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  I am a dominant woman searching for a LTR with a submissive. I am an intelligent, ener
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Age: 35, Height: 5ft 11in (180 cm), Weight: 183 lbs.
Location: Amsterdam , Netherlands
Last on 3/13/18 at 7:16 AM










 Dominant Female


 5' 4"

 140 lbs





Actively Seeking:

Submissive Male


I am a dominant woman searching for a LTR with a submissive. I am an intelligent, energetic, protective, clever, insatiable woman who enjoys life. I enjoy music, hiking, gardening, concerts, reading, and most outdoor activities.

For fun I enjoy thought provoking, intelligent conversation.  Especially about subjects that raise questions to which the answers will never be known for sure.

My Ideal Person:

I am searching for a single submissive who is honest, intelligent, articulate, obedient and devoted. I long for a submissive who is alpha in the workplace, successful, motivated, cunning, even dominant; yet this facade melts away the minute he is mine.

I seek a submissive who is capable of walking on the razor's edge between the vanilla world and ours. Sincerity and intelligence with a strong desire to please me, as well as a willingness to stretch your boundaries. I do not have time for those who indulge in cyber interactions, endless emails, etc.  After an introductory email, my expectation is to discuss things further via Skype or FaceTime.

I gravitate towards a man who is mature, confident and intelligent. A man who loves to smile and laugh is very sexy to me. You want a relationship filled with mutual respect, admiration, friendship, romance, meaningful intimacy on all levels (emotionally, intellectually and physically)..Only message me if you believe in chivalry, holding open the door and putting me up on that proverbial pedestal.  My submissive is genuine, protective, easy going, open minded, affectionate, compassionate and has a smile and eyes that melt me. He'll enjoy, witty, flirting banter along with serious conversation. He's physically active and enjoys things such as golf, hiking, jogging, walks in the park and other outdoor activities. 


I repeat, I am not looking for online cyber, "play", and for the dominants who need it stated succinctly--- I have absolutely no interest in switching.

I appreciate all honest  emails from thoughtful, articulate men introducing yourself, what you are searching for, and why you believe you would be a potential partner for me.   One liner emails will be deleted without a response. This also includes an email asking me how I am. Introduce yourself, take some time to tell me about yourself and why you believe you would be a good fit for me. Some experience, history and what a D/s relationship means/looks like to you.

If you would like to learn more about me, visit my tumblr blog:

 (The profile photo is me)

Journal Entries:
4/29/2015 10:18:34 AM

Another post from


Do you and your girl ever take on average husband wife roles? Like watching movies on the couch, or gardening, or going out for dinner, or is there always an undertone of Dom/sub in everything you two do together?




Yes, the D/s stuff is perhaps 5% of Our relationship. 

This blog just happens to shine a spotlight on it. 


4/29/2015 10:12:30 AM

I absolutely love blog:


In need of answers!! So I'm dating someone who isn't a natural Dom and have been trying to teach him how to be through examples of showing him a my toys, crops, restraints, and explained how they were used. told him my limits, gave him resources for info, and even showed him some of my favorite porn, and he is slowly improving in the bedroom but it doesn't feel natural. What should I do?

His answer:

“natural Dom”

This is getting nearly as bad as the real/fake Dom/sub. 

I don’t think ya’all realize how many people this scares away. 

“Oh well, I’m not a natural, so why bother?”

What you are looking for in your partner is confidence, and confidence comes with time, practice, and trust. 

What you want is for him to know your queues, not hesitate, and take control. 

That doesn’t just happen and there isn’t any way to rush it. 

Trying to do so out of frustration is a good way to make someone throw up their hands and just say “fuck it”. 

Everyone has to learn, experience, and become comfortable with those experiences at their own rate. 

So keep supplying resources, keep a blog of your fantasies he can follow, keep encouraging him to experiment and learn. 

you’re doing great there, but be patient. 

There is no such thing as a natural Dom.

There are simply more experienced Doms. 

4/29/2015 10:09:30 AM
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This young lady has expressed exactly my same fear:


A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover’s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life. 
Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.

4/22/2015 5:03:28 PM
Another great blog post by


Question: I have a question about anal play. More specifically prep, how does one go about cleaning the anus? Beyond wiping your ass, obviously.


Well, if you want it clean inside and out, then the best way that I know of is with an enema. If you want to be 99% sure there won’t be any embarrassment, that’s the way to go. 

Some people enjoy them, some get off using them as punishment, and some just use them for cleaning, but they are easy enough to get and use. 

Hell, there are even some shower attachments made for it now.

4/22/2015 4:59:34 PM


If you send me an email that says "Hi" or is brief or asks a questions without a proper introduction, I simply won’t answer it. I’ll delete it and move on. No more contacting me later and complaining because I will simply make the assumption you are another fake and then I will block you.  The only info I get to work with is the info you give me. I am not wasting anymore of my time trying to communicate with people who obviously aren't serious about finding a partner.

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