Christmas is coming.. can you feel it?

The air is charged with frenetic energy.

 It's always a mix of exciting and sad for Me. I always want to do so much more than I am able to.

Thank you all for the lovely welcome back :) I don't know how y'all knew I was back, but obviously my quiet return was noticed.

 I've been a little sad these days. Plans in my life not working out and whatnot, so I'd really appreciate some cheering up. I leave it to you to be creative.

 If I had a good sub man, tonight would be a 'pamper Me' night. Bubble bath, full body massage, movie by candlelight, and spooning till I fall asleep. Maybe throw some 'feed Me grapes' in there too... are grapes passe'? It's all about the strawberries now isn't it. Oh! Cancel the grapes, make it cheesecake. Hell yeah. Cheesecake.

 The Domme version of romance?

What possessed Me to go on this site in the morning?!!

It makes it really hard to get up, go out, and do what I need to do.

I'm sure My friends would have something to say about this. If they only knew!!

haha

Have a great Sunday all,

Keep the fires burning.

Miss

Is there nobody in Toronto?

Am somewhat discouraged, everyone seems to reside in Ottawa.

Haha, maybe I should move!

Better yet - you move :P

Long time no chit chat, hope you all are well and transitioning from flip flop to scarf and mitts without undue anguish.:)

Falls a busy time for this Miss so I'll be popping in only once in awhile.

Trying out tef life, since I've heard so much about it. It's... okay. My only issue is that it seems really, really serious. Picture this: I am trying to read a board and Heathe Ledger pops up with his smeared lipstick and green hair and asks "why so serious?".

Time to make BDSM more fun and less like enrolling in the military people!!

Unless there's some contest I don't know about... like "Getting Your Kicks: how complicated can you make it".

Actually, that could make a cool new reality tv series...

uh-oh. you smiled. You're kicked off the island!!

:P

...This guy goes into a drugstore. Says to the clerk behind the counter, "Do you keep stationery?" She replies, "Only til the last minute, then I go all to pieces."

>:P

Just so everyone knows, I cannot for the life of Me get proper spacing on these journals. For some reason the site is set to create triple spacing?!

Really, super irritating.

So yeah, not My fault! haha

be good,

Miss Adorah

FAKE DOMMES

Can somebody tell Me, what, is a 'fake Domme'?

Normally it's very difficult for a sub to anger Me, but this.. this trend, this virus, of sub men starting all communication with "I am so sick of fake Dommes!", gets Me mad.

What is a fake Domme?

Is it a woman who doesn't choose you to play with?

Is it a woman who doesn't respond to your messages?

Is it a woman who reads your message, and doesn't trip over Herself to reply with a heated erotic exchange?

And how have you come to the conclusion that you can decide who is 'fake' and who is real?

 Is a new Domme 'fake', because She hasn't the experience to handle every kinky thing you throw at Her?

Is the experienced Domme 'fake', because She is far too experienced to be willing to play transparent online D/s fantasy games you suggest to Her?

Is a Domme 'fake' because She doesn't expose Herself online with a candid picture?

When you don't know anything about Her yet - Her profession, Her friendship circles, Her family, Her background, Her culture, Her religion, Her ideals...

Should every Domme have to expose Her whole life in a profile, in order to match  your personal ideal of 'realness'?

Here is the thing, sweet men; it is as difficult for a woman to wrap her mind around the fact that She wants to Dominate a man in bed, as it is for a man to wrap his mind around the fact that he wants to be on his knees before a woman.

If you can forgive Me the term, it is a spectrum. We all go through it. We start curious, then questioning, then exploring, then experimenting. Eventually we dive right in. Some accept who they are and become 'regulars'. Some become pro's, or serial players.You don't know where anyone else is on the spectrum.

 So if you're a sub, and you're bitter because you haven't found your Domme yet, don't spread your bitterness and anger around and infect this site.

I can guarantee you, it will NOT raise your status amongst Dommes to anything more than 'whiney needy misguided dude who only cares about his own satisfaction'.

Which, in BDSM, is the equivilant of having leprosy, a wife, six warrants out for your arrest, and a personality disorder.

 Beginning your encounter with any Domme by saying; "if you do not do what I expect you to do I will dismiss you as 'fake' and hate you passionately" will, naturally, get you NOWHERE HERE.

 So please, eat yourself a big piece of humble pie, do a little more research into who you are actually talking to, and don't embarrass yourself by assuming that, just because you offer your submission, your Domme of choice is then magically obligated to become your living fantasy, just because you took the risk.

 I am sorry if you haven't found your perfect person yet - but don't sour yourself because of it. Women who are into BDSM are no 'easier' or 'faster' than women who aren't. You can't just write a few sentences and expect a Domme to say "oh perfect! Pack a bag and come move in forever!"

 GET. REAL.

 Miss Adorah

friends,

If I do not ask for kinky pictures, please do not send them.

