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**If you are a submissive man who is thinking of propositioning me, save yourself some time and hit the back button. I am not interested in subs or switches **
He is a man who delights in the bending of wills. I make his happiness my priority.. not because I believe it belongs before mine, but because mine is already safe in his hands. I do enjoy the freedom of losing control, but I my joy comes from knowing that all I have to give is all he wants and needs. He is my daddy. I am not a child and to not desire to be one. I am an adult who enjoys being nurtured in a place where it feels safe to feel small and vulnerable. Our vanilla life is as amazing as our sexy time. We laugh and play and learn and experience this world together, as a team. We celebrate our similarities and covet the ways in which we are different because this is what makes us successful.

This is what I seek.



Dealbreakers
If you need to deliver pain, I am not your girl. Being jaded, judgemental and negative or prone to arguing is a HUGE turn off. If you bond with others through complaining, we wont be well suited.

Its worth mentioning that if you are a supporter of 45, we can certainly be friends but our core values are not aligned enough to be romantic.


I am HSV2+. You can be positive or negative, but I will only be intimate with someone who knows their HSV and HPV status. It is not in the standard panel. Unless you have specifically asked for it, you have not been tested.

**If you are hurting so deeply that bullying strangers makes you feel better, save your message. My heart goes out to you and you wont get the anger you seek. **

Be well. If you read this far and want to kik me you can makemybrainwet.

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11/17/2017 7:21:13 AM
I tend to lean liberal and have no problem with a partner who is more conservative. I appreciate sharing ideas with respectful people because this is where we learn most. There are many rational conservatives out there right now that are also lamenting the turn things have taken. That said, if you support Lord Marmalade, you support hate, misogyny, bigotry, and attacks on truth and reason and we do not hold the same values. (Expect hate mail to be deleted without response.)

1/9/2017 11:46:38 AM
A few messages exchanged is fine but I am looking for a partner, not a pen pal. There are also far too many folks pretending to be someone else. Please be prepared to chat via IM and later phone/Skype. 

10/27/2016 4:26:09 AM
I just swiped this from another profile. It really speaks to me today. My dear, The only reason people aim for anything is because they want to feel something beyond themselves, because they want to feel happiness course through their entire body, because they want to be close to the other (be that singular or plural). When you look closely, it's all about sex. Some of us are tantric about it, quick about it, shy about it, private about it, public about it, but still- It's all sex. Everything in the world is about sex...except sex. Sex is about power. ♡Oscar Wilde

4/23/2015 11:48:19 AM

The Invitation by Oriah

It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.


It doesn’t interest me
how old you are.
I want to know 
if you will risk 
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.


It doesn’t interest me
what planets are 
squaring your moon...
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.


I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.


I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you 
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.


It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.


I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.


I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”


It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.


It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.


It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know 
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.


I want to know
if you can be alone 
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.


By Oriah © Mountain Dreaming,
from the book The Invitation
published by HarperONE, San Francisco,
1999 All rights reserved


1/8/2011 10:09:03 PM

THE SERVANT MASTER
From Control to Compassion
(Copyright © Skip Chasey 2004. All rights reserved.)

WHAT IS A SERVANT MASTER?

A Servant Master is not a service top! It is an archetypal role to which some leathermen and leatherwomen are called and, in that way, it is very similar to a religious or spiritual vocation. Archetypes are predefined patterns of behavior that one is born with; impersonal energies of psycho-spiritual influence universal in their meaning (i.e. a collective consciousness). “Servant Master” is merely one of literally hundreds of archetypes. Each of us is influenced by a specific number of different archetypal energies running through our psyche.

The archetype of the Servant Master can be seen throughout history and in every culture (e.g., the Buddhist or Hindu bodhisattva). In our contemporary culture the archetype of the Servant Master has evolved into the Servant Leader--Martin Luther King, Jr. is a good example. The difference between the two archetypes is the degree of authority given and assumed.

Servant Masters are not deficient in their dominance and are most certainly not weak or wimpy—quite the contrary. There are, however, some distinctive differences between Servant Masters and other Dominants who do not possess this archetype. The first, and most important, difference is that Servant Masters place the well-being of their slaves ahead of their own, and personal gain is not the driving force behind their mastery.

THE CHARACTERISTICS OF SERVANT MASTERS

The characteristics of Servant Masters are most readily apparent in five key areas: Awareness & Spiritual Consciousness; Empathy & Acceptance; Power & Authority; Healing; and Growth & Stewardship. Arguably, all ethical Dominants possessing these characteristics are in fact Servant Masters, no matter what role or title they claim.

Awareness & Spiritual Consciousness

Servant Masters have a well developed spiritual consciousness. Because of that they have a keen awareness of what is occurring in the inner world of their slaves. They hear things, see things and know things that others miss or ignore. Servant Masters are rarely fooled by appearances and their intuitive insight is exceptional.

