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Wow I am able to get back on the journal phase on this platform I have not been able to get on it as you can see in quite some time. I do hope it lasts. I enjoy expressing my thoughts and feelings with like minded people here or in the vanilla world we all have to live in. I so love the power exchange I get from having a great scene with a submissive or a slave that can handle my sadist side. I hope all are having a kinky weekend MJD |
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Hello all taking a break from collar space nothing but wannabes that contact me from places too far away to do me any good and I’m not going to Dominate you on line. I’m tried of hearing this is what I want and never stepping up. I am in need of some positivity in my life at this time. I wish you wannabes a kinky day even if it is only ever going to be just in your mind. |
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Hi all had a great Marti Gras parades were fun. Now what shall I give up for lent? Any suggestion‘s. I would have to keep my personality intact, keep that in mind. I wish you all that have their own submissive or there own dominant a very kinky Valentine Day think of something to do with the thorns on those roses. Or how about leather laces that come out of those corsets. Or some red rope or a heart shaped paddle. Getting excited just thinking about such wonderful kink with the V day twist. Have a wonderful day all. |
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Working with a couple of new members to the lifestyle. They are not sure what side of the coin they are on yet. I believe one of them will be a dominant he is more into the tec side of the toys and the power exchange its all good but I believe in mentioning to ensure safety in play. I have been known to break a few paddles and have a couple of my floggers fall apart in play( no reflection on my toy makers) it is just when the scene is very good for both people space happens. I am in control and I have never broken any of my human toys. I will play with your body I will mind fuck you all day long but I will never mess with your emotions that is much more dangerous than giving you a few bruises and painting a beautiful canvas with my whip. Those scars will heal emotional wound’s dont heal and could possibly push people away from this wonderful lifestyle we are very fond of. |
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This is a sad day my football team lose the superbowl game. On a brighter note I had a great night at the dungeon we had a good group of kinksters come out to get their kink on I even had a scene myself. So the weekend was not a loss. Have a great week and try to leave some vanilla behind and add some delicious kink. |
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I heard from an old flame on Sunday. His dad just passed I am sorry to hear that he was a great guy. I don't have mixed feelings about hearing from him, I do wish him well but that's not going to happen for him until he gets out and stays out of the toxic relationship he has with another family member he is indentured too. I am sorry for this down note I am usually very positive because I am happy with who I am and have friends who respect who I am. This is my way of releasing it from my mind before it consumes me. On a brighter note my team is going to the super bowl and I am very excited about that. See there are many layers of me, the most predominant one is a great person to have a power exchange with. Have a kinky day |
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I am going to a demo and play party tonight. I have not been out in about three weeks I'm going stir crazy and want to have a scene with someone. I always have a play partner wherever I go so now problem there. Would it be fun if it was you? Come on out let me create some sub space for you. It's 2018 stop letting that four letter word stop you from enjoying who you are with a real time domme that can touch you with her Whip. |
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I can’t wait for this flu to be over so I can get back to being my wonderful self. I need to get back to the search of my own personal slave as soon as I am better I will hold inspections to find the right slave for my pleasure in my house. I hope all is having a kinky day. |
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Hi all too much holiday has caught up with I am still in the clutches of a very bad cold. We had a great turnout at our dungeon on New Years Eve. We had a demo on making a paddle without using wood who does not want to add to their toy bags? We had food and lots of kinky dabotaurey, I’m am sure I did not spell that correctly the scenes were hot and we toasted in the new year with lots of delightful screams of wicked delight. You really need to come out and have some sub space with us. Who knows this may be the year you scratch this off your bucket list, and banish your fear that has your balls in a vice keeping you from enjoying who you really are. Have a wonderful kinky year, where fear is not in control of you and a mistress of your dreams has control over your balls. |
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Tonight is the kinky Christmas party at the dungeon. We have a great crowd coming to get their kink on and we will play dirty santa. I hope we can see you there. I do not have any scenes planned for this evening, but who knows maby one will crawl up to me with a whip in their mouth wanted to play I love play time. The dungeon is well suited for safe sane and consensual play. |
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Good morning would be kinksters. I will continue adding to my journal but will not answer anymore messages from closet dwellers or any male Dominants I am very happy you are comfortable in your dominance but so am I. Belittling me to make you feel like a man is not working just shows how small minded you are. I have a very successful Dungeon where there is no judgement allowed there. I am respected by real dominant men. So go where you are appreciated look for submissive women. As for all you so called slaves and or submissive’s males if you are not in my area for me to touch you stop contacting me. I am not into dominating you on line. I know most are not going to read this, but I feel better writing it. Please give the fake dommies your credit card number and they will give you what you want on line. Above all enjoy yourselves in your chosen realm, have a kinky day. |
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What a wonderful kinky evening with friends. we closed the Dungeon and went to another party with lots of kinky fun. I really enjoy the time I spend with my kinky friends. |
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What is a slave?
