'm a Southern gentleman with manners, but still very Dom. I'm very much the "Daddy Dom" (age play and non age play) and love that role, but it's not a requirement. It's very rewarding to be protector/teacher/mentor/friend/lover all in one. I love taking someone new and exploring BDSM with them. I really enjoy showing them something for the first time, to experience that with them and see the anticipation build, the excitement of doing something new and the sharing of feelings afterwards. It feel it brings me so much closer to the person.

I seek a natural female sub/slave, to teach her to channel those feelings of submission into something sexual that would enhance and ultimately trigger her pleasure. I teach the freedom of submission and that D/s is about power and not sex. When you connect with a sub's soul, the body will follow and the sex can only be intense and exciting. My sub will find out that there is so much she will enjoy that she never knew exsisted in vanilla life. I'm not an arrogant barking orders type Dom. I want to be compatible on both the vanilla and kink sides. Humor is very important to me. While I can be strict and have established routine for you, I'm fair. I play in fantasy land but I have my feet firmly in reality. There are times for both. This should be enough for you to decide if you'd like to know more about me and my 'family'. If you do, just let me know. We are always open to making new friends. David



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12/14/2005 6:30:29 AM
GUIDE FOR NOVICE SUBS
I've been a  Dom for a long time and I have decided that many novice subs are being misguided by "cyber Doms".  Novice subs tell me they get so much conflicting  information they don't know what to believe.  The best thing is to trust your instinct.  If it doesn't sound right, it usually isn't.   For the benefit of novice subs - here are 5 things to consider when  using the internet to search for potential Doms.
1-  Experience - Being an "on-line" Dom (or sub for that matter) ISN'Texperience in the lifestyle. Real time BDSM is nothing like on-line
play. For example - a "cyber" spanking doesn't hurt - a real time one does.  Be wary of those that claim to be an expert in many areas. It takes years to learn to  "single tail"  and do "suspension bondage".
2- Collars -   Being "cyber collared" or "under consideration"  to someone you have never met or played with is just silly.  It's usually required by Dom's that are very insecure in their ability to keep a sub. One thing real time Dom's aren't , is  insecure. A real time collar is equal to an engagement ring in the vanilla world.
3- Internet -  Real time Dom's use the internet to meet subs and get to know them to see if they are compatible. Not every Dom is for every sub, real Dom's know that and want to make sure who they take the time to get to know  has similar desires within this huge lifestlye. Real time Dom's rarely desire "cyber submission". They want to build a trust between themself and the sub so  "real time" play can occur.  Building trust requires open and honest , two way conversations,  not silly on-line demands of meaningless service.
4- Pictures - Many think that not having a picture posted means your are fake or a wanna-be.  It's usually quite the opposite.  It's very easy for "fakes" to find "net" pictures to post on their profile.  Real time Doms and subs   have real jobs, real kids & family and real vanilla friends that do look thru kinky sites.  Real time Doms and subs go to munches, play parties and BDSM events - we get plenty of face to face contact.  We don't have to place a pic on the internet for all the world to see, just to provide we are real and sincere.  We will send pics to those we think are compatible enough to want to meet, and that doesn't happen on the first chat.
5- Lifestyle  - Real time Doms and subs  live this lifestyle.  We know people, we play, we don't carry our toys in a paper bag. Real toys are expensive, a good single tail costs $ 450, a real leather corset $350, quality leather cuffs are $ 150 a pair, a flogger can be $200.  Experienced Doms usually  can play anytime they want, they aren't desperate and  need to "talk" some sub into serving them. They are looking for quality.   If someone has been on a site like this  for 2 years and has never had a real time D/s relationship  or haven't met anyone - chances are they aren't going to meet you either.  Being 22  with 5 years experience   might be believable to someone 25,  but give us older, more mature people a break.  If you say  "age and looks unimportant"  mean it   and if you say "relocatable"  mean that too.  If you aren't ready to meet someone  real time - say that - people will still talk to you.  This is for the men, if the profile says " NO MEN"  for gawd sake, don't send an e-mail.   Women will think none of us can read. Everyone, be honest in your profiles  and also read and respect what people put in thier profiles.  Being Dom doesn't give you a right to be rude or not have manners nor common sense. Being sub doesn't mean you have to obey some jerk because he puts " Sir" before his name and " On your knees, bitch"  is not a typical opening line from a real time experienced Dom. He is more likey to write " Hello, I'm Tom, how are you?   What are you interested in?"
 
Do these things apply to 100% of real Doms?  Absolutley not, but it does apply  to a huge majority of Doms.  I'm sure there will be many that disagree with what I have written. But I want the novice subs to think about what I said. Does it make sense? Is it more believable than other things you have been told?  We have all encountered  many many fakes and wannabes - did they do many of the things I talked about. I think most will say yes.
More to come. I welcome comments.

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SamanthaMorrison
 
 Age: 27
 Topeka, New York