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I have to say this site never disappoints, the lames and cowards on here are abundant. And I'm speaking of the Doms & Masters. How dominant can one be sending a random negative message then blocking the person they sent it to so they can't respond. I only return here because the phonies never disappoint. Priceless! |
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I upset my Prince the other day, I was supposed to call Him to discuss my missed chat times. As well as the possibility of changing the time to something that might be more convienent. But I did not call Him because I did not want to change the times. He got upset with me for not calling. I am sorry I disappointed Him, and I did not realize me upseting Him would make me feel asbad as it did. |
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Well my Prince gave me His permission to play, as long as my heart and mind stays with Him. There is someone in mind that I'd like to be the person I play with, because it's someone I know and trust. Although I am not sure if Hy'll do it or not, but you never know unless you ask. I would prefer someone that I know as well as trust if it can't be my Prince. I know that time is coming and I look forward to it, I even dream about it sometimes. |
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I haven't been in the best spirits lately, I've been a bit bored, and languid. I am not sure how to break myself out of this funk. It is times like these that I would love to be in a scene/session, although I am not sure if it would break my mood. I do feel it would provide a nice release. I at one point started to ask my Prince if he would be okay with me having a session, but to be honest with you I was/am afraid to. I am not afraid of my Prince, and I know I can come to Him with anything, it's just something within myself. Also I think it's only right to Him that my first official session(I had one session with a Domme quite some time back) be with Him. I do seem to long for it more and more, I believe that one session intensified it. Well what's a sub to do? |
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I am overdue on my journals(apologies to my Prince). I also am/was supposed to speak on my reaction/how I felt about something we discussed. Which I want badly to complete for my Prince, but alas I do not remember what it was. And due to a malfunction with my phone I no longer possess the message that instructed me to do so. Words can't really express how bad I feel at my neglect, I only hope that my Prince can find it within Him to forgive me. Also maybe refresh my memory as to what I am to discuss. |
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These sound pretty interesting:
Riding Bukk
Semi-Reciprocal - At first I couldn't quite visualize this position, after thinking about it for a bit though I can see it now. It is to allow my Prince access to me with the greatest of ease.
Wireless
Welcome Home
Welcome Home II
Morning Glory
Personal Best
Working Out
Not sure how I feel about these quite yet:
Spanking Joy
MidDay-Nap
Corner Time
Suspense builds
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I feel that I can offer my total submission to my Prince. And can just as easily step up to the plate if He need and wants that from me. I am unaware of anyone as caring and nurturing as myself, which I can offer to my Prince as well. I am a quick learner as well as quick adapter, and can adjust to just about any environment. I know when it's time to play, and be silly and when it's time to be serious. While these aren't the only things, these are all things that I feel I can offer to my Prince better than the next woman. |
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I haven't heard from my Prince in a couple days, I hope all is well with Him. I look forward to hearing from Him soon. |
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So, Princess, what are Your thoughts about Us, for the coming Year? What would You have Us work on improving, for 2009, Princess?What, if anything, can/do You vow to Me, that You have not already promised?Where do You see improvements that You can make, to enhance Our relationship, Princess?How will You ensure those improvements are felt by Me?
My hopes for this year is to be more consistant and open in our communications. And finally getting to meet face to face. I am honestly not sure what I can vow to You that I have not already promised but I can vow to better and work harder at the promises I already made. I can be a better communicator, and be more open and readily available to You my Prince. I can ensure that my improvements are felt by being consistent with it, and not faltering.
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Dontchange - Musiq Soulchild |
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Why do people wait to reveal their true selves? Isn't it much easier to be yourself from the very beginning so that others know what they are really getting when onnecting and interacting with you? Do you really think that by the time the real you comes out that the other perosn won't exit stage left? I am just curious because I see this happen time and time again, yet I don't quite understand it. |
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If stress is the casue of virutally every disease and sickness why is it so hard not to do so. I have been trying hard not to stress but it seems like the harder I try the more stress enters my life. I recently found out that I have very low Vitamin D, which I found causes fatigue and I have a prescription that I take for it. And I also have alpha thalassemia minor which isn't so bad. I have mild anemia as a symptom, it does explain why I sometimes it seems as though I can't catch my breath(especially in extremely cold weather). And I'm actually waiting for another blood test to come back so we'll see how that goes.
