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I am a stone top, I hold to my rules.



New rules

1. PMs only, no chat reqs

2. No foul language, maintain a general tone of respect, (I have no problem blocking people for breaking my rules)

3. I have a passphrase in my profile, find the passphrase, use it to start your message and I will respond.



First and foremost, I am allowed to be picky, I know dom women are a minority. I repeat, I amselective. Picky.

I amcontrolling, but honest and as clear as I can be.
OK, thats my harshest trait where to go from here ...
I am romantic. I like candles, sunsets, nature, puppy dogs, rainbows, chocolate cake, roses and nothing soothes my heartaches better than chocolate and a hug.
Yes, I am human I have a heart.
I am gritty. I like pain. Caveat all marks on my body are put there by me, and no one else. I like marks but senseless scars are, well, senseless. I will not scar someone else simply to make a scar. There are ways to find blissful moments in pain that leave no disfiguring marks on flesh. passcode letter ma
Ds relationships are among the most trust filled on earth. My subs can trust that I trust myself. I wont push a barrier but I may push aboundary yes they are two very distinct concepts. I expect to be able to trust that any sub I accept will be honest with me. I will not rip a sub apart for telling me how they honestly felt about something, because they did feel it nothing can be changed about what happened. all that can happen from that point out is an adjustment that makes both sides of the relationship morefulfilling. passcode letter la
Subs are people first, who choose and enjoy surrendering their control to another person. Subs haveinterests, lives, likesdislikes, and the willingness to surrender all entitlement mentality giving themselves totally to another person. There is nothing inherently weak about beingsubmissive, it is quite possible to be strong and self-actualized and be a sub.
I love to laugh,especiallywith people and at funny parts in books. I watch movies and TV to feel something. The feeling I seek varies greatly. Sometimes I want suspense and thrill, sometimes I want heart warming and sometimes heart breaking. I like being able to feel, it is such a wonderful part of being human. passcode letter rk
I like to make. I have hobbies as varied as ... well, there really is no accurate comparison. If I can hold or see the result it qualifies on the list of hobbies Icurrentlyentertain or likely will someday.
I aminterestedin learning, gaining ination, be the topic physics, poetry, anatomy or government. passcode letter ey
I am a sci-fi andfantasynut and a very theistic person.
I am who I am and will not be changed by anyone else, but I will change for me.

For me, Lady can be used like a title MLady, Lady Charybdis, the Lady Kary. It is to me, monarchical and tantalizing.


Pleasantries aside Some Critical Communications. (a copypaste disclaimer of mine, stuff that is important that you know before we develop any personal connection)



In any relationship, communication is paramount, and none more-so than a BDSM relationship. So I do expect honesty and clear communications in everything.



Consent Violations are a big concern for me, so if I ask you if you are alright with something, ever, you had better tell me the truth.



My Dominance is tightly involved with some control issues I have, and I am warning you If I tell you not to do something, and you do it, we may well be over, all communication stopped. If I tell you to do something, and you dont, on a case-by-case basis I will I am leaving that disclaimer up, but Im finding that my Bi is turning out to be far more of an even split than I had originally realized.)

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3/13/2024 2:11:30 PM

In recent conversations, I've been processing and thrashing out a fresh articulation of what I am shopping for from a slave or a relationship. Here it is: 

I want my business partner for elite workshops, I want a scene partner as a grounding point for junebugging/grasshopper productivity. I want a servant to perform exhibitions for my viewing pleasure, and a ringmaster/stage manager for kink dinner theater events. I want a quartermaster for my home, so I never have to go to a store again. I am also looking for a brat/sex slave. I am also looking for a maid/personal attendant. I am also looking for a husband, and a man to father my children. I am also looking for a life partner. I am also looking for academic friends for great dinner conversation, and evenings spent as social company. I am also looking for a cuddlebug, a masochist, a servile slave, maybe a pet or two, a pool/houseboi, and the staff for my home and private stage. I want a mechanic, a chauffeur, and a convention Roadie or three. 


I don’t know what of those needs or roles any member of a harem might serve. But I damn sure will have a harem of submissives because no one person can fulfill all of those, often contrary, desires. I want too many things in life to just – Skate and ignore what drives my productivity, and what reinforces my worst behavior. I need to build the framework to thrive.  


If I have expectations, I have ambitions. If I have expectations – I want it all. If I have expectations, I want to be greedy. If I have expectations, and ambitions – I’m dreaming big. So, do you see a role, a niche you can fill? Do you want to try and build up to a co-op living in a conference center style dramatic Manor Home? Will your dreams mesh with mine? I have many roles you can fill – do you see yourself in my harem in 5 years?

 


2/21/2024 5:16:10 PM

The last time I tried to update my age, my profile was "pending approval" for 6 months. I was born the year when Clinton was elected president the first time. Do the math, or don't. I'm not locking my profile to save the mental math effort


1/11/2018 8:36:33 PM
I love the attention, but I do have to be an adult and pay a mortgage. That means I am working full time, and I can't always afford the time to come on here and clean out my inbox or respond to everyone. I'll try to get to every message eventually! (that's what days off are for, right?)

1/9/2018 6:40:35 PM
So I have this Brat, he asked me to be his keyholder, and I said I would, IF he rode a dildo for me, milking his prostate and giving me a good show with his cage on. 

Apparently, he doesn't even own a dildo right now! When he fulfills his end of the bargain, he can have his key back. 

1/8/2018 2:53:38 PM
The idea of getting live, personal porn is admittedly thrilling! I'm a voyeur, and I know it. Some of the best sex I've had, all my clothes stayed on, and I had two subs fucking in my lap. 

1/8/2018 1:23:29 PM
I am polyamorous, and I own my house. I will not relocate for you, and I can afford time off right now. I am an adult with a budget and a mortgage. 

1/7/2018 9:37:45 PM
Be careful what you ask for, because I am a stone top who will take you at your words.

7/14/2013 8:49:06 PM

I am logging off, and I may not be back for a while. I need to get my novel finished.

 

 


7/14/2013 8:44:04 PM

I'm not getting enough writing done. I need to log out and stay out for a bit.


7/13/2013 8:28:56 PM

Sometimes I log on, see 2 pages of new messages in my inbox, and log off again. Or I only answer the messages from the users I view as friends, people who I KNOW see me as a person and wont fawn or objectify me. Because dealing with 2 freakin pages of new messages is a LOT of work.

 

If I don't get back to you, sometimes it's just me dealing with a sea of messages, and you really did *nothing* wrong.

 

I generally get back to EVERYONE I don't block.


7/11/2013 9:10:20 PM

Goodnight!


7/11/2013 2:31:19 PM

Guys, seriously, 2 pages of new messages?

 

Are Dommes that rare? That there are two pages of subs begging for my attention?

 

... And I have to root through all of them to find the people who are becoming friends. *sigh*


7/8/2013 3:53:39 PM

As much as I love talking with all of you, I am 2,000 words behind in NaNoWriMo for this month. So. I need more words written before I come back on the site. Hope to see you later!


7/7/2013 5:51:47 PM

I don't often spend an afternoon on the site, usually it is just a little here, a little there. If you manage to catch me when I am in for the whole afternoon, count yourself lucky!


7/7/2013 1:35:15 PM

I don't know what you know about rape statistics, but I'm one of the 1's in the 1in 4.

 

 

I was 15, he was 19, a senior at my high school. He didn't take no for an answer, and I miscarried that summer. This makes me really touchy about all sorts of consent violations, be they safewords, boundries or anything that makes a sub feel unsafe in a non-negotiated way.

 

 

What's even worse is the statistics about consent violations in the BDSM community.

 

60% of subs have expireanced some sort of consent violation, and 30% report a safe word being ignored.

 

That is terrifying, and VERY Not Ok.

 

The worst part for me was not being able to grieve my son without being angry at his father for years. I am very glad to be past that, and when I need to grieve, I just grieve.

 

So I am big on communication, I will NEVER EVER EVER renegotiate while mid-scene (subs who space out, or hit subspace are in my opinion the mental equivalent of drunk, and are unable to consent to re-negotiations). Trust violations, consent violations and abusing someones mental state is just plain old wrong. It isn't safe, and its not OK in the slightest.


7/7/2013 12:09:36 PM

Collars excite me, and so do cuffs and locks. Ropes are fun in an artsy way, but I struggle with the patience for the really pretty knotwork. Rules and established protocol are a fun way to even bring the D/s into the public world, reestablishing that a specific thing, like opening a door, is an act of service and an expression of his submission. His ordering for her can be him remembering their orders and serving her by dealing with the waitstaff. ectera ... that's some pretty fun stuff right there.

 

 

chastity is something I'm curious about, and I've been reading a lot about on several blogs, but I have no personal exp. although I am very interest. And TPE is pretty exciting, if you ask me.


9/26/2010 9:44:38 PM
I have had a hectic summer, with no chance to be on here for nearly 4 months.

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