SLAVES, and those who seek to be slaves, are constantly advised not to be self-centered and not to focus on our needs and desires but rather those of their owner. This can be good advice when a would-be slave is so focused on fantasies of what a Mistress will look like, act like, and or do to the slave that he loses sight of what he will do for the Mistress or bring to the relationship. As I've said before and no doubt will say again, here or elsewhere being a full-time sex toy/captive/whipping boy almost never actually happens, and if that's what slavery means to you, 99% of the real-life Mistresses out there will be terribly disappointing. To yield to a force greater than your own in order to become whole happy contented man in service to her.
As I have said over and over again I am a whole person not a fantasy on a web page that most of you stay in the closet for. We real life Mistresses provide structure in the catatonic and chaotic vanilla world we all have to live in. |
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I really enjoyed the play space last night, the energies were high and the scenes were hot. I want to thank the people who came out to see what we are about and see we don't bite unless asked to. I really enjoy meeting new people and watching scenes. I had a couple of scenes my self I love to play. We are here , We are safe, We are staying come on out and be part of this great community we have here in the panhandle of Florida. |
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Yesterday was a bitter sweet day, my football team lost their number one slot and lost their first game in the season bummer, The Dungeon was hot had about 18 people there and I had three great scenes. First one was cell popping, renewed the previous pattern on a sub to make it more prominent, Second was a impact play scene with a new person, could not play with him as hard as I would like ( don't want to scare him away from this wonderful lifestyle) I have to admit that he did very well his first time. Third my pain slut came in and asked for a Heavy scene, That was my stress relief it was a great power exchange. So my Saturday ended on a very nice note. |
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Happy thanksgiving to all that celebrate it. Have a wonderful day filled with love and laughter, but find time for kink. |
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I was thinking this morning of all the men who contact me, I admire them for doing so, but that is just one step. I am guessing that they are letting that four letter word control them which is very sad because one day they are going to turn around and have this lifestyle become a number on their bucket list. What I really admire is the men that don't let that four letter word control their life and they take the next step and come out of the internet closet to find and experience what they want out of life. The Dungeon is a great place for that. You came out and experienced being with like minded people. Some stay and grow in who they really are and some say now i know that is not for me. Those men kicked the four letter word to the curb and came out to find out if it is what they want and who they are. Don't ever make yourself wonder what if. |
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Long day at work edges fried. Time for a hot bath a tall glass of wine and some good relaxing music on the box. One thing missing. |
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It’s Friday again the work day will end at 6 and then getting ready to go to my favorite place. The local dungeon I know some of you weekend warriors will stop by for some delicious bdsm play. That is my stress relief. I need to find a foot boy for this evening. I am in need of some attention. |
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Wow what a great night at the dungeon we had a great turnout. The costumes were so creative. The demos were very informative and interactive. We had lots of participation it was fun. There were several scenes going on well it is 4500 square ft of delightful play space with many different pieces of dungeon furniture to play on. I had a couple of scenes myself to have a great scene with a submissive and to have achieve the power exchange and bring the submissive to their euphoria by my Lilly white hands is priceless. The high both parties achieve is better than any drug out there. I love who I am and I love my life. |
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I and my fellow kinkster's Have finished the decorations for the Halloween party at the dungeon this weekend. We are going to have demos on some lovely kinky stuff and costume contest. Fun and of course devious kinky consensual bdsm play. Ahhh I love play. Thank goodness for the dungeon because I can play and get my kink on. Why don't you come out and have some subspace with me. |
