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Your biggest worry is that...Im not for real. Your next biggest worry...Im not honest.Happily, I can provide glowing references. I am a happy, growing, warm and adventurous soul in a Doms body.



I am the leader of the Central Ohio Rope Group.



I have the same handle on that other site that you cant mention here.



If youre interested in knowing more about me, youll want to click the button that shows you my forum posts. Read them in context of course.Love bondage. Love it, love it, love it.Rope is a favorite. Yum.I carefully filled out the BDSM checklists and its great (for me) when you do too.Did I mention that I love bondage? )If you experience an almost animalistic craving forbondage then we will get along nicely.While I am Dominant in Ds, I switch in BDSM (play only), so I have a keen sense for howbondage should be done. I play regularly in the Columbus scene. You shouldtake partin your local BDSM groups also. Yeah, I know that scares you. (If youre new anyway.)If youexperience too manywannabees and fakes on this site, then ask for references. Want a picture?Beyond the one on my profile? Ill get you that.Youve read to the bottom of my profile, and youll get more of what you want by adding a quick note to me now.(But if youre local to Columbus, introduce yourself at the next munch or at COPE or Winter Wickedness or a Perversion Diversion or CORDs or SORE or Midnight X or Purple Rose or AIS TNG or NLA or CORG).


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12/26/2017 3:13:18 PM

First Time (erotica)

We'd certainly mentioned sex on our first date and in the chats after that but those conversations were largely about pets and roommates and family and cars and the vagaries of CollarSpace.

This was the night where we would take things a step further. After dinner we went back to her apartment for the first time. It wasn't like she asked me back; more like she insisted that her apartment was what was next.

Her apartment was tiny and cute. It had one thing she kept apologizing for though, her roommate, who sat reading in the living room. She introduced me briefly as the "one she keeps talking about" and then she drug me by the wrist up to her bedroom.

She teased me with clever words. She found time between the words to remove my shirt and take off everything she wore. She wanted tied to the corner of her bed, a sturdy four poster with dark wood. I tied her hands behind her back and had her kneel with her back to the bed's corner. I took my time lashing her torso and thighs to the post. Last but not least was the rope collar pulling her neck to the top of the pillar.

Her breath was heavy with fear and excitement. She looked up at me and then looked as far down as she could without choking herself on the rope around her neck.

"There's an envelope <pant> in the kitchen <pant> under the toaster."

Her breathing became faster.

I looked at her for a good thirty seconds before deciding to walk to the door. This was the first time I'd tied her, and I would be abandoning her with neck rope. Only for a minute, I told myself.

I skipped down the stairs, doing all kinds of odd math in my head. What if I tripped on the stairs and fell unconscious? Her roommate would find her for sure. What on earth did she leave in an envelope under the toaster? Money? It made no sense, but it would have to make more sense once I opened it. I made my way past the roommate and realized I was not wearing a shirt. I wanted to say something clever about how obvious it was that fun times were unfolding upstairs but I just smiled and waltzed into the tiny kitchen.

There was an envelope tucked under the toaster. I ripped it open and looked over my shoulder to see if the roommate was possibly headed into the kitchen. Seeing no motion from the living room I read the card inside, filled with her handwriting.

"If you are reading this then you have tied me in such a way that I don't think I can escape (or that I don't want to escape). I wasn't sure it would happen tonight but it did. When you return to wherever I am tied, know that you can do whatever you want with me. I hate spelling things out but any hole, any amount of time, any amount of pain, anything you want. I trust you."

Now it was my turn to pant. My eyes got wide and my knees got weak. I was seriously worried about tripping on the way back up the stairs to her bedroom.

I composed myself. I stuck the envelope and card in my pants pocket, sure that I would be taking them home and adding them to my keepsake stash. I made my way carefully back up the stairs, keenly aware as I passed the roommate who would be given no explanation for my quick trip to the kitchen. (Maybe I should have grabbed a spatula, or something, to give her some ideas.)

I opened the bedroom door to find her heaving and flushed.

