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Her freedom was worse than any chains....







There are two types of submissive women.



The woman who stumbles upon this lifestyle thinking, this sounds like something thatd be perfect for me. I could really enjoy this kind of life.



Then theres the woman who stumble upon this lifestyle thinking, oh....wow....now I understand why I am how I am and why Ive always done and thought differently. Then the other women that I know. Im not some abnormal freak, Im just a submissive (or slave) and theres actually other women out there that are like me, Im not alone!



Neither woman is better than the other, they simply have different mindsets.



You are actively seeking....



If I could put them in order of importance.....



1. Friends THEN

2. submissive women.

3. Online Romance (because --with the right person-- sometimes its just fun xD)



As for IRL, I have no interest in being in a relationship with someone if we dont like each other. Therefore friendship MUST come first. This lifestyle isnt just about kinky sex.





So many have given such warm accolades about My balloon analogy (thank you all for the kind words!). So Ive decided to put it at the bottom of My profile thus saving you the time to scroll through My journal entries to find it. Enjoy)



Welcome! Enjoy your time and please read my whole profile before contacting me (yes, I know youre a subslave but its ok to contact me first).

Please dont take offense if you see Im online and not responding to you. I often just minimize the browser instead of logging off.



The proclivity questions give insight, but dont really define Me.



What I am


A natural Dom. I dont play at being a Dom, its just the way I was born. My words and actions are neither forced nor contrived and Im very comfortable, confident and relaxed with myself. (A note to other Doms, its ok to laugh at yourself. Self deprecating humor doesnt make you look weak or ignorant, however excessive bragging does.
Very healthconscious. Sure I enjoy junk food sometimes, but thats the point sometimes. I average about 2 hours a day at the gym, 6 days a week and usually eat high protein meals.

What Im not


Im not a physical sadist (however I do enjoy a measure of mental sadism as it pertains to mental bondage) Dont confuse a good spanking with sadism, I dont spank to inflict maximum pain, I spank for other reasons, (feel free to ask what they are).
Not a sex toy aficionado. Indeed, they can be fun at times -- I find using sex toys on my partner to be superfluous. (i.e. Toys dont make the Dom, theyre just a pleasurable option.)


I dont take control of a sub, she honors me by giving her control to me. New subs often require discipline in order to give up control however their desire for this is alwaysclearly stated beforehand.

Whats important


Hygiene and smell.
DD free
Be in reasonable shape (this is only if you desire more than friendship)

Hard limits


scat
fire
needles
clowns

(No, not clowns just seeing if youre paying attention. )

Please be respectful dont call me Master as you havent yet earned the right, you may simply call me Sage.



Balloon metaphor



Ive explained the Ds lifestyle so many times and often see the other person struggling to fully grasp the concept. So I came up with the following metaphor. Picture a helium balloon. The balloon wants to float along but not float away. It yearns for a strong, confident, stern hand to hold its string and keep it in line and from floating away. When the balloon finds a hand that it can trust will hold its string firmly, a hand that will control the string without crushing it, only then can the balloon happily float along through life. The balloon will flit this way and that knowing its string is being held tightly. At any point in time the hand may move one direction or the other causing the balloon to quickly snap to the direction the hand is moving -- and then it happily floats along in that direction. Notice that the hand isnt holding the balloon. The hand is holding the string. The hand is not pushing the balloon down and keeping it from floating or suffocating the balloon. The balloon derives its satisfaction from knowing its able to float and flit, yet knowing its under the control of the hand and any direction the hand turns it quickly lines up. Theres a variety of ways a hand can hold the string attached to a balloon. It can hold it pinched between two fingers, the hand can be wrapped loosely around the string, the hand can have a death grip on the string, or, the hand can have the string in its closed yet relaxed palm. The balloon doesnt want to look down and see its precious string being precariously held by two fingers or in a loose grip for then itll never be able to relax and float along because its always afraid the hand is going to lose its grip on the string or the balloon will be afraid that itll deal with a sudden gust of wind (brattiness) and the string will slip out of the hand before the hand even realizes its happened. The balloon doesnt want to look down and see its string being held in a death grip either, for then when the hand moves one direction or the other the balloon is snapped in that same direction with such force that its string could snap. In these situations the balloon is always fearful of what the hand might do and is therefore never able to relax under the control of the hand. The balloon wants to...desires to....desperately needs to, look down and see the hand with a good firm grip on its string, yet the muscles in the hand are relaxed -- while firmly grasping the string. The balloon sees this hand and knows that any direction the hand moves its going to quickly jump in that direction yet the balloon can see the relaxed confident manor in which the hand is holding the string and the balloon never fears that a sudden gust of wind will cause the hand to lose the string or when the hand goes one direction or the other that its string will snap, because its obvious to the balloon that the hand knows just how to pull the string to get the desired effect and that its not necessary to yank the balloon out of the sky just to prove that it (the hand) is in control. Its the relaxed, confident grasp of a hand that the subslaves of the world are looking for to hold their string and keep them in line.*** ***There is an exception to the rule. There are some out there who seek not a sadist but one who can do them permanent harm. I fear for their lives for they want a hand with a death grip on their string.


