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jontheohiosub
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If you are married or in a committed relationship, and any interaction with me would have to be kept secret from your partner, please move on. If your partner can know about me and will speak with me, then you may contact me if you meet my other criteria.
Also, if youre a smoker, be willing to quit, or move on. I dislike the odor and mess, and the health risks to my slave are not something Im willing to allow.
Basically, Im looking for a White Knight in public, a houseboy in day to day life, a pain puppy when Im feeling sadistic, an obedient slave when I wish to play in other ways, and a very attentive lover when I need one (which isnt terribly often as hubby is very good at this).
The White Knight would be the epitome of chivalry. I would never open a door for myself again. My chair would always be held for me while I sit. There would always be a hand there to help me rise from a chair or alight from a car. He would be a half step behind and to my left at all times when I wanted him.
The houseboy would take on the household responsibilities. Laundry, cleaning, cooking (when I wanted him to... I like to cook), and generally making sure everything in our home had a place and everything was properly in that place so it would be available when needed. He would assist with holiday decorating. And would even do the grocery shopping when directed. He would be in charge of making sure my home ran smoothly.
The pain puppy would make himself available when I wanted to play. My paddles, my flogger, my whip, my crops, and all of my other toys would be used on his willing body to my delight. He would bear my marks with pride. He would writhe and moan for my enjoyment, suffering whatever I dished out and begging for more if it made me happy. I would burn his flesh and get drunk on the aroma.
The obedient slave would please me in other ways. He would offer himself as entertainment as I deemed delightful. Be that singing karaoke in a bar somewhere, dancing at a local night club, or pering oral or anal sex withto my husband for my amusement. He would restrain my husband for my use at my direction, or be restrained by my husband for my use, also at my direction. Who you touch and how would be for me alone to determine. And you would accept this gladly.
The lover would be more concerned with my needs and pleasure than his own. A mutual passion that would ignite fires and desires. Someone with stamina to hold off on his own climax until he was sure I was completely sated before joining me in delicious mutual relaxation and satisfaction.
This is my ideal fantasy. My hope is to find someone I can properly train to be this and more. Someone who will work to help support the household. And someone my husband and I can both be comfortable enough with to ask him to join us.
While what I wrote above is pretty, poetic, and idealistic, maybe I should clarify a bit for those that may be interested.
1. Im looking for someone relocatable or local. About a 2 hour drive from Toledo, Oh is the limit of what I would find acceptable. I want someone who can be physically accessible. If you are further away, but have the ability (time) and the means (financial) to come to me often to get to know me and let me get to know you, then you may contact me. I am NOT looking for online, Skype, phone, or any other distance type of relationship. If I cant touch you, I find very little satisfaction in the interactions. I also prefer not have someone relocate across an ocean. I prefer someone in the US or Canada. Others would need a compellingargument to convince me to consider him.
2. Im looking for a male submissiveslave. While new friends are always nice, right now Im looking for someone very specific. Im not interested in females. The right couple may be able to convince me to consider them, but they would have to be very compelling as well. Thats not meant to sound harsh, just honest. Im looking for someone to meet my needs, and that means a male slave. This also means I am not looking for a sissy. Im looking for a man.
3. Im looking for a long term relationship, not just an occasional play partner. This will take time and patience to cultivate. Be sure youre willing to invest the time.
4. This relationship is an experiment. My husband and I have never tried adding a third person into our relationship, so whoever may join us will have to understand this and be able to accept the experimental nature of the relationship... and that it may not work out in the end. We hope it will, and we will enter into it in good faith and with the willingness to work on issues, but as in every relationship, it may simply not work.
5. Im NOT looking for a fuck buddy. Sex, if and when it comes, will be at my discretion and whim. Dont get into this for the sex. Youll be very disappointed. Youll get some only when its given to you.
6. This is not written in stone, but my preference is for fit men, between the ages of 27 and 50. Normally ethnic background is not a consideration, but recently Im finding I dont care for middle easternIndian ethnicity. Its not personal, its just that Im not normally attracted to those traits. Prejudiced? Maybe. But it is what it is.
I hope this clarifies things a bit more. Its not as romantic as the first half of this post, but its a bit more realistic.