A Master cannot elicit a slave’s trust unless the slave has confidence in the Master’s values and moral competence (including the Master’s judgment) and unless the Master has a sustaining spirit that will support the Master in his tenacious pursuit of mastering the slave. The Master must have a palpable “entheos,” a Greek word meaning “god within.” Because Servant Masters answer to a higher spiritual authority they are profoundly trustworthy.

Empathy & Acceptance

Acceptance means to receive what is offered, with approbation, satisfaction or acquiescence; empathy is the imaginative projection of one’s own consciousness into another being. The opposite of both empathy and acceptance is rejection. Servant Masters have a highly developed ability to walk in the shoes of their slaves. They understand and appreciate their slaves’ circumstances and problems. A Servant Master never rejects a slave but sometimes refuses to accept the slave’s service or performance when it’s less than the slave’s best effort. slaves grow confident in their slavery when their Masters empathize with them and when they are accepted for who they are, even though their service or performance may be judged critically in terms of what they are capable of doing.

A Servant Master’s interest in and affection for her slaves is not something the slave must deserve or earn. Servant Masters may have gruff, demanding and uncompromising exteriors, but the love they have for their slaves is unconditional.

Full acceptance of a slave requires a tolerance of imperfection from the Master. Any Dominant can “master” perfect slaves. But there aren’t any perfect slaves or, for that matter, any perfect Masters. It is part of the beautiful mystery of human nature that even the most immature, inept or lazy person is capable of greatness if wisely led. Many otherwise capable Dominants are disqualified as Servant Masters because they cannot handle less-than-perfect slaves.

Power & Authority

There are many different types of personal power. There is the power of persuasion, for example, and there is also coercive power that is used to dominate and manipulate people. Persuasion elevates the dignity and self-esteem of the one at whom such power is directed, while coercion forces the individual into a predetermined path that leaves little room for their own inner guidance and growth.

Coercive power can be overt and brutal or covert and subtly manipulative. The former is open and acknowledged; the latter is insidious and difficult to detect. However in either case it only strengthens resistance. And even if it is successful in controlling behavior the effect it creates lasts only as long as the force is strong. The power of persuasion, on the other hand, has a lasting effect that continues long after the situation for which it was utilized has past.

Servant Masters are naturally very persuasive. The Servant Master says “are you willing?” while knowing that the path he and his slaves are walking is uncertain. Fortunately, one of the hallmarks of Servant Masters is that they are better than most at determining the best direction in which to proceed.

Servant Masters know that the Spirit—not knowledge or physical skill—is true power. They know that they have no power of their own and that they cannot create power. At best they are simply conduits of power and, as such, must remain connected to the Source of that power in order to exercise power and authority over their slaves, which they do through the development of devotion and not through force or coercion.

Healing

Servant Masters have a remarkable appreciation for the emotional and spiritual health of others. They are good at facilitating the healing process and others often turn to them when such a need arises. The ability to create an environment that encourages emotional and spiritual healing is critical for those called to be Servant Masters.

Servant Masters have a conscious awareness that in facilitating the healing of their slaves they themselves are healed. Although that is something that is seldom (if at all) acknowledged by most Masters, it is one of the reasons a Master engages in a relationship with his slave(s). “Healing” means to make whole and a profound affirmation is subtly communicated to a slave when implicit in the contract with his Master (written or otherwise) is the understanding that the search for wholeness is something that they share.

Growth & Stewardship

Servant Masters look to facilitate their slaves’ growth in all sorts of ways—personally, professionally and spiritually. A Servant Master is more likely to receive spiritual insight into what is for their slave’s greatest good than a Dominant who is providing just enough care giving for the slave to appease the Dom’s nagging conscience or solely to conform to community expectations.

The concept of stewardship stems from medii.e., the slave has a vocation or Divine purpose) and actively engage their slaves in the discovery and fulfillment of that purpose.

IN SUMMARY

Servant Masters offer unconditional love for their slaves, their steadfast dedication to their slaves’ growth and development, and their passionate faith in the worth of their slaves and the ability of their slaves to discern and fulfill their Divine purpose. Servant Masters do not answer to their slaves but to an authority greater than themselves. In doing so the Servant Master becomes an instrument for the slave’s well-being. The mastering of their slaves is one way that Servant Masters fulfill their own Divine purpose. That does not mean the Servant Master’s BDSM experiences are less enjoyable, less hot and sexy or less fun than they are for a Dominant who does not have such noble intentions. They are all of that for a Servant Master and much more gratifying as well.

I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve.
Albert Schweitzer

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"I am indeed a practical dreamer. My dreams are not airy nothings. I want to convert my dreams into realities as far as possible."
~Mohandas K.Gandhi~


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