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1/19/2018 11:21:01 PM
I wrote about creating a blog on the 26th of June....2016  ! (ahh how time flies).  

I decided to use Tumblr for it's ease of use and thus have more time to invest in My book.

://sir-sage.tumblr.com/



9/13/2016 12:11:21 AM
Thank you everyone for your interest in the blog and wanting to know when it'll go live.  The blog has been put on hold until after the MsDs book I'm writing is finished. Once it's published I'll bring the blog online.

6/26/2016 12:16:32 AM
I spend many hours each week helping women understand the MsDs dynamics and/or giving advice on how to safely explore this incredible lifestyle.  In doing so I'm often repeating the same information that I've shared countless times before.  I don't mind because I'm passionate about this lifestyle and want them to have safe/sane experiences, however I've come to the conclusion that it'd be a more efficient use of My time to have a blog containing this information --as well as My analogies on the lifestyle.  

I've enlisted the assistance of a dear slave friend of Mine to help with the management of the site and since she has many years experience (and some training from Me) she'll also have a Q and A section where woman who identify as a sub/slave can ask her questions and thus hear from a slave's perspective.

Once the site is up I'll post the URL in a CS journal entry.

6/26/2016 12:05:42 AM
....so much for "7 days a week" My gym trainer told Me to cut back to 6 days a week. hmph.....doing yard work tomorrow in the 100 plus degree heat wouldn't be cheating would it?  xD  :P

5/8/2016 7:49:49 PM
I've got My workout down to 2 hours a day but it's now 7 days a week.  Glad the gym's only a couple of miles away!  

3/21/2016 12:07:24 AM


I’m still finding it funny what My gym trainer said yesterday.  "Stop doing core exercises". smh  lol.....but wait, it get's better.  Then he says, "...and stop doing cardio..."   ... he obviously doesn’t know how much stamina a guy needs for [great] MsDs sex....  ok, ok, trainer, I'll stop some cardio.  

 

Then he starts in on Me (again) about meals (& he already knows I hate cooking) and that I need to start taking "mass gainer" which leads into him saying... 

…for the next 9 months I should stop focusing on definition and work on building more bulk [muscle] (you can't do both at the same time). he promises that afterwards it'll only take about 6 weeks to cut  (errr.. I need to be careful of using that word on here! Haha!  Cut, as in get My definition back -- back... I hadn't even gotten it to where I wanted it.)

 

I took a pic today and will take another after I cut (which should be 10 months & 1 week starting from tomorrow's work out).

Stop doing core exercises lol smh.

 


3/4/2016 10:35:37 PM
I'll answer these all of these questions at once so I don't have to keep repeating them in messages, texts, email, etc.

1. Yes I stepped away from CM for awhile. (or perhaps calling this site "CS" is more correct these days since it hasn't been "Collarme" for some time).

2. NO I didn't leave the MsDs lifestyle. (Seriously ladies? How could I possibly do that?) I was simply busy with training, work, life, etc.

3. YES I've conducted my last (and final) Unattached Training (hence the reason for the free time to log into Collarspace).

4. YES I'm still willing (and want) to conduct AT (but naturally the requirements are much more stringent).

11/18/2014 1:15:01 PM
I wrote this post a few years ago so it had dropped to the second page of journal entries. Since it's a great analogy I'm reposting it.