The last thing you should know before contacting me is that I am NOT disease free. I have herpes. I do not play sexually in any way when I have an outbreak which is once or twice a year. Ive heard that you can pass this on even without an outbreak, but from what Ive read on this, Id still know if my herpes was active and would take the proper precautions. If you have questions, I am happy to answer them on this subject. Im not shy about it at all. If this is unacceptable, I dont blame you, butdont bother me!
I love doing microbrandings. I have a whip and want to learn to use it properly. I have a flogger that needs to be used much more often. Several crops and paddles that sit and wait for just the right bottom. I also love ball busting. Love putting a man on his knees. If you are interested in any of this, and are a service oriented sub or slave, you are welcome to contact me for further discussion.
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Ya just gotta love when some guy gives unsolicited opinions on profile pics. If you're not into large women, then just move on! Believe it or not, I'm really not interested in your negativity. I have enough issues of my own without having to deal with yours. Believe me, there are MANY pics I see that are beyond distasteful and downright ugly to me. But that's my opinion and I keep it to myself. It's a case of "if you can't say something nice about someone, then don't say anything at all." Really. What's the point in tearing someone else down? Does it really make you feel that much better about your own miserable life? |
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I'm confused. I'm not sure if my messages to potential slaves are not going through. Or if those slaves are simply not interested and rude enough to just ignore them instead of saying "thank you for your interest, but no thank you". Believe me, it's SO much better to know someone received my message and is simply not interested, than to not know. I know that I sometimes don't reply in as timely a fashion as I'd like, but I do try to respond to anyone that writes to me. At least they know I've received their messages. |
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I just had a delightful conversation with a potential candidate. Time will tell. |
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Soooo excited! My search for my slave may be sidetracked for a bit. My 10th anniversary is coming up soon (February) and my husband is taking me to Ireland and Scotland for 2 weeks! We won't leave until May, but my mind is occupied with preparations. What to bring, where to go, what to see. I've never been to Europe before and I'm over the moon with anticipation. |
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Today, the search is frustrating. Those that interest me are not replying to my messages. Those I started conversations with have disappeared. And those that I hold no interest in are doing multiple views on my profile. Is it the holiday blues? Maybe. But this search for just the right slave for my household is tedious and very trying. |
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Finally had to take this and see how it came out... just for fun:
== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ ==
97% Dominant
97% Master/Mistress
94% Sadist
89% Rigger
89% Owner
76% Non-monogamist
65% Experimentalist
64% Voyeur
54% Degrader
54% Primal (Hunter)
38% Daddy/Mommy
35% Brat Tamer
32% Ageplayer
19% Vanilla
14% Exhibitionist
5% Switch
4% Masochist
3% Brat
3% Rope Bunny
2% Girl/Boy
1% Primal (Prey)
1% Slave
1% Submissive
1% Pet
0% Degradee
See my results online at http://bdsmtest.org/result.?id=1022867 |
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What is it with Yahoo Messenger? Doesn't anyone on this site use Google Hangouts? I've had a lot of problems with Yahoo, both personally and financially, so I won't use their products. But I have yet to find more than a tiny handful of male subs who use Google. They all seem to be on Yahoo and insist on ME making the change. Sorry boys. If you want to IM with me, get Google. |
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It's been a quiet week as far as my search goes. I've received very few views to my profile, and even fewer messages. It's been a busy week for me in my personal life as well, so I haven't been pro-active in my search at all this week. My weekend promises to run hot and cold. Saturday is PACKED with planned errands and events. But my Sunday should be quiet. Nearly all day to myself, so I may get ambitious and do some serious searching on Sunday. See what I can find out there. Hopefully, mine will be waiting and hoping. |
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Another close call (if you can call never even talking on the phone "close") with no results. He was afraid I wasn't strict enough for him. I find it hard to know that if we never even spoke. But I was honest with him, and if that is how he felt, then I can't fault him for his feelings. So, the search continues... |
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I really should keep up my journal much better. I hadn't realized that it had been so long since I'd written anything here. I think it may be because I generally like to post positive things on public sites. And, as far as my search has gone, it's been anything but positive. I've lost count of the number of times I've gotten close. Felt like there was finally enough of an emotional connection to invite someone to come spend some time with me, getting to know each other. Then the boy disappears, either purposely misunderstanding something I've said, or just getting cold feet and backing away. I don't know if it's just all the players that are wanking off to the thought of a Dominant woman in their lives, or if it's law enforcement trying to find the scum of the earth trolling in cyber space, or just assholes seeing how far they can string along a woman that's looking for something in her life. Whatever it is, it makes this search very hard on a heart. |
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I'm back. I just had to step back, breath for a bit, and regroup. But I'm ready to begin looking once again for what I want. I've slightly tweeked my profile, and I'm back to checking the site for new or previously missed possibilities. |
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It's time for a break. This search is so disheartening. I grew very attached to two applicants, but apparently both have found other situations for themselves. The others that have applied simply don't ring any bells with me. I really wish they did. But there's just no stirring in my heart.
So it's time to refocus. I'm not giving up, but I really need to step back for a little while. I can't keep hurting myself with hope for something that is coming along so slowly and with such difficulty. I have a wonderful husband who loves me enough to share me for my own happiness. I'll concentrate on him for a while. And when I feel stronger to begin this search again, I'll be back. I won't give up on this, but I have to heal a hurting heart. Even soldiers need a break from battle. My battle isn't done. But it's time to retreat and regroup. |
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My search goes on and on. Those most diligent and steadfast, I simply don't feel any connection to. It's a shame. They are all good men and would make great slaves. But I need to feel something for the one I want to take for life. And the ones I feel something for? Well... since I'm still looking, I'm sure everyone can guess what happens with them. I've wanted to quit. Just take what I already have and be grateful for it. And I am. Without question. But knowing there's more... and that if I'm just patient and diligent myself that I could have it all... I can't quit. Sometimes I wish I could. |
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Stood up for a first meeting.... again. I really don't understand this. Why bother making an appointment to meet if you're not going to honor it? Even if I'm not what you expect or want, you've committed to dinner/drinks/coffee/whatever. It's an hour or so out of your life. I'm not asking for more than that at a first meeting. Just conversation. Honor your commitment, or don't make the appointment in the first place. I don't even ask for submissive deference from someone I don't own. Ah well.... Another day perhaps. |
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Updated my profile picture with something a bit more recent. Like this morning (April 3, 2014). |
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Yet another reason I will NOT use Yahoo in any way if I can help it.
http://www.theguardian.com/world/2014/feb/27/gchq-nsa-webcam-images-internet-yahoo |
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Hey Guys... just a little something to think about.
http://jamesmsama.wordpress.com/2014/02/01/8-acts-of-chivalry-to-bring-back/ |
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This search process is very frustrating. There are a lot of "wanna be" slaves out there. As soon as you get close, they disappear. Profiles, email accounts, even phone numbers are disabled or eliminated. And the few that are actually brave enough to meet me, I've just not felt the connection with that I'm looking for. No spark.
But... frustration does not equal failure. Nor does it equal "quit". It just means I take a long, slow breath and keep searching. He's out there. I feel him in my heart. I'll find him, or he'll find me. Eventually. |
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To be owned by me, you need to be willing to put in the time and effort to get to know me and let me get to know you. That means some time online writing back and forth. I use Google Hangouts, so get yourself a Google account. I do NOT use Yahoo. Then phone conversations and Skype sessions (so get Skype too). Then visits. Both vanilla and play visits. And all of this with no guarantee. I need to feel a connection with the one I choose. There needs to be chemistry. So I need to get to know someone enough to know if there is chemistry between us, and to know if he can serve me in the way I want to be served. |
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After a month of searching this site for the one I want, it's clear to me that there are FAR more boys out there than there are Mistresses to keep them. But it's also clear that there are very few who truly meet my needs. But there are some. There are those willing to put aside their own needs for mine, but that's not exactly what I'm looking for either. I want someone who's needs align with mine. Someone compatible. There's no such thing as perfection, so I'm not looking for that. But there is such a thing as shared interests and philosophies. |
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Please no smokers. My husband is allergic, so we cannot have it in the house. If you do smoke, be willing to quit. |
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| Age: 27 |
| Jackson,
Pennsylvania |
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