She looked up at me. "Maybe <pant> we could not do anal tonight? <pant> <pant> And if you would please <pant> not get me pregnant <pant> that would be nice."

I looked at her, more amazed by my luck than my arousal. Here was someone who wanted to be tied helplessly, obviously gets turned on by it, and who becomes incredibly submissive in the process. Not only that, she still has the presence of mind to ask for a few limits. I've freaking won the lottery.

She has been thinking about his night so much that she put a note under her toaster. I taxed my spinning brain for the perfect Dom-ly thing to say in response. I opened my mouth and these two inspired words fell out.

"Anything else?"

Geez, at times like these I'd give my right hand for more power with words.

She panted a few more times before speaking.

"Yes, if you end up <pant> sleeping with me <pant> could I sleep tied?"

I pinched myself to see if I was dreaming.


11/25/2017 5:40:30 AM
It's been seven years since I've been on this site! It had a different domain back then.

I had to update my age from 48 to 55. Wow. 

I can still chase down any submissive I know. I say that I keep in shape to look great naked but it's more accurate to say that it's to be able to top my partner.

8/2/2011 2:19:37 PM

Another great party at Doug's!  I pity the souls who can't get out to actual real life kink gatherings.  They really, really have no idea what they're missing.


6/15/2011 10:08:11 AM

This from taboofairy's profile...

 

"If you aren't involved in any of the local groups/scenes, don't expect an answer back unless you are really able to wow me."


...is one of the smartest ideas I've seen here in a while.

 

I constantly encourage folks to try attending their local community gatherings.  It's where I'll insist you meet me first, and there's every chance you'll find someone there who's a better match for you than I could be.  

 

Connecting with your local community will change your life.  You'll thank me later. :)


2/15/2011 1:35:36 PM

I've often thought that there must be ten male profiles on CM for every one female.

 

Then I decided to do a test.  I searched for "Ohio" in the handle field, assuming that such a word would be used equally by both sexes.  Of the first 50 entries only two were female.

 

That's right, there appears to be 25 male profiles for each female.

 

Guys, it's a miracle any woman writes back given the competition.  Gals, I don't envy what you have to wade through to find a message of any substance. Good luck.

 

You won't find out about...  dot com from me because you can't type it into CollarMe.  It is automatically censored. :)


6/1/2010 11:28:17 AM
Shibaricon just plain rocked.  Something about being in the middle of 200 people all playing with rope at the same time.  Mmmm!

5/26/2010 6:58:19 AM
Got my tickets for COPE!

3/30/2010 9:06:31 AM
Finally parted ways with lilsubdoll this weekend.  Breaking up is never easy and we're still talking it out and honoring the parts of our relationship that did work.  She's spending time with a new Dom and he's a much better fit for her in many ways.

No regrets.  Lots of incredible memories.

2/15/2010 5:03:53 PM
Winter Wickedness was just awesome!  Thanks to all my friends who played and watched and laughed and played some more. :)

1/21/2010 9:21:50 AM
What about the difficult times?  This is addressed to slaves.  How do you handle the times in a relationship where being obedient just doesn't please you?

1/5/2010 8:50:15 AM
What a great holiday break!  I enjoyed Doug and his slave's party, a TSO concert, visits with family all over and outstanding private time. :)

10/30/2009 3:27:26 PM
Trauma was red hot!  Yeah, I saw you there. :)

6/8/2009 9:53:55 AM
It's been a year since I've posted in my journal here!  Wednesday marks my one year anniversary with lilsubdoll316.  We're going to the Melting Pot. :) 

6/16/2008 12:42:10 PM
Mmmmm. :) I have found a wonderful submissive. She is a real sweetheart!

6/9/2008 3:22:58 PM
(looking furtively both ways...)  

Okay, her profile has been gone for a while, so I can tell this story. :)  

We met on this site on a Friday back in November of 2007.  Within minutes we were on the phone and there was more than enough interest to get together.  We arranged to meet at a coffee house which moved to a quieter restaurant where we really hit it off.  