If I do not ask for kinky video, please do not send it.

If I have not asked for your fantasies, please do not send them.

I have my own way of doing things, and it is the way that WORKS, for Me. You are more than welcome to speak your mind, but I am nobody's whore. I am not here to please you, or console you. I am here, for fun. For exploration. And to gain the sense that I am not totally alone in the world.

I am not free porn.

Please, show some respect. If not because I am a Domme, then because I am simply a person trying to be myself.

be good,

Miss Adorah

10 Years.

I still feel like I could wake up in the morning and find unimaginable horror unfolding in the streets.

There is nothing to say.. it can only be felt. And today, I know we all felt it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xDh_pvv1tUM

Feeling unwell.

Back when I'm better.

be good,

Miss Adorah

My friends!

I have had the luck to talk to so many vibrant, fun, honest people, in my short time here. I think y'all have Me hooked! My poor 'quazi-friends' on FB will be so disappointed that I have found a more interesting place to be! lol.

Tough nuts, right?

So our favorite time of year is coming up. Halloween.

How, why, do I assume Halloween is a favourite time of year? Maybe some of 'us' are devoutely religious, or too old, or whatever - for Halloween.

Well, frankly, I fuckin' love Halloween. I get to dress up! And there are stores, all over the place, selling sexy sissy outfits. For pennies!

I can get satin above-elbow black gloves for five bucks.

I can get funky pantyhose of all kinds and patterns for three bucks.

I can get masks, even 'toy'(cough-cough) handcuffs for ten bucks.

Halloween is OUR time.

Where I live, October is also the time of huge parties, BDSM Sex Shows, and all manner of sales on My fav leather websites.

It's the best time of year to get out there and meet others, because the clubs are suddenly full.

October is like a religous holiday. Suddenly there's leather and toys everywhere.

So here is my (totally secret) question;

If you could do anything on Halloween; dress up as anything, be anywhere, be in the middle of the party of your fantasies -

What would it look like? Describe your fantasy Halloween party to me.

be good,

Miss Adorah

Just so everybody knows, smart as I may be, I cannot figure out chat on this site.

Miss Adorah.

Six.

Happy Labour Day everyone :)

Hope you all are well rested and ready to get back to the daily grind :(

Noticed today the The Stag Shop is having a pretty impressive sale. Some things up to 60% off. Now I'm not a big fan of TSS, it's just an average sex store really - but I am a big fan of sales and there are some cute little numbers onsite, especially for my feminization loving friends.

This, in particular, caught My eye..

Can't you just imagine your Domme pulling one of these out of the closet with a *wicked* grin..

be good,

Miss Adorah

Five.

Okay, Word of the Day folks;

PATIENCE.

Y'all need to learn patience.

I get messages that are just full of anxiety, because I have not responded in xxx time.

Listen, I am not a Pro Domme. I am a person, who is a Domme. I don't put in 8 hrs a day interacting with this site. Y'all ain't my boss. There's no punch card here.

I do what you do. I live, I grocery shop, I get phone calls from relatives that seem to go on For-ev-er. I go to movies. I attend appointments and meetings. I do laundry.

So, patience.

No matter how you word it, do not put your expectations on me. I won't accept them.

Miss Adorah

Four.

My friends! Why is it that my message box is five pages long but only four people have friended me?

Are you really all that shy?

I expect more invites soon.

be good,

Miss Adorah

Three.

Super cranky today for no good reason. I hate when that happens. I find that when stresses in life start piling up, I really do need to at least speak with a sub. Something about the dynamic just settles me down and makes me feel calm and happy again.

People in real life piss me off with their constant presumptions and demands. But here... here, submissive men will offer me a dollop of respect even if I am a total stranger to them. It feels like... someone walking up to my front door and offering a big bouquet of flowers, just because.

What I'm struggling to say is; you are appreciated.

be good,

Miss Adorah

Two.

There is something so endearing about a man pouring his sexual soul out to you on a screen. It's something that just blows my mind everytime. I have been in 'vanilla' relationships where I've had to work, and work, and manipulate, for months to get a man to even hint at his inner life.

(and I know for some of you guys it can be a hopeless endevor entirely to try and create an honest, kinky, passionate woman out of a suburban trendsetter).

And I know some men never reveal their true selves. To even their long term spouses.

 It's just another of many intoxicating elements to BDSM.

The honesty. The baring of souls. The leap of faith each and every one of us takes to just put ourselves out there. Sometimes with stiff upper lips and deturmination, and sometimes with blushes and bowing heads.

 It thrills and consumes me.

I love it.

Just a little note to say 'hello' to all the lovely people who've written to welcome me to the site. I intend to answer everyone who writes to me, but life has it's demands on my time so you'll need to be patient.

Trust me when I say that I am very much looking forward to coming back here and making  new friends.

Be good,

Miss Adorah  ;)