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** Been Single for awhile, just haven't updated in awhile Update; 8/10/2016** I have been in this lifestyle for going on 32 yrs, since I turned 13, active since 18 (to preserve the safety of any partners I might play with, legalities-wise) and I'm familiar with just about ever subset out there. I've run munches, play parties, had more than one girl at a time, just played, scened, I am good with a flogger, and shibari, hypnosis, and psychological dominance, using things like pavlovian trigger conditioning to get a deeper understanding of My partners.
I also have many non-BDSM hobbies, including reading, drawing, role-playing games (played since age 7) Dancing, and singing karaoke (they call Me Doc, all around Springfield)


I am suffering Kidney Failure, and going through dialysis 3 days a week. I am on disability and combining My medical issues, financial issues, and being single has Me kinda depressed at times, I apologize if I might bring you down, I try not to. I'm an avid gamer and karaoke singer, and that often serves to cheer Me up, its good to have stress relievers and hobbies as anti-depressants, beats medication all the time.
Although I've come out quite vocally as a supporter of Poly relationships, as My medical issues increase, I must admit to being able to handle only 1 girl right now. I still think Poly is the natural state for humans, but a responsible Poly Dom knows there is work involved, and if they can't do the work, if they can't handle more than one sub, then they shouldn't try. I still have no jealousy issues, and will always make sure any girl I have gets what she needs, EVEN if that means allowing her to play with someone else for whatever reason (she likes girls, has a fantasy about 2+Men/gangbangs, wants to do some kind of play I'm personally not into or capable of, etc...) as long as I can trust My girl, and who she may be playing with, IE NO LIES, I'm fine with this, I'm secure enough in Myself to trust a girl I would collar to be honest and forthright with Me.
Reactive Dominance: New term I've been using for awhile, describes a style of Dominance where the Dom reacts to the pleasures and needs of the submissive in play...the submissive doesn't run the show, however, the Dom gets release and pleasure by the reactiveness of the submissive, so if she's enjoying, He's enjoying, and thus can vary the play types within the given limits of both partners. For instance, if My partner doesn't like needles, then I wouldn't get any pleasure out of using needles on her, with a partner that loves needles, and shows it, I would love to do this edge style play...a Reactive Dominant can do a lot more edgy play styles, given a submissive that is into them, while still fulfilling the Dom's needs.
I AM A REACTIVE DOM, A DaddyDom, a Psychological Dom, and a Primal(Predator/Alpha) just to name a few roles I play in the lifestyle, the main 4 roles in fact. I have been in a Gorean style relationship, 1950s household, TPE/TPX, Master/pet, Vampire/childe, etc... I love the serious side of the lifestyle, but I also love the role-play side of things...roleplaying doesn't make the lifestyle a game, it just keeps it spiced up, and taking on another role can allow some extra 'freedom' from anxiety for those doing the role...when a sub becomes a 'pet' they can often express themselves more freely then in their more human guise **End Update**
<EDIT> Just got KIK: GamerSeuss

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8/15/2014 1:45:23 PM
for updates on My medical condition, check here: http://www.gofundme.com/3frjug



But general synopsis: I go to the Surgeon on Monday to see how much of My right foot/leg I will get amputated, and when the surgery will occur. 

5/4/2014 11:01:45 AM

I'll never understand the 'submissive' with the immediate gratification fixation. If you don't answer them right away, they are being ignored, but if they take a minute or two to answer you, then it's fine....doesn't that seem screwed up to anyone else?

 

I'm a flirt, I flirt like I breath...those who know Me know that. I also do not and will not take another online slave...that is another thing that has aggravated Me of late. I want someone who is real, someone I can touch and who wants to touch Me...so although I'll flirt, and might even play some online, I want it clear that I am NOT looking for an online romance. I want to be able to touch the one I love, and I want them to want to be with Me. We spend time not only doing lifestyle things, but vanilla things as well. Enjoy watching movies/TV together, just snuggling, supporting each other when we go through medical things (of which I have many)

 

Just ramblings I guess...things that get on My nerves. If I could be with the one I love, I could be happy all the time, no matter what things happen in My life, medically or otherwise. I need to feel that the person I'm with is real, and that means I need to see their face and touch their skin once in awhile...doesn't have to be often, just gotta know that they are there.

 

~Skin Hunger~

Touch Me, make Me feel your need,

Make Me ache inside,

Make Me know you love Me so,

don't even try to hide,

Feel caresses upon your skin,

Feel our pulses begin to race,

come with Me through skin on skin,

to a dreamlike special place,

feel the hunger, feel the fire,

feel the burning, primal desire,

feel the need, and want I feel,

because this love for you is real,

I want you, I need you, understand,

and express it with the touch of My hand!

 

~Seuss (May 4th, 2014)

My the 4th be with you (Happy Star Wars Day)


4/7/2014 8:26:51 PM

Depression easily overwhelms you...things like medical issues pile up, and being alone only magnifies the issues. Your friends who are there for you are the ones that stay through this bought of depression, and more importantly the ones who try to snap you out of it. It's easy for even the nicest person in your life to become Toxic, bringing everyone down with them.

I know I've been this toxic person to many of My friends, and for that I apologize. For those who don't know the details, I'm been fighting with medical issues for the last 3 years now, culminating last may in full on Kidney Failure. Add to that I've been single and it has depressed Me no end. Not just single, but no play partners either to relieve some of the frustration (although that's not always a bad thing, you should never Flog in anger or frustration)

I am trying to be more positive in life. The medical issues are still there, but I'm valuing those in My life that stand by Me through these issues. I DO have love in My life, even though it is often from people I don't get to see on a regular basis. 

The lesson here being love who you can, and make the most of that love. I'm not talking about going out and online collaring every girl/boy in site or accepting online in substitution for realtime...although that can actually work for some, so don't knock it if it works for them, or you....but value those who do care for you, regardless of how far away they are, how often they can see you, and be there for the trials in their lives too.


1/21/2013 1:41:42 PM

Ever get one of those days, when you've been talking to someone, seem to be getting along fine, then they block you, out of the blue? You wonder if its something you said, if they hit the block button by accident, if they were cheating and their other found out and told them to block you, or someone hacked their account and blocked you. The internet is such an uncertain medium.


10/10/2012 3:11:24 AM

Just to clear something up. If I add you to 'favorites' as the system calls it, I may or may not like something on your profile, but the reason I'm hitting favorites is to mark that I have seen that profile, so if, a year down the line,I come across it again, I know its one I've read before, and not a new profile.

 

CM doesn't have a system for doing this, so that is how I use the Favorites/Admirer feature personally. No offense is meant, and No, I won't take you off My list, no matter how nicely or argumentatively you ask/demand it, because that would defeat the purpose of the system in the first place.

 

Favorites/Admirers' list is for the person doing the viewing, the Friends' list is for the person being viewed, which is why you have a say in being added.

 

Just thought I'd clarify that.

 

Seuss (lordseussmd on YM)


2/15/2012 8:13:34 PM

VisionCon this weekend, My first game is scheduled for 1pm Friday, 4e D&D-GammaWorld, if I can make it to the Convention by then, may be babysitting!

 

Seuss (lordseussmd on YM)


2/12/2012 5:20:23 PM

Ask Me about "A Matter of Choice" if you live in the Branson/Springfield area, or travel to that area...fastest growing local group, Drama-Free!


12/21/2011 5:53:52 PM

Happy Yule and WintersFest everyone, no matter what flavor you celebrate!


9/24/2011 7:36:18 AM

Non BDSM related, but I'll be doing a yardsale at 800 N Kansas Exprwy, and I do have a heavy Loader Washer and Dryer for sale, 150 ea or 250 for both, and I do know how much more convenient it is for kinksters to have their own facilities, so thought I'd put it out there. Normally don't advertise something like this, but if I can help My friends in the community, and also get a chance to meet some in a public non-threatening setting that I haven't gotten to before, it's all to the good, right.

 

Seuss


9/20/2011 3:37:49 PM

Well, I haven't done a rant in awhile, but yet again I'm inspired to do so....

 

This lifestyle is about respect...respect of other peoples' kinks, respect of their limits, respects of their own rules and protocols.

 

This being the case, the first thing a respectful person would do, before approaching someone, is read their profile, to see if there are any limits or rules in play, as well as to get to know the person.

 

If, within the profile, it says that a girl requires that you have her Master's permission before messaging her, that means you don't message her at all without contacting the Master first. It doesn't mean just send one liners, compliments, or spark conversations in line with trying to steal that girl away from her Master, or to test the waters to see if she is no longer owned, or on the way to begging release. It doesn't mean you can contact her for anything, until you have her Master's permission. The only thing you can generally do in this case, and still be respectful, is, if the Master's nick is not clearly displayed in the profile (and it generally is) or they are not an active profile on CM or whatever venue this is happening in, is to respectfully ask the girl to convey your regards to her Master. This is true of any compliments you have for the girl as well, all things should be addressed to the Master if that is her rule. In general, in fact, if someone is owned, I'd assume that rule is in place prior to starting anything with an owned girl.