 

 

I've explained the D/s lifestyle so many times and often see the other person struggling to fully grasp the concept. So I came up with the following metaphor.

 

Picture a helium balloon. The balloon wants to float along but not float away. It yearns for a strong, confident, stern hand to hold its string and keep it in line and from floating away. When the balloon finds a hand that it can trust will hold its string firmly, a hand that will control the string without crushing it, only then can the balloon happily float along through life.  The balloon will flit this way and that knowing its string is being held tightly. At any point in time the hand may move one direction or the other causing the balloon to quickly snap to the direction the hand is moving -- and then it happily floats along in that direction. 

 

Notice that the hand isn't holding the balloon. The hand is holding the string. The hand is not pushing the balloon down and keeping it from floating or suffocating the balloon. The balloon derives its satisfaction from knowing it's able to float and flit, yet knowing its under the control of the hand and any direction the hand turns it quickly lines up. 

 

There's a variety of ways a hand can hold the string attached to a balloon. It can hold it pinched between two fingers, the hand can be wrapped loosely around the string, the hand can have a death grip on the string, or, the hand can have the string in it's closed yet relaxed palm. 

 

The balloon doesn't want to look down and see it's precious string being precariously held by two fingers or in a loose grip for then it'll never be able to relax and float along because it's always afraid the hand is going to lose its grip on the string or the balloon will be afraid that it'll deal with a sudden gust of wind (brattiness) and the string will slip out of the hand before the hand even realizes it's happened. 

 

The balloon doesn't want to look down and see it's string being held in a death grip either, for then when the hand moves one direction or the other the balloon is snapped  in that same direction with such force that it's string could snap.  In these situations the balloon is always fearful of what the hand might do and is therefore never able to relax under the control of the hand.

 

The balloon wants to...desires to....desperately needs to, look down and see the hand with a good firm grip on it's string, yet the muscles in the hand are relaxed -- while firmly grasping the string.  The balloon sees this hand and knows that any direction the hand moves it's going to quickly jump in that direction yet the balloon can see the relaxed confident manor in which the hand is holding the string and the balloon never fears that a sudden gust of wind will cause the hand to lose the string or when the hand goes one direction or the other that it's string will snap, because it's obvious to the balloon that the hand knows just how to pull the string to get the desired effect and that it's not necessary to yank the balloon out of the sky just to prove that it (the hand) is in control. 

 

It's the relaxed, confident grasp of a hand that the sub/slave's of the world are looking for to hold their string and keep them in line.***

 

***There is an exception to the rule. There are some out there who seek not a sadist but one who can do them permanent harm. I fear for their lives for they want a hand with a death grip on their string.


11/13/2014 2:21:23 PM
I just came across this quote. It says so much in so few words.


"True dominance isn't about disciplining your sub, it's about earning the trust and respect of your sub so that You are the only one she wants to be disciplined by, that Your orders are what she craves to obey, and that in Your presence she feels safe and scared, proud and humbled, totally free and completely owned. Hearing the words, 'I'm disappointed in you.' should be a sub's greatest fear."

-Anonymous


6/17/2013 7:53:40 PM

I make a habit of not posting the work of others however I simply must make an exception.  The following is a poem I found online. I've never met the author but would love the opportunity to shake her Master's hand and thank her in person for such an incredible piece of work.  


"As You Wish, So Shall It Be"

 

By G.L. Andrews/TurquoiseBlueEyez

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Master, I hear You say my name

I bow to You on bended knee

Each time for me, it is the same

For as You wish, so shall it be.

.

You touch my breast, my nipple tweak

I watch Your eyes as You watch me

Your very touch leaves me so weak

For as You wish, so shall it be.

.

“Rise up, little one” You say, though,

I genuflect most willingly

I rise, as does my libido

For as You wish, so shall it be

.

In all ways, You do beguile

I crave to please You, Sir, You see

I’m to You gratefully facile

For as You wish, so shall it be

.

You make me feel part nymph, part spoiled

You bind me, thus erotically

Free and yet, giftedly controlled

For as You wish, so shall it be

.

A simple look or passing glance

And I‘d do anything for thee

You lead me in passion’s slow dance

For as You wish, so shall it be

.

You bring me beyond the edge again

Like no one else can do for me

From pleasure’s pain to soar again

For as You wish, so shall it be

.