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I wanted to ask the Dom(me)s/Masters as well as the subs/slaves of this site what were they're thoughts on the concept of a Dom/me providing an escape fund for a sub that comes halfway across country to live with them. Do agree or disagree with it? Is it something you use and/or require when dealing with a sub/slave? |
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I did not hear from my Prince at all yesterday and it left me feeling kind of lost. I had not realized that I got used to hearing from Him in some form during the course of the day. And I believe it was escalated by the fact that I have missed our last couple of scheduled talks. Most recently because my Grandmother was rushed to the hospital the day we were supposed to talk. I am not a big talker, especially on the telephone but I do like listening to Him talk. I know I haven't been utilizing my ability to be able to reach out to Him whenever I feel the need. I am working towards being better about that. And changes will definitely be made starting the new year, if not sooner. |
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I wore my "special" T-shirt last night, the one that was given to me by my Prince. I like the way it feels against my naked skin. I try to imagine how things would/will be different in His presence. Would I be allowed to wear His T-shirt or any other kind of clothing around the house, or will I be naked. Although the scent is gone it's still fresh in my memory. I wear it whenever I am feeling very submissive or when I long for His touch, it helps.
It's kind of baffling and somewhat scary to me but it seems the more I hear/listen to my Prince's voice the more I want to feel His touch, His hand against my skin.
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I find doing and maintaining a journal is not easy, at least not for me. I admit it does get easier, I guess it is just taking me a minute to get used to putting my ideas, thoughts and personal moments out there for everyone to see. I mean how do I put out there that my pussy gets wet just from being on the phone with my Prince, no matter the topic of conversation. Or about how it still kind of freaks me out when it happens. How I sometimes imagine what His touch will feel like, what His His strength and power will feel/be like in person. And that's just the tip of the iceberg. I know it's selfish to try and hold/keep those thoughts and feelings to myself. I just have to work harder at letting them flow freely from me, which I will. |
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My Prince got upset with me last night. I did not think that finding out I had upset would affect me so, but it did. All I could reallly think of was how could/would make it up to Him. And I asked Him what could I do, and I will do as He asked, although I don't feel like it's enough. The thought that it would please Him is enough to motivate me. |
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I'd just like to express that my Prince has undoubtedly earned my respect and for the most part my trust. I know some of you may think I've lost my mind because YOU feel that a Master/Dom should be given trust/respect and scoff at the idea of having to earn a submissive/slave's respect/trust. But I feel that when 2 people meet and interact (setting aside the lifestyle factor for a moment) they are merely 2 people meeting and interacting, vanilla or otherwise. Meaning that there lies a BASIC trust/respect for the other person, which can either be built upon or tore down based upon the flow of their interactions. That being said it is just as much a Dom/Master's duty to earn a sub/slave's respect and submission as it is a sub/slave's duty to earn the right to serve under a Dom/Master.
And how has He earned my respect and trust?? He has done so by showing and proving Himself to be knowledgeable & trustworthy, as well as showing that he has my best interest in mind. |
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I was asked to offer some insight as to why I feel my Prince focuses on the mental more so than the sexual aspects of the lifestyle. And it's simple really, at least in my eyes it is. Basically once the mental is conquered everything else falls into place. And once that has been captured and set then a whole new plateau is reached and a new level of ecstasy is revealed. |
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N4SDChastity's knowledgeable view on:
Topping from the bottom.
It can be a difficult concept to wrap ones mind around, if you do not fully comprehend the underlying dynamic in a BDSM relationship. What I will attempt to explain will be an over-simplification, to be sure, but, from our conversations I feel confident that you will be able to flesh it out (no pun intended) on your own.