 

Now, this being the case, it still must be remembered that this is in regards to rules involving a girl and her profile...having requests that someone doesn't "Favorites" you doesn't hold any baring because "Favorites" is a system for the person adding someone, not the person being added, and many use "Favorites" just to keep track of what profiles they have read, or ones they like a turn of phrase or picture on, and want to refer back to, and thus, may not be the business of the added person.

 

Just seems to Me that the whole idea of respect has fallen by the wayside in the lifestyle as compared to what it was 20 yrs ago...99% of the messages My girl receives are trollish in nature, with crass comments about her, and presumptively calling her names she hasn't acknowledged their rights to addressing her that way...Some are comments of flattery, true, but given that the flatterers obviously didn't read the profile, or if they did, did not decide to follow her rules, one can only assume they are disrespectful people, and who wants that around their valued property?

 

Rant Over

Seuss


9/14/2011 9:48:16 PM

Well, life has it's ups and downs, but one thing I am thankful for every day, and that is the love of My girl, melinalaut, without which sometimes I don't know how I would survive.

 

Never forget that this is a symbiotic relationship, Master and slave, both get something out of it. If you think a Master doesn't need his slave, than you don't really know what the lifestyle is all about. We need our girls as much, if not more at times, than they need Us. I'm not talking topping from the bottom here, but I am pointing out that each fulfills a need the other has, and without that other, We are never quite whole.

 

I love My melinalaut, and just want to take this opportunity to restate it.

 

she is My most valued and valuable possession, I care for her deeply and will never let her go. I am not a jealous man in any respect, but her safety is of tantamount importance to Me at all times, so again, I reiterate for those who bother to even read these things, please contact Me before talking to her, because she will not be responding to you without My permission, except maybe to inform you that you need to contact Me. I check her profile more often than she does, and most likely if you do get a response back from her profile, it will be from Me (and clearly marked so, signed Seuss at the bottom)

 

If we build trust with someone, she may get to play with you, if 1. she actually wants to, 2. I trust you, and 3. I would be there for any initial play, which would happen after more than one meeting in public with all 3 of us

 

Again, I love you Mine, and wanted you to know

 

Seuss


6/25/2011 2:54:08 PM

Well, My melina is going on vacation until the 3rd, this is the longest we've been apart in like 3 months or so, I've been seeing her pretty much almost every day, in fact, I was staying over there since Tuesday night to help her with driving as she was on pain medicine...love her so much and hope she enjoys her birthday trip and visit from family

 

*hugs Mine*

 

Seuss


6/14/2011 6:36:30 AM

apartment hunting/house hunting is hell, especially when your waiting on disability approval/denial to know where you currently stand. I get to see My babygirl almost every day, for several hours, but we don't get much alone time to play...sure, we're alone in the car and such at times, but can't really swing a flogger properly in the car. I want some alone time with My baby, I miss it. For those worrying, I did get My big toe cut off on My right foot from surgery, so that, plus the amputations on the left foot (all toes plus row of bones behind) leaves Me down to only 40% capacity for toes. I am recovering, and in that I must applaud My girl as she takes excellent care of My health, often better than I do Myself. It's the one and only time she's allowed to show dominance, and although sometimes she feels bad for having to be dominant, she does step up and make sure I'm taken care of. I don't know what I'd do without My girl, I love her so much,

 

Seuss


5/27/2011 12:43:36 PM

Am about to head into surgery, so just wanted it here that I love My girl melina laut with all My heart and soul, and want her to know I will always come back to her, no matter what happens, she is My treasure, My light, and everything I want in a girl. Love you Mine, will talk to you after surgery, it will all be okay, I would never leave you alone.


5/22/2011 5:21:48 AM

Weekends are the worst, currently, as I get to see My babygirl the least. Sometimes you just want to be able to reach out and touch your girl!


5/11/2011 6:38:43 AM

It amazes Me the lengths some people will go to when trying to steal away another...Is the only way some people can get someone of their own is by using their previous pain, anguish, heartache and loss really the way of a Master?...

 

Statistically speaking, rebound relationships never work, so why would you actively go around pining for that kind of thing, unless your real goal is just a quick bit of gratification, followed by hurting the reboundee even further in the long run when they find out that is what your actively after?

 

Where am I going with this, you ask?

 

Well, it seems everyone out there who tends to be contacting My girl melina laut lately thinks they can slide in, be sorry for her pain, and insinuate themselves in as her *NEW* Master....they read the negative things, but don't stop to read the totality of what's going on, and just think it's a chink in our relationship's fortifications that they can use to work their way into it, and become something they most definitely never will be, her Owner!

 

Let's lay it out, melina will never, ever be owned by another, not because I believe in some barbarous state of being where she can't leave Me, but because she is Mine, and she won't leave Me. The recent difficulties were hard on her, I know, but we have come together even stronger for understanding them, and it has cemented our relationship well beyond what it was even before this happened. melina knows she is My treasure, and that I will never leave her, replace her, or do anything malicious to hurt her.

 

In short, please put your penises back in your pants boys, she's not running to you to *save* her from her big mean poly Master, she is happy where she is. Also, as it doesn't seam clear to many of you, let's lay this out: 

 

1.  to contact melina laut, as a Dominant, it is expected as common courtesy to first seek out the permission of her Master - this doesn't mean I have any hate for those who just said "Hi and hope your feeling better", but it does mean you should send Me a message first beyond the above simple statement of well meaning.

 

2.  I can and do have full access to melina's accounts. I am her Master, her owner, this isn't just play, and she will not deny Me any of that, if I want her password to something I don't already have, she'll give it to Me gladly, her phone is not off limits, either, it's even on My cellular plan, so don't think for a minute you can sneak in with some soft words, or even brow beat her into going behind My back. melina trusts Me, and she isn't going anywhere, so deal with it.

 

3.  melina is married in realtime, AND her vanilla husband knows all about Me, she doesn't lie or sneak around, she in fact understands some of what it is to be poly better than most of you probably realize, she was just shocked about things, and has been hurt in the past by others who didn't know how to do a poly household properly...

 

In closing of this rant, if you are one of the ones who have been trying to steal her away, too bad for you, piss off, go find a playboy and some vasiline, if you are one who has only keyed into the part about her having fantasies about serving another, or a gangbang, and want to talk about possible meeting in the future for the proper building of trust, she is delicate right now, so send your messages to Me first and foremost before ever approaching her, and especially, if you can't see to take "No" for an answer, or even "Not right now" then your not even close to in the running to do anything with her, and such retarded behavior as lashing out because I deny you will just get you blocked and reported....Have a nice day and Blessed Be

 

Seuss


4/27/2011 2:43:24 PM

For those out there wondering, yes, I am poly, but no, I'm not really looking for another girl right now. I have My two girls, and even poly, that is enough for Me. I will train people, and I might entertain play partners for either Me or My girls, one girl is bi and switch, and the other has a gangbang fantasy, but as far as permanently collaring another, that is not in the cards. I am quite happy with what I got, yes it's natural to be poly, but a Master should never take on more slaves/pets than He can handle. I love the ones I have, and I feel their love in return.


4/27/2011 11:00:55 AM

Please remember people, if a slave is not your slave, then she is not your slut, your whore, she is not expected to bow down to you and just fulfill your whims. It shows very poor class and education and lack of manners to address someone else's slave thus.

A slave is beholden to her Master, not just anyone, and I'd appreciate it if when addressing My slave, people would remember that, because truthfully, such lack of consideration and respect is only going to get Me to have My slave block you and thus it is not the way to get Me to loan her to you, to get her to play with you in any way, and if the time comes that we try to schedule a gang bang, it will not get you an invite.

This kind of behavior shows only that you lack any knowledge of what the lifestyle is about, and as My slave's safety, both mental and physical is My #1 concern, I would hardly trust her in your care. she will also not leave Me for you, play with you behind My back, or disobey Me and see you/speak with you anyway. My slave is loyal to Me and I have full access to her, and if needed her correspondences freely given so don't think to sneak around either. I trust My girl, as that is the key to any relationship.

 

On a better note, I have had more time to be with My girl in the last week than in the last several months (curse you life, oh bringer of woe) and last night was amazing. I so enjoy the touch and feel of Mine and would never give her up, not for all the money in the world. She is My babygirl, My slave, My slut, and My whore, and no-one else's. I'm the proudest owner there is or could be. I will see her tonight as she cheers for Me in a 500 dollar karaoke contest. I love you Mine


4/25/2011 5:21:51 PM

Just to clarify:

Melina Laut is Mine, My property, My slave, and although I am poly and may allow her to play with others, it is not just for the asking. A dialogue must be started first, I would have to meet any prospects, and, at least initially, I would also be there for any play. she is My most valued possession and I don't take her safety lightly, so if you have interest in her, remember that.

 

Seuss


4/21/2011 1:08:27 PM

It's nice to be back to seeing My girl almost every day. It was real torture not getting to see her but in passing for like 5 months. Some people you just crave the touch of their skin, and I think in a good healthy BDSM relationship that's what you need to find. That level of skin hunger.