But we didn't talk about BDSM!  We just enjoyed each other.  Out of that, we set a playdate for Monday afternoon.  

I arrived Monday, toybag in hand.  We have some small talk and she then begins explaining that nothing is going to happen today because she thought it over and figured out that I'm not really dominant.  

It turns out that all of her prior Doms were not that pleasant.  (She had a much more derogatory term for them.) And I'm a genuinely nice guy.  

So I smiled and took her glasses off.  About 4 minutes later she was not only quite certain I was dominant but that (as she put it) I owned her!  

I'm often tempted to be a tad arrogant or aloof (in order to appear more Dom-ly) but so far I've resisted the temptation.  I think that if a submissive can't figure out that a nice guy can be quite dominant then maybe we aren't the best match anyway.  

What did I do in those four minutes?  Well, I don't want to give away all my secrets!

6/5/2008 7:44:11 AM
I was surfing profiles outside of Columbus and stumbled across a truly dreamy one.  It started out with...

"ABSOLUTELY NO POLY!"

Later in the introduction... 

"I still have not found my perfect match and have recently been burned in a poly relationship. I can't handle being the side dish to the main course and only a distraction til he can be with her again."

Egads.  Being the side dish to a main course is not poly!  This, to me, smacks of cheating - but with some disclosure. Or maybe swinging, with a tad more emotional interest. It is not what I've come to know as poly.

Can you imagine holding your newborn baby and telling your 3 year old child "Sorry, but you're the side dish now." Noooo! You may love them differently and you may even split your time and energy appropriately and unevenly given their needs but you love all of your children completely.  Certainly you do not love or care for one child less, when another one comes along.

So it is with poly as I know it.  Are there occasions of jealousy and feeling like a side dish?  Sure, but they are balanced with an almost unconditional commitment to have our lovers get what they desire.

My experience with poly is extraordinary, and so are the experiences of my friends.  My loving wife pushed me to find a partner who would fulfill my cravings.  Almost 8 years later I'm still with that partner.

While there has never been an ounce of chemistry between my (now ex) wife and my girlfriends, each have supported each other's interests like troopers, relishing each other's success and handling every upset as best they can. They still do.

My four daughters are amazed at the love and respect that blossoms in our poly relationship, and it's just not possible to fool your own kids. :)






5/12/2008 8:25:51 AM
I'm not getting all the messages sent to me from this site.  Thanks to Willow for pointing that out.  My Yahoo handle is the same as the one on CollarMe in a pinch.

4/28/2008 11:18:41 AM
One of the best-kept secrets in the Columbus BDSM scene is the CORDS/SORE group.  Last Saturday was Casino Night, and wow, did we have fun!

Windi couldn't get there until late, and she would have dealt poker until the cows came home. There couldn't have been a better spot (or a better party) for her on the freekin' planet.

Jenica got to unwind from a law school final earlier that day.  How does one unwind?  Start with a hundred hands of blackjack, and follow it by cashing in on prizes from the Wheel Of Pain which included putting me in the dog cage for 15 minutes and tormenting me (she loved it), 15 minutes blindfolded on the cross (me again) and finally time in the jail cell, naked and in handcuffs -- her this time, and she smiled so big!

4/6/2008 6:17:06 PM
Mmmm!  Another incredible evening with the AIS crowd. :)
Thanks to Rita who got me in, Windi who got me off, Marla who got me thinking, Bella who got me throwing rope everywhere, Willow who got me hooked on rubber bands, Jhoti who got me smiling, Diane and Emily and Navari and Barak and Attila and every other incredible creature there!

3/2/2008 8:51:10 PM
Back in the hunt!
 
Eh, nobody reads my journal here anyway. :)
 
I split up with a wonderful submissive a few weeks ago. Time to start looking for another. It's hard to imagine a more exciting slave, but hopefully I'll find a better fit this time.

11/2/2007 6:09:13 AM
Wow, Trauma was a fun surprise!  My first year, but I had an absolute blast.  Thanks, Penny. ;)

10/23/2007 7:01:39 AM
So AIS was again a fantastic party!  Thanks to TM for letting me tie her up after all these years - and for coming from it all. 

