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Female Dominant, 37,  DC Metro area, Virginia












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 Dominant Female

 DC Metro area 


 5' 1"

 122 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female


Let me be perfectly up front: at this point, given my experiences with this site, I assume everyone is a catfish until proven otherwise. It's not personal. Also, I know I'm clear that I won't answer emails that don't at least attempt to engage me in conversation, but if your attempt is based on asking me a question that has a clear answer in my profile, that's an automatic delete as well.

I am looking for a female sub who a) knows what she wants, and b) is serious about being a sub to someone with my interests (see journal entry for 6/23/17).  If you are looking for a mistress and I seem to fit your needs, speak up.  I like knowing that my sub knows what she wants and can properly negotiate that, even if what she wants is to negotiate CNC (consensual non-consent, since I get asked all the time.).

If you do not have interests listed, you need to be clear on what it is in mine that has interested you, or have something more to say than "hi," or "how are you?" or "hot."

Intelligence and a good handle on verbalization are turn ons for me, brattiness is not.  All the respect for brats, it's just not what I'm into.  I like sweetness and obedience.

The pictures are of me.  I have privacy concerns, but will share face pics once chatting with someone.  In return, you must be willing to share a picture if your account does not have one.  You absolutely must be willing to voice verify in a timely fashion, a.k.a., within a week.  I will NOT role play or engage in online play.


I have a settled professional career that I love and have bought and renovated a house recently.  I have no intention of relocating.  I am looking for something IRL. Please read this and the last paragraph to mean, if you don't live locally/aren't planning a move to this area in the near future for your own reasons, I'm probably not interested.


Rape-play, CNC, and impact play are my jams. So is aftercare.  I am more interested in a sub than I am in a slave.  If you are looking for something 24/7, I'm most likely not the right fit.


Men and het couples: I filter my mail.  Take that and the identification "lesbian" as you will.  To clarify: I am not interested in what is generally considered to be male genitalia.  Think of it this way: we all have things that turn us off.  Some people aren't into blond/es.  Some people think super skinny people are gross looking.  The point is, nobody wants to sleep with everyone because we all have physical limitations on our attraction to others.  Mine is traditionally male genitalia.  Please respect that.


I had to reload my profile because something happened and it became hidden at some point.  Internet magic, who knows.  Below are the salient journals that were on my previous profile.




5/12/2017 10:48:18 PM: Things this site has made me pruriently curious about: 1. When you call someone on being a catfish and they wait a day (or several) to try contacting you again, do they think you've forgotten? Have they forgotten? 2. What is it, exactly, that people are hoping to accomplish when they message you calling you a fake and spewing curse words at you? Like, is that their severely socially stunted way of trying to open a dialogue? 3. When women are, oh say, 5'4' and 92 pounds, or something akin to that, it's that because women are conditioned to lie about their weight, or because men don't understand women's body weight, and that's what they think they're seeing?  4.  Does nobody use Google Image Search?  5.  Where the hell is New York, Czechoslavakia.  Or Wisconsin, California? 6.  How is it possible that there are so many hot women in Gruver, Texas?  What do they know that we don't?



The mysteries of the universe, yo.



 4/11/2017 2:59:56 PM: For the record: if you are someone who has clearly identified in their profile that they are not looking for a female dominant, or has specified an age range that does not include me, or some other requirement that means I'm clearly not what you're seeking, and I've viewed you more than the one time it would take to gather that info, I apologize. It's because I have forgotten, not because I'm the kind of person who can't take no for an answer or is perving on you.



12/13/2016 10:26:30 PM: I am a real person.  I am well aware this is something of a novelty on this site, but it is, nonetheless, a fact.  This means that I, in turn, have real feelings. Being perfectly honest, I don't want to be on this site.  It seems to be largely rife with children and liars.  But going to munches, networking in my scene, and many other attempts at finding submissive masochistic women who are looking for dominant sadistic women in my area have not worked, so here I am.  Given that, assume that I am serious about, at the very least, finding someone to play with.  At most, finding someone with whom I can have a fully fledged relationship.  If you can find within yourself the basic human decency not to approach me, spend a month or more playing with my feelings, and then ghost, or, alternatively, not approach me, set something up with me, and then ghost, that would be really fucking appreciated.  Just saying.

Journal Entries:
12/31/2017 8:47:42 AM
Evidently the new year means new pics for a lot of peeps. Love it, pretty ladies!

12/24/2017 6:00:26 AM
Another head-scratcher: sub listings with profiles explaining all about how dominant they are. Did they click the wrong button? Are they switches who don't realize that's an option? Or just exceedingly lazy catfishes?

11/26/2017 3:11:09 AM
When I say I'm not going to respond to a "hi" message, what I really mean is, you need to give me SOMETHING to engage in. I'm not the D-type who's all into the "impress me, sub," thing, but I do need something that enables me to carry on a conversation with you. So if you send me a message, even if it comes two or three into a conversation, where there's nothing to say because you haven't opened up or sustained any kind of dialogue, I'm not going to do it for you. I'm looking for partners with intelligence. Holding a conversation is a basic sign of that.

11/12/2017 5:41:25 AM
Sometimes I ponder: if I moved to the UK or Florida would there be as many awesome submissive chicks as it seems, or do catfishes just particularly like those choices of geographic locals? Probably the latter, but a girl's allowed to dream.

9/24/2017 3:50:07 PM
The thing is, I GET why dudes look at my profile even though it clearly states that I am a lesbian.  I even get why male doms do it.  Men are taught from birth that they are entitled to women's bodies and so the fact that I have visibly proclaimed that it's not going to happen is no deterrence to their deep-rooted belief that all they need to do is make it known they're interested.  (Also, I immediately block any dom who looks and block any sub on his second look, which provides me a strange pleasure for no reason whatsoever.  Gotta get my kicks somewhere.)

What I am pruriently fascinated (and boggled) by are the dommes who are searching for other dommes or the ones who look at my profile.  (I get that many of these are men who chose domme but really will go either way in order to talk to a woman, because evidently they cannot manage it in real life, but at least SOME of them have to be actual female human beings.) 

Admittedly, I'm not into power games in the way that it seems to me a lot of D-types can be.  I want to cuff a girl to my bed and hurt her until she begs me to stop and then keep going, because we've agreed that I can.  I want her to thank me for doing things she hates to her.  I'm sadistic as fuck and want what I want, but I have less than zero interested in fighting someone down to get it.  Either you submit to me because that's what you want to do, or we're just not compatible, and that's fine.

I can fathom D-types who like brats and princesses.  Again, not my thing, but there's an inherent agreement that one is interested in being "forced" into the bottom role.  But the idea of fighting down another domme, aside from just sounding really exhausting and annoying to me, would make me super uncertain that anything that happened was even NON-consensually consensual.  

Idk, it's just something I tend to ruminate on every time another domme views me or I see subs/slaves talking about being "broken dommes."

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