 

I really enjoy My girl's company and that's something alot of people in the lifestyle tend to ignore, thinking only of the kink, and not of the relationship part of the equation. We go to movies, walks in the park, eat out, in addition to flogging and fucking and sucking. All things in their right time as it were.

 

I get to see My girl again today, in a more social setting, playing D&D, as I run every Thursday. This has up until now been the main time I get to see her at all, with our schedules, and even then, one  or both of us have had to cancel in recent weeks for one reason or another. It's nice to get to see her and be near, and I know she feels the same.

 

If you have a girl, make sure she knows, she's your girl, your slave, your babygirl, your pet, even your object of ownership, but she is yours, and you need to value her. You are the Dom in the relationship, and that means your job is to look out for the wellbeing of what belongs to you, and the emotional wellbeing is a big part of that, and the rewards, believe Me, are well worth it.

 

Seuss


4/20/2011 11:07:44 AM

looking forward to seeing My babygirl again tonight. It has been months since we've had much time together and so I'm glad to be connecting with her again. Scheduling and life can suck sometimes. Unfortunately, she also has a migraine so may not get to see her, everyone send healing energies to My Melina Laut so she will be up to seeing Me today, if you got them to spare of course.

 

Seuss


4/20/2011 4:45:48 AM

Had a great time with My babygirl, just being with her is fulfilling. It has been way to long


4/19/2011 6:12:33 PM

Tonight is Date Night once again;

 

For those following, it has been awhile since Me and My babygirl have had a chance to do a proper date night and I'm excited to spend some real time with her for a change. Life has happened and there is too much to detail here, and I can just say that I'm more than thankful to have the greatest slavegirl on the planet and I can't wait to see her again.

Don't normally journal alot, but she misses My journally, and I miss bragging about My girl. See you tonight Melina Laut

 

Seuss


9/15/2010 4:39:22 PM
Tonight is Date night...
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I know you might think that is a vanilla term and has no business on a BDSM website, but I beg to differ. Every relationship is still a relationship and you need to set aside time to actively spend time with your slave(s). Every Wednesday, I take My girl out, she gets to hear Me sing Karaoke, flirt and have fun with friends. Granted, I usually also get a chance to flog her, and maybe do other more lifestyle related things, but the point is, I spend a bit of real time with My girl. Sure, when we're lucky, I get to spend time with her other times during the week, but like anyone else, there is alot going on in our lives, she has a r/t husband(Knows about Me, and I'd even say we're friends) and a special needs kid, I work 40 hrs a wk graveyard, and take care of a mother with cancer, so even if we do see each other in the other parts of the week, it's still important to have a night set aside to be a couple. Master/slave is still a couple, afterall.  As it happens, the place we mainly go to karaoke also happens to be filled with friends of Mine who know My lifestyle choices, which means alot to My pet too, as she doesn't have to hide what she is, and yet doesn't have to suffer through a "get-to-gether" type of arrangement, which frankly bores her, and although I've participated in many a Munch/Playparty setting, and even ran some, I much prefer time with My girl in a regular social setting over that dynamic.
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Moral: Take your girl out, don't just show you care at the end of a flogger, remind her that she's also your arm candy, someone you want to show off in public, I'm proud of My pet, and love her very much.

Seuss

8/31/2010 7:13:08 PM
I know a large part of the male submissive repetoir of kinks is a craving for humiliation, the the extent that they are more willing to pay to be used. Still, isn't it nigh on prostitution for the "financial dominants" out there to be advertising for tribute and selling off their panties, their socks, their boyfriend's socks, etc...?
Posts like that could easily give the lifestyle even more of a bad name than it already has, especially coming from so-called Dominants at the tender age of 18, who say they've had slaves for 2 or 3 years, HELLO! even if you did enter the lifestyle early, like Me starting to "research" it at age 13, number 1. It's illegal to participate in anything like this under the age of 18, and number 2. It's disrespectful and not true lifestyle to do so. This is why although I talked and read and researched about the lifestyle when I was 13, I didn't actively start participating until I myself turned 18. The idea of a Dominant only 18 yrs old having a slave for 2 yrs already is contrary to the very values that the lifestyle represents, such as Safe, Sane, Consentual, Risk Aware Consentual Kink (SSC/RACK) because they are not able to enter into a consentual adult relationship at that time. There's a reason a contract is not legally binding with someone under the age of 18 afterall, until then, they haven't reached the age of informed consent.
RANT OVER

8/24/2010 5:09:23 PM
"Get on your knees Bitch"....such inspiring words....We've all seen the type out there, think they are a "Master" just because it's in their name, and like to open up communications with people in just such an oh so eloquent manner.
There is a huge difference between Dominant, and Domineering. A true Dominant rarely has to raise his voice, and his mere presence can inspire his slave/sub/pet/toy to do what they can to please Him. Domineering is being loud, forceful, and trying too hard to overwhelm. I'm not saying that some out there don't crave a bit of the Domineering at times, especially in the privacy of a play session(Public or Private, but still within the scene) but to open your first couple of communications in this method seems to Me shows a general lack all around of any understanding of the lifestyle.
Even those girls who crave humiliation as a major part of their kink, unless their profile at least says otherwise, generally don't respond to such behavior out of the blue. Even more ignorant is the ones who try to pull this stuff on a girl who clearly states that she's owned in her profile, her journal, etc...
I'm generally sick of those who msg My girl, out of the blue, give her a hard time for viewing profiles, and then TELL her that they are a REAL Master and that she WILL do what they request, irregardless of what I, her Master, have instructed her to do.
People need to learn that the whole lifestyle choice of a power exchange doesn't preclude the elements of respect and getting to know someone of any other relationship.
I, for one, own My slave totally, and trust her to do whatever she can to please Me. she in turn, is owned by Me and trusts Me to look out for her health and wellbeing, thus the Exchange part of the equation.
Rant Over....
Addendum: For those of you putting these rediculous disclaimers all over your profiles to try and preclude people from using your information as study material, just so you know, the Supreme court has already recognized Social Networking Site content as public domain information and as such unable to be copyrighted. By posting anything on such a "public" forum you give implied consent to use that information and the user at most need only site their source in a very general format. Now, in the case of someone using the information for a profit, such as selling your image, that is legally covered without the disclaimer, so really your only typing a bunch of extra for nothing by posting that disclaimer,  most who use such information for casestudies and such know the laws and not only that, have their professors going over their papers letting them know when they cross the line and when they don't, so give it a rest, free to keep doing it, but anyone can use your information as long as they aren't selling it, just for it being on a social networking site.

8/15/2010 11:36:59 AM
it's been awhile since I journaled;
Humiliation!.....this is a major fetish in the lifestyle, and incorporated by many who get involved in play, either seriously, or casual scening. I personally have no problem if Humiliation is your fetish of choice, as long as it fulfills you and yours, then by all means, enjoy the lifestyle with the freedom that only this lifestyle truly offers!....However, If your going to pretend to be a Dominant in this lifestyle, have the common sense and maturity to realize that Humiliation is not the first approach when contacting someone, unless their profile specifically invites said humiliation, and definately not if said girl is owned as well.
Sending a letter to a girl saying she's fat, and unattractive for even a fat girl, beating her down emotionally, and then turning around and quizing her on her ability to take fisting, when her profile clearly states she's owned, AND gives no indication she's into humiliation shows a marked lack of any commonsense or understanding of the lifestyle whatsoever.
Learn if you will what it means to be a Dom, before tripping over your ego and falling into the muck with your attempts at pseudo-dominance. It's a well known axiom in the lifestyle that for every 1 real Dominant, there are 1000 fakes, well, congratulations to those who just dive in ill-educated and ignorant for filling out this roster of idiocy.
In a real BDSM relationship, a girl can be called a slut, a cunt, refer to herself as such, and it's not humiliation whatsoever, but simply a girl and her Master living in the total sexual freedom of expression that this lifestyle has to offer. Do not read into someone your own misconceptions, but rather approach any new situation like you would a "Vanilla" situation, you know nothing about who your approaching, so try to be a human being first....but wait, you are being a Human Being, that's the problem, Humans have a huge capacity to hurt and misunderstand and put their foots in their mouths, so bravo!
RANT OVER!!!!!!

7/29/2010 10:21:21 PM
Sometimes you just find the right slave and you know it. My new girl is amazing, she is total in her submission and strives more and more to please Me every day. I think I'm the proudest Master of a pet that you could ever find. I love every moment that I get with My pet, which are much fewer than I would crave by far, but I cannot get enough of her.
***Proud owner of MelinaLaut***

2/7/2010 2:35:31 PM
Caution out there, many have heard it before, but just a reminder, IF there is a slave school out there training slaves (and I know there are training groups that are legitimate) they will be known in the local BDSM communities, someone will be able to vouch for them. They will not have official sounding names like BDSMConsultingGroupandAssociates and deal only in email. You may not find anything by googling them, but you will be able to check into them via your local Munch and Play Party groups, if they are in an area and doing this kind of service, the BDSM Community will know about it. Just like hearing Nigeria or Ghana gives you a red flag, these so-called "slave-training schools" should as well. Just a public service message. Also remember, the best trainer for your slave, is you!