I give the gift of me to You

And, do so, enthusiastically

Both sides of power balanced true

For as You wish, so shall it be

.

You accept my gift and thereunto

I honour You; You honour me

For You my best, in all I do

For as You wish, so shall it be

.

They say the strongest one of all

Is she who is upon her knee.

So before You, Sir, I do fall

For as You wish, so shall it be

 

© 2007.



6/17/2013 5:37:56 PM

you can drive a car but would you be a better driver if a professional race car driver had taught you how to drive? Either way you'd still be doing the same thing, driving a car, but your whole perspective would be different. you're timing would be better, more refined and you would have an inner confidence that the untrained can't even grasp.

Can you go still go to a professional race car driver for instruction? Of course, but the training will be much more arduous because you're used to doing things a certain way and it's harder to unlearn than it is to learn.

Be careful how far into this lifestyle you go without proper training.


Sage


6/11/2013 6:31:20 PM

Please don't take offense when you see I'm online and not responding to you. When leaving I often just minimize the browser instead of logging off.


6/10/2013 7:51:09 PM

The female trolls....  I'm not talking about the other-worldly creatures. I'm talking about the fake profiles that are so easy to spot. It seems Arizona has ton of them!  The ratio of troll profiles to real profiles is about 10 to 1.   Pathetic.  

 

I understand it's a living, but at least have enough self respect to be upfront in your profile. I have no doubt you'll still get business. Trolling Collarme is worse than working on the street corner.  I'm sure the woman on the street corner is honest about why she's there.

 

 


6/5/2013 3:41:18 AM

 

I've explained the D/s lifestyle so many times and often see the other person struggling to fully grasp the concept. So I came up with the following metaphor.

Picture a helium balloon. The balloon wants to float along but not float away. It yearns for a strong, confident, stern hand to hold its string and keep it in line and from floating away. When the balloon finds a hand that it can trust will hold its string firmly, a hand that will control the string without crushing it, only then can the balloon happily float along through life.  The balloon will flit this way and that knowing its string is being held tightly. At any point in time the hand may move one direction or the other causing the balloon to quickly snap to the direction the hand is moving -- and then it happily floats along in that direction. 

Notice that the hand isn't holding the balloon. The hand is holding the string. The hand is not pushing the balloon down and keeping it from floating or suffocating the balloon. The balloon derives its satisfaction from knowing it's able to float and flit, yet knowing its under the control of the hand and any direction the hand turns it quickly lines up. 

There's a variety of ways a hand can hold the string attached to a balloon. It can hold it pinched between two fingers, the hand can be wrapped loosely around the string, the hand can have a death grip on the string, or, the hand can have the string in it's closed yet relaxed palm. 

The balloon doesn't want to look down and see it's precious string being precariously held by two fingers or in a loose grip for then it'll never be able to relax and float along because it's always afraid the hand is going to lose its grip on the string or the balloon will be afraid that it'll deal with a sudden gust of wind (brattiness) and the string will slip out of the hand before the hand even realizes it's happened. 

The balloon doesn't want to look down and see it's string being held in a death grip either, for then when the hand moves one direction or the other the balloon is snapped  in that same direction with such force that it's string could snap.  In these situations the balloon is always fearful of what the hand might do and is therefore never able to relax under the control of the hand.

The balloon wants to...desires to....desperately needs to, look down and see the hand with a good firm grip on it's string, yet the muscles in the hand are relaxed -- while firmly grasping the string.  The balloon sees this hand and knows that any direction the hand moves it's going to quickly jump in that direction yet the balloon can see the relaxed confident manor in which the hand is holding the string and the balloon never fears that a sudden gust of wind will cause the hand to lose the string or when the hand goes one direction or the other that it's string will snap, because it's obvious to the balloon that the hand knows just how to pull the string to get the desired effect and that it's not necessary to yank the balloon out of the sky just to prove that it (the hand) is in control. 

It's the relaxed, confident grasp of a hand that the sub/slave's of the world are looking for to hold their string and keep them in line.***

***There is an exception to the rule. There are some out there who seek not a sadist but one who can do them permanent harm. I fear for their lives for they want a hand with a death grip on their string.

 


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 Age: 28
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