Unless someone is mentally damaged, in whole or in part, we all have limits. Boundaries beyond which our sense of self-worth or self-preservation will not allow us to willingly step. Safe words. Preset limits. Pre-set, pre-determined scenes. These are all meant to acknowledge those boundaries. No one with half a brain would deliberately take someone into areas that represented HARD limits or boundaries. Bestiality, or blood-sport, for example. In that regard; in acknowledgment of and respect for those types of boundaries, it can be said that the person on the bottom is truly the one in control of the scene. For example:
You and I are engaged in a little light bondage and, while you are bound, I decide arbitrarily to introduce a small garden-snake into the scene. No pre-scene discussion of this possibility, just me deciding it would be *fun.* You may not take too kindly to that and *safe-word,* to end our play time. It did not end because I (the de-facto DOMinante partner) wanted it to end. It ended because you (the sub) wanted OUT, NOW!!! You, even as the submissive partner, wield much more control over what happens than you yet realize. If I were to continue, despite your obvious trepidation, I risk not only harm coming to you (through whatever means you decide upon to exit yourself from your bound state and proximity to the harmless garden snake); but also legal action, should you wish to make the effort.
What most so-called Dom/mes generally fail to realize is that, more importantly, I will have lost the respect you held for me, by endangering you in such a manner. You may stay, out of fear, or some misguided sense of devotion, but the respect will have been eroded, even if only slightly. More likely dissolved, altogether. To command (or rule, or dominate) out of fear makes one a bully, not a Dom.
That is an extreme example, intended to illustrate my point more so than present possibilities. In that example, as with most scenes, in general, the sub will *top* from the bottom out of self preservation, when pushed.
What is usually referred to as topping from the bottom is actually passive/aggressive behavior. It happens most (in the D/s realm) when you have partners who have been together for a while. The submissive one will, naturally, develop a taste for certain activities in favor of others. When that happens, a crafty sub will, in full knowledge of what buttons to push to elicit habitual responses from their Dom/me, *guide* the scene towards what THEY want, as opposed to what may have occurred had they simply let the scene evolve. This type of behavior is usually displayed by someone who switches between being a top and a bottom. Or, a top (or Dom/me, if you will) masquerading as a bottom (sub).
Next you will want to know WHY a top would WANT to masquerade as a bottom, I'll bet.
You will undoubtedly hear other opinions that differ from mine. And, they are welcome to their belief and understanding of the dynamic. For me, I believe that as a Dom, I have an obligation to you, as the sub, to respect as well as protect you, mind, body and soul. My approach is much more than simple sexual dominance. Sex, in and of itself, is power. Power handled badly can corrupt, sexually as easily as mentally. and, often,. one leads to the other. |
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Watchn's insightful view on Topping from Below:
The problem is little one is that the Doms do not set the relationship straight from the start. They really do not understand the real dynamics of D/s and let the relationship drift towards vanilla and then get worried that once they have her, they do not want to lose her so they allow her to top them. Also in the vanilla world, most women actually do top so the men here do not see a difference.
But you did hit it on the head, it is because most have no real concept of the dynamics of D/s so they try and be her friend and lover instead of working her mind from the start to set it in her mind and make her honestly feel what she is. |
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Let me be CLEAR, on average I get a LOT of messages sent to me. And unfortunately I don't have the TIME nor PATIENCE to go through each and every one and send individual responses. Please don't twist my words, I have an abundance of patience RESERVED for those I choose to get to know or feel I am compatible with in some way. And I don't see a need to waste YOUR time or MINE if we are NOT compatible. Whether I respond to YOU or NOT in no way reflects on how REAL or PHONY I may be, no matter how many messages YOU send stating so.
BEFORE ATTEMPTING TO CONTACT ME:
~Have the STATE that YOU CURRENTLY LIVE IN posted in your profile, NO excuse will be accepted.
~Have a PICTURE POSTED in your profile, or send one with your message. If not DO NOT expect a response form me.
~Also DO NOT expect a response from me if your profile is blank, I don't care what the excuse or reason is.
~Lastly, DO NOT expect me to add YOU to my circle of Friends if I've NEVER heard from you or recieved a message from you.