2/5/2010 12:41:33 PM
out of hospital now, back at home, recouperating, any slaves wanna nures Me back to health?

1/29/2010 8:05:02 AM
In hospital, Acute Care Facility, with no WiFi access...at main hospital for Surgery today so access just today, but letting people know I'm not online right now. Will let everyone know when I'm back

10/7/2009 7:58:43 AM
A new post, I know they have been few and far between of late, but there is a subject that I often encounter and thought I'd extrapolate on here:<br><br>

Many have put forth the different definitions between a submissive(sub) and a slave. There are alot of misconceptions out there as to the total extent of these two terms and what they really mean. The most common difference I hear out there is that a sub has limits, and a slave has none. This is patently a falicy. Being without limits isn't a sub, or a slave, that is more a doormat, or an open book. I'm not saying there aren't people out there willing to have anything tried, because there are, and mayhaps not all of them are doormats, but this is not in itself the definition of a slave.<br><br>
The true difference between a submissive and a slave is, a sub has limits, both hard and soft, while a slave has enough trust in her Master that she need not worry about the limits she has, because she knows her Master will never take her where she's not willing to go, and will understand and accept the feedback from His girl when He does want to try something that she is either uncomfortable with or completely unable to handle.<br><br>

Every slave is a submissive, that doesn't mean that every slave is submissive to everyone, or in every way, but every single slave is a submissive. Not every submissive is a slave, however, within every submissive is a potential slave, waiting to find the person they can trust enough to realize that their care for them is to the degree that they can let go and truly be free to be themselves.<br><br>

Finally, there is also a misconception about the acronym BDSM itself. Many think each letter represents only a single word, and that to be a member of the BDSM lifestyle, you must follow every descriptive word in the acronym's basis. This is not true, BDSM is an umbrella designation for any and all lifestyle and play choices that include any one or more of the various things that the acronym symbolized, and, the letters in the middle, D and S carry double meanings. The true definition of BDSM is really a 3 parter, each part holding 2 subparts in a dichotomy, and is as follows:<br><br>

Bondage/discipline<br>
Dominance/submission<br>
Sado-masochism<br><br>

Each section roughly defined is as follows:<br><br>

Bondage: That of holding something or someone in captivity, either physically restrained or owned as property.<br><br>
Discipline: That of having structure or purpose, as well as the act of reward and punishment for that structured purpose. Basically those laws, structures, codes, rules, or protocols that you live with, and the disciplinary actions, and treats or rewards that go along with that structure.<br><br>
Dominance: The role of leader, the taking on of the responsibility of making decisions for others. Being in charge and taking control.<i>This is contrary to the Domineering, which is being overbearing and bullying, without cause or merit, and often without anything behind it but hot air</i><br><br>
Submission: Allowing another to take control of some or all of your actions. Being a follower. This doesn't mean giving up all your rights, as even the most submissive or slavelike person always has the ability to choose who they gift their submission to. Yes, from an emotional or psychological standpoint, maybe they haven't got a "choice" in the matter, because it's in their nature, but they still have the overall choice to acknowledge one as their Master, and thus submit, and they have the final say as to when to leave that role of submission.<br><br>
Sadism(the Sado in Sado-masochism): The psychological response of gaining pleasure by the sensation of pain inflicted in another, either physical or emotional/psychological. Sadists get their own fulfillment and pleasure by the sensations that they stimulate in those around them. Some(in the lifestyle, especially) get this sensation even if the subject is actively feeling pleasure themselves by the pain and/or humiliation being inflicted, while others(generally referred to as predators, and exactly what the lifestyle is not about) dirive their pleasure from inflicting pain and humiliation on those unwilling to accept such treatment(I repeat, this is not what the lifestyle is about)<br><br>
Masochism: The need or desire to feel pain, humiliation, or just sensual intensity. A "pain-slut" derives their pleasure from the intensity of the feelings that they recieve, be it pain, burning, scratching, tickling, or humiliation. Masochists are sensualists, be those senses physical or psychological. They have the ability internally, in the right conditions to turn any pain into pleasure, and in fact many cannot even experience pleasure without the intensity of stimuli that is offered in the lifestyle. Many masochists are tied into the psychological roles of Master/slave and/or Dominant/submissive to the point that they cannot feel the release of fulfillment without the dynamic of having a Master/Dominant.<br><br>

I know, a long diatribe about things that many true members of this lifestyle already fully recognize, but something I thought should be illustrated and defined in a little more depth especially for those out there who didn't know, or were going on just heresay about what it all means. Many out there come into the lifestyles of alternative living under a misconception that everything's about abuse, force, and torture, or they try to say that we are all just sick and twisted individuals(to which I usualy reply "Thank you for noticing" LOL) but there is a code of conduct and ethics involved with this lifestyle choice that is in many ways far more stringent and binding than in the so-called vanilla world.<br><br>
Until next time, this has been a Seuss public service message. Merry part!

10/26/2008 12:04:15 PM
I often see quotes on people's profiles that go something like: "Gor is a book, a bad novel, not a lifestyle" or something of the sort<br>

Yes, that is a very astute observation.  However, how much of this lifestyle involves sensual roleplaying of various things, from the vampire/goth set, to the adultbabies, to the pony/puppy/furry players, to just the Teacher/student/Lil bo peep types out there.  Yes, it has been confirmed by several Sexual therapists that roleplay during the bedroom scene and in a relationship is healthy natural fun and helps keep a relationship alive.  Not to mention roleplaying games, such as Dungeons & Dragons are endorsed by both TAG and GATE(Talented and Gifted/Gifted and Talented Education) programs for how they advance learning processes and social interaction skills in people of all ages.<br>
The point being, much of the "play" in these lifestyles is exactly that, play, roleplaying to be exact, taking on roles for a scene to mix it up and keep it interesting to those involved.  Gor is also a lifestyle choice, not just a set of badly written books(and most Goreans will admit the books are very badly written pulp Sci-Fi/Fantasy novels), but it is a lifestyle based on, or inspired by (depending on the individuals involved) these books, and more importantly, the tenents that they represent as a lifestyle ideal.  These tenents are:<br>
<ul><li>Honor Above All</li><br>
<li>Respect in All Things</li><br>
<li>Protocol and Responsibility for One's Actions</li><br>
<li>Gor is a Man's World</li></ul><br>

These are some excellent ideals to live up to.  I'm not saying Gor is for everyone by far, and, nobody is truly one dimensional as it is.  Gor is just a part of who someone is, really just a point of common ground to relate to like minded individuals; and YES! Gor is a part of the relationship subset known as BDSM.  There are detractors on both sides of the argument trying to say that it's not.  First of all, BDSM is not a lifestyle choice in and of itself.  BDSM is a categoric classification of various relationship subsets that include one or more of the following activities/proclivities in their basic foundation:<br>
<ul><li>Bondage/Discipline (B/D)</li><br>
<li>Dominance/submission (D/s)</li><br>
<li>Sado-masochism (S/m)</li></ul><br>
and to be part of BDSM just means any one of those 6 things is a part of your lifestyle or even your casual relationship choice.  Gor is based around several of these.  Bondage is the keeping of slaves, in collars on chains (but not all do this) Discipline is having control and structure enforced in one's life, such as protocols to follow, chores, the way you do things or address others within a specific context (just about all Goreans and other lifestyles do this), Dominance and submission go hand in hand, as Dominance is about taking or having control over a person or situation, taking the lead, and submission is allowing another to take dominance over you, so yes, All real Masters are also Dominants, and all real slaves are submissives (dispite the fact so many 'slaves' think of submissive as a dirty word/and vice versa) and finally, Sado-Masochism is not required in order to be a BDSM lifestyle, but it is included in the categoric reference because they are two of the traits that CAN qualify you as a BDSM or Alternative lifestyle or relationship choice.  Many goreans practice sensual sadism, many gorean slaves are into masochistic treatment, but by far not all, but not being into flogging and whipping and such doesn't preclude one from being in the BDSM lifestyle.<br>
Well, rant over for this installment.  Remember, the most important tenent of Gor that I mentioned is the most important in life: Respect.  Respect other people's choices as they should respect yours.  The saying "Your kink is not My kink, but your free to practice it without Me" is very true, as is the very literal translation to the word Liberty(a part of the founding of the USA) which the pagans have already translated best as: "Do as thou wilt, and it harm none" basically meaning you do what's right for you, as long as it doesn't take away from the free will of someone else.<br>

Remember to play SSC/RACK friendly (Safe, Sane, and Consentual/Risk Aware Consentual Kink) and blessed be......Seuss

9/29/2008 7:20:26 AM
My favorite personal quote: "The only thing more wonderful than Me, is My overwhelming Modesty" - lordseussmd