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Ohh what a great weekend planed at the dungeon , a great rope demo planned on Saturday night and I have some play partners set up for some rope play delicious. Don’t you wish you were here! I wish everyone a delightfully kinky weekend. |
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I can’t wait for Friday to start my weekend. I will be at my Dungeon greeting members and new members. Of course some play time for me I love my life now but to have my own real time live in slave to service me in anyway I love it would be great. With that said I am Dominant I do things to suit me Not a slave. I won’t dwell on the bull I have to endure to find my slave, I’m going to have my kind of fun all weekend. |
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The men that contact me here. Soon learn that I am looking for a slave not a on line relationship. But I am very curious about the ones that contact me over and over and get the same response from the same approach. I am a Dominant woman not one that is wishy washy that can be bent to their will. Although it is important that a submissive have the same kinks as their Mistress that makes a happy and strong relationship. Anything else is unacceptable. So stop. I am here looking for my slave not here to dominant you on line. As I get nothing from it so will not engage in that activity. I just wonder how many would actually read this profile and it's journal's written by my Lilly white hand. If I had no pictures to get their dick's hard. I just don't sugar coat life. |
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Saturday night at the dungeon, what can I say but Ohh yes. We have a great turn out for our grand opening there was so much food. The scenes were very hot we had a guest demonstrate different types of fire play. I had threes so delightful scenes myself. I love it when I can bring a submissive to their happy place. Rope was flowing I learned a new knot and can't wait to use it with my other rope skilled I have learned. That's is one thing I am not very good at yet. Learning new ways to tye a submissive is a very sensual way to get them to subspace, and it is pretty also, not as pretty as my whip marks on a willing submissive but close. You should come out and have some subspace with us. |
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Wow what great weekend! Friday night I attended a Femdom party in th e local lifestyle chapter of Femdom's wine and cheese party. It was a great time hAve several men there that came out to serve a room full of dominant women. It was a great time. |
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On my way to the dungeon to play tonight. Doors open at 9 tonight. Hope to see you there. Lets have some sub space together. I will be more than glad to help you get there and provide it for you. |
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Why do submissive's contact me with no intention of ever doing real time? That is a waiste of their time because I don't give them any wanking material they delete their profile just to add another one and go thru the same process again . I just don't understand people. Life is too short to be unhappy, |
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Got the house for impending doom, but missed it now i have to get the house back in order. I am hopping all my friends in the wake of this storm came out with their lives intact. You can always rebuild. Most people in this lifestyle are fighters, and have great sprites, because we have balance in this wonderful lifestyle we lead and still live in the vanilla world. Be Safe while getting back to your lives. On lighter note I would live to see the faces of the vanilla's that would come into my home and see all my toys. Ohh My J Dame |
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Will be at the dungeon tonight come watch my scene or be a part of my scene. It starts at 8 pm till 2 am |
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Membership drive has been successful we now have 30 members and another opportunity to become a member of our dungeon on Friday night we will be open from 8pm till 2am hope to see you there. I will post some pictures here of the wonderful play space members are now enjoying. Have a kinky day all. |
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Well we opened the doors last night for membership drive to our private members only dungeon. We had a great turn out even thou we are a work in progress, everyone played that wanted to play. I was happy that others are excited for this space that will be great for all kinksters in our area. |
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I live this lifestyle by choice, not by chance
I am motivated, not manipulated.
I look for a slave to be useful, not used.
I make changes, not excuses.
I excel in what ever I learn and do, I do not compete with others who wish to destroy.
I chose self esteem and other around me to do the same, not self pity.
I chose to listen to my inner voice, not to random opinions of others.
I chose this lifestyle, It fits me and complements my personality.