Thanks to Jerry for his loan of the bullet which put TM over the top.  And thanks to my date who loved watching it!  My date, M, was so much fun from dinner to straitjacket to late night conversation. Mmmm!

10/10/2007 7:13:20 AM

(In maximum whining tone)

Why, oh why must there be so many cool parties in October?!  I don't like party hopping, especially "play" parties but so many friends are filling the Saturdays of October with so many conflicting opportunities that I'm strung out!

I've stopped promising to be at any of them because I can't pick.  How can I choose between such good friends?

This Saturday alone is Sassy's and TNG and SORE.  I want to be at all three!


10/3/2007 6:40:51 AM
If you are anywhere near the Columbus area, you must MUST consider attending the AIS night on Saturday the 20th at Cupid's (west side, I-170 at I-270). 

Message me for details but here's what you need to know.  It is safe for beginners (you will be well taken care of) inexpensive ($10 for ladies, $35 for a couple) allows "full penetration" as the venue is normally a swinger's club, and it has medium range dungeon activity with a plethora of outstanding furniture. 

Last time this happened there were 120 incredible BDSM community folks in attendance. 

Did I mention it's an amazing environment for folks who are new?  Why, you ask?  Because it started out as a BDSM demonstration for the vanilla folks.

10/1/2007 5:27:56 AM
October already?!
 
The hair was Jenica's idea.  She says she likes it all cute and punky and messed up.

9/27/2007 6:33:33 PM
I find myself seeking a submissive... again. 


It would be great to have a partner who is fulfilled by having me be a force in her life to grow into what she wants to become anyway.

9/18/2007 8:49:29 AM
COPE was, of course, the bomb! 
I saw so many familiar faces and played with new people.  Kudos to Barak and Sheba who outclassed anything I've ever witnessed - with their first annual event of its sCOPE. :)

4/18/2007 8:16:39 AM
So my previous entries were from 2005!

 Wow!  I've met some fantastic women on collarme from that time period.  I'm still in touch with (and play with!) them, now in 2007.

 What a great life.  If you've been with the AIS crowd recently then you know what I mean. :)

 Sorry I've been away so long, but the folks I can meet at a local munch are sooo much easier to know and love, easier than relating via a website.

But I'm willing to meet via a website, obviously.  I've had tremendous luck with that.

The usual admonishments apply.  Read those profiles.  It's a good idea.

12/4/2005 10:25:08 AM
The tremendous luck continues!

I've meet so many cool and wonderful people at the MORAL and NLA munches as well as just online.  A night out at the new Outland's was quite the little adventure also.

11/12/2005 7:43:03 PM
Off to Los Angeles for a few days of fun.  Packing more ropes than clothes. :)

11/5/2005 8:51:39 AM
We attended our second MORAL meeting on Thursday.  What a fun group!

10/31/2005 6:27:55 PM
So my profile checks off things like "Gorean" which might lead one to assume that this is what I want.  Think of it more like a "strong interest" than a requirement.

If I had any kink so strong to be a "requirement" it would be bondage.  I just love it.  Both ways.  (I switch.)

What do you love?  Click the email button and tell me. :)

10/17/2005 2:20:42 PM
Still having great conversations and email exchanges with folks here! 

I'm entertaining the idea of attending the MORAL munch on Thursday.  Checking my calendar...

10/7/2005 1:15:50 PM

And now I've traded messages with a couple lovely people and I'm even more impressed! 

I'll take total responsibility for manifesting this: I am simply a magnet for wonderful kinky folks. 

And I'll share total responsibility with the wonderful people who responded to me so far.  You rock! 


10/5/2005 1:10:41 PM
So I change my profile a bit, and it hides the old one pending the new one's approval.   That'll teach me to not update my profile!

10/4/2005 12:09:54 PM
So I came back today and I'm delighted at the profiles that pop up! 

Maybe I'm lucky, or this site and scene just seem to attract authentic people who are brave enough to say what they want.

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 Age: 49
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