9/22/2008 10:22:56 AM
Okay, yet another rant day:<br><br>
Number One:  For those of you who send a message to someone, be it a complaint or whatever.  If they never emailed you, common courtesy says you don't block them so they have a chance to give you a response.  If you are free to mail them, they should be free to give at least one reply, afterwhich, you can block them, but otherwise you are acting like a petulant child.  Also, if it's your Dom who's asking you to act that way, then your Dom is the petulant child, but I would first ask Him before blocking without a response, as I seriously doubt most Doms want to be labeled as such because of unauthorized actions of their submissives/slaves.  If you can mail someone, even to complain about some slight, you should be prepared to listen to one response(and only one in many cases)<br><br>
Number Two:  Okay, this is a repeated rant, often repeated actually, but I'll explain it once again for those who just don't get it, even though I'm probaboy wasting My breath as the ones who don't get it probably don't even read the journals of people before jumping in and putting their foot in their mouths; <br>
Collarme has 2 systems of association on here, the Favorites(Admirers) list, and the Friends List.  One system is for the Viewer's purposes, whatever they may be, indicative by the fact that it does not require authorization from the ones being viewed before adding them to the list.  This system, then, can be used for any number of purposes, it is not considered contact, it's more like noting a person's name down, or some address you see on the street, because you might like the flower arrangement they have, or the way their front porch is constructed, or simply want to remember you've already visited that property.  It can be used for anything.  I might like a turn of phrase you used, or even a full opinion you expressed and want to remember My source, especially if I like it so much I might use it again, and want to give credit to where I found it.  The other system on Collarme is the Circle of Friends, or Friends list.  This is the interactive list on the site, and is used by both the Viewer and the Viewed.  This is considered contact, and this is the one that asks for authorization before being granted access.  This is the only list that is the business of both parties, the other list is not.  Rant over, have a wonderful day, blessed be, merry part and all that......Seuss

9/17/2008 6:36:42 AM
No new rant or soapbox entry today, but some have wanted Me to write in My journal again, so I thought I'd include a poem I wrote awhile back, describing how I think a slave feels;<br><br>
You feel the crack of the whip, like the stinging of desire
it ignite within you girl, a raging,burning fire,
you feel the crop across your thighs, pleasant, oh the ache,
and feel with you slave's sweat heart, you'd do all for Master's sake,
you know the feel of His steel, you are guided by his hand,
and look around at all the others, who just don't understand,
you are owned, a thing of joy, property to keep,
with a joy, that is so strong, it could make you weep,
you feel the rope around your breasts, the bite upon your skin,
and you sit there in the dark of nights, hoping to feel again
the tender squeeze, the throbbing thrust, the slap upon the breast,
as you give your mouth, your heart, your soul, and also all the rest,
to your Master, your one, your Lord, He who holds your chain,
the one upon who your soul is linked, without which, you'd go insane!

7/30/2008 1:13:59 PM
One subject I seem to be encountering alot in the lifestyle of late is age.  At what age do Dominants really start to know what their doing?  At what age do submissives learn their place in the scheme of things?  These kinds of questions often seem to make their way to Me.  One hard and fast rule I often have to remind people of is that every single person and situation is different, with it's own dynamics, and it's own people involved.  That means there is no hard and fast rule to this age thing.  Many subs/slaves will say they are searching for a Dom in a specific age range, and generally state their reasoning as either: <br>
a. I want someone with some experience.  or <br>
B.  I want someone closer to My own age group.<br>
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These are both valid points, howere, there are some in general things to consider.  Mostly, the fact that most serious people don't even enter the lifestyles until their late 20's and early 30's, and then start building their experiences from there(I'm an exception, starting My explorations at age 13, and I know there are others out there as well, so don't harp on Me for that)  So those who are just barely of legal age to join the community, by saying they only want people in their own age group (+/- 5-10 yrs) are limiting themselves in general to rank novices, which can work, growing together in the lifestyle, but to say you want an experienced dom in that range is asking for alot.....anyway, that's all I can think of on the subject right now, hope that helps...Seuss

7/16/2008 9:19:54 PM
A reminder for people out there:
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A person's Favorite List is for their own purposes, which is why it doesn't require approval by the ones you add to it.
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A person's Friends list is the one that you have control over whether you are added or not.
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It's very presumptuous for someone to tell someone off for "adding them" to their Favorites/Admirers list as different people use the list for different reasons.  It's not always about who your "interested in"
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<b>End Rant</b>

7/12/2008 10:15:33 AM
I realize I haven't made a new entry in this in a long time, so I felt it was time to just to keep My hands in:


I often see people seeking a dominant for a one on one relationship.  This is a lovely dream, and remember, what I say here is based on My own observations, so no one need get offended if they disagree, however, it is My opinion that the psychology of a Dominant predisposes them to be poly.  Being monogamous is a limiting of one's options, and also goes against the genetic predilection of the species.  Humans are meant to be a male-poly culture, and have only been limited to monogamy as the acceptable norm in the last 200 years or so by the advent of society pressures as influenced by the dominant religious structure of our age.  This in itself is actually ironic, as even in the history or christianity, polygamy was practiced, quite openly in fact, with the Mormons requiring their leaders to have more than one wife in order to prove fitness to lead, and all cultures at one time handled the death of a male of their community by transferring His surviving wife, and children to His male relatives.

I am not saying one cannot be monogamous by choice, and claim dominance, I'm saying that a Dominant Male personality would rarely choose monogamy, and would never ever accept it as a limitation set upon Him because Dominance, and even submission, ultimately, is about being who you are and not letting artificial restraints to your personality abide.

A Dominant male feels a strong impulse to dominate, and experience what he can.  Partly as a side affect of sheer dominance, the need to dominate, and partly as a racial need to improve the species by the true Dominant mating with as many true submissives as possible in order to create stronger new generations.  Some will argue that we are above such "herd" mentalities, and are "smarter" than that now, but if you look at the world, it is whenever humans go contrary to nature that they end up screwing something up.  Yes, we have overpopulation and some would argue that such breeding is no longer necessary, however again, look at that population and you will find more weak, live off the system, depressed, and generally messed up people, then strong dominants and confident submissives.  BDSM is a label for a subculture that in actuallity is a model for what humanity is supposed to be like.  Everyone has either a prediliction towards Dominance, or Submission, but society tells us if your a Dominant Male, your an abusive overbearing asshole, and if your a submissive female, your a weak, doormat.  We in the lifestyle know differently.  We know a Dominant is, without abuse, is Dominant, not necessarily domineering.  Often, a Dominant comands with a look and a quiet word.  We also know that a true submissive, secure in herself, is a beautiful, vibrant personality that thrives and has better self esteem and self assurance that any 100 others out there.  She is not brainwashed or beaten down, she is more and more who and what she wants to be, a boiling down to the essence of self that thrives under the care of a good Master, and like anyone else, withers under the care of a bad one.  Let's get rid of these preconcieved notions that society has thrust on us, and remember that we embrace our lifestyle because we truly want to be who we are, not who they say we are allowed or supposed to be.....Rant Ends

4/13/2006 8:35:41 PM
I can't remember when it was I last mentioned this in My journal, but I feel it needs to be addressed again.


Someone once, recently told Me that "if you can't respect a request, then you are no Master"

Now, tell Me, is it a Master's place to just give in to every single request they ever get?

I believe that I respect requests given to Me, however, respecting one and actually doing what is requested is two different things.  A Master is in control of Himself.  A Master makes His own decisions, and doesn't let others make the decisions for Him.  He may take input from other sources.  He may even have someone in His life who has some authority over some aspect of His life, and let that person make some of His decisions for Him in that regard.  He may also have trusted advisors He listens to more then others.  However, a Master ultimately makes His own decisions.

What spawns this diatribe you might ask?  Well, someone asked Me to take them off My Favorites list here.  I've had this request before, but what people seem to forget is that a person's favorite list is for their use, however they wish to use it.  If it was meant to be used otherwise, it would require that another user "authorize" the adding of someone to your list, as is done with most IM programs.  There is nothing intrusive about a Favorites list, it is a way to keep track of other users to your own specifications, for whatever your own reasons are.  A person who has you on His/Her favorites list does appear on your Admirers list.  Does that mean a Favorites list is imposing on that person, or shouldn't that person either be flattered, or indifferent to you, not upset at you, there is no limit to the number of admirers you can have, so you obviously don't have to worry about "taking up a place" in someone's list.

Anyway, I don't see the problem people would have, and this is not meant as an attack, in any way, but rather as a general explaination of what I see in the situation.


Seuss

1/30/2006 2:18:06 PM
I haven't written in My journal in awhile, but I have come up with another bit to share in My personal philosophies.  I actually fully expect criticism from this one, but as it's MY Philosophy, and thus, MY opinion, please keep that in mind.

I quite often see the type of phrase in a 'submissive's' profile that they seek a true dominant, someone who is completely comfortable in their dominance and secure in who they are.

In these same profiles, I see "I don't want Poly" or "no poly tendancies"  How is it that a submissive can say they want someone with true dominant tendancies, and yet start out by dictating that dominant's attitude.  Dictating that they can't express the true freedom of spirit that allows a dominant to want what He wants, and get what He is strong enough to get on the merits of His dominance and personality.  I have often said that it's completely natural for a human male to be poly, in fact, going back to the truest essence of the natural condition, Human Males are genetically predisposed to polyarmoury, and, part of what it is to be a true dominant is the ability to embrace who and what you are, and not be restrained by artificial limitations, such as those imposed by society, or some submissive/slave's imposed limitations.  I agree that a sub/slave can set limits, that is their right, as submissive is a voluntary condition, however, if you say you seek a true dominant, than why contradict yourself after that by immediately imposing limits on a dominant?