This is what kind Of Dominant Mistress I am. |
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We have completed painting the floor and fixing the holes in the floor so no one female's or the cross dressers or trans women will get their heels caught and break them. I don't know about you but I love my heels, I look hot in them and they are an investment so I don't want to break then walking on an uneven floor. I have with help constructed a spider web made of chain for tying people too and have moved some of my bondage furniture over there. I will post a coffee where I can meet people to get the application for membership before we open the dungeon club. I am so excited about this great opportunity to have a legal place to be who I am. |
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We have the licences for a private members bdsm club in the state of Florida and the county I live in. This is a lifestyle club not a pay for play club. This club will be a wonderful place for local lifestyle groups to hold their meetings and demos there, and after that there will be an open play party with lots of dungeon furniture to play on. You just have to bring your own toys ( we cannot have community toys due to the possibility of transference ) so its not safe. We adhere to R.A.C.K and S.S.C. play. Hope to see you there and we can negotiate a scene. |
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We are moving right along and are close to opening the new space as soon as it is ready the applications to become a member to this members only club will be available for those who want to meet with like minded people in a private dungeon. Imagine a place to be who you are with no one to judge you to be a accepted for who you are. To be in an adult atmosphere of your choosing. To have the possibility to meet your one. I'm very excited about the possibility and along the way having a great power exchange with submissives. Maby ill meet you there. Wicked grins. |
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There are many people who could hear you speak a thousand words and still not understand you. Then there are others who will understand without you ever saying a word. Many of us have traveled that road before and still travel it. It's disheartening at best. Keep going when you find him or her the best part of your life begins. Every journey starts with that first step. |
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I reminisce about the past because my experiences of the past have been good and helped shape me into the confidant Dominant woman that I am today. I do not live in the past. I keep moving forward. I have been developing with friends a large play space for fellow BDSM enthusiasts. It will be opening soon. It is going to be a fabulous space to be a blessing to the kinky community In my area. It is a licensed Private members only club. I look forward to meeting fellow BDSM kinksters and having fun there. |
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I miss this had it once before. With all the wannabee and time wasters, and internet closet dwellers on this site I am sure now Ill never have it again or anything close to it. Rest in peace my love.
Mistress,
Today I pray for the concentration to keep my Mistress as my main focus. So that all of my actions and thoughts would make Her proud of me .
Today I pray for the haste to attend to My Mistresses needs in a speedy fashion. So that She may find pleasure in my service, and not be waiting.
Today I pray for the selflessness to realize that my pleasure is in Her, when She is pleased, so am I.
Today I pray for the insight, to be open-minded enough to listen, to be totally be honest with myself, so that I may be teachable, and grow into the slave she wishes me to be.
Today I pray for the sensitivity to love My Mistress more every day.
Today I pray for the gratitude for all that She does for me, protecting me, teaching me, allowing me to be vulnerable to Her, allowing me to be who I am, and for loving me.
Today I pray for the clarity to realize that my Mistress's word is final, and above ALL things. There is nothing more important. I trust in my Mistress to take care of me, Faith in My Mistress that She will always have me do the right things, and trust Her to do what is best for me.
I vow this, for I am Her slave. |
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Negative attention is punishment, and sometimes a slave needs that to bring his attention back to where it should be on his Mistress, but it is not enjoyment for your Mistress. On the other hand positive attention is something that your Mistress enjoys immensely involving you and it is something you both love the power exchange and you making your Mistress happy. Which would you chose? |
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What happened to this step in the bdsm Female Lead Relationship?
A man will do anything to win the woman of his dreams. Should he lose her, he will do anything to win her back. Why, then, is he not willing to do anything, on a daily basis, to keep her contented? Because submissive and or slaves don't perceive that the woman can be lost never again if wooed or won, that relationship is also deserving of extreme efforts. I do not micro manage my household I have trained you right and this is an everyday situation. Why then don't you treat it as such? Is it because you are bratty and only want negative attention from your woman of your dreams or would you get a much more favorable response to positive attention from your woman? |
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Female Led Relationship
My view on FLR. Simply put FLR is when women lead men - men who want to be led by them. Of course this happens every day in all types of situations such as business, education, healthcare and home. The phenomenon is when men want/ask women to lead in their personal lives. Because women already contribute to the leadership of men and men readily accept it, there must be a difference -- the passion men feel about FLR is deep and varied. Imagine a strong man, say a broker who makes 2 times a six-figure income and is otherwise successful in many ways asking his woman to led their relationship. He might ask to participate in pampering her in intimate ways; he might ask to serve her like a butler. Many men want the woman to rule over him, making demands and exacting punishment for any infraction. This scratches the surface of where men want to go for FLR. So FLR to men is deeper and richer than simply being led by a woman or following in a supportive role. It is erotic.
