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Respect the Woman, value the person, desire the slut and cherish the little girl; respond to the submissive, own the slave. Respect the Man, value the Person, desire the Sir and cherish the Daddy; respond to the Dominant, obey the Master.
A new beginning, that is the tomorrow of every yesterday..today. If you want to switch, i'm not for you; you want a domme/mistress, i'm not for you. It's not going to happen, plain and simple; it is not me. Very primally put, you Dom, me sub, both straight, ugh. LOL Being able to laugh in life is a must. Eventually my King and I will find each other; until then, I am queen of the KingDom (pun intended). What am I looking for? An active Christian; translated, someone who actively maintains their relationship with God. Something not desired, a sadist type that enjoys giving a girl pain so she'll feel pain, quite the opposite for me. If I have to explain the opposite of that kind of sadist, we're probably not a fit. Local, or rather close is also desired; the details of life are not something that can be worked out being miles and miles apart; those very miles make affirmations of many things impossible for B/both parties. One whom I can also sit down and relax with, have conversation with or go out with. And you'll want to have a good libido. I'm very tired of hearing oh I do, I do; only to later learn, that means once a week. Once a week is not something desired. A streak of Daddy is a good thing; among the many other aspects that comprise the entire Man; being one that enjoys variety greatly, this is also greatly desired, or at the very least the desire to enjoy all the areas that comprise the complete woman. I live life daily, not weekly; there are 24 hours in a day. This is not something that gets picked up and put down at whim; it's as much a part of life as eating and breathing. People don't screw 24/7, nor flog or spank 24/7; but D/s, in my opinion, exists, 24/7. So what about 'until' my King and I find each other? Well, I enjoy floggings and spankings and such. As well as bondage of various forms. I've been a rope bunny on occasion for a friend, as well as the floggee at demos. My desire of will and won't do's varies based on my knowledge of the person's skill, our trust and respect, and our friendship/relationship. Just as my desire of will and won't do's varies between my future King and Them. And I'll add that whole, no one has permission to use my stuff, borrow it without permission (steeling) thing. :P

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3/16/2014 9:03:58 PM

Comes a time in life when retrospection occurs; one takes inventory of there self. 

As I see the direction I desire for my own life; there are somethings I simply cannot do.  But that which I can do, is set in place the things that keep me on track, and begin removing that which causes me to stumble.  I'm always going to stumble, but one I realize what I'm tripping over, I can learn to step around it, or over it or simply hang on to that which keeps me from falling. 


Listen to your gut, do not allow your mind to argue with it; obey it, and it will not lead you astray.

 




2/18/2014 11:08:20 PM

With permission, written by ContrldPWR:

Power such as something like electricity can be good or bad depending on how it is used. The owner of the power has to be able to control it as well as himself. But controlled power in the right hands, the possibilities of its use are endless.


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Some of my general thoughts on D/s:

I have watched with dismay over the years as this lifestyle has seemed to turn into something that revolves around sex. Sex is a big part of this due to the sheer levels of intimacy and passion involved and lets face it, power and control, or being controlled and feeling that power, are very strong ahphrodesiacs. I am not lessening the sexual power in D/s, but shouldn't it be an extension of the relationship, not the basis for it?

There also seems to be an unusual amount of desire for sessioning, again as if that constitutes the basis for this. Sessioning is a power tool if done right, but if the relationship is based on the session, play or scene, isn't it just more or less topping and bottoming?

Using a flogger is easy. To use a flogger, a single tail, bondage or any myrid of other things is nothing more than topping or play. It is said time and time again that D/s is mostly mental, to the point of that statement sounds trite now. However it is a true statement, only most do not understand why it is true. A decent Dominant can make a submissive be submissive, act submissive, do "parlor tricks", etc., but few really can enter her mind deep enough to make her not just feel that submission, but to make it last. It also take the mind of the submissive and not just the mind of the Dominant, because she has to have the ability to truly understand and want to go that deep, to let him into her mind, but no matter how willing she is, very few Masters seem to really understand the mind of a submissive or how to enter it on that deep level. If just playing, topping, bottoming or having ones ego stroked by her acting submissive is enough, that is great, I won't judge, but it not enough for me.
Just like in vanilla where not every woman is right for every man, the same is true in D/s. Not every submissive is right for every Dominant and visa versa. The Master has to be able to dominate her as herself, just like a lover should not try and change their partners personality, if you cannot dom her as herself, then it is simple, it does not make her "not submissive" and it does not necessarily make him less of a Dominant, they are just not the right match. Not astro physics.