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I'm sure by now a lot of people are wondering who my Prince is, and I've recieved messages asking me such and complimenting him on being lucky. But I actually feel that I am the lucky one because I have found a Dom who is unwaveringly real. Not only that but He sees something in me, that I hope never to let Him down on. So for those who are curious as to who He is you'll find out soon enough, very soon in fact. |
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One of my known weaknesses is my communication skills, it's something I am constantly working on about myself. I have this issue, if you will about interrupting and/or bugging people. Therefore, if I know them to be a busy individual I will usually end up not communicating with/contacting them in a failed attempt to wait until a time I feel they would be available to talk. I'm not sure where this habit stems from, I am aware of it's existence. But as I said this is something that I'm working on and I feel I am slowly getting better with it each day. It definitely helps when there are those you want to reach out to and put forth that effort, which I have. So I look forward to overcoming that hurdle to a more cultured me. |
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The want and need to be used by your Dom is a powerful feeling. But it's worth it's weight in gold knowing and seeing the pleasure He gets from using you to His delight. Although I have yet to experience this pleasure I do possess that yearning feeling. And often imagine what that first touch from my Prince will feel like, how I will react to it. Will it be a one time thing or the first of many? Will it feel as it does in my thoughts and dreams or will it be much more intense? One thing I do know is that it will draw me much closer to Him. |
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I was thinking earlier today of the things that I like and appreciate about my Prince. One of the things I like of course is that he is patient(I know I can be a handful at times). The thing that kind of stuck out in my mind today though is that he extends way past the sexual. I can admit that all things sexual is my favorite topic of conversation, but with Him that is rarely what we talk/converse about. And I don't miss it to be honest with you. It's refreshing to know that there are Doms that do not jump right into the sexual and remain there. |
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I recieved a care package from my Prince today and I must admit it put a smile on my face. It contained a lot of little goodies that brightened my day. But there is one item that is definitely my favorite, and that's because it has His scent. I am a person who loves smells especially pleasing ones. And to have a smell to go along with a face and voice kind of slowly but surely helps put the pieces together. So that made an overall good day that much better, thank you my Prince. |
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Okay I understand that topping from below is a basically a submissive dominating from their role as a submissive. But I don't fully understand the concept. I mean how can that happen if things are established as they should be from the very beginning? |
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!!!! |
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My Prince, has made mention of something to me a while ago that I can't seem to get out of my head. I am not sure why it's stuck there but I am trying to figure it out. A lot of what's said does that but this is kind of bugging me, mainly because I can't figure out why. Could it be anticipation?? Or maybe intense interest?? At this point in time, I don't know. |
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What is the MOST submissive act a submissive/slave can perform for their Dom(me)? Some say it's him/her performing the act of fellatio/cunnilingus on them. Others feel it's giving the anus up to their Dom(me). I think it would be interesting to hear different views on this, from Dom(me)s and subs/slaves. |
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I was able to talk to my Prince twice today, after a short interim. And it left me feeling pleased, today was a good day. |
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Is it possible for submission to be in your blood, I mean like a part of who and how you are? Not that it affects your professional life, but still there ever present. There is an indescribable strength in submission, that I find to be pretty powerful, and erotic. But that's the way I feel sometimes, that's why I could never be described as anything but naturally submissive. Because that's who/what I am!! |
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It's a rainy day today, the kind of days that leave me feeling VERY sexual. So needless to say I am feeling frisky and naughty today, and nothing to do with it besides store it up. Oh well, such is life!! |
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Okay, well I’ve had some time to mentally assess the colloquy, at least for the most part. And I feel I can without too much trouble please and satisfy My Prince. I’m not perfect by any means, but I am totally confident that the things that I struggle with will be small hurdles easily conquered with the right motivation(a TRUE Dom). I must admit though in some regard this seems all too good to be true. It’s like part of me is waiting for the catch, like okay that’s why everything else seems so right. I would never knowingly let my past influence my future, but yet and still after so many unfulfilling experiences, it does leave me wondering. I try not to let myself get too excited about it, rather leaving myself fluid and taking everything in stride. I must say I’m doing a pretty good job of it too. |
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I had my 1st colloquy with My Prince today. Overall I felt really good about it, although I do kind of worry that there might be feelings that I am not as interested as I really am. There is definitely interest there, I just tend to err on the side of caution (I guess it’s a learned defense mechanism). As well as I’ve been conditioned to suppress emotions, but this is something that I have been actively working towards changing. More to come once I’ve had time to mentally assess the dialogue. |
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Please do NOT attempt to add me to your circle of friends if you have not AT LEAST made an attempt to initiate actual conversation with me. |
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A match struck, a spark lit, and so it begins. . . . . . |
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