I'm not saying that a dominant is not real if they are not poly, I'm saying a dominant is not dominant if some other person's limitations are what contains him.

Seuss

11/21/2005 8:03:32 PM
Vampire's Kiss

Nosferatu, demon chylde,
in the night, running wylde,
in the wind, a dark embrace,
that transports you to another place,
in the shadows, there you dwell,
your special blend of heaven and hell,
in the bite of exstacy,
what visions does the victim see,
when the vampire bites, and your blood's the taste,
was it worth it or all a waste,
where is the magic, the lingering power,
that blooms in the blood like the darkest flower,
the vampire's kiss, the soul changing dance,
in a sweet surrender, to the nights dark romance,
left then there bleeding, without a chance.

For More examples of My poetry, search 'LordSeussMD' on www.allpoetry.com

11/19/2005 9:15:42 AM
It has come to My attention that there is a misconception on this site as to who gets to decide what goes into someone's favorites.  It seems to Me that as the favorites button is available to everyone, that it doesn't require a confirmation or permission from the person being added, and as it's not any kind of chat or buddy list, that this is a personal tool and nobody on the site has the right to deny you your use of it as you see fit.  It cannot be used to "stalk" or "pester' someone, it's completely non-intrusive, so those of you putting "Don't add 'me' to your favorites without permission"  or constantly sending emails demanding to be takenoff someone's favorites are in My opinion overly presumptuous at best.  Unless you are someone's Dom/Master/Daddy/Owner, you have no right to tell them what they can do with their use of the site granted tools.  If you don't want email from them, Block them but understand that until someone submits to you, you can't order them around, and what they do with their own favorites list is their own business.  >End of Rant<

P.S.  The password system on My site, goreansteel.com is not currently active, so just hit the login button on the mainpage to visit.

Seuss

11/13/2005 6:49:20 AM
Work is slow on GoreanSteel, but it's proceeding some.  There is no creditcard info or anything required to sign up, just a short join form.  I see a few have visited.

Now, on to words of wisdom, as I haven't done any in awhile:



There are several out there who don't seem to know what Gor or Gorean is.  There are hundreds, if not thousands of sites out there that will claim to say what it is, and there is truth in what they say, to the view of the website owner, but as with anything, it is a reflection of a person's views and lifestyle, not necessarily yours.
Many would call Me gorean, because I follow alot of the gorean philosophies, protocols, and of course train in the gorean method for those I am training to be gorean anyway, however, I don't claim to be 'gorean' or any other label.  I am an amalgamation of all My experiences and choices in life, that just happens to include the gorean belief structure.
Now, as I see it, Gor personifies a world of being who you are meant to be, without the 'preprogramming' that society imposes, going back to the 'natural' state of Man and woman.  Gor is about not being embarrassed to laugh or cry when that is how you feel, because Goreans live their lives, they don't merely exist.  Gor is a Man's world, meaning that even Free Women are expected to show difference and respect to the Men around them.  Gorean Men are limited only by the swords of their brethren(paraphrased) and within that limitation, they are free to be who they naturally are.  It is natural for the human race  to be polyarmoury, this is both genetically sound, and socially sound.  Our instincts drive us to polyarmoury as well. It is only simi-modern society that has imposed the artificial belief that it's natural or 'right' to be monogamous.  I especially can't understand the girls that claim to be slaves, yet right off the bat, they seek to impose their control over their 'Masters' they seek, by 'laying down the law' about monogamy.  I thought the whole point of being slave, is the freedom to put the trust into a Master to take control of such decisions in life, while remembering that it's about the needs of both, but the wants of the Master?  Isn't what makes a Master happy supposed to be the goal of the slave?

Anyway, that's enough for now.  See you next installment.

Seuss

8/30/2005 10:36:16 AM
I am the new owner of the GoreanSteel URL.  Please, all goreans feel free to visit there.  Standard URL with the triple w at one end, and .com at the other.

7/22/2005 4:03:14 PM
Alot of people email Me asking to know what is TPX/TPE and I thought I'd actually answer that here as well, although in no way take this to mean I mind answering questions, I just feel enough have asked that it's a good idea to share it here, since it looks as though people are actually reading this.


TPE/TPX is a pair of acronyms that both stand for the same thing: Total Power EXchange.  It is the complete Master/slave relationship where all control is given over to the Master, and the responsibility for the slave's wellbeing as well.

Pavlovian Conditioning is the trained response system.  Pavlov, a russian behavioral Psychologist was famous for training various animals to respond via conditioning, called Pavlovian Triggers.  He would ring a specific bell at feeding time for a set of dogs, and then feed them, after a period of conditioning, he would ring the bell, and not feed them, but notice that they would begin to salivate at the sound of the bell, no matter when it was rung.  Thus the dogs were conditioned to respond to the bells, instead of the smell or site of the food.  A Pavlovian conditioned slave is one that can be trained to cum on command, or at a certain sound or event.  It is quite popular in Gorean training techniques, and Olde Guarde use it as well.  It is similar to mental conditioning and hypnosis training, as it's a conditioned response.


6/2/2005 8:44:56 AM
The Care and feeding of submissives and slaves:

Many "Doms" think because this is an online venue, that there is no responsibility for taking care of their subs/slaves.  They think they can have the attention lathered on them, can be the focus of someone's life, then turn off the computer, be gone for 6 months, then come back, and get it again.
I'm not saying the lifestyle is about the subs/slaves, and that their every whim is to be fulfilled, however, being a Dominant comes with some responsibilities.  I can't begin to count the times I hear from sub/slaves how they take an online collar, everything is great for a couple of weeks, then suddenly the Dom has no time for His property.  Now, W/we A/all know this can and does happen.  I'm not faulting someone for having realtime issues.  I Myself am not on very often.  However, knowing this, I first of all warn any that I deal with of this fact, and secondly, when I am online, I do make time to be with those for which I've taken some responsibility.  The ones I'm actually talking of is those who take on subs/slaves, and then even when they are online, they ignore them.  Making no time for them at all, not even in some cases an acknowledgement that they are there.  subs/slaves are like pets, they need attention.  The reason they enter into this "concentual" and "voluntary" state of submission/slavery is partly to fulfill that inner need they have to be free to be who and what they are inside, and yet, with a Dom/me *(don't want to exclude the femdom community here)* who basically has them as a trophy girl, never there for them, they become stifled, and like a plant left in a dark closet, begin to wither and die inside.  I know I'm one to preach and teach on this site, and this may be taken as more the former than the latter, but I feel it had to be said.  Being a Dominant means more than just ownership of another, it means taking responsibility for that other, and showing that you do care.  I don't say coddle your subs/slaves, but I do say pay attention to them when you can.  Make time for them, if they are Yours, for goodnessakes, USE THEM, that's what they are there for!!!

Seuss  :)

5/7/2005 9:10:46 AM
Okay, I normally don't sit and comment on Dom/me profiles, and I still won't comment on anyone specific, but I got another pet peeve that I need to address.

I see soooo many profiles whining and complaining about "can't they get this thru their heads, I'm not interested in ...." and such, and yet, their profile has all the classic attractions for every troll out there.  I mean, you don't stand there, bare breasted with a perfect body as your lead pic, and try to even contemplate not eing trolled by every male out there who has even a touch of troll in Him.  You can put lesbian on your profile until the cows come home, but, all that is to a troll is a challenge to convert you.  Use some sense when you write your profiles and journals.  Your supposed to be the Dominants of the society, the leaders of this culture.  A strong person leads by example, and one example that I think is sorely lacking is "native intelligence"  Show you have common sense, now I know it's not so common, but you should try to be the exception.  If you think you can take the controlling role over another, you should at least display the intelligence to be able to do so.

Okay, I'm not truly calling people stupid, I really am not, I'm just saying they don't think before they act.  If you expect to have submissives and slaves you need show you can handle at least your own lifes, and that includes the ability to know what your own actions will lead to.

Seuss

4/28/2005 11:24:35 AM
You know, one of the things I could never understand is those who put something like:  "true slave with no limits" in one sentence in their profile or journal, and then put "no single guys, You will be blocked" in another.  That would constitute a limit, wouldn't it?

It just seems to Me that alot of people who put up their profiles either neglect to actually read them, or don't understand the language that W/we all have agreed upon.  A limit is anything, big or small that you won't abide and don't want.  That being the case, something like "no single guys, You will be blocked" is a limit, and should thus be listed as a limit, saying one has "no limits" means that you will accept anything, or at least anything within reason and legality.

I don't mean to personally attack anyone, and please don't take it as such, this is more a personal observation and possible an advisory to help people who may not totally understand the affect of what they are saying.  More, as always, to come, and as usual, feel free to message Me as you like, I use the same nick in most of the normal places.