To me this is based around the exchange of power. I have always sought the power and control first and foremost for without that in place first, the relationship is destined to fall apart. In my way of thinking if the Dominant rushes this, pushes too hard too fast and does not build on the foundation, will it really last? However if he does take his time, constantly moving forward, constantly pushing her, but building, wouldn't he eventually have all he wants from her in the long term. In my opinion yes, he will have all he wants and probably more because if he builds her and the relationship right, he will have all the power and control at his beckn call.

This leads to another topic, the "gift". Years ago when I first started the word gift was never used. submission was something that was a term to define what was inside of someone. If submission is viewed as a gift then wouldn't the Dominant be working for the submissive, constantly trying to be worthy of this nebulas "gift"?
A Dominant who starts out a letter saying he is dominant, isn't that redundant? If he really is, does he have to say it, or is it more real by his ways and mind showing it? What happened to the respect of a position -- too many Dominants do not bother to spell correctly or use proper grammar. They spell in small caps and that includes their name. If one does not have respect for the position how can they be respected? Isn't it better to take your time, actually write out a letter, use capital letters when necessary and spell out your name -- show respect for the position if you want to be respected.

These might be little things, but little things add up.

It is said that trust is the most important factor in D/s, even moreso than any other type of relationship. Isn't trust important in all forms of relationships, from personal, friends, marriage, even business? If one is less trustworthy in those forms of relationships, why would they suddenly be trustworthy in D/s? I know what is said, that due to the power a Dominant has over a submissive, he needs to build up her trust, that is true, but even in vanilla, if you never lay a hand on someone, isn't there potential for great emotional harm, so why in reality is trust more important in D/s?

There are many dominant men out there. I deal with them in the business world every day. However just because a man is dominant in nature, does not mean he has the understanding to be a Dominant. They really are two different things, different dynamics and mindsets.

The same with being in control and being controlling. Totally different things. Mental manipulation in my opinion is not having control, it is a false power.

I have been involved in D/s for many years, more than I care to count. However I have found many who claim as many or even more actual years of involvement but they seem to be in a place where time stood still. There was no development of their ideas, of their core beliefs. If someone does the exact same job for 20 years, they have 20 years of actual experience, but they are doing the exact same thing as when they started. Has that 20 years of experience expanded their mind, expanded their thoughts. Even a "Master" has to continue to grow.

D/s is a relationship, unless you are just interested in short term and playing. But that can be done in vanilla for how many vanilla lovers play at bondage and roles. It is a relationship, albeit governed by different dynamics, but it is still a relationship. Like any other relationship this takes time to develop and will have its ups and downs. It is not the problems that destroy relationships, it is the way they are handled.


1/19/2014 3:55:20 PM
When one is laid up, other than rest there is little to do. As you think of things, you find yourself going deeper than the surface of day to day realities. At times you are fortunate and realize something of yourself you had not discovered. Things you thought important as a child, as a teen, even in early youth are not nearly as important as that which stands the test of time and will be with you through the storms celebrating life together. And even though you may know this, its value grows with each passing day. Chose wisely your life's directions, living it to the fullest.

2/26/2013 10:21:13 PM

A man and a woman build a house.

The man walks away for power to destroy and to protect the house.

The house now unprotected, destroyed, empty, lifeless; for the power of the house left, yet it still stands.

Power returns to the house as it is rebuilt, full, alive.

The man returns destroyed, empty, lifeless without power.

 


2/26/2013 8:24:15 PM

Amazing grace I feel you coming up slowly, now, like the sun is rising, heat on my face.........words of a song.........words from another's heart.....felt in the hearts of many.   Relating, the point of discussions; the sharing of interests, the likeness of minds, the bonding of spirits. 

Recently an old ghost re-entered my life; there were many things re-visited in conversation, others things re-visited and re-discovered.  

A man entered my life; there were many things visited new in conversation, other things visited and discovered. 

The ghost and man the one and the same, revisited and new.

Parts of it him, things now shared that had been left unsaid. 

Parts of it me, new and being said. 

Life changes things, time changes people........at times people change for life, to be alive, to live, to survive. 

What once was, still is, yet it is not still what once was. 

What was once deep within him, is now on the surface.

What was once on the surface is now deep me, and it will change life forever.

And once again two people in two different places cannot be.


2/21/2013 9:32:13 PM

I destest when one presumes to know what I assume without even asking a question or knowing me.  Do not attempt to disrespect me by putting me into a mold; accept me for me and I'll return that respect and accept you for you.  Life is good, and I'll not allow such narrow minded people in mine. 


1/23/2013 4:08:49 PM

 

A friend of mine passed away today,

I watched as they prepared to take the body away.

 

My mind splitting to the point it was still,

Trust in God’s plan, trust in His will.

Yesterday I had a thought,

And within me it caused distraught.

If suicide is indeed a sin,

How can refusing dialysis be a win?

 

A friend of mine passed away today,

I watched as they prepared to take the body away.

