I guess I will start this off by saying that I am a CD, rather then a TG/TS person. I love to dress on occasion, and will try to play the feminine role when dressed, but I am also comfortable in my male self when not dressed and do not dress (at least not fully) all the time. Cross dressing is simply a fetish for me, something that I enjoy and that enhances both my desire for, and enjoyment of, sex. I should also point out that I'm not from SF, but list that location because I do like to dress and play when I visit there.
I don't consider myself particularly "passable", though I have gotten a few compliments. Makeup, of course, is a tricky area that I am still learning, but mostly it is sure size/build that works against me. The photos (assuming I get around to posting them) are of me, but keep in mind that I'm only going to keep and post those where I feel I look good. So, while they are real, they may not give the whole story.
The biggest thing that is missing from the photos is scale. With nothing in them to show relative size, it can be deceptive... I should, I suppose, take a picture of me standing in a doorway or something to give that sense of scale. I basically fill a standard door when in it - in my normal heels I'm close to 6'8" (yes, I should wear flats, but darn it, this girl loves her heels, lol), and my bra is a 50" band size (for you boys who don't know, that means the chest, without the boobs, is 50" around).
I certainly don't want to scare anybody off, but also don't want anybody to be surprised and think I lead them on under false pretense.
As for other fetishes (not everybody considers dressing a fetish, but I do), I enjoy sensation play, light S&M, and bondage. I'm interested in role playing, though not sure how good I would be, and am generally willing to do what my partner likes, as long as I am confident in the safety of the activity.
I consider myself submissive when with a partner, though not to the point of being a slave and I will readily admit that the submissive side of me is not apparent outside of a scene/bedroom. When on-line, in particular, I tend to be more forceful and less sub in nature. I like to think of it as driven and organized, but it also comes out as forceful and dominate acting.
I guess, while I am on that subject, I should also say that I do believe submission is a gift. It is something that I give to somebody whom I feel has earned it, it is not something that somebody else should feel is theirs to take. Being a submissive is not the same as giving up all free will and just waiting for anybody to come along and control you. A true dominant knows what a gift submission can be, and respects that gift; if you are not a true dominant, don't expect me to be a true submissive.
I am quite sure that there is much I've forgotten to mention here, but please feel free to contact me with any questions you may have.