Seuss

4/4/2005 4:13:36 PM
Common Curtesy:

It is something of a mystery to Me how so many people come onto a website based on a lifestyle choice that is supposed to engender the belief that you respect openly other people's lifestyle choices, yet you still see the general lack of curtesy. 

What I mean is, when someone quick messages you, you should at least open said emails.   This is especially true if you don't currently have a profile viewable, and haven't even put into a journal anything about being restricted or overloaded by emails,  if such is the case, put it in the journal, as your journal is never "pending approval"

Not every Man who messages is trolling, and the same is true of other stereotypes.  I mean, to show respect, at least open the email, and if you don't wish to speak to them, or are forbidden to do so, either send a message to that affect(most Dom/me's I know will allow that) or put a posting in your JOURNAL stating that you are overwhelmed by messages or not allowed.

This is My first journal in awhile, but this is just something that has been eating at Me of late.  I use collarme.com to share experiences and such from the lifestyle, to advise new people, and interact with older experienced people.

Seuss

9/4/2004 11:29:02 PM
Again, another user of the site inspired this journal entry:

The question was on My thoughts concerning Sadists and Masochists.  I do believe that this is one of the most talked about subjects in BDSM communities;

Sadists and Masochists are two sides to the BDSM coin that they are a part of.  Someone who enjoys inflicting sensations of pain upon a willing person is in desperate need of a willing person!  Let's face it, this goes along quite well with My previous post.  Many in this lifestyle are sensualists.  They are into the textures, the touch and feel of life around them.  The intensity involved.  Some need to create the feelings and textures, to administer the "pain" while others desire to feel the life around them, thru the "pain" that is the crucible within which their life is forged into the strongest and surest of emotional steel.  The purity involved in BDSM relationships is often personified by the dichotomy that is Sado-masochism.  I personally feel that it is very similar to a symbiotic relationship, a need is present, a balancing factor is found in order to fulfill that need.  The Sadist has a need to inflict sensations, the masochist has a need to feel them, and thru each other, those needs are fulfilled in total.

Well, that's enough of a rant on that subject, please, as always, anyone feel free to comment directly to Me about any of My journal entries.  I believe each view to be totally and utterly true, however, they will remain My views, and I cannot force them upon you, what is right for Me is not always right for you.

Seuss

9/1/2004 5:21:29 PM
Seuss is on the loose again.

One of My journal readers recently asked Me if I ever gave any thought to the issue of pleasure/pain.  I found this to be an excellent journal worthy topic, and so I thought I would share once again what amounts to My own opinions and beliefs.  I want it understood, My words are Mine, I am not telling anyone how to think, but rather expressing My own views on a subject that I have strong views on.

Pleasure and pain are both cornerstones of the BDSM lifestyle.  Most, if not all people who enter into any type of relationship are doing so for one aspect or the other, if not both.  In a vanilla relationship, in general, a person chooses to enter it for pleasure, to feel "complete" or "loved" or "secure"  still others enter into vanilla relationships for the type of "abuse" that seems to give meaning to their lives.  They know it's a bad relationship, but they stay, because even a bad relationship and the pain involved by such a relationship is preferable to no relationship, and the emptiness that they feel when they are alone.

BDSMers are those who embrace the things that others hide about themselves.  A slave openly acknowledges her need to be controlled, and perchance her desire to feel sensual pain.  Everyone is familiar in the lifestyle with the "Painslut" but few truly grasp the "sensualist"  Most of those in the lifestyle are sensualists, and what that means is they enjoy the sensations, the feelings, the involvement that comes from the various "play" involved.

Any biologist can tell you that the same nerve endings are stimulating, they are just interpretted differently by the brain.  Dean Koontz wrote a book called INTENSITY, which was about a serial killer who was an "intensity" adict.  I'm not saying BDSMers are to be compared to serial killers, but rather that it still marks the fact that W/we all strive to feel, the experience, to have that intensity in our relationships.

Pain can and is pleasure to some, just as what is normally pleasurable can be painful at times.  The search for these sensations is an eternal quest to satisfy a persons desire to know they are alive.

I don't know if I have answered the actual query as it was intended, and I'm sure that I will expound on this further in later journals, but I do hope that I garner comments and views for other people.

Seuss

8/17/2004 4:46:42 PM
It has once again been awhile since I wrote in My journal.  Today's subject is the difference between slaves and submissives:

slaves:  A slave is someone who has given over of themself to someone else's control and care.  By definition, a slave gives up all choices in live save one, and that is the choice to stay as a slave to one, or to move on until a more acceptable and fitting Master/Mistress is found.  This being the case, it is very hard for Me to see people coming onto this and other BDSM related sites, claiming to be slaves, and yet starting off their profile or journal with a list of demands.  Granted, until she has given herself to a Master, a slave does have choices, but to be slave is to completely release yourself and your trust to someone as a Dominant and Master/Mistress.  This total release cannot truly come about as long as hangups like race and color and poly/monogamy are put forth as issues.  I'm not saying that a slave should not have feelings or emotions.  I'm not saying that a slave should not consider limits.  What I'm saying is that for a slave, her limits are more a structural guideline of what is currently acceptable in their mind in the role of slave as they envision.  This precludes issues of race and color, because they do not have a baring on safety or even sane treatment.  The point of a relationship is to find love, understanding, and commitment, it is not a "fill in the blanks, what do you want" questionaire.  As for poly vs monogamy, besides seeing My other writings, it is important to remember from them that overall, in a Master/slave (or Mistress/slave) relationship, it is the Dominant (Master or Mistress) who would be the only one to make decisions of that nature.  By putting forth that you are slave, you are putting forth that you are willing to let those kinds of decisions become the priority of the Dominant.  The proclamation that you are slave is the declaration that you understand that it is another who makes decisions of that magnitude, not you.

submissive:  There is often a question of what is the difference between a submissive and a slave, well, a submissive is someone who wants to be controlled by a Dominant, but reserves the right to set forth specific boundries other then those involving safety and sanity, in other words, the declaration of being submissive is a notice that she reserves these rights, and can make decisions involving such shallow things as age/sex/creed/color/race/poly.vs.monogamy

I'm not here to judge, I am a trainer and an educator who feels this is a good venue in order to interact in My own chosen lifestyle.  However, even having said what I have about submissives and slaves, I do believe that one of the strongest points W/we as a lifestyle have over others is the fact that shallow attitudes, such as descriminating according to race/creed/color/sex/age/poly.vs.monogamy
is not what W/we personify or endorse.  Even those who are submissive, not slave out there should realize that it is still an act of submission, it is for the Dominants to make decisions, and the submissives to follow them, be they slave or sub, or bottom.  Know that for some, this is a serious lifestyle choice, and it tends to lessen it to the point of some simple online dating community by going through such motions.

In closing for this rant:  I offer teaching, training, and advice/counselling for any in the lifestyle, by they Olde Guard, Gorean, or any other permutation of BDSM.  If you have a question, ask.  Just I do ask that people think before they type or judge about what they are claiming, and try not to contradict yourselves when you do so.  A slave gives over choices, so don't dictate, a submissive is still submissive, again, don't dictate, limits are limits, they are safe, sane and conscentually based, but don't use them for shallow means.

In the end, I am but a Dominant Man,
Seuss

2/22/2004 3:00:24 AM
New Entry:

Polyarmory and Self-esteem:  it is a major falicy in life that for a slave to accept a poly relationship is for her to be suffering from low self-esteem.  In point of fact, those poly relationships that work generally do so because of the security that the slaves have found in the trust in their Owner.  A poly relationship is work, don't get Me wrong, and it's chief enemy is Low self-esteem, because that is what breeds jealousy and a sense of inadiquacy.  However, if done properly, a Poly relationship helps bolster a slaves esteem, as she finds she can lean on her sisters in the household, and that each is unique and gives the Master/Owner something different.  Life has conditioned too many people to try and strive to be Everything  for someone, when it is far more important, and far more attainable, just to be the best YOU you can be.  A polyarmorous household helps in this respect.

This is a short entry, I know, but just something quick I wanted to get off My chest, as always, feel free to contact Me for More.

Seuss

2/8/2004 12:56:08 AM
It has been awhile since I have been able to write an entry, so here goes a new one:
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Alternative Lifestyles:  What is an alternative lifestyle?  Common belief is that anything kinky or out of the ordinary is an alternative lifestyle choice.  That begs the question:  What is Ordinary? along with the question: What is Kinky?

I think most will find as they go out into the world and discover themselves and their lifestyle choices, that it's becoming truth that what is often considered out of the Ordinary, is far more common then what is considered ordinary.  There are far more people out there roleplaying in the bedroom, experimenting with polyarmory, spanking and the like, then are doing the strictly "normal" relationship thing.

Let's address what is kinky
  If you go to the original meaning, kinky was any sexual intercourse that wasn't specifically for the purpose of procreation with your spouse.  Basically, that includes enjoying it with your spouse.  The Judeo-Christian view on sex was/is one that sex is a chore to produce offspring, it is considered kinky to do it for any other purpose.  So technically, just about every non- Amish out there is into kinky sex, because let's face it, sexual activity is enjoyable for most of U/us, that's why W/we participate in it.

Having said all this, does this mean I lessen those of U/us that choose this openly as a lifestyle choice.  NO!  Rather, I applaud those of you out there who have enough selfhonesty to realize what you want in life, or at least what your interested in enough to seek it out and proclaim it, if to nobody else then the rest of the "open" lifestyle communities.  There are so many "flavors" of alternative lifestylers out there now, it's like a great cultural explosion of what has been within U/us all since Man first discovered that unlike beasts, sex was something enjoyable to do, whether you procreate or not.  Hell, the lifestyle isn't even completely about sex, although Most, not all have some aspect of sexual interaction involved.  This is an important point however.  This is a lifestyle, not just bedroom games.  I'm not knocking those who are into just bedroom games, if nothing else, W/we should be open minded and respectful of other people's lifestyle choices, as long as they don't interfer with our own, but to a great majority of U/us, this is more then that, this is how W/we live.  In and out of the bedroom, lifestylers know the freedoms and securities that come with the true concepts of BDSM.  This begs the question: Really, what does BDSM stand for?  Alot of people argue about what it does stand for, well, BDSM is a blanket umbrella classification for any lifestyle choice that includes one or more aspect of: Bondage, Disciplin,  Dominance/submission, or Sado-Masochism( so it's actually BD D/s SM not BDSM) and it's ANY lifestyle that includes one or more aspects.  I point this out because there are alot of people out there that argue that "such and such is not BDSM" because it doesn't include ALL aspects of that definition, but as an "umbrella classification" it includes any of the "alternative lifestyles"  This is true of Vampire, Gor, Olde Guard, New Age, Pansexual, or what have you.  Each is BDSM in it's own way.  Sure, many Goreans aren't into Sado-Masochism, Many Vampires aren't into Bondage, but they all have some part of the classification as an aspect of their lifestyle and as such, are BDSM.

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BDSM is a lifestyle choice, plain and simple, and it includes so many people out there, but still, One thing needs to be remembered and can't be stressed enough.  BDSM is NOT about abuse.  Yes, there are people involved in Conscentual Slavery, Conscentual Sensuality, Conscentual Pain Administration, but the key here is Conscentual, and that's not the same as the abused wife who comes back and keeps going to her husband saying she "deserved it" this is Conscentual without Coercion as I like to put it.  There are 2 acronyms out there right now for our lifestyle, SSC(Safe, Sane, and Conscentual) and RACK(Risk Aware Conscentual Kink)  this is because as a lifestyle, W/we have come together to try and further the tenets of our beliefs in such a way as to dispell the many myths out there that "vanilla" people have that W/we are a bunch of Abusers and victims perpetuating an ugly cycle.  W/we who participate in BDSM must be our own safeguards, and thus, the tenets of SSC and/or RACK should be observed at all times.  This has been a long, and varied rant in My journal, but I hope those who regularly read journals, or at least Mine, have benefitted from it, and as always, anyone is free to contact Me with questions or comments concerning this.

Seuss

12/31/2003 5:42:05 PM
Last entry before the new year:

Needs, Wants, Desires, and Demands.......:

You see so many come on to this site and others, as subs or slaves, with a list of Demands/criteria that they MUST have in order to submit.  This is patently contrary to the very lifestyle most profess to be a part of.  Granted a sub is not into Total Power Exchange as a slave is, but really, the whole point of this relationship is that the sub/slave gives over to her Dominant the concerns for Wants, Desires, and such, and intrusts care for her Needs to His hands.  That is the basic, rudimentary structure of our lifestyle.

A submissive keeps some control to herself, she has some limits, and can and does look for certain things, so does a slave, but neither makes DEMANDS.  Our lifestyle is about adapting to fit into a culture that is generally ostrasized by the rest of Humanity, and yet, it is a going back to the most basic nature of Man and woman.  Men are naturally the dominant role for humans.  Some creatures in nature are Female run, some are Male, Man is a Male dominated culture that has, thru societal programming and contra-natural selection become obsessed with either equality or over compensation for inequality.

I'm not knocking those Domme's out there, or those male subs/slaves either, at least in general they are recognising their inner nature and attempting to live it honestly, what I'm really knocking are those subby princesses, and such that decide they want EXACTLY this mold for them to submit to, and that's all they are going to stand for. 

The most simplified way for Me to put this relationship's basic dynamic down is:  subs/slaves concern themselves with the Wants, Desires, and Demands of the Dominant, where the Dominant takes care of the NEEDS of all involved.  This is true in either the Master/slave arrangement or the Dominant/submissive arrangement.  Ultimately speaking, I even see the submissive when they find the right Dominant, beginning to understand that it is Total Power Exchange they seek as well, and that they have found the One for which they can trust and let go enough to sink into that deeper relationship dynamic.

Well, I have ranted enough for this chapter in My journal, Please, anyone feel free to message Me on Yahoo at lordseussmd if you wish to comment, or leave email here I enjoy corresponding and commenting on My journal.  I am always invisiable on Yahoo, so just message and if I'm there, I'll respond.

Seuss

12/19/2003 7:29:17 PM
I am basically using these journals as forums to educate instead of as My own ramblngs.  As such, any is free to read or discard as they wish these words of wisdom that I have gleaned in My time in BDSM/Gor/Fetish lifestyles.

Today's entry is about polyarmoury and slavery.  Many very good slaves, at least according to their profiles anyway, seem to have it in their mind that Polyarmory is a choice of the slave.  It goes along with height, weight, age requirements.  Those can be listed as preferences, but it is to be remembered that as long as a Master takes care of the responsibilities He takes on when He takes on one or more slaves, it is completely upto Him as to whether the relationship goes Polyarmorous or not.  The focus of the relationship is the Master, not the slave.  The slave gives over to her Master all decisions save one when she becomes His.  There is often talk of limits and feeling out whether a slave fits with a particular Master.  There is also getting to know any potential sister slaves before they are collared and everything, but ultimately, it is always the Master's choice whether there will be poly in the relationship or not.  The slave has then the choice whether to stay, or to beg release.  That is the only choice that a slave has once she becomes slave.  Now, a Master takes on a responsibility to look after the slave's needs and best interests as well as His own.  A Master that doesn't do this doesn't deserve the title of Master.  But as Master, as long as such responsibilities are met, He is free to run the relationship and househould as He sees fit.  It is His judgement call on everything.

I hope that clears some things up, and as always, feel free to email Me with questions, comments, or even disagreements.

Seuss 

12/16/2003 10:05:16 PM
So many seem to forget that the role of the Dominant is not merely to take control of another's life for their own pleasure.  Yes, this is a part of it, and it is one of the driving reasons to become a Dom/Domme in this lifestyle, but it must be remembered that those who are Dominant also hold the responsibility to teach and educate and advise.  When you take over the life of another, take upon yourself the right to choose for them and make decisions, you hold the responsibility to make those decisions for the best possible outcome for all involved, You and the slave.
This lifestyle can only truly survive if those in it try their best to educate and accomodate the understanding of all involved.
Rant over for now.
Seuss

12/11/2003 12:13:33 PM
I have met several really interesting people on this site, and I enjoy talking and meeting very much.

As a trainer in the lifestyle, I do feel that it is important to get to know others around and make sure to keep one's thumb on the pulse of it all.  I also feel, and call Me a buttinsky if you like, that it is important to remind those submissives/slaves/bottoms out there that as great as anyone may seem on the surface, don't jump the gun or ignore your personal safety.

I know I have talked to some, who are willing to just jump into an ownership/collar relationship.  Now, it may end up working, but I would question the Dom who accepted and offered that, as much as the sub/slave/bottom who took it.  If it's worth it, it's worth taking the time.

Now, there are those out just for casual encounters, and I don't mean to preach to you at all.  If that's your thing, that's fine, but then, I bring up those other words everyone knows but not everyone likes to hear:  Safe Calls, Safe Words, Buildup and Aftercare.  Safe Plan.
If you don't know what any of those things are, feel free to email Me and I'll explain.

Well, I will get off My soapbox now, and say thankyou to those I have talked to, and will continue to talk to, and also give kudos to those subs/slaves/bottoms who insist on taking time.

Seuss

9/19/2003 1:31:40 PM
Gonna attempt to edit this Journal again, as I get annoyed by it saying I haven't.  I have tried several times and the service was always down.

I am into many different things, and there is always a new thing coming up around the pike, so don't be surprised if you deal with me at what I may do.

I sing Karaoke, go to movies, write stories, lyrics, and poetry, Teach Dance, sword fight, make dolls and other crafts, make collars and other fetish wear(corsets especially, custom fitted, intimate fittings required), read, play RPGs, do just about anything with the computer, love the beach and swimming, love camping, etc. etc. etc...

Just a lil about me, lol, I'm also a comedian at heart.  I run a local Munch and like to deal with people.

Well, now I have a journal entry, if it saves this time.

Be well and talk to people as they make contact.

Seuss

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 Age: 35
 Colorado Springs, Colorado