 

My heart is grieving, my mind it screams,

To deal with this, I fall upon my knees.

Lord help me, heal me, forgive my sin,

Remind a child you live within.

Face down and pressed hard before your feet,

Trust and faith in You is the only way to defeat.

 

A friend of mine passed away today,

I watched as they prepared to take the body away.

 

I should be ashamed for my selfishness,

His pain and suffering ceased to exist.

To get to leave this world full of satan’s sin,

How can that be anything but a win.

Especially when a child of yours waits for the day,

When God says it’s time to come home, come this way.

 

A friend of mine passed away today,

I got to watch as they prepared to take the body away.

 

His spirit is in heaven, right where it should be.

Jesus rose from death, making it possible you see.

On bended knee my friend confessed his sin,

And that’s when he invited the Holy Spirit within.

Filled with God’s spirit, all sins washed away,

My friend became born again that day.

 

A friend of mine passed away today,

I watched as they prepared to take the body away.

 

So I’ll brave a smile and let my heart begin to sing,

In heaven with God is where my friend should be.

A child of His, born again and free,

Free’d of satan’s destructive destiny.

So praise God’s name, give thanks and rejoice,

For God always has the final voice.

 

A friend of mine passed away today,

I got to watch as they prepared to take the body away.

 

Rejoice, rejoice, exalt the Lord’s Name,

For I will get to see my friend again.

To God be the glory and praise His Name,

Because of His son, my friend was born again.

Give thanks, give thanks, sing and rejoice,

Know it was God’s will, have faith in His choice.

 

A friend of mine passed away today,

I got to watch as they prepared to take the body away.

 

Trust in God’s plan, it is the only way.

I know it is something my friend would say.

He preached the word, the gospel it’s called,

Helping sinners, because all have falled.

He listened to Father God, above all,

Heard God’s voice and followed His call.

 

A friend of mine passed away today,

I got to watch as they prepared to take the body away.

 

My heart still weeping as I feel it mourn,

The grief within me, a raging storm.

By the grace of God, healing begins,

As I call upon another gift, another friend.

God knows this child of His, and always provides,

I can stand, and proclaim, that truth with great pride.

 

A friend of mine passed away today,

I got to watch…. as they prepared…. to take the body away………


1/10/2013 12:27:46 AM

In life a girl is blessed with family and friends; some are both.  She takes the time to breath in deeply and slowly release the air that has been drawn.  Along life's way she encouters others.  Some will never be more than a friendly acquaintence, others laughter and silliness enjoyed, and every now and then she finds needles within the haystacks. 

Her finger is pricked and life blood drawn, almost as those cherished from childhood past in the old ritual of becoming blood-brothers, and a blood relation is formed.  Two minds connect sharing conversation, that evolves into common understanding and within the world two know the other 'gets it'.

Since returning to this web site, a girl is fortunate to have met and continues to know 3 such blood relations.  Having not asked permission, she will simply state their initials, BL, DM, MD; very real Masters in life, each unique, yet all three get it.  They are simply themself, in being who they are and how they are, they live life.  Some days are good, some are trying, they are not full of themselves, claiming simply to be themself.  These are some of the rare few, these are the real, these are the type others refer to as a Man's man.  They are not arrogant, quite the opposite, yet take pride in life itself and cherish that which they have been blessed with and know the value of others. 

And a girl thanks them, for each have contributed to her life; her knowledge and learning, growing having beeen blessed with their presence in her life.

 


1/6/2013 11:35:20 PM

 

Is she looking, hell ya; is she on a man hunt, hell no. And she’s picky, selective and has expectations of honesty, reliability, loyalty, responsibility; a certain level of intelligence, a basic skill level, basic chemistry of attraction regarding body, heart, mind and most definitely the spirit of the man.

And she is so sick and tired of men who claim this or that and when the time comes to step up to the plate she ends up having more balls than they do. And then there are those, who push and push hard and fast to meet; because they do not want to be discovered, already believing in their own mind, they want to use her, but drop and run. A girl does not mind agreements and arrangements; but the BS*, common, get over yourself.

 

A wise girl pauses and keeps herself safe, makes safety arrangements.

A quick thank you here, to SC for removing the cob-webs and dust from a girl’s mind when she was taking herself back off the shelf. Two people just talking about life, sharing themselves and safety became a topic. He, simply reminding a girl to be safe; a girl simply in need of the reminder; two people simply being two people.

THAT is why a girl feels a debt of sincere gratitude owed; it was real, it was honest, it was in the moment, it wasn’t no BS* attempt at anything, with nothing expected. Things like this create a real feeling of owing a debt of gratitude, yet the simple appreciation of a thank You is more than enough, because nothing was expected.  This is one that will remain within her a life time, one she will never be able to repay, a sincere selfless concern for another human being; thank you again SC.


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