You should note that any man asking for FLR is crying for help. There are some real or imagined issues that are solved by FLR. It may be an issue of safety, motivation to be a better mate, an obsession with kink, deep desire to serve, a penance for something he did wrong, and effort to save the relationship, a statement of unworthiness or and fanatical idea to worship one women his Goddess. |
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What is a slave? I found some interesting reading on line this morning I will share some of it with you so those that contact me will hopefully understand the role they say they want or this is who they are.
SLAVES, and those who seek to be slaves, are constantly advised not to be self-centered and not to focus on our needs and desires but rather those of their owner. This can be good advice when a would-be slave is so focused on fantasies of what a Mistress will look like, act like, and or do to the slave that he loses sight of what he will do for the Mistress or bring to the relationship. As I've said before and no doubt will say again, here or elsewhere being a full-time sex toy/captive/whipping boy almost never actually happens, and if that's what slavery means to you, 99% of the real-life Mistresses out there will be terribly disappointing.
As I have said over and over again I am a whole person not a fantasy on a web page that most of you stay in the closet for. We real life Mistresses provide structure in the catatonic and chaotic vanilla world we all have to live in.
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KINK, What is it to you? For me it is not a game for the weekend. It is not tell me what you are going to do to me Mistress so I can wank my little dick. It is not a phase or a mood. It is not a role playing game. For me it is gritty, exciting, sweaty, sensual,perverted to cut out boring vanilla, hot twisted erotic, sometimes painful for you but always pleasurable. Risk aware consensual adult lifestyle that is safe and sane. This is how I live my life. What about you? |
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Why is it so hard to find someone who is not afraid to express their submissive side and become who they say they are and to actually step up and live their life with a woman who understands them and are willing to embrace the fetish and reality of who you are with you because that is a very big part of who you are. You are on line because your not happy where you are. Peoples natural reaction is to run away from what they don't understand. |
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For the submissive or slave males that are confused about what I want and expect you to provide if you want it a relationship with me is simply this. It is not about you!!!!!
A Female Led Relationship places the woman’s happiness, satisfaction and progress as the priority in the relationship.
Hope this clears things up for you. |
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If there’s no action, how can you expect a reaction? |
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Why are men so afraid of being who they say they are with a woman who understands that and can enrich their life in way they say they want. they say woman are fickle. It's not women it's men. |
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I would like to congratulate all the men who thought they would like to have a D/s relationship with me. They came out and tried. Found out it was more than a profile more than a fantasy and it was not for them. I will continue to look for my slave in shining armor. |
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Wow this really does work and there are men on here that really want a real time relationship with a dominant women. I have had lunch and dinner dates over the last two weeks. On Saturday Night I will have some play time with one of the submissives I am considering, Sunday My house slave will be cleaning the house. I have a date with a submissive on the 20th for dinner with my lifestyle friends and then he can drive me home for some play time. Im one very happy dominant lady. |
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MARRIED MEN CONTACTING ME REALLY!!!! |
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I am new here but not to the lifestyle, Time is very precious for all of us. With that said I really don't know how many ways I can say this so potential submissives or slaves will understand this . Ill give it shot here. I WILL NOT DO ANYTHING ON LINE I WILL ONLY GET TO KNOW YOU IF YOU ARE STANDING OR KNELLING IN FRONT OF ME!!!!!!! REAL TIME ONLY!!!!! I do hope this clears the air so I will get serious response's and not men that only wish to waist my time and theirs. |
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I love the power exchange I get with a obedient slave. He needs to be very good at service to me. Clean the house in whatever outfit is wish for him to wear. Keep the lawn done and fix the car or have it fixed. Not just sex (OH and that is reserved for the one that is mine alone.) One that is in tune with me, knowing when I come home from work if I need a glass of wine or I need my whip and a foot massage. That takes trust for both parties. So he is able to be able to entertain me with his whit and I can introduce him on the end of my leash at a kinky play party, or just as proud to be introduced to my vanilla friends. No Brats no one topping from the bottom (a rude sub). Life is too short to be unhappy. I live this 24/7. So far it has